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RomanceRe: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Patented: 4:55pm On Jan 26, 2024
she probably thinks if you need you will ask. that you have enough savings to carry you.

you ask first if you wanna be sure
Christianity EtcRe: US Court Slams Blogger, Funke Ashekun, With $50k Fine As MFM Wins Again by Patented: 10:39am On Jan 25, 2024
trouble dey sleep, Yanga go wake am.

wokeness is not sense ooooooo.

lets even assume she truly had an axe to grind with MFM that was genuine..................use sense na. tis going to social media to scream whatever u like ehn.........
PropertiesRe: Rent Issue! by Patented: 6:09pm On Jan 23, 2024
Gentlesoul2021:
I moved in 17th sept 2021 Nd I av been maintaining that routine in payment...
U rent expires 16th sept and becomes due on the 17th
FamilyRe: How Do I Calculate My Prepaid Meter by Patented: 2:06pm On Jan 23, 2024
woodr5711:
I recently fixed prepaid meter on my betting shop.
I only have 1 ceiling fan, 2 white bulb, 3 laptops and 5 computer monitor as display.
Working time is 8am to 7pm

I need an estimate like How many units can I be consuming per day?
How much is unit?
Does the price of unit same with all provider?
How can I be able to know what I consume to avoid been cheated?
How to reduced consumption?
unit prices differ by area and company.

The cost of your units is indicated on your printout when u recharge at a POS. to determine how many units you will consume, check your remaining units after each day over a period of one week. find the average daily consumption and use that as your basis
PropertiesRe: Rent Issue! by Patented: 1:08pm On Jan 23, 2024
you did not answer my Q though, cos the date you paid your first rent is dritical to determining when your rent becomes due
Gentlesoul2021:
I have been here for 2 years, we have not been having this issue not until the landlord gave his property to an agent or lawyer to manage abi oversee am ni
PropertiesRe: Rent Issue! by Patented: 11:17am On Jan 23, 2024
when did you pay your very first rent for the premises? or was your last rent the first?
Gentlesoul2021:
Good day NL

Please don't air me. I paid my last rent in September, September 17th to be precise. When is my rent suppose to expire, is it not September the following year?

How come they are counting August?

If you do your birthday March 5, are you celebrating your next year birthday by February 5?
OR
When a new child is born on Monday and named Monday the following week, why didn't the naming be held on Sunday..

We calculate everything right but when it comes to rent, we draw the line?

Please come to my rescue and explain because I don't understand again.

When is my rent suppose to expirehuh I need clarification. Thank you.
RomanceRe: 'This Guy Tricked Me From Calabar To Umuahia, Slept With Me And Ran Away' – Lady by Patented: 9:10am On Jan 23, 2024
Wisdom is profitable to direct
EducationRe: Over-working Our Kids In The Name Of Education. by Patented: 9:08am On Jan 23, 2024
I agree and I have said the same thing over and over again. However, one of the reasons why schools offer after lessons and parents opt for it is because in this current age, both parents tend to have to work and may not live close to the office and cannot be home on time if the kids were to close at 1 or 2pm. So the schools keep the kids and then the parents pay for that. However, I would prefer that during this time the kids did fun stuff like sports or creative arts and the likes without pressure, rather than a continuation of structured schooling
Popesuccess:
From primary 1 to SS 3, i never stayed in school till 2pm. And i still passed WAEC & JAMB. Today most of our kids come home from school by 3, 4 or 5pm, in the name of school lessons. They come home with about 3 to 6 home works. In my opinion, this is to much for this children, why should a primary school learners be doing 16 subjects? Some parents will still have house lessons for their children after the school lesson, no time to play or rest. Some them will graduate with good grades but without any social skills to succeed in our tough society.
FamilyRe: My Wife Demands For Lab Test Most Times When One Is Not Cheating by Patented: 5:08pm On Jan 22, 2024
Odingo1:
After going on trip for business purposes for like a month or two, wife constantly demand for lab test that she don’t trust anyone. What can someone do in this situation. No cheating is involved.
make the tests mutual, both you should do tests.
PetsRe: My Net Caught This Beautiful Kingfisher At My Pond Today (Photo) by Patented:
adesegun121:
My net caught this beauty at my pond today. I don't know the name but this is so beautiful.



