₦airaland Forum

Niceguy0004:
After applying to 500 Jobs from job boards and communities for 3 months straight with only 18 emails been opened. You followed up and no pim after that.

I have come to the realization that Job board application’s isn’t worth it. After starting glued and sticking like a watch job to submit a job 20-30 mins after being posted and getting ghosted.

I have seen someone commit sucide because she was not able to get a job and have been asked to pack out from where she was leaving. This job hunting game is survival now 😂.

Why post a job if you have given it out already?
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I have worked in 5 places in the last decade and a half and each job except one has been from a job board. This is minus other jobs I got and did not take or which I interviewed for and did not make the final cut

AdisGlobal01:
I did a DNA test on my four children and God so good they are all mine . But i have a issue .None of them looks like me .

I have always wanted to see my replica,a child that would look like me .But they all looked like their mother

I'm always embarrassed each time I go out with them because they are all fair in complexion and skinny too like their mother .But I'm a tall dark man with a bold body . They didn't look like me at all .Each time I go out with them it's always like they are not my children or they are my brothers children .There's no atom of resemblance at all .

Infact many people usually tell me to do DN a in which I letter did infact in two places to confirm my claim .

Now the issue is that I have asked my wife again to get pregnant and let's see if that one will look like me but she refused .

Please don't blame me yet only those in my shoes will know how heartbreaking it is having 4 children and non looks like you . It affected me mentally that I do not even have fatherly bond with them even after the DNA . I look like my father ,my father looks like his father . I do not want that look to end with me .Infact I don't even mind if it's a girl that would look like me .I just want my look alike

I planned marrying another wife since she refused to get pregnant again .

Kindly post for your followers . Their advice and suggestions will go along way .Shes also one of your followers so I'm sure she would see people's advices too .

I'm not a bad man but I can't just stand 4 kids not looking like me . I have an handsome face and body .Those who are in my shoes will understand.
#marriage
#marriagestory
#lifestyle

What did you this Man should do, I will like to hear you in the comment section.

Insecurity na big issue. No use your hand buy problem

Another relationship will not fill the void you may be feeling now.
Best you take your time to get over it.

Toolegit123:
Good day my fellow Nairalanders. Of late,my fiancee and I broke up and I've been considering about going into a new relationship. I must really say all the time I was with my ex,I was so commitment to her to the extent that I didn't even have time for any other woman. She knew that and Peru that must be one of my weaknesses she saw.

But the truth is that it's been over a month we ended the relationship and I really long to go into another's relationship as an escape route for me to stop thinking about my ex.

So,my questions to you my fellow Nairalanders,how long should a man wait before going into another relationship after a break up? Is it right to find love as soon as possible considering the fact that the it was my ex who ended the relationship for reasons only known to her?

100% Facts. we have a very toxic relationship with ourselves. we will reject a relative's spouse from another tribe/village/sect but wait till we see oyinbo.................

there is something self destructive about us.

Marmalata:
The same pattern rears its head everywhere – social media, group chats, comment sections, real life. We have an almost rehearsed tendency to tear ourselves apart, and it shows up in ways that should embarrass us more than they do. I’m not talking about healthy criticism or accountability, but a reflexive self-sabotage that kicks in the moment we should be closing ranks. Three examples:

First: we fight each other and leave the actual oppressors alone. Open any political post on Nigerian social media and count how many replies it takes before two or three people have abandoned the original topic entirely and descended into personal insults, ethnic slurs, or religious mud-slinging. Someone raises a point about infrastructure decay, and within six comments it’s “your tribe caused this” or “people like you are the problem.” The inability to sustain a single conversation about transforming this country – without fragmenting into tribal, religious, and ideological warfare – is staggering. We reserve our sharpest words for fellow citizens recommending a course of action we disagree with, while the people actually sitting on our necks barely get a side-eye.

Second: we cannot – or will not – present a united front when outsiders target us. An organization slaps a blanket ban on Nigerians because of the actions of a handful of bad actors, and instead of collectively pushing back against the laziness of that decision, we turn inward and start the blame game. “Well, it’s because Nigerians don’t behave abroad” – as if every other country on earth doesn’t have its own criminals. Every society has bad eggs; what separates most from us is that they don’t volunteer to smear themselves with the dung someone else flung at them.

