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biolabee: Thats cool... we still dey this land so hope for better understanding....

biolabee: ok noted.. an error on my part..that was my bad and not meant to cause offense
This land is quick to castigate single mums as the first set of posts showed

Now where did you say i abused you..ok seen!

you were on my case and even when a poster said the questions may make sense .. u were still on my ish telling me i shd have a quota of posts or sth like that

Now u go further and call me tetchy.. see?

As an olove branch from my part and i dont expect any from you though. i will modify said posts..

biolabee: hey brah... did not want to do this but let me humor you .... this is my first post here below..
you have an issue and thus perception has coloured your interpretation of the post
Where did i say others have nothing to say

You claim to be the adult and yet u are now insulting me
Is this how u run your domain - shouting everyone down

Ok.. carry go...

I expect arguments to occur and i welcome it as in that we all get to learn from each other
But you oh you,, the important igi that knows everything .. kakaaki??

biolabee: See confusion wey dey this woman life because a man did not do the needful

Woman always suffer in this issue of single motherhood. always

OP please contact nikkykay https://www.nairaland.com/nikkykay and WAVixen https://www.nairaland.com/wavixen

You can also read more here https://www.nairaland.com/1202357/single-parenting-love-life-career

They may be able to give you more relevant advice

Most of the people here are single or married so cant really understand the issues - no offense

biolabee: I aint sniffing nothing,, you seem to be oin heat attacking people up and down
Best you ignore me

ish

nikkykay: But you knw from dey way she said d guy is taking d issue of the boy's custodian, it warrants ds questions?
If i can still remember, she said somewhere dat dey hav future 2gether or something.

biolabee: Dude,,, i think there is sth else to this matter
I never said no one can give input - the criticism initially was too much
There is no need for everyone to tell us that she made an error in getting pregnant - she knows that
if thats what we will talk about - there is no value to the OP

The ladies can be on anyone:s case But why r u on my case

I am not vast and will not claim to be

Why dont you drop the issue
You are the one that comes here claiming all macho n all that yet u harass people online
Dude -- u dont know me

ish

nikkykay: But pataki ds are important questions na

ileobatojo: Lol!





Take your lovefest to another thread jor!

biolabee: Ok that clears the seeming malnourishment however what is ur bf medium term plan for u and ur son
Say you go gfor the Masters and get a Fellowship for a PH D
what next? where is marriage? where is your son in all this?

Is he coming back into the loop after the 1 year

Ujujoan: @ Ile shey you are seeing him now oh . . me I dey on my own and he came to look for my trouble!

Okpo!

Ujujoan: Pukes . . .

my time don expire for this thread.

@ Pataki I'm waiting for you in another thread . . .

slimghost: Ok i get your point now. Next time i will report both the "curser" and the "cursee"

teemilo: i have already stated many posts ago that i have decided to pursue a Nigerian Masters.
i was only explaining the train of thought that led me to even consider giving up custody, thanks alot for your posts on this thread.

Ujujoan: Oooookaaaaaaaaaay . . . you want us to help you pick out the best place to buy his 'favorite' food so you can stock them for 3 months abi

You should have said nau, and we were just blowing big big grammar since . . .

Abeg who can suggest a nice supermarket in Lagos for her. Me I dey my village so I no know . . .

ileobatojo: Then suggest what she should invent or stop spewing irrelevant comments. Or are you saying she should send the child to the same people that maltreated him?

biolabee: Dude,, this is my earlier post



As an adult it is important to look at people without prejudices... that was made clear in my original post
The point about baby daddies was to show how i perceive societies hypoccrisies...

Sorry its not up to your standard.. though im male does not mean i condone what single mothers are made to go through in the name of waiting for 18 years before the baby daddy gets his senses

Ujujoan: Bush meat. . . .
and you even have the guts to call someone a woman. Pot calling kettle black . . .

Ujujoan: Don't mind that one . . what does he know? Mtcheeeeeeeeew!

biolabee: Dude I read well and said the issue is not the one year but rather post study

If that is not apparent .. Pity!

teemilo: The masters in Nigeria is definitely on the table. Its just that a foreign degree from a top school gives me a much better chance to get a research fellowship which is what we are really after.