fergie001, Mynd44, OAM4J Seun Nlfpmod
It is a Malachite Kingfisher. Hope you let it go? Cover your pond with appropriate nets to prevent this and other birds from eating your small fish
RomanceRe: Is My Girlfriend Cheating On Me? by Patented: 8:43pm On Jan 21, 2024
Princeadebayo11:
There is this girl I am dating and I used to trust her, today she came visiting and she decided to show me a picture on her phone. I scrolled to the screenshot side and I saw a picture from Google she sent to a guy..
In the picture she inquired from Google that is it safe to have sex after menstruation and I have never discussed about sex with her this month. And she sent this particular picture to a guy, when I confronted her she said she just helped the guy because he is confused about her girlfriend issues.
What else did she end to the guy, what was the convo before she sent that image. That would provide context
RomanceRe: My Wife Ask Me To Go Open A Domiciliary Account.. by Patented: 1:03pm On Jan 17, 2024
Mivici:
that's is what I want, I want to save myself the stress to open a domiciliary account....so I want to know if it's possible to receive funds even if your account is not domiciliary
like i said it is possible but its left for the sender to instruct
RomanceRe: My Wife Ask Me To Go Open A Domiciliary Account.. by Patented: 12:40pm On Jan 17, 2024
yes it is, but you will receive in naira
Mivici:
Hearing this for the first time. My account isn't domiciliary, is it possible I receive money from abroad through Western Union or money gram? Direct to my local bank account.
FamilyRe: Buying Land For Livestock Farming In A Semi Urban Area by Patented: 10:22am On Jan 16, 2024
wineconnoisseur:
Please farm expert in the house I need your help, I’m planning to buy a land for piggery, poultry, fisheries and greenhouse farming in a semi urban area of ogun state instead of going for the cheaper rural area land due to the proximity and road network. I’m planing to buy 5 acres but now I’m thinking of buying the land in different parts of the semi urban areas like buying one acre each for different livestock, I don’t know if it make sense that way? Just incase if one livestock farm is not doing well, it will be easy to sell the business without affecting others. I will be starting with poultry farm and then the manure will be used for the green house. I will need your inputs maybe to situate the farm on the same land or separately like I wanted to do it. Thanks in advance
having your farm in one contiguous piece of land has advantages for logistics and security.

farming in a semi urban area which is obviously still developing has its issues too. Poultry smells and does fish when u discharge water. the smell can become a nuisance to your neighbors who can start trouble. you also have to clearly have a way to channel your waste water from fish cos that too can become a nuisance. your green house should not give you any issues. perhaps consider snail farming too as that does not cause significant nuisance. whatever you are doing consult experts. i inspected a poultry farm that failed one cos birds were always dying. it had shut down when we inspected, one of the reasons became very clear, each hen house,(there were more than 10) had oly a small tank for water. typically u would estimate that each bird may consume 500cl to a litre in a day and the tanks could not supply even a quarter of the required amount. pens were also too close together, leading to poor ventilation and easy transmission of diseases.