Third: we echo unfavorable narratives made by outsiders instead of interrogating them. Remember when local cake picnics trended sometime last year? Multiple events across Nigeria were beautifully organized – colourful, well-coordinated, genuinely impressive. One was a mess. Guess which one foreign publications chose to amplify? And instead of Nigerians asking why a single outlier was cherry-picked to represent the whole, the dominant response was “yes o, that’s how we are.” 🤦‍♀️

We demonstrate every marking of a people who do not like themselves – and then act surprised when our government treats us as disposable, when we get singled out for discriminatory visa bans, when the international default assumption about Nigeria is negative. There’s an old adage: dress how you want to be addressed. You give others the name you want to be called, and right now we are naming ourselves with other people’s insults. If we want a better quality of existence tied to our national identity, the work starts within – in your group chats, your comment sections, your dinner table conversations. Call it out where you see it. Refuse to be the one who confirms the stereotype for applause. Because nobody is coming to defend a people who won’t even defend themselves.

why did the sister post the video

Freshtruth:
Lady Breaks Down in Tears After Learning Her Ex-Boyfriend Is Getting Married 💔

A beautiful young lady was filmed by her sister crying uncontrollably after discovering that her ex-boyfriend is tying the knot with another woman.

Unable to hold back her emotions, she burst into tears upon realizing that her hope of reconciling with the man she once loved was now gone forever.

Though it wasn't stated who ended the relationship, one can tell she still has feelings for him ... So sorry dear



https://www.tiktok.com/video/7642783825541516564?_r=1&_t=ZS-96esylY8Gmd



https://www.tiktok.com/video/7643769992491650324?_r=1&_t=ZS-96etDOR8Ilj

cutecommend:
Every true Born again Christian must remember the day and place he or she got born again, but may not remember the exact date. This can be true for the uneducated people that are elderly: they may remember the day, place and experience, but may not remember the date.

It is good to know the date, but it is compulsory to remember the day and the place, else, your salvation experience may not be true. You have to know the day you experienced salvation and the place.

Today is a day to be saved and to remember the date. Pray sincerely now and tell Jesus to forgive all your sins and come into your heart.

If you prayed such prayer today, you got born again today. Save the date, attend a good church, read your bible every day and pray everyday.

It is important to be saved. The date is irrelevant. The remembrance is of sentimental value only. Live your life out daily in pursuit of God's purpose.

Slizzords:
Good afternoon everyone, I know that nairaland is filled with a lot of reasonable and experienced people, am a young man and I need guidance please.

So am married with a 8 month old baby, and make about 1M naira monthly for the past 3years now , it's not been easy from a financial aspect because we live in lagos and I discover that as I write this, I don't have up to 3M naira to my name, I don't know how money disappears, please note that am not a lavish spender, I don't party or go clubbing.

Please how do I save more money, because God forbid something happens now I don't have any money to fall back on. No landed property or anything. Please I need help thanks.

How much is your rent? How many cars do you have? Do you drive to work daily? What does your wife do?
Do you save in a bank account or in an investment?

Do you shop groceries in bulk? Where do you shop from?

hope you have a heat lamp installed?

mgamelia:
When I first brought my chameleon home, I noticed the same thing. Her colors looked dull one moment, then darker or patterned the next. I’ll be honest—it worried me at first.

But here’s what I’ve learned.
Color change in chameleons is often their way of communicating, not a warning sign.

In your case, the pattern showing up when the room is quiet and she’s resting is actually pretty common. It usually means she feels safe enough to relax. I’ve seen this in underfed rescues too—once they start recovering, their color patterns become more noticeable.

That said, not all color changes are equal. Bright, calm tones during rest? That’s usually fine. But very dark colors all day, combined with lack of appetite or hiding, can point to stress or incorrect setup.

What Your Chameleon’s Colors Are Really Saying

From my experience, blue bars (especially in females or juveniles) can show mood shifts, mild alertness, or even environmental response like lighting changes. It’s not automatically a bad sign.

One small thing many people overlook is environment stability.
Even quiet rooms can still feel “new” to them.

Example: I once moved a plant inside the enclosure, and my chameleon changed color for two days straight. Nothing else changed. Just that one detail.

So here’s what I recommend:
Keep her routine stable. Avoid overhandling. Maintain proper lighting, hydration, and feeding.

If she’s eating, slowly gaining weight, and moving normally… you’re on the right track.

Honestly, this is one of those cases where doing less is often better.

Toolegit123:
Good day everyone.

So recently I've been thinking about marriage. Tho I'm in a relationship but the woman I've been dating doesn't really seem to have the same serious interest and intentions like me. I've talked to her severally but it seems she isn't ready to settle down yet. Imagine this is someone whom I've gone to see her people and they know me well. My own people know her too. I've equally talked to her mom since she's the one parent she has . And had also talked to her best friend about it too.

