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PLEASE THIS THREAT IS REAL... DON'T BECAUSE OF YOUR HATRED FOR FFK DISREGARD THIS MESSAGE!!! THIS THREAT IS REAL.. THIS IS REAL!!! IT IS NOT MADE UP... THIS INCITEMENT IS REAL!!! |
Mtcheew Na lie jare... some ladies; You succeed in-spite of! |
But MAUTECH na name of another university for Yola na... MAUTECH, YOLA... |
What makes you think the Igbo brain is better than the Hausa brain, Mr. Superior tribe? When criminal tendency and inordinate materialistic covetousness is juxtaposed to mean superior Intelligence, I just smh! stick to the issues Homeboiy: |
And nobody feels AUN, Yola is a good fit? It's actually a really good university by every standard especially since we are talking Nigeria. Could even be the best, most likely the best, really! |
OP, please 1. what is your working definition of BROKE and SUCCESSFUL(men/women)? 2. What percentage of the reference demographics(180 million Nigerians) fall into the two categories referred above? 3. Why would an "intelligent, hardworking lady with financial standards" still expect to be taken care of, financially? |
If Government find Oil for your backyard, NA DIA OWN but if na Marijuana them find; NA YOU GET AM!!! I laugh so tey belle wan pain me
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This Churchill must be so broke that he could not afford bride price... I am still checking the dictionary to see the meaning of bride! This gives one a peep into what the very poor "broke" dude has been going through during the very brief co-habitation they had! It must have been full of verbal abuse and insults about how they "helped" him to pay the bride price he could not afford to pay! Ladies will verbally and emotionally abuse guys and scream to the whole heavens when the guy physically abuse them back Ladies' strength is verbal, using the tongue, which in most cases is sharper than a sword and Men's strength is essentially physical. Now both parties are given these strong points to complement and help each other but when any of the parties decides to use his/her strength in an abusive manner, it is still abuse!The situation is DOMESTIC ABUSIVE in BOTH cases. Emotional abuse and physical abuse both kill as efficiently! I just think we should be careful to use our various gifts and strengths for the right purpose! Our beautiful ladies can put a harness to their tongues and not spill poison at the slightest provocation because I see it everywhere nowadays (in public places, just everywhere literally, hurting words at the slightest provocation! You can't go around beating up anybody you disagree with just because you are a man and You can't just go about giving a tongue lashing to people you dis agree with, just because you are a woman! Just that this whole poo is disturbing our peace... their divorce is, am sure, about the billionth divorce that has happened in the universe and what is so special about this one that was essentially lacking in any sound foundation anyway!... |
Although its completely untrue as the before-picture is NOT Paul Pogba but... I will take the motivational value of the post! ngwanu, OP make you dey do research wella before you run create topic, you hear! Peace and love |
dem dey show Messi where person wey give Bleep dey!
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Templerun95:AND THE WHOLE WORLD SHALL TURN INTO "A MIDDLE EAST... " |
Professor Isa Hussaini of Faculty of Pharmacy University of Maiduguri wrote: The blame for what Nigeria has become falls on you and me. Not Buhari, not Jonathan, not Obasanjo and definitely not Abacha. Our wickedness stinks to the heavens as we go about our daily lives, pulling down everyone and everything to become rich. We import substandard products, fake drugs and expired baby food unfit for human consumption and we have the nerve to complain about leadership? We even steal from widows, orphans, and refugees. We take their food and sell it for profit. No conscience. Nothing is sacred. No one is spared. We build substandard roads, schools, houses, hospitals, all for profit at the expense of human life;an invaluable item which all our profit and contract sum cannot buy. One would think this behavior is reserved for urchins but it would surprise you that this is the character of many decent looking people who appear to be normal but are not any better than Boko Haram members. They are church members, Muslims, husbands, wives and sadly youths. We pervert justice and pretend we do not know right from wrong just to serve our selfish interests. Slave traders pale in comparison to what we do to ourselves. We are wickedness personified. So much hatred flows in our blood and we transfer it to our children. It's evident in what we say and do. We have fasting and prayer sessions all year long, night vigils and deliverance when the actual problem is us. We simply cannot learn to love others . It is me, me, me. That is all that ever matters. It is sickening. Anyone who cannot love has no business in politics, Government and in Nigeria. Until we understand this, we will continue on this path of destruction. Copied# |