So consult experts or people with experience all the time
FamilyRe: What Should I Do by Patented: 1:37pm On Jan 15, 2024
u absconded for 7 whole years, u better just be begging dont come and be claiming rights


Bongadu:
I was 25

My daughter's 7 years old
FamilyRe: What Should I Do by Patented: 1:35pm On Jan 15, 2024
how old is your daughter
Bongadu:
I impregnated my ex girlfriend when I was young and relocated because at time I was young and stupid, I gave her money for abortion but she disagreed on removing it , so I had no choice but to flee as I was irresponsible and poor
My ex girlfriend put to bed months after I left and raised the child living with her parents
I relocated back last year December , I'm trying to get back with my daughter but my ex won't let me be near me even I want to take responsibility and care for my daughter
She's getting me frustrated, I'm thinking of suing her for not letting me be a presence in my daughter's life
Jobs/VacanciesRe: My Experience At Work Today by Patented: 1:01pm On Jan 10, 2024
what does your contract say about termination without notice as they have just done?
flakkypastries:
I got a job with a small micro finance company some months back.
And I have been doing my job effectively without any complain

I notice I was having chest pain throughout Sunday, so I had to call my supervisor that I will be late to work on Monday morning because I needed to visit the doctor...
I'm not the type that take permission from work
I was at the hospital when my supervisor called me that the manager said I shouldn't bother to come to work again on that day , I thought maybe they wanted me to rest

Lo and behold, I got to work this morning, my boss said I should handover all the companies properties with me that I have been relief of my job.
I pleaded to him but he wouldn't listen to my pleas


Thank God he paid me January salary and gave me 3 rubbers of rice.
TravelRe: Nigerian Beaches Have Lost Its Glory. My Journey To Oniru Beach by Patented: 1:22pm On Jan 03, 2024
Chevrolet076:
After more than 15 years since I visited a beach (Eleko beach), I anticipated seeing and having the usual beach feel of
strong roaring foamy waves,
very cold winds that can sweep you off your feet,
the wide expanse of water so wide and so blue that connects to the sky as far back as your eyes can see,
hundreds of sea creatures especially crabs running back into the sea as it recedes,
the freedom of trekking kilometers down both sides of the sea,
the non-existence of any foreign thing like tractors, restaurant etc close to the sea... Just the traditional dishes and feel.

Everything is so bad that I just felt I wasted money on overrated stuffs.

No roaring waves,
no cold winds,
swimming pool-like water waves and forced waves from the jet skis and boat l cruise.
Green colored sea filled with sea weed
Cans, bottle, food pack littering everywhere
Guys with intimidating looks smoking up and down
Loudspeakers playing useless music and disturbing the peace of the sea,
Almost non-existent sea shells. Except for few tiny ones
Tractors everywhere with security guard threatening you if you dare to cross over to landmark side
Sand heaped on all four sides of the sea making it look like a swimming pool. Imagine a whole beach o


Everything has been monitized and the beach is so small that it's choking.

You can only have fun by buying overpriced things. Boat cruise at 3k, horse riding for just a short distance at 2k per person, one tiny suya at 2k, entry fẹẹ increased to 2k as well.

If not for the other families that came with football which we started playing, what would my holiday look like?

It is well. I just think not everything should be monitized and milked so it loses its natural feel.

Felt so bad for nature. The beach's sadness penetrated through my bones cry cry cry cry cry cry

Has anyone experienced this? Any idea of a good beach that is still an actual beach?
Lagos Beaches
FamilyRe: I Want To Adopt A Child As A Single Man by Patented: 1:11pm On Jan 03, 2024
tasalanoni:
Nl folks, pls your opinions are needed.
I'm currently 31, earning reasonably well and with greater prospects for the future.



I'm also not a very family oriented person in the sense of creating familial bonds and deeply cherishing them hence I derive my fulfillment and pleasure in doing the things I love to do, acquiring wealth and giving help wherever I deem necessary.

The thought of opting for an adoption is beginning to occupy the greater part of my consciousness and the reasons are few and in my opinion very valid.
raising a child is a huge responsibility that should not be taken lightly. when i consider what is in bold font i think you are not ready for the responsibility. particularly towards a child that you actually have no connection with. in addition children in two parent homes fare better. a man who cannot handle a marriage is likely unable to raise a child.
FamilyRe: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by Patented: 5:42pm On Dec 30, 2023
egobetter4me:
I know a lot of you will blame me after reading this and even want to curse me, but this is my sad story and I just want to put it out there for people to learn. Don't ever let your parents decide your partner for you. Even if you have to run away, do it.