But one thing I've noticed about her is that she's over religious and seems to be too close to her pastor. The last time I talked to her about the marriage stuff,she directed me to go and talk to her pastor. Tho I was initially furious about it but I just had to man up,kill my pride and decided to pay her pastor a visit.

From the conversation I had with her pastor,it seems he's one of the major stumbling blocks. Because he was only curious about my financial status he was even asking me what was my source of livelihood,and of which I told him. Afterwards,he then asked me what was my monthly salary. Saying if I'm sure I can take care of my fiancee with that amount,or if I'm planning to have a side hustle. That he doesn't want a case where any of her spiritual daughter will go into a marriage where she'll be suffering. I told her categorically clear that I'm not a lazy man and I don't intend to put anyone's daughter into suffering in the name of marriage.

It's been over a week since I left the pastor's office, and since then,my fiancee has been behaving so cold towards me.

So I don't know whether to continue with my proposal or I should just kindly look for another lady to marry.

Sounds like you are forcing the issue. Let it rest never marry someone who is not excited about the union.

I eat it often. mainly as barbecue and sometimes as a stir fry sauce.
how much do you sell a Kilo?

You can force the horse to the brook, but you cannot force it to drink.
You have done well........it's her life and risk

Please note that some states have their own laws that may stipulate stricter fines. Case in point , Lagos.

obembet:
Road safety is everyone’s responsibility. In Nigeria, traffic laws are designed to protect drivers, passengers, and pedestrians.

Although some law enforcement officers have turned this into a daily means of extorting Nigerians unlawfully, knowing your rights protects you. When you understand the law, no officer can easily take advantage of you.

Here are the traffic offences and their penalties under nigerian law

1. No C-Caution in your vehicle
Fine: ₦3,000

2. Improper child seating position – Children under 16 years are not allowed to sit in the front seat.
Fine: ₦3,000

3. Dangerous driving – Reckless or irresponsible driving that endangers others.
Fine: ₦50,000

4. Driving under the influence of alcohol or drugs
Fine: ₦5,000

5. Driving with expired tyres or without a spare tyre
Fine: ₦2,000

6. Driving with worn-out tyres
Fine: ₦3,000

7 Excessive smoke emission from your vehicle’s exhaust
Fine: ₦5,000

8. No speed limiting device installed in your vehicle
Fine: ₦3,000

9. Failure to carry a fire extinguisher in your vehicle
Fine: ₦3,000

10. Overloading your vehicle beyond its capacity
Fine: ₦10,000

11. Preaching or selling items inside a commercial vehicle while in transit
Fine: ₦50,000

12. Failure to wear a seatbelt
Fine: ₦2,000

13. Using a mobile phone while driving
Fine: ₦4,000

14. Defective or damaged side mirror
Fine: ₦3,000

15. Broken front or rear windshield
Fine: ₦2,000

16. Driving with an expired driver’s licence or without a valid driver’s licence
Fine: ₦10,000

Reference:
Section 10(4) and 28(2) of the FRSC (Establishment) Act, as well as Regulation 220 of the National Road Traffic Regulations.

© Obembe Tosin

Please note that some states have their own laws that may stipulate stricter fines. Case in point , Lagos.

obembet:
Road safety is everyone’s responsibility. In Nigeria, traffic laws are designed to protect drivers, passengers, and pedestrians.

Although some law enforcement officers have turned this into a daily means of extorting Nigerians unlawfully, knowing your rights protects you. When you understand the law, no officer can easily take advantage of you.

Here are the traffic offences and their penalties under nigerian law

1. No C-Caution in your vehicle
Fine: ₦3,000

2. Improper child seating position – Children under 16 years are not allowed to sit in the front seat.
Fine: ₦3,000

3. Dangerous driving – Reckless or irresponsible driving that endangers others.
Fine: ₦50,000

4. Driving under the influence of alcohol or drugs
Fine: ₦5,000

5. Driving with expired tyres or without a spare tyre
Fine: ₦2,000

6. Driving with worn-out tyres
Fine: ₦3,000

7 Excessive smoke emission from your vehicle’s exhaust
Fine: ₦5,000

8. No speed limiting device installed in your vehicle
Fine: ₦3,000

9. Failure to carry a fire extinguisher in your vehicle
Fine: ₦3,000

10. Overloading your vehicle beyond its capacity
Fine: ₦10,000

11. Preaching or selling items inside a commercial vehicle while in transit
Fine: ₦50,000

12. Failure to wear a seatbelt
Fine: ₦2,000

13. Using a mobile phone while driving
Fine: ₦4,000

14. Defective or damaged side mirror
Fine: ₦3,000

15. Broken front or rear windshield
Fine: ₦2,000

16. Driving with an expired driver’s licence or without a valid driver’s licence
Fine: ₦10,000

Reference:
Section 10(4) and 28(2) of the FRSC (Establishment) Act, as well as Regulation 220 of the National Road Traffic Regulations.