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where are you located in PH? |
What could possibly have changed in the fabric of today's society? Let's honestly discuss these issues folks. |
I first think say na Daddy Freezer name I see! |
GOD EXISTS! But for the sake of argument, In the very very unlikely case that God does not exist, then I will go with Pascal's wager: The Wager uses the following logic (excerpts from Pensées, part III, §233): - God is, or God is not. Reason cannot decide between the two alternatives. - A Game is being played... where heads or tails will turn up. You must wager (it is not optional). - Let us weigh the gain and the loss in wagering that God is. Let us estimate these two chances. If you gain, you gain all; if you lose, you lose nothing. - Wager, then, without hesitation that He is. (...) There is here an infinity of an infinitely happy life to gain, a chance of gain against a finite number of chances of loss, and what you stake is finite. And so our proposition is of infinite force, when there is the finite to stake in a game where there are equal risks of gain and of loss, and the infinite to gain. - But some cannot believe. They should then 'at least learn your inability to believe...' and 'Endeavour then to convince' themselves. |
Asiwaju9ja:The venom in your submission against those who disagree with your position and the messianic zeal you project to force people into line with your views on this matter is in and of itself suspicious. As of politicizing the Chibok girls debacle my friend, you may wish to know that it is a big big political issue... One that was instrumental in bringing this government to power. It is consistently used as tool for comparing political achievement and political success of the APC. My question will be a simple one: we have a hostage crisis and now have established contact with the abductors. We are negotiating the release of the hostages, why are we negotiating for batch releases and why not negotiate the release of all the hostages at once since we are already willing to make compromises with the supposed abductors? Why are the releases conveniently scheduled as if to divert attention? Some of us support this government but the coincidence is continually appearing all too convenient for comfort. We can leave a little room for possibility of some politics happening here! Am just saying. |
Amoyinoluwa24:h HMMM.....Very connvinient... DISTRACTION FROM THE FOCUS ON BUHARI'S HEALTH ISSUES... One increasingly finds justifications for the allegations that Boko Haram and Chibok Girls drama is a well orchestrated SCAM!!! |
This is just jamboree... those Bori boys they carry weapons wey sophisticated pass Army special forces own not even the Nigerian police. This is less than the tithe of what they own as far as weapons are concerned... and worse thing is that they LOVE to fight and kill themselves in Ogoni land over trivial issues. They roll out their sophisticated weapons and shoot each other, at the drop of a feather. Pray for Ogoni land... just a lot of illiteracy and violence |
Personally, I dedicate my children myself... I bless them with my own mouth as a parent just like I read from the Holy Bible... Fathers bless their children and the blessings hold. Now about forgiveness, churches/pastors have no power to forgive any sin hence the futility of trying to earn their forgiveness. As for sin, its like a wound on the body... The wound is gone but the scar still remains. So God has forgiven you but the scar most might still be there.j For marriage is when one has met the requirements of the lawvnot when you do church weeding. Just calm down and focus on building you home... |
Two burglars got more than they bargained for recently after picking the wrong house to break into. Garfield Morgan, 54, and his 36 year old accomplice friend Kim Gorton are both career burglars, having stolen from hundreds of homes in their lives. But it’s unlikely they’ll go back to crime after the nasty episode they experienced in the home of one Florida man… Harry Harrington is 6’7″ and weighs over 300lbs. It’s pure muscle. He’s a notorious gay s*x predator who has served time in jail for numerous sexual assaults. An aggressive and predatory offender, he’s not the kind of man you want to annoy. But that’s just what Morgan and Gorton did that fateful night. Harrington, known as ‘The Wolfman‘, easily overpowered the men, tied them up and assaulted them for five full days. Police only intervened after a neighbor heard the men’s cries for help and called them. ..... How about this for a Friday Laugh....