I recently got married to an ugly, short, black, smelly, village girl. At first my uncle took me to see her, then we spoke and she came visiting. All these happened in the village.

When I went back to the city, I told my mom I wasn't interested in her any more, but she insisted I must marry her. My mom would always take my joy by telling me about the girl anytime she sees me happy. There was no breathing space. We live together and I pay the rent. I loved her so much that I could do anything for her. She once sold her wrappers/materials and jewelleries, to send me money for school fees.

Anytime she tries to talk to me about the girl, I will beg her and let her understand that young people like to marry who they truly love. I don't want her, I don't love her and I don't think I will ever will.
After all said and done, she still insisted, so I called my elder bro to come talk to her. He came in from another state and spoke with my mom for hours. She did as if she would allow me marry my choice, just for my brother to go. Immediately my brother left, she started again.

My mom has BP. She stopped using her medication and was ailing. she threatened that if she dies, that I killed her. I thought to myself, that if she truly dies, I might live with the regrets for the rest of my life. I really tried but I was defeated. I succumbed. But before marrying the girl, I spoke to her(the girl) that I don't love her and that I'm marrying her against my wish, but I guess she was desperate. She said I shouldn't worry, that the love would grow in the marriage.

We got married. She lives with me and my mom. Even my neighbours were disappointed in me, when they saw her. Church members and friends were all disappointed. I can't start narrating to them how I got here.

We are over a year gone now and she still irritates me. I so much hate to look at her. We've had sex only about 5 times or so and I have to get high to do this. I only kissed her once(at the alter and I cringed)

I cry everyday.....both at home and while hustling. I never envisaged my life to be like this. I had hoped to meet a beautiful, clean and well mannered graduate from the city. Someone I would truly love and she would love me too. I'd hoped that I would meet her, approach her and we start as friends, then lovers, then I would propose and all. I never planned for it to be like this.

I am so sad with my life. Right now, I'm thinking of applying for masters abroad and probably use the means to Japa and never come back again.

My life is so miserable!

Learn from me. Don't ever let your parents blackmail you into marrying someone you don't love. Pls don't. Just run away for months or few years and they will leave you alone.
Pele
FamilyRe: I Want To Cancel The Marriage Plans. Is It Worth It? by Patented: 5:40pm On Dec 30, 2023
Fearyourcreator:
You sha wan kee yourself... You better find better person ... E be like she Sabi for bed dey enter your head or her looks... These things no dey sustain marriage pass a year ooo... I pity your peace ... You will just turn a walking dead
Na me you come quite instead of OP
FamilyRe: I Want To Cancel The Marriage Plans. Is It Worth It? by Patented: 4:03pm On Dec 30, 2023
Kinzo0917:
MUST YOU QUOTE THE WHOLE STORY AGAIN OGEDE…
ALL OF US READ THE STORY THE SAME YOU DID.

WHY QUOTING IT AGAIN?
SO MANY KIDS ON NAIRALAND.
Ur way or the highway ba? Yet u speak of kids. Man must talk
PoliticsRe: Nigerian MEN Lack The Protector Instincts Of Other Races by Patented: 12:57am On Dec 30, 2023
babasolution:
Blackmen generally are not protectors, but especially most tribes in Nigeria.

Majority of them can't protect their wives and children unlike other races.

In Nigeria only the Igbo,Fulani and some other minoritieshave that protector/ defender instiints
Have u lived with the men of other races to come to this conclusion?
FamilyRe: I Want To Cancel The Marriage Plans. Is It Worth It? by Patented: 12:55am On Dec 30, 2023
FanRong:
I'm sorry, this post is going to be a long one. But you're saving a soul if you read through and advice candidly.


My story
We've dated for 6months and we've lived together for the 6months.

On our 3rd month, I found her interesting and told her I'll like to marry her. She accepted but no engagement ring or anything to show. We just accepted by word of mouth.

