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PRISTINEMUSCLES:
Not that they like guys who treat them as "TRASH" but those guys that are able to stamp their ground come what may. They like guys that won't "always" give up their convenience to please them. Guys that can make them go wild both publicly and privately.

Unfortunately, a nice guy cannot do such rather he does the opposite. But a "bad" guy can do all of the above and much more.

AfroKnight:
Bro haven’t you heard? Good guys finish last.

Most babes reserve a spot in their hearts for good guys. They treat such guys as a fall-back plan in case the cocky bastàrds they want, leave them broken. This is so they can carry their broken selves to the good guy to patch up and marry.

If they’re lucky, the bad boy sticks with them and they endure a tumultuous marriage. If not, it’s mr nice guy they’d be buzzing on Whatsapp after 5 years incommunicado.

Don’t be the nice guy. Don’t be the last option on the list of an unstable untrustworthy woman.

Astark:
penaldo fans ehn.

Leezah:
2 out of 2 times I have ever been jealous of an ex boyfriend's friend (not with every ex boyfriend was this an issue) it was found out later that the female friend was indeed crushing on my boyfriend. Women unlike men tend to “read” people well, especially other women. When in love a woman's intuition especially tends to intensify. Then again so does her jealousy so this can be a tricky situation that requires some reflection and honesty with yourself and openness with your girlfriend.
Some of what made me feel jealous in these times was intuition, but some things I just simply understand by being a female myself and having many female friends. I knew certain subtle things females do when they like a guy and saw it. Even personally I crushed on guy friends before and some never suspected it. So it's definitely possible your girlfriend sees something you don't.
Anyways, aside from intuition and certain gestures i saw, I noticed that these 2 boyfriends would run to the female friend with all the problems we had as though she was his “refuge”. This is growing intimacy with your friend instead of your girlfriend and a BIG NO-NO. It would have been better that they went to an older and wiser man for counsel than to her.
Although you may go to your female friend for advice with other problems you should never ever come to her with relationship problems. Friends of the opposite shouldn't know all the intimate details of your relationship. As soon as you have a girlfriend this is the most immediate way in which your friendship to your friend should change. By you coming to her you are now showing her what sort of romantic partner you are and how “romantically compatible” you now are with her.
Women are weird. As soon as you deeply open up about these conditions of your heart, etc, we cant help but to at least wonder if we are romantically compatible especially since we come out the womb being relationship/love oriented. Unless you want your female friend trying to now question secretively if you and her are compatible its best you leave her in the dark about this “intimate” side of you or only expose this side of you when you are single. Also don't break up with your girlfriend and the next day run to your female about the issues. Especially in young love people break up then 2 months later are back together.
Overall allowing a female friend to see these aspects of you should be when you are single (via the title of being single and via emotionally being untied to anyone). Then and only then you should share your romantic/relationship characteristics with your opposite sexed friend and even then just know you are opening the strong possibility that this friend will now start qualifying and disqualifying you as a romantic partner. If you want female advice then ask older women but maybe not your mom or those who would have too much bias and too easily take your side. Maybe Nairaland could be good however take every answer with a grain of salt including my own.
Honestly relationships and determining what is acceptable and not acceptable is personal and takes personal reflection. You can't just take advice for everything.
I especially think in today's world with so many boys raised without fathers its not good to get all your relationship do's and don't from females. You shouldn't think like a female when dating a female. You should think like a man. For the most part men have to be more patient and giving in certain areas of relationships and women should be more patient in other areas.
Learning intimate relationships is not like learning to be politically correct or learning what's publicly proper. Although I do recommend reading relationship books from people who share your same vision of intimate relationships dating someone is the foundation in an intimate world you are creating and everyone is different in what they can accept or what they prefer. People's preferences in love ranges from the most traditional to the grotesque…
Meditate on what you want. Overall if this is a woman who fits every aspect of your vision of an intimate relationship than her opinion does matter. At the end of a day you and HER will be the main creators of a world between your walls and conforming to her in all aspects that's reasonably possible and vice versa is key in making a lasting relationship (keyword:reasonable).
Overall there are many questions you have to ask before you seek to end your friendship. In my own situation both of these boyfriends much later “confessed” that they deeply knew the female friend liked them since I first mentioned my jealousy but they thought it wasn't a big deal unless they fed into it.
Personally I felt these were feeding into it (again men don't tend to know the world of female emotion as well). Can you honestly and I mean SINCERELY look at all the encounters with your female friend say that beyond a shadow of a doubt this friend has absolutely, and I mean absolutely has no crush on you? Honestly not even her having a boyfriend matters. Having a boyfriend doesn't stop one from having basic human desires towards another. In divorce courts we see this clearly, so of course in simply dating we can't deny this simple fact of life.
Anywho, despite my own experiences, at the end of the day I would not say it's the best solution to always cut off the female friend just because your girlfriend is jealous especially without considering these things I mentioned.
Many times we date just to date and practice a long term commitment.
Look at everything mentioned here, reflect, keep intimate problems away from opposite sexed friend, and determine your motivation in dating the woman you're with. Is she practice or is she the one?
Is she seeing something you don't or is it jealous?
Is it every female friend and interaction that makes her jealous or is it just this one friend?
Is not conforming to her in this way worth risking a lifetime of not having her by your side?
Many questions to ask before you take any action.

