For most viral infection the drugs reduce your viral load by restricting thier capacity to reporduce and this allows you to live a good quality life. HIV anti-retriviral drugs are a life long commitment, meaning you keep taking them. for some your immune system may kick in and keep them at bay. Most "Toilet infections are bacterial in nature I beliebe) and not viral. i dont think there are many cases of transmission of viral infections from the toilet (this is not to assert that it is impossible) . the bacterial infections can be treated successfully with antibiotics although some of the infecting organisms have become super bugs, meaning they are resistant to a lot of antibiotics. this happens when we abuse antibiotics by taking them when not needed, taking them in inadequate doses or not completing the recommended treatment cycle. basically when we dont follow doctors orders.
The coming back of STDs you mentioned is often from risky behaviour (eg sex without condom with multiple partners) the fact that you get treated today does not mean you will not catch the STD again if you encounter another infected persons.
bevause it is caused by a Virus and Viral diseases have prove stubborn to cure. even the common cold does not have a cure, your body just overcomes it. Any drugs taken only address the symptoms and not the causative organism.
AntiChristian: Why is there no readily available cure for HIV?
bevause it is caused by a Virus and Viral diseases have prove stubborn to cure. even the common cold does not have a cure, your body just overcomes it. Any drugs taken only address the symptoms and not the causative organism
AntiChristian: Why is there no readily available cure for HIV?
people should receive this with sense. this should be taken along with other protective measures for those whose behaviour puts them at risk. HIV is just one of many STI that are largely transmitted the same way. Please note. it is for prevention and not a cure......if you already have it .........e don late.. ire ooooo
Kobojunkieee: . A man who is having affairs in the open does not need to visit a marriage counselor with the woman he is cheating on. He already played his card for her to see. It's up to her to decide if her life is worth more than continuing to play house maid and baby mama to him. He has already move on from her though. 🥱🥱🥱
She made no mention of an affair. Why the assumption?
Feelings are fleeting. Una two suppose go see thrapist before una finalise divorce. cos most times na 2 people dey damage the marriage.
letskeeptalking: I guess my real question is: knowing what you know now, would you make the same choice again?
I’m currently on the verge of divorce after 15 years of marriage and three kids.. Even though this is my decision, I feel like I have no real choice. My husband (if I can even call him that) says he doesn’t want to lose his family, but he does absolutely nothing to show it.
A lot has happened over the years, and it’s reached a point where I genuinely believe there is no future for us as a couple.
So I feel like I have two options: divorce him and move forward as a single mother… or stay, knowing I could never love him again.
I worry about my kids and how growing up with parents in a loveless marriage might shape their future relationships and choices. But then I also wonder, would they be better off growing up with a single mother?
I’m not concerned about stigma or even about finding another partner someday. Honestly, the way I feel right now, I’m ready to remain celibate for life.
If you’ve gone through this, can you please share your experience? Do you regret your choice? Looking back, would you make the same decision again?
marriage is enjoyable. Just marry right sha!!! let the idealistic reasons for marriage be at least part of what made you marry and not just the aethetics and cash. Otherwise you will be part of those chatting up your ex and pouring out your pain.
So lately I've been in contact with my ex girlfriend who's now supposedly a happy married woman, according to what I was told initially . Tho it on Whatsapp when I got a message from her,but I tried to be careful and mindful while conversing with her.
After a while,one thing led to another and I curiously asked her if she was really happy in her marriage. To my greatest surprise,she said NO,and she didn't even end it there. She said she regrets getting married to a man who's old enough to be her father. Mind you, she's in her late 20's while her husband seems to be in his early 60's. They've got a son together
Well,I just told her plainly,that I shouldn't be the one she should be complaining to . I only asked her a simple and polar question,and she ended up pouring out all her pains and agony before me as if I was amongst her kinsmen that took bride price from her husband Because I could remember we were still dating when she left me for him, thinking everything that was glittering then was gold .
The funny thing was that it didn't end there, because ever since then,she has been on my neck,from one polite billing to the other. And to be honest,I don't want to and will never have anything to do with her . I'm even Planning to block her number if she wouldn't stop pestering my innocent single and not searching life
Now,the real problem is that,for the past one week,her messages have been popping on my phone like steadily . And which has left me wondering and pondering , are married men not spending quality time with their wives ? 🤔. Is marriage not really enjoyable like those married folks makes us believe, especially on social media? Those of you who are married and happy in your marriages, please come in and give those us who are about to consider getting married in the future some tips on how to make a happy home.
I used Kakanfo a lot a few years back. i liked it. Old yes but well maintained it had an almost rustic feel to it.
I would to pick rooms that overlook the Town. Great view.
BNLR: You will agree with me that hospitality business is one of the most profitable business in the world if well managed. A clear evidence of this argument is the numbers of hotel and other accomodation outlets you can find around you and still counting on a daily basis.
As a typical Ibadan boy and a hospitality practitioner with over 30 years experience in the industry. I can't stop imagine the secret of existence of some of the hotels in Ibadan that has been existing over the past 30 years in the city.
I know there is no other secret to any sustainable business more than good management and intangible assets that has been built over the years by the owner or the management. Interestingly, 95% of the hotel in Nigeria today are privately owned by individual or partnership. This argument again brought my attention to some of the oldest and active outlet in the second largest city in Africa.
Here are three to four hotels that are still keeping the legacy of hospitality in Ibadan over 30 years ago.
1. KAKANFO INN 2. HILLTOP TAVERN 3. DAVIES HOTEL 4. UI HOTEL
Unfortunately, Premier hotel is suppose to be on the list. While D'Rovas, Lafia Hotel, Green Springs, SEGELU are not active anymore. However I will like to receive more inputs on any information about oldest and active Hotel in Ibadan.
OriOko88: Does anyone know where I can auction this big 🦉 owl? Today's early morning rain made it lose its bearing,so it was found hibernating at one corner of my compound.
I attempted to handle it but it fought back aggressively,so I used a basket to capture it.
What specie of owl is this? It's a big one. Can anyone buy it?
While I agree that Drones are very effective for our current challenges. We must aslo prepare for future challenges with a more capable enemy. It was lack of preparation for future chaklenges that left us running from pillar to post when BH started.
that said we need a lot more drones now, even if it is for surveilance only
saintbillion: They say, if life gives lemon, make lemonade. But this time around, it wasn't lemond, it was a snake, so she made snake pepper soup cause life gave her a snake instead of a lemon. This was the case of a Facebook user who shared her story of how a snake normally terrorised her poor chickens when ever she's not around. Unfortunately for the snake, and fortunately for her, the hunter became the hunted as she get rid of the snake shortfalls thereby puting her cooking skills into practice. https://www.facebook.com/share/18GJv4YZsE/
Marry a good kind person. infidelity and messing up in marriages knows no race nor gender. your Dad is your Dad do not superimpose his weaknesses on other men. be careful and delibrate about your spouse too. be good and kind to him.
Oyinbogyal: I’m mixed and living abroad. My mother is European and my father is Nigerian. My parents separated over 10 years ago, but they never officially divorced — they were legally separated.
The separation happened because my father did something very serious to my mother. In Europe, you cannot be removed from the family home simply because of marital problems. A married person is only forced out by the courts if something very severe happens. That is all I can say for privacy reasons, but it’s important context.
About a year after they separated, my father started begging my mother to take him back. This wasn’t occasional — it went on for years. At the same time, he was involved with a Nigerian woman from his own tribe. Behind that Nigerian woman’s back, he was still pressuring my mother to reconcile. My mum refused, but he never stopped trying.
Fast-forward to December 2025. Even this year, my father again went to my mother and asked her to get back together with him.
Then on Christmas Day, he finally admitted — not to me, not to my mother, not to all of us directly — but to my youngest sister, that he has a 9-year-old son he has been hiding from everyone. He then made my sister pass the message on to the rest of us. He could not say it to our faces himself.
What shocked me most is that this child was born about a two years after my parents separated — meaning that all the years my father was begging my mother to reconcile, he already knew he had a child elsewhere. He deliberately never told her… bear in mind this child lives in the same country as us in Europe but he is just been hidden.
When I called him to confront him, he confirmed everything. He also said something that disturbed me deeply: that he feels no real affection for the child and that the boy will never replace his “real family,” meaning us. Hearing a man speak that way about his own biological child was horrifying.
This is a fully Nigerian boy, same tribe as my father. Knowing my father’s own childhood — where he suffered badly under a cruel stepmother — I would have thought he might see himself in that child. But instead, he has completely compartmentalised him.
Meanwhile, the child’s mother still wants to marry my father. From what I can see, he continues to keep her hopeful without fully committing, while still fantasising about getting back with his legal “European wife” who doesn’t want him. He seems to keep multiple realities open at once.
What made everything click for my mother — and for me — is this: If my mother had agreed to reconcile, my father could have moved back into the house legally as her husband. Because he would not repeat physical violence, she would have had no immediate way to remove him again via legal system/court. Only after securing his place back in the home could he then reveal that he had a child all along — effectively trapping her in a marriage built on deception.
That realisation is terrifying.
I also feel deep cultural dissonance. I told my father plainly: my mother is European. This kind of secrecy is not culturally acceptable where we live. It’s not “family affairs” or something to be normalised. Trust matters differently. Consent matters differently. So he cannot assume my mother will want him after hearing the news, she is not like the Nigerian ex you had a child with - in Nigeria it is normal for a woman to beg or wait for a man to marry you, in Europe it is shameful so he needs to stop thinking my mom will accept this.
This entire situation has destroyed my respect for him. I don’t feel anger as much as disgust and shame. I’m embarrassed to even explain this to my European friends. I feel like I’ve lost faith not just in him, but in my ability to trust what I thought were shared values.
I’m now engaged to marry a loving European man, and if I’m honest, this experience has made me afraid. Afraid of repeating cycles if I marry a Nigerian man. Afraid of normalising things I don’t believe in. I don’t reject my Nigerian heritage — I love the food, the music, the culture — but when it comes to marriage, honesty, and responsibility, I feel completely disconnected from what I’ve seen modeled.
Right now, I don’t even want to be around my father. I feel like something fundamental has collapsed, and I don’t know how to rebuild respect where trust no longer exists.
I’m sharing this here because I genuinely don’t know how to process it alone, and I want perspectives — especially from people who understand Nigerian family dynamics — without judgement.
This should let people know that some of the "woke" , "disruptive", "inspirational" , "heady" role models are often broken people dealing with hidden drama. They can tranfer their trauma to you if you follow blindly. do what is right not what some random person says.
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asghairtranspla: Hi, I am a food enthusiast and love to try different food and spices of various dishes and cuisines and try everything that amazes the taste buds, but due to this, I gradually started getting fat and obese in my body. I consulted my friend, who is a doctor he told me about liposuction surgery to reduce the fat. What do you think this surgery will help, or should I try some other way to be fit and healthy without losing my passion for exploring in eating?
Yes you can, if you can control your portions and get more active.
Also reduce sugary and procesed foods and reduce the amount of oil you use in preparing food significantly.
What are you scared of about a court marriage? No naija court will give her half your wealth .....that is a Western practice. But you will be required to provide upkeep which is often reasonable.
Your not being open about your religious reasoning is also a red flag.
She has agreed to convert to islam....hmmmm ........ok......I hope she does not have her own other plans.
You will both need to protect each other from your respective families cos issues go plenty after. Remember that you are the head of your own home. No be family go tell you as e go be, they can only advise. They will need to know this and know peace.