Since then, I've worked towards it. I've told her to call her mum and eldest brother(dad is late) to relate my idea and understand their feeling since it won't be that easy to marry. (same state, but my people and her people are highly selective in marriage)

After several persuasion, and threat that I'll throw her out if she doesn't relate the circumstances to her family, she called the mum. And again I had to force her to call the eldest brother. She claimed she did. And that's enough. I'm ok.

Meanwhile, there's this guy(her ex) she claims helped her when she came to Lagos. It was when I started accommodating her that I found out in her chats that she was living with this guy, but lied to me she was living with her Aunt and the aunt's husband was harassing her sexually and she wants to leave. She later told me the guy, though provides for him but has never had sex with her, even when she was living in his house. These stories doesn't move me since everyone, who is not a virgin has an ex. So I forgave all that and we moved on.

She wasn't everything I need in a women, but I told myself I could train her the way I want. We continued adjusting to each others likes and dislikes.

I feed her this 6 months, provide comfortable shelter, buy her things she needs,(not want). Told her I'll do more and open a shop for her, if we get married, but she still confronts me asking why should I wait till after marriage? . I didn't allow the words move me cos Its my decision and my money and also, I'm used to gold diggers.

A good number of times, I see her as being selfish. If things doesn't benefit her, she'll not get bothered even if I'm involved.

Just this week, It became obvious to me that she argues everything I request her to do. From 24th Dec, we've been on holiday, we're always at home.
1. I'll wake her up at 9 and ask her to prepare breakfast for the family, she'll prefer to roll on the bed than do it. I'll finally have to do it myself so I can get things done and get busy.

2. I detest girls on eye lashes. I've repeatedly told her how I dislike it, but when she went to fix herself for the Christmas, she fixed the eyelashes, Contrary to my demand.

3. I got her some sneakers to upgrade her fashion style and look smarter, instead of the usual slippers and sandals she wears.
When we prepared to go to the beach few days ago, I requested her to put on the sneakers to look more fashionable, but she refused buttressing that she must wear what she wants, sandals.

4. Few days ago, we had a heated argument and she said that if I'm not happy that she's living with me, that she can go, afterall, she has somewhere to stay. I asked her to go and she immediately called that her ex bf to come to my house. I immediately swung into action, took all her belongings out, before the ex will arrive, at the same time, retrieving the items I gifted her.
While she was struggling to have her gifted items back, our neighbours heard the struggle and had to come and settle for us. She apologized and I forgave her. we were back into the house.

5. Just yesterday , we left home together, and I locked the door and I took the keys with me. We walked down the street together to the Busstop, I have almost no friend and seldomly greet. But there's this my ex girlfriend by the roadside, she saw me and yelled my name, I went to greet her and my Fiancée picked offence, left me without waiting for me. After that I chased her and told her it's nothing because I've told her everything about this ex.
Before we could get to the Busstop, she demanded for the house keys and I gave her since she might come back earlier than me.
We couldn't say bye. The anger was clear on her face and we parted ways.

After about 15mins, I got to where I wanted to make payment for the items I picked only to notice I am not with my transaction phone. I was confused where could I have kept it, the seller insisted I may not have come to his shop with the phone, and the phone rang as I called with my second phone. so I had to call my Fiancée for assistance since she's with the keys.
At first, she said she was still around the Busstop but when I told her I needed her to go home and confirm my phones whereabout, she said she can't go back that she has gone far, shouted on me and hung the phone.

I called and called and called, but she didn't pick. Many thoughts ran into me. Who took this phone? My money? , my phone? , my sim card? . I had to find my way and trekked back about 4km to the house since I had no cash with me. And finally saw the phone ringing in my house. I was relieved.

The way she shouted to me on the phone got me unbalanced, I felt she would be fire if I get this girl as a wife.

We finally traveled to our home state today and I paid the bills for the traveling. My major plan of traveling was to see her people and do the needful before I mistakenly get her pregnant. But I'm seriously contemplating of canceling this plan and throw her out come January. I need peace.