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hmmm... some people live in dreamland and by the time they wake up life would have passed them by... How many jobs pay upto 100k sef? I live in PHC and make a good income with wife and kids but in a month our basic expenditure is not upto 100k. so what are all these kids saying about marrying a man that earns 100k? Your question should be, can I find a man who makes 100k a month that is willing to marry a deluded idiot like me?... Do all the people in your family make up to 100k monthly? ... very silly people that live in their imaginations bugging our peace with stupidity... University Lecturers dont even start with more than 100k Graduate Police officers dont make more than a 100k by much. ... For federal civil servants, you have got to have a masters degree to start with a basic salary of about 80 somehting k... So what are these ones saying? No ..you cannot not marry a man who makes a 100k monthly.. you will marry your fellow dreamers and thieves who do not know that life is a process and there are words like Delayed Gratification and Growth!! And it is children of the poor and the wretched in the society who think everything is about what a man can give them... Poverty mentality go kill una deluded children of rage. Re-arrange your priorities to reflect the realities of life, jonespeople!! |
My brother, I am physically challenged too, have been, for over 30 years now. I have a paralyzed left foot and use crutches to move around. I was also in a similar condition with you or even worse- a poor orphaned dude from a very poor family. My blessed Mumcy was frying Akara to support a family of 7 kids. The good news is that I managed to get my self educated working as a barber on crutches and selling used clothes of course with the much my Mumcy could give me which was never more than 3k. I now hold a Masters degree, married to a beautiful lady who graduated from the same university with me and we are blessed with 2 beautiful kids, a 5yrs old boy and a months old beautiful girl. By the grace of God, I worked as a lecturer in the university before moving to a multinational IOC with a monthly salary in seven figures! Now I don't say all these to boast but to encourage you to put your head down and work hard for yourself and for your own life. Don't be distracted by frivolities and my brother, when you succeed you will have a choice of the most beautiful ladies around and God will give you one that will truly love you for you. people will be falling over themselves to identify with you. By all means get a trade so you can be making some money to keep you going without depending on anyone. Make sure you get educated and ensure that you make atleast a 2.2 because that will count for you, aim for a first class, even if you are going to a poly or COE. As a person with disability, you need twice the amount of efforts required by others to get the same things they get. You must be extra focused but you can surely make it... take it from me, bro. Polish your talents and skills... try boldly approaching a radio station and ask to volunteer seek help for an opportunity to learn.... there is so much you can do... it is not a this ability, I call it These-abilities! Feel free to contact me... May God help you!! |
I am impressed by the quality of advices I have seen so far... great job y'all. I know of a situation that presents a different perspective. This guy was preparing to wed this lady and was having the discussions about how the prospective family resources will be managed. And the lady clearly pointed out the she was not interested in having shared family income with her husband saying the for her, her money is her money. This guy went ahead to marry her with the understanding that her money is her money and he will do the manly thing and provide for the family. The guy kept his promise to be the sole provider. She proved her stand by not showing him any money she gets and when he asked her to just inform him just for information sake, she said that it was her money given to her by her own relatives and so he has no right to know. Some months down the line the same woman started complaining that the man does not allow her to make decisions on the finances of the family and accused him of thinking it's his own money. The guy being principled reminded her of their agreement about finance management in the relationship and the woman sulked and complained but the guy refused to give in. Now the essence of this boring story is to point out that some ladies have the notion that their money is their own money while the man's money is "our" money. I am not saying it is the case with the OP but this is just a different perspective to the discuss... thank you. |
It is now a matter of FFUCKa and all those childish I don't give a FFUCK Memes have disappeared! WHY DO SO MANY PEOPLE GIVE A FFUCK ABOUT THE MATTER OF FFUCK?? ![]() |
- Some women will create a home situation where sex is not even possible and turn around to complain about lack of sex. We need to understand that for the man, an erection is due to signals sent from the brain to the organs. - When the man is preoccupied with issues of getting by and then having to deal with an impossible partner, then the last thing that comes to mind is sex. A single word can drive away the hardest erection nagging with certainly kill one. - It's is easy when you only have a hole and you don't need to get anything up before you have sex. - On the flip side, most of us men that have to work our buts off destroy our body system, the prick is one of the first victims of an unhealthy lifestyle. Lack of exercise is a major cause, you don't have to be a hunk, just be healthy and your prick go respond. - Those ones making the unfair comments about women being fat, I say it is a silly infatuation driven reasoning. If the woman fat, shey the toto fat ni? - Occupations that require long sitting hours certainly weaken the pvc muscle, which is the engine room of sex for men. A troubled mind is a sex killer. - I am not blaming any single party here, it's just that these things need to be worked on... marriage no easy ooo. When woman bellyful na prick be the next need wey you must provide, chai man don suffer. - I don see woman for my church wey burst cry for church marriage seminar because of lack of prick... it is that bad!! - And women of nowadays, prick no dey reach dem... you Bleep tire them go still dey ask for more without knowing that you are loosing a lot of energy in the sexual process.some expectations are just not realistic as everything deteriorates with age. And to the woman, I know women do exergerate... the man dey Bleep am pass the number way she count na just say eno dey reach am. |
