If you are reading this, i will have you know that it is with the most fondest memories that i remember you with... it was really a pleasure and thing of joy to have shared bed space with you in camp, paiko we all love to call it. Well, those days had come and are now gone, but i can assure you that as long as i leave it would be really difficult and the hideous task to forget your person, on camp, we might have had our differences, had our individual issues to deal with... i am glad to let you know that despite all this, i learnt something from you. And i have come to the understanding that we are human with emotional feelings, we can only pretend to be the almighty in our individual corners but the fact still remains... you are a part of me as my hand is now... though you might say, but that was then and in paiko, but i will yes, in the past and in the future. 21 days of gestation as the camp commandant would say... yes, i remember the meeting you, getting to know you, the hanging out with you, sharing bed space with you.... the mammy things, the tuwo shinkafa things, the parade things, the allawee things....men! Would i ever stop reminiscing?.

Hello miss prosper, I just wish this nformatin would get to you on time before you make the wrong move... that is something I am trying to understand about first love, well, my little contribution for you is that you don't confront him as you thought of doing, just begin to study him, in words, conduct, character and conportment, towards you. This would in a way help you to know what his state of mind is about you and relationship. And very important, rescricte, any form of attempt to either kiss you or make love to you anymore. Please find my note on prerequisite questions before marriage helpful.

1. Why should, or are we getting married?
2. What are your opinion or view on maintaining a healthy and Godly marriage life?
3. what are to be the building blocks of having a succesful family apart from love?
4. With what attains in the world today, how should a family have and train their children?
5. Would you like your children to be like you and in one sentence why or not?
6. How would you like to train them?   6a. my or our female child, how do you intend to train her?

6b. My or our male child, how do you intend to train him?

From the questions above it is my view point and with what attains in the world today, that youth and couples in relationship and are looking forward to getting married someday or soon should consider to ask each other - from which i am sure the answers as shocking as they would be, would help couple or aspiring life time partners to set their priorities right. Infact as a lady, it would help you to know if your man truely wants you for keeps or fling. These applies to the men also, it would help you to know the quality of lady you have being going out with. Set your priorities right.

Coping in a relationship, but before I go on, I must tell you how happy I am to rejoice with you if you are in a relationship, and if not, the let your good deeds and virtues represent you and bring you that which your heart desires, also if yours just crashed, don’t go all moody and feeling cheated, remember that all good things must pass through trials and testing. But then again before now my profile says single. (lol….!)
Relationship, word oftentimes foreign to the tongue of most men and sometimes few women, especially when the issue of coping
is involved, yes! And that is true. A lot of things happen in relationships and there must be ways of dealing with them. Here I would love to share many factors with you and explain each in detail, but time and space will not allow
me, so that, I will do in subsequent topics to come.
When the issue of coping comes to mind, we would usually view it from two angles, either positive or negative, interesting or sour, and if in a die game, we would say head or tail, of which I am sure many will go for head – positive, interesting and alive, these are very easy to cope with, if only relationship could flow like this ……. But there is always the negative, tail, and sour times i.e. (break ups).
Having known these, now how would one cope in such cases?. There are ways but not limited to the few below, please note that no matter how bad your test or challenge is, always do remember “how” and “when” it all started, (when and how you both met, all you have both shared and memories that you'll never want to forget.) those happy times, and try to call back that smile that you both first shared and you’ll both smile it through again.
Another tip of coping well in a relationship is to always apply the rule of patience and
permit me to say that by such the elders obtained good report. with patience, i can assure you good report is obtainable. Be patient enough to at least listen, hear out each other and discuss issues no matter how bad they are. Here is something for the guys to note, you will need some faith, ability to believe and trust your woman regardless of what you might think or hear about her.
Again, always be the first to call back and tell her “I really never meant to say or do what I did, am sorry". Just do all you can to hang in there, don’t loose it and break it, putting it back might not be as easy as you expect. At this juncture, I would stop and wait for permission to carry on. "You can do it".

Something needs to be done about ASUU and DR. FAGGE, and fast too. or why has everyone decided to keep mute on the matter? Even when we all know that Dr Nasir Isa Fagge was just appointed as the new ASUU president. Who is he trying to impress? While still gambling with the lives of thousand of our youth. its more a national issue as of the last subsidy thingy. The student are staying too long at home, i bet some of them can hardly even remember their matric number anymore, please, lets raise some dust on this issue. lets call their attention to it, the student are on the loosing end of this, Dr. FAGGES' kids might not be in any of our Nigerian institutions, anyway those are my thought. cause i wonder if he would be folding his hands, while his boys will be leaving with him under the same roof with gray hair. While he still feeds them, cloth them, give them money to shave, give them money to buy boxers or under wears and see to the fact that, they are not on the street. AH! that i am not sure. so i have the feeling that's why he is all relaxed and none nonchalant about the whole issue. Is four whole week a joke?

Has he thought about the issue of AGE on the part of the students?, or is there anyone amongst us who is growing any younger? that aside, how about the issue of delay and harm to the academic calender? i thought they said he is a DR? at what age did he attain that? i am worried.
WHICH WAY FORWARD?

Dear writer, and inquirer of information. In as much as I would love to suggest a way out having considered all other replies sent in... please permit me to correct a statement that "he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the lord" is an old saying is false and misleading. The words of the holy bible are evergreen. And as regards your question on which is better betw a black or white lady, for marriage. I would like to know if what you have asked, to sounds you like racism? Do you feel yourself less suprior to? Anyway, here is a simple answer to your question... to find the woman of your choice, just close your eyes and send a simple prayer to GOD, father lead me in my quest and search. Hit me back so that we can further go through this together... I will be more than willing to join you in prayers.