© Obembe Tosin

Omo report to the authorities if you have evidence of a crime. coming to drag people on Social media is problematic on many levels. dem go use police carry you. they can also sue you for defamation.

People just want to engage in social media dragging to gain clout. Always watch what you say

Becasue we see as humans and the love of God is not in our hearts. Money for us is the biggest achievement and the best kind of God's blessing. No human society exists without social stratification and the most common method of stratification is wealth.

Omooba77:
Why do we celebrate the rich more than the poor in some Churches?

muyico:
Then no Nigeria laws
Dat can send her to prison
False accusation gat no jail sentence

you have not heard that there is something called act capable of causing a breach of peace? thats what they used to prosecute the guy that named his Dog Buhari

For most viral infection the drugs reduce your viral load by restricting thier capacity to reporduce and this allows you to live a good quality life. HIV anti-retriviral drugs are a life long commitment, meaning you keep taking them. for some your immune system may kick in and keep them at bay. Most "Toilet infections are bacterial in nature I beliebe) and not viral. i dont think there are many cases of transmission of viral infections from the toilet (this is not to assert that it is impossible) .
the bacterial infections can be treated successfully with antibiotics although some of the infecting organisms have become super bugs, meaning they are resistant to a lot of antibiotics. this happens when we abuse antibiotics by taking them when not needed, taking them in inadequate doses or not completing the recommended treatment cycle. basically when we dont follow doctors orders.

The coming back of STDs you mentioned is often from risky behaviour (eg sex without condom with multiple partners) the fact that you get treated today does not mean you will not catch the STD again if you encounter another infected persons.

Sexual health is personal responsibility

Love800:
Wow.

Its like this is also the same thing with other STDs. The drugs just cure dem for a while and later the symptoms will arrive back.

Let me just say it gives you a short-relieve.

But i want to understand something. These infections, not all are gotten through sex. Some of them are toilet infections too.

MrSly:
See the picture. However, it is not treatment for stage 1 HIV but treatment for HIV-1, a type of HIV.

Ah I see. Did not notice that. But other sources say it's not confirmed as a treatment

where was this written oooooo??

since i did not read well?

MrSly:
Did you read well? Treatment of stage one virus inclusive.

bevause it is caused by a Virus and Viral diseases have prove stubborn to cure. even the common cold does not have a cure, your body just overcomes it. Any drugs taken only address the symptoms and not the causative organism.

AntiChristian:
Why is there no readily available cure for HIV?

bevause it is caused by a Virus and Viral diseases have prove stubborn to cure. even the common cold does not have a cure, your body just overcomes it. Any drugs taken only address the symptoms and not the causative organism

AntiChristian:
Why is there no readily available cure for HIV?

people should receive this with sense. this should be taken along with other protective measures for those whose behaviour puts them at risk. HIV is just one of many STI that are largely transmitted the same way.
Please note. it is for prevention and not a cure......if you already have it .........e don late.. ire ooooo

he should release it pls. they dont do well in captivity except its really expansive.

18snazzy:
This was caught this morning in Emene Enugu alive, and the person that caught it wishes to sale the bird.

Kobojunkieee:
. A man who is having affairs in the open does not need to visit a marriage counselor with the woman he is cheating on. He already played his card for her to see. It's up to her to decide if her life is worth more than continuing to play house maid and baby mama to him. He has already move on from her though. 🥱🥱🥱

She made no mention of an affair. Why the assumption?

Feelings are fleeting. Una two suppose go see thrapist before una finalise divorce. cos most times na 2 people dey damage the marriage.

letskeeptalking:
I guess my real question is: knowing what you know now, would you make the same choice again?

I’m currently on the verge of divorce after 15 years of marriage and three kids.. Even though this is my decision, I feel like I have no real choice. My husband (if I can even call him that) says he doesn’t want to lose his family, but he does absolutely nothing to show it.

A lot has happened over the years, and it’s reached a point where I genuinely believe there is no future for us as a couple.

So I feel like I have two options: divorce him and move forward as a single mother… or stay, knowing I could never love him again.

I worry about my kids and how growing up with parents in a loveless marriage might shape their future relationships and choices. But then I also wonder, would they be better off growing up with a single mother?

I’m not concerned about stigma or even about finding another partner someday. Honestly, the way