Freedom2016:How can you source it outside the bank when the outside sources have been banned? Are you not then implying the creation of another "black market"? I think the solution is not as simplistic as the government is making it out to be. My idea, our policy makers should again study the situation and identify the point at which we lost it. They should then study other countries that may have been in a similar situation (there is no way Nigeria can be the only nation to have seen this problem) with a view of understanding thier solution approach while incorporating our unique factors. It worked for us during the banking crisis of the Sanusi Lamido Era, it may work now. The government should be sincere in its approach to economic matters and not continue to create opportunities for a few connected individuals to grow rich. My two cents |
AntiWailer:"Unfortunately, Governor El Rufai has not explored this plank of thinking. Rather, he has chosen to anoint himself with the toga of the many half-hearted loyalists and sympathizers’ of the Buhari administration. What these folks often flaunt is lamentations and wailings about the gravity of the decay in Nigeria and the hapless Buhari, always burdened with the responsibility of salvaging Nigeria from its degenerative pit." Oga, you appear to be the semi-illiterate here or better still, over-illiterate... this is simply saying El-Rufai is also wailing and a half hearted loyalist. So where did you get the information to infer that " he will be the next president"? Oga I am tempted to believe that you sef never read or never understand the content... |
Conditions of marrying more than one woman: Islam set forth some conditions for marrying more than one woman. Those conditions are as follows: 1- To deal justly among the wives. This is limited with the human capability; it includes being just in food, clothes, housing, interest and treatment. However the Quran denotes that it is very difficult: "...if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or that which your right hands possess" (an-Nisa, 4/3). So if there is a fear that one cannot deal justly or one can oppress, then the principle of being content with one woman becomes valid. However, justice does not include issues like liking, inclination of the heart and love, because they cannot be controlled. Islam does not place a burden on man greater than he can bear. However, it is forbidden to incline to one of the wives extremely and deprive the others from love. The following is stated in a verse: "Ye are never able to do justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire: but turn not away (from a woman) altogether, so as to leave her (as it were) hanging (in the air).” (an-Nisa, 4/129). When the two verses above are evaluated, we can draw the conclusion that polygamy is not an essential rule but a permission that can be used when extraordinary conditions are present. 2- To be able to maintain the family. In Islam, it is necessary for a man who wants to marry one woman or more to be able to meet the eating, drinking, clothing and housing expenses of her or them. The Prophet (PBUH) said the following: O young men! Those among you who can support a wife should marry " (Bukhari, Sawm, 10, Nikah, 2, 3, 19; Muslim, Nikhh, 1,3; Abu Dawud, Nikah, I; Ibn Majah, Nikah, ; Nasai, Siyam, 43). There is no doubt that the hardship of marriage lies in the expenses of the wife. The reasons why Islam permits polygamy: In Islam monogamy is essential and polygamy is exceptional. It can be used only when it is necessary or compulsory. Islam did not make polygamy obligatory for anybody, nor did it encourage polygamy. However, it is regarded permissible when there are some general or special reasons. General reasons: In some regions the male population decreases and female population may increase above normal. During the time of wars it is more frequent. As a matter of fact, after the World War I in Germany, there were four or six women for one man. Then German women advocated that men should marry more than one woman. In such a situation polygamy serves to protect women from prostitution, to provide them with a warm home and to guard fatherless children. Sometimes it may be necessary to marry more than one woman to increase the population in some regions; for instance, the death of most of the population in war. There may be polygamy in order to spread Islam. So the Prophet was married to one woman Hazrat Khadijah until he was 54 and had 9 wives after that. (az-Zuhayli, VII, 169, 170). There are a lot of special reasons: 1- The woman may be ill and cannot meet her husband’s sexual needs. It may be a gynecologic disease that cannot be cured; the woman may be barren and cannot bear a child. In such a case divorcing the diseased wife and marrying another may seem to be a solution but instead of sending her away from her children’s home, marrying a second woman with the consent of the first wife should be a better solution. Thus the rights of the first wife are preserved. 