I have no way to know if he will actually pay when d time comes but since I won't have to give up my son until I know for sure I am travelling ie fees have been paid, there's no danger of me giving up my son for nothing as it were&therefore no need to worry abt if he really will pay.

Finally, He plans 2 register for a programme in the same school during d same period.

biolabee: hmmm,,,.. i understand what the ladies are saying
Please do not mind the insults - its from the usual suspects

The issue here is not how your son will be the year you are gone for your study but what will happen post study and marriage etc

The best person to do this is your discussion with your man

Hard decisions have to be taken and lucky you, you have the cloak of anonymity here as noone know you but ensure your stakeholders primarily your son and your fiance etc are all satisfied

Steve Jobs was given up by his biological parents and he had a better life than he could dream making devices people are usign to post on this same NL

Advancin your career to provide a better life for yourself and son is GOOD
DOnt let anyone guilt you that you are a money hungry wench; just that you have to be strategic


Now see everyone attacking the lady that she is evil but nothing for the good-for-nothing arze of a baby daddy that put them in the position they are in is left out

Even my friends wife who travelled abroad for a Masters had to leave her kids behind because they will constitute a distraction which negates the effect of their study and travelling abroad so WHAT YOU ARE ABOUT TO DO IS NOT NEW

Uju here mentioned her husband helped her when she had a professional program

WHY CANT WE HELP HER WITH PLAUSIBLE SOLUTIONS RATHER THAN CONDEMNATION AND JUDGEMENT

ish

ilugunboy: Now these Northerners with their continue utterances and desperation will only lead to more desperation...a desperate person hardly take a rational decision.

If they are banking on ACN to deliver the SW to them with this type of arrogance...they will sorely be disappointed.

truth4meal: PRESIDENT GOODLUCK EBELE JONATHAN, GCFR



ON THE DECLARATION OF A STATE OF EMERGENCY IN BORNO, YOBE AND ADAMAWA STATES IN ORDER TO RESTORE PUBLIC ORDER, PUBLIC SAFETY AND SECURITY IN THE AFFECTED STATES OF THE FEDERATION


MAY 14, 2013



Dear compatriots,

1.It has become necessary for me to address you on the recent spate of terrorist activities and protracted security challenges in some parts of the country, particularly in Borno, Yobe, Adamawa, Gombe, Bauchi, Kano, Plateau and most recently Bayelsa, Taraba, Benue and Nasarawa states. These unfortunate events have led to needless loss of lives and property of many innocent Nigerians including members of our security forces.


2.The recent killing of security operatives by a cult group in Nasarawa state is particularly condemnable. I have directed that no effort or expense be spared in identifying and bringing to justice all those who had a hand in the killing of the operatives.


3.The activities of insurgents and terrorists have been reprehensible, causing fear among our citizens and a near-breakdown of law and order in parts of the country, especially the North. We have taken robust steps to unravel and address the root causes of these crises, but it would appear that there is a systematic effort by insurgents and terrorists to destabilize the Nigerian state and test our collective resolve.


4.Since I returned to the country after cutting short my visit to South Africa and aborting a planned state visit to Namibia, I have received detailed briefings from our security agencies. These briefings indicate that what we are facing is not just militancy or criminality, but a rebellion and insurgency by terrorist groups which pose a very serious threat to national unity and territorial integrity. Already, some northern parts of Borno state have been taken over by groups whose allegiance is to different flags and ideologies.


5.These terrorists and insurgents seem determined to establish control and authority over parts of our beloved nation and to progressively overwhelm the rest of the country. In many places, they have destroyed the Nigerian flag and other symbols of state authority and in their place, hoisted strange flags suggesting the exercise of alternative sovereignty.


6.They have attacked government buildings and facilities. They have murdered innocent citizens and state officials. They have set houses ablaze, and taken women and children as hostages. These actions amount to a declaration of war and a deliberate attempt to undermine the authority of the Nigerian state and threaten her territorial integrity. As a responsible government, we will not tolerate this.


7.Previously, we adopted a multi-track approach to the resolution of this problem through actions which included persuasion, dialogue and widespread consultation with the political, religious and community leaders in the affected states.


8.We exercised restraint to allow for all efforts by both State Governors and well-meaning Nigerians to stop the repeated cases of mindless violence.


9.Yet, the insurgents and terrorists seek to prevent government from fulfilling its constitutional obligations to the people as they pursue their fanatical agenda of mayhem, mass murder, division and separatism.


10.While the efforts at persuasion and dialogue will continue, let me reiterate that we have a sacred duty to ensure the security and well-being of all our people and protect the sovereign integrity of our country. Therefore, we shall, on no account, shy away from doing whatever becomes necessary to provide the fullest possible security for the citizens of this country in any part of the country they choose to reside.


11.We have a duty to stand firm against those who threaten the sovereign integrity of the Nigerian state. Our will is strong, because our faith lies in the indivisibility of Nigeria.


12.Following recent developments in the affected states, it has become necessary for Government to take extraordinary measures to restore normalcy. After wide consultations, and in exercise of the powers conferred on me by the provisions of Section 305, sub-section 1 of the Constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria 1999 as amended, I hereby declare a State of Emergency in Borno, Yobe and Adamawa states.


13. Accordingly, the Chief of Defence Staff has been directed to immediately deploy more troops to these states for more effective internal security operations. The troops and other security agencies involved in these operations have orders to take all necessary action, within the ambit of their rules of engagement, to put an end to the impunity of insurgents and terrorists.


14. This will include the authority to arrest and detain suspects, the taking of possession and control of any building or structure used for terrorist purposes, the lock-down of any area of terrorist operation, the conduct of searches, and the apprehension of persons in illegal possession of weapons.



15.The details of this Proclamation will be transmitted to the National Assembly in accordance with the provisions of the Constitution. But in the meantime, let me make it clear that within the purview of this Proclamation, the Governors and other political office holders in the affected states will continue to discharge their constitutional responsibilities.



16. I urge the political leadership in Borno, Yobe and Adamawa states to co-operate maximally with the Armed Forces and the Police to ensure that the exercise succeeds. We call on the citizenry to co-operate with our security agencies to ensure a return to normalcy within the shortest possible time.


17.I am again approaching our neighbouring countries, through diplomatic channels, as done in the recent past, for their co-operation in apprehending any terrorist elements that may escape across the border.


18.Nigerians are peace-loving people; these sad events perpetrated by those who do not wish our nation well have not changed the essential character of our people.


19. I want to reassure you all that those who are directly or indirectly encouraging any form of rebellion against the Nigerian state, and their collaborators; those insurgents and terrorists who take delight in killing our security operatives, whoever they may be, wherever they may go, we will hunt them down, we will fish them out, and we will bring them to justice. No matter what it takes, we will win this war against terror.


20.I am convinced that with your support and prayers, we shall overcome these challenges and together, we will restore every part of our country to the path of peace, growth and development.




Long live the Federal Republic of Nigeria.

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coogar: any male volunteer to accompany vivian to obudu ranch?

dayokanu: INFACT, They dont have accommodation for singles

Also the management banned single women from coming alone cos some runs girls wan turn am to Hustle arena and they are bothering men who came with their wives.

For example Married men who go to reignite their marriage end up spending most time away from their wifes

So its either Biolabee or your sit at home. Choose one

coogar: haba, you can't go alone o!
we have enough competent men that can accompany you. baba oyo didn't go alone......actually, you are not allowed to go alone. it's strictly for couples!

jidegirl12: Lol @pineapple juice, it's only meant for one and only one purpose abi Pataki?

Next stop : Vancouver island and I'm not showing off my pishures so stop drooling.

biolabee: coogar you are the lord of the gifs...

i should call u coogif....lolz

dayokanu: Baba Oyo, Jidegirl or anyone familiar with Oyo State,

is there any of these vacation spot to spend the weekends similar to Obudu around Ibadan?

[size=5pt]I want to organize a get away for Pataki and Ujujoan since I no get money for Obudu[/size]