ONE WHO DESPITE OF ENVIRONMENTAL, CLIMATIC AND NATURAL FORMS OF CHANGE POSSESSES OF A POSSESSIVE “NEVER GIVING UP ATTITUDE” AS TO WHAT THE OUTCOME WILL BE. ONE WHO STICKS WITH YOU IN THE TRIAL TIMES, IN THICK AND THIN OF ALL THINGS (YOUR LOW MOMENTS AND HOURS INCLUSIVE). ONE WHO REGARDLESS OF THE NUMBER OF TIMES YOU SAID I HATE YOU, JUST GO, LETS SEPARATE- AM NO LONGER INTERESTED IN THIS RELATIONSHIP ( WHEN YOU GAVE UP). BIG CHEERS!!! TO THE ONE WHO REGARDLESS OF ALL, WILL STILL WITH A DEEP SENSE OF HONESTY, LOYALTY AND CARE WITH TRUE LOVE HEAR YOUR PLEADS EACH TIME YOU COME BACK, GIVE YOU A SHOULDER TO LEAN ON AGAIN, DRIVE BACK JOY AND THIS SENSE OF BELONGING TO YOUR LIFE – HEART.
IN ALL HONESTY, LET’S GIVE IT ALL UP TO THE WOMAN, ESPECIALLY ALL THE MOTHERS AND THE VERY LADY BESIDE YOU. WHAT A RARE BREED A WOMAN IS.
DEDICATED TO YOU...

Incorruptible love beyond the shores of this world, something outside the grasp of the ordinary man, that whose price tag is commitment, sincerity, honesty and faithfulness etc. sacrifice is another word for love , ”giving without expecting anything in return ”says a friend of mine (AT), giving and commitment to, with submission, what more is greater than this?.
Love tired to a genuine interest and anchored on purpose to give, giving not based on pity, beauty, physique, endowments, money or possessions. Love that finds it so easy to say I forgive you and forget, let’s give it another chance. Love that knows the short comings of the other person and says it is well, we will pull through. This love is alive, around and breathing too, I found one in my mum; you have one in you too, use it and share it.
This love is kind and gentle to the touch, warm and caressing to the skin, it brings strength at the time of weakness, joy in times of pain, and most of all sweet memories when the heart is in isolation. I found so much courage to write these because I am certain that, IT’S IN YOU.

Incorruptible love beyond the shores of this world, something outside the grasp of the ordinary man, that whose price tag is commitment, sincerity, honesty and faithfulness etc. sacrifice is another word for love , ”giving without expecting anything in return ”says a friend of mine (AT), giving and commitment to, with submission, what more is greater than this?.
Love tired to a genuine interest and anchored on purpose to give, giving not based on pity, beauty, physique, endowments, money or possessions. Love that finds it so easy to say I forgive you and forget, let’s give it another chance. Love that knows the short comings of the other person and says it is well, we will pull through. This love is alive, around and breathing too, I found one in my mum; you have one in you too, use it and share it.
This love is kind and gentle to the touch, warm and caressing to the skin, it brings strength at the time of weakness, joy in times of pain, and most of all sweet memories when the heart is in isolation. I found so much courage to write these because I am certain that, IT’S IN YOU.

There could be various ways to define it, love. But here is my personal definition, love is like a plant with fibrous root system, it would rarely, or totally die. No wonder when you ask from a couple who just broke up or got divorced, most especially the women - "with the way things are, do you still love your man?" The first thing she says is yes i do but... the "but" i am sure has to do with the pain at that moment. Give her some time, she would be the first to snap out of it and would begin to say sorry for the things she didnt even do in the first place. I am not saying this to prove that women are weak, but to confirm that in them the best seed has been sown and grown. That is why when they tried to kill it, they both forgot it has a root. What seem like the aforemetioned weakness of awoman is one of the most single reason why today, some broken relationships are re-budding i.e. ground or hard soil (issues) are paving way for new stems and branches (hope for a new day or second chance if you may). The only one and true catalyst of change and growth is love, unquenchable, unstoppable and undeniable.
I may not be an expart on the subject matter but in my own opinion and view, i have come to observe that, love as a seed once sown in any human rarely ever dies. As a matter of fact when i hear people re-emphasize that God is love and none other can be compared to it, i sincerely agree. But here i am saying it as it pertains to human feelings towards another human, and to be more specific, love towards the opposit sex i.e. a man towards a woman. From the aforementioned, i am not saying that other ways with which people show and express love is wrong, everyone has a right to express love in any way they choose to.
And to help bring this topic to a sharper focus, personally i will share a bit of mine and a couple of other experiences with you.
Sometime ago i met and found love in a young and naive lady, in which at the time i honestly appreciated and chrished, but as time went by as i advanced in age and status, i felt i deserved more and thougth of moving on - expanding my horizon and reach. So i began to scheme out ways to quit that relationship i.e. i started with picking offense at any and every little thing she does or say, avoiding her and not picking her calls with the excuss that " i am in class or busy with one assignment or the other". Eventually, countless number of times i succeeded in causing the break ups - but God knows we never really were able to totally break up. Unknown to me, that having sown the seed, nursed it and saw it grow does not mean i have a complete control or power over if it would remain or die. Love is really more than what we see, hear or feel - it is a life of its own.
In another scenario, i was best friend to couple in a relationship, that means i knew how it all began, had at one time counsel one of both parties, there is little i dont know about that relationship, except for what happens behind the blinds... it is always the man who cannot be trusted.... please permit me to do this again with you in "love(2)".