seunmohmoh:
Good day everyone, i need urgent advice from you guys. My Jamb centre was located at gateway poly saapade. Not knowing there are two gateway at ogun state, i went to the popular gateway at igbesa and it was too late before i discovered this. Is there anything i can do? Can jamb reschedule the date if i complain? Please help.
Lalasticlala please help me.

MrBrownJay1:
the minute that man told you he was gay, you should have stopped communicating with this stranger.... now the fact that you were foolishly thinking of going to stay with this gay strangers for a week is "questionable" to say the least, as no straight man would remotely think of doing that. now the gay dude want to fukc your nyansh and you still come to NL and ask for advice?!

if you cant stay anywhere and have no money to stay in a hotel for ONE NIGHT then dont go there and wait until you will have the right funds to be in Abuja.

asking total strangers to let you stay in their place is not only very foolish but also VERY DANGEROUS. in these days of KIDNAPPING/RITUAL KILLINGS etc ?!?!?!

Uniportadmision:
Watched this last month, never believed a Chinese movie could make me so emotional, so touching.

My best though is Evil Cult, story line was dope!

omoadeleye:
I didn't know that you mean who would in reality if they were to battle

omoadeleye:
They're just actors, thou they have both had an encounter together in a movie called"the forbidden kingdom" and the fight is almost a ties. Is the producer that can determine who should wins among both

NOwazobia:
Why killed such a friendly harmless animal, do they want wolves to go extint, such would have been the cry of some fake Nairaland animal activist if it has happen In Nigeria, but they don't wait the next second at the sight of a Cockcroach.

omoadeleye:
He is even not the one doing those stunts cause he has a stuntman for that. Only Jackie Chan does his stunt himself

Rafaeloma:
Donnie Yen.....their father!!!

alexistaiwo:
I have watched every single movie that featured JET LI at least five times (no exaggeration) and none compares to Warlord.

Fearless is all about stunts and film tricks as we call it.


Go and watch Warlord.

alexistaiwo:
My best movie of his is "Warlord"


JET LI actually died in this movie and the whole movie was more about acting skills rather than stunts.

victorian:
My crush that year of Aaliyah's song..
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I fell in love with him like kilode

Riele:


WizKid the love of my life You're the only electricity I know

Sixfeetbelle:
A man can say no to sex in only a few exceptional cases, and depending on the man's sexual discipline.

What I got from the responses most of these women are giving in this video shows they are replying in context of a man they know already or are in a relationship with. It doesn't make sense that you will attack a random man you just met for saying no to your sexual invite.