2- Some men may have fallen in love with another woman. The only way to prevent him from adultery is the second marriage. So, the fact that polygamy is permissible is due to obligation, necessity, illness or a valid cause. Love and polygamy Islam advises spouses to love each other in a legitimate way. However, it does not want that love to be confined to this world only but to become eternal. It defines some criteria for it. One of them is to love someone for the sake of Allah, because everything depends on Allah and belongs to Him. He is the owner of all estates. He who loves the people he loves for the sake of Allah makes his love eternal and guarantees it. Death and partings cannot cause the disappearance of that love. A man who thinks of marrying more than one woman can marry only if he is determined to act equally among his wives in terms of treatment, spending the night with, justice, clothing, meeting their necessities and other issues and if he needs a second marriage Otherwise it is not permissible. If he does not observe these conditions he will have committed a haram (a forbidden act) and violated other people’s rights. Allah permitted marrying more than one woman in the Quran. However, it demanded monogamy in cases where there may be injustice. Therefore we can easily say that marrying more than one woman is not right unless it is obligatory. We see that treating all of the wives equally is almost impossible, at least very difficult and that not every man can do it. However, a person who thinks that a second marriage is obligatory can marry with the presence of witnesses and it is not compulsory for him to inform his relatives about it. POLYGAMY "A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralyzed in the Day of Judgment." (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishqatl’l-masabih, 2/196) Antique Egypt Law: A man could marry more than one woman under some circumstances. Babel Law: according to Hammurabi laws if a woman could not bear a child or had a serious disease the husband could have a concubine. Chinese Law: If the wealth of the husband were sufficient, he could marry secondary wives. However, the children from the secondary wives were regarded as the children of the first wife. Antique Brahmans: According to the book Vichnou, men could marry one, two, three or more women in accordance with their classes. In the book Apastamba there was a limit; if the woman carried out her tasks and she had a male child, the husband could not marry a second woman. In the laws of Manu, the husband had to choose his first wife from the same social class; he could marry a woman of lower classes as his second wife. Ancient Iran: Polygamy was legal. Roman Law: It was possible to have a concubine, without a legal wedding. The Bible: It is stated in the Old Testament that Hazrat Dawood married several women. There are some other places that mention polygamy in the Old Testament. There existed polygamy in Judaism. In the New Testament, there is not an item prohibiting polygamy. However there are recommendations that it is better to be content with one wife. In Christianity, polygamy was normal until the 16th century. Arabia before Islam: There were no limitations regarding polygamy. Men could marry as many women as they wanted; sometimes they even exchanged their wives. POLYGAMY IN ISLAM Allah states the following: "If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or that which your right hands possess. That will be more suitable, to prevent you from doing injustice." (Chapter an-Nisa / 3) It is seen clearly in the verse that marrying more than one woman 2, 3 and finally 4 is not an order that has to be carried out like fardh or wajib (compulsory) but permission. However, this permission depends on dealing justly among the wives. It is stated that being content with one wife is the closest and rightest way to justice; it is ordered that a person who fears that he won’t be able to deal justly has to be content with one wife. PRINCIPLES OF ISLAM REGARDING POLYGAMY 1) Limitation of the number: Islam put a limitation to the limitless marriages of men during the period of Jahiliyyah (Ignorance). After Allah sent down that verse, acting on the order of the Messenger of Allah, those who had more than 4 wives divorced the extra ones. 2) Dealing justly among wives: It will be in eating, drinking, clothing, housing, intercourse and love. However, it is very difficult, almost impossible to deal justly in terms of love. Various physical and psychological characteristics will cause differences in the level of love. No matter how hard he tries to deal justly, it is almost impossible for a man to achieve it. Allah states the following: "Ye are never able to do justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire: but turn not away (from a woman) altogether, so as to leave her (as it were) hanging (in the air). If ye come to a friendly understanding and practice self-restraint, Allah is Oft-Forgiving Most Merciful." (Chapter an-Nisa/ 129) In this verse, Allah exempts men from dealing absolutely justly in terms of love and liking. However, he prohibits men from inclining totally to one and ignoring the other(s), and He orders men to do their best to deal justly. The following is stated in a hadith: "A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralyzed in the Day of Judgment." (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishqatl’l-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share his husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealousy nature of the woman and the affection of the father prevent it. As a matter of fact, The daughter of our Prophet, Hazrat Fatima, objected to his husband’s, Hazrat Ali’s, marrying to a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object Hazrat Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was sorry, asked Hazrat Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Hazrat Fatima. He did not consent to Hazrat Ali’s second marriage and to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of the husband or son-in-law. To sum up: Islam neither orders nor prohibits polygamy. It only permits it when it is necessary. There is no need to say much after narrating the happening above. References: 1) While preparing this article we mostly referred to the book "İslamda Kadın Hakları" by Mehmet Dikmen. 2) Elmalı Interpretation (Tafseer) |
This certainly can't be from the APC. Fayose and the PDP must have arranged it to embarrass the APC and it's candidate. APC can't be practicing tokenism and stomach infrastructure. Only Fayose is jobless enough to do that. APC won't be hypocritical enough to practice what they vilify another man for.....
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