Dear nairalanders, I'm really in the middle of the deep blue sea and the devil.

I need mature and candid advice please.
Should I continue with the marriage plans or the redflags are obvious?
Red flags Boku!!
RomanceRe: I Want To Cancel The Marriage Plans. What Do You Think? by Patented: 12:55am On Dec 30, 2023
Too many red flags. Las las na u go decide sha
FamilyRe: Is Marriage A Failed Union? by Patented: 10:28am On Dec 29, 2023
The real question is not about Marriage as an institution, it is about the people who get married. Marriage has not changed, it is people that have changed. Commitment, discipline and compromise to make a marriage work has not changed. it is people who are unwilling to exhibit these qualities.

A thing of value placed in the hands of an idiot will be ignored, misused and abused but does that change the value of the thing? it will look like a mess because it is in the hands of someone who does not understand its value.

Meddymeddy:
I have seen plentiful post about failed marriages on the Internet. Most marriages only last a couple of years before divorce comes up. Although there are few happy marriages. The ratio for happy marriages and failed marriages is 20:80. There are many factors that contribute to failed marriages which include cheating, unfaithfulness, finance etc. Some just wake up and realise that their wife is no longer attractive ( did they force her on you? ). Back in the days marriages were pre set up whereby couples barely knows themselves. Nowadays you see couple dating for 6-10years and when they finally get married issues will start poping up.

Maybe marriage should be like a contact after some years it will be terminated depending on how long the couple want it to be
BusinessRe: Chisom Okechukwu Builds An Electric Wheelchair From Scratch by Patented: 4:36pm On Dec 28, 2023
Cool
DesChyko:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Ar5Df-ximk?si=gfoRXupeuE6GXjUH

In the video shown above, a young man, Chisom Okechukwu, resident in Anambra State, had his latest invention shared on video. This time, it was an electric wheel chair, which was made from locally-sourced parts/parts from scrap vehicles. The electric chair comes with a portable power source and is able to move in all directions.

Using his local language, Chisom answered questions bordering on its manufacture and operation. After that, the interviewer supported his efforts with thirty thousand naira, encouraged his father, who was present there, to consistently show him support and have faith in him. He also called on the society at large, to support his endeavour.
RomanceRe: My Girlfriend Demands Too Much Money by Patented: 2:40pm On Dec 28, 2023
u are dashing an ingrate a fourth of your hard earned money monthly.

i am not a seer but if you marry this one OYO is your case. You should let her go as of now.....in fact yesterday. block her, Ghost her break all connection becasue this one has you wrapped around her finger.

Naijagram:
Seeking your thoughts, everyone!!!

I work as a salaried individual and earn around 400k monthly.

However, my girlfriend constantly asks for money. I give her almost 100k every month and she feels it's not enough for her. She's even voiced discontent, suggesting I only send her money when she explicitly requests it.

I'm beginning to suspect her motives, as she seems solely focused on my income.

She never suggests saving or helps in cutting costs; her primary interest lies in spending everything.
Despite my genuine love for her, I can't keep up with her demands. I had hopes for our future together, but it seems unlikely now.

I'm considering a breakup as a solution.

Has anyone navigated a similar situation?
HealthRe: Please Help I want to gain some weight by Patented: 11:54am On Dec 28, 2023
in that case you are blessed with a good physique. stop struggling to look Mama-ish. the grass appears greener in another persons yard. emphasis on "appears"

ahnie:
I m married with kids sir.
HealthRe: Please Help I want to gain some weight by Patented:
Time never reach. with this your physique, it is likely the weight will eventually pile one, particularly when u start having kids, by then maybe na u go tire.

meanwhile you are not skinny. na ur mind dey worry u
RomanceRe: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth by Patented: 5:03pm On Dec 27, 2023
jumokeadele:
i've read this story before , what's going on here
Me sef

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