Inter religious marriages come with a lot of drama. I would rather not do it but since this is where you guys are, you must agree o ln how the marriage will go. If that agreement holds then the external drama can be held at bay.
olayinkabank: Please Nairalanders, I need your sincere advice. I am confused. I have been a member of this great platform since 2010 when I was in secondary school (SS2), but this is the first time I am seeking advice here. I was quite active and popular on the platform from 2010 to 2014, especially in the sports, politics, and education sections though I just created this new account today. I am currently engaged to a lady. We have done the introduction—both families have met, and we have collected the marriage list. The wedding is planned for late March next year. My fiancée is a Christian and from the Igbira tribe, although she understands Yoruba more than Igbira. All her siblings are married to Yoruba spouses. I am a Yoruba man and a Muslim by background. Initially, her family strongly objected to the marriage because of religious differences. However, after much persuasion—and after my fiancée threatened to harm herself if she was not allowed to marry me—her extended family members who are Muslims intervened, and the family reluctantly agreed. On my own side, my mother also objected at first. She dislikes my fiancée because there are rumors that her elder sister did money ritual. After much pleading, my mother later accepted the marriage. For context, my fiancée’s parents were originally Muslims but converted to Christianity before they died. The main issue now is that my fiancée’s siblings, especially the elder ones, are insisting that we must do either a church wedding or a court wedding. They say a traditional wedding alone is not acceptable. As for me, I work with a financial institution and was converted to professional staff last year. I also run a football viewing center and a betting shop. My fiancée just finished her tailoring apprenticeship (freedom). She is a graduate but currently unemployed, and I am planning to open a tailoring shop for her. Because I am the one providing almost everything financially, I feel a court wedding may not favor me in the long run. At the same time, my parents will never accept a church wedding, especially since my father is the head of a local Asalatu group. Please note: I am not a religious person. I consider myself agnostic—I believe in a Supreme Being but not in Christianity or Islam. However, neither my family nor my fiancée knows this, because they would likely see me as evil or someone possessed. My fiancée has agreed to convert to Islam after the wedding, which makes my family happy. Personally, I don’t really care about that because I believe more in humanity than religion. Now I am confused and stuck between: Her family insisting on church or court wedding My parents rejecting church wedding My own fears about court marriage Religious pressure from both sides Please, I need honest and mature advice from Nairalanders. What is the best way forward in this situation? especially to those who have done interfaith wedding before or in an interfaith relationship?
Kodak9: I really need help, I've been having issues with acnes, pimples and black spots,I need a solution abeg
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My experience was that they eventually fade with age. But to manage it, I used Dudu Osun soap and i used skins success cleanser(just the plain cleanser oooo) . Also regarding washing your face for many people not using a sponge to scrub helps but mine was the opposite, without scrubbing with a sponge I could break out. So you will have to experiment to determine which works for you. Change your sheets and pillow cases regularly. Wash your face often
Men refuse to learn. there is a limit to what you should do for someone who has not committed to you. particularly when you have a romantic interest in the said lady. You will be milked and discarded last last.
No matter what you do in Life you must at one point regret it.
It applies accross baord adn not to marriage alone. general statements adopted to specific situations can sound very smart but can also be very dangerous and skew the narrative.
Celebrityblog: What's your unpopular opinion about marriage that will get you in this position?
Glimpsetv: A Nigerian lady has raised alarm after spotting more than 200 eagles hovering over a neighbour’s house. What makes the situation even more unusual is that the birds gathered only above one specific roof — a smaller building within the compound — ignoring all the other structures.
Confused and concerned, the lady is asking what this strange occurrence could mean.
Watch the video and share your thoughts in the comments.
These are Yellow billed Kites. It is likely a potential food source brought them.for instance if they are slaughtering an animal in that compound it would attract them.
This is looks like a Juvenile Yellow billed Kite. otherwise its a black Kite. I however lean towards the former. Both are closely related thought. its what the Yoruba's call Asa. It is more commonly and erroneously called a hawk by the general populace.
Dada4me: It was knocked down by my vehicle on the expressway
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. Tho it on Whatsapp when I got a message from her,but I tried to be careful and mindful while conversing with her. 
. I only asked her a simple and polar question,and she ended up pouring out all her pains and agony before me as if I was amongst her kinsmen that took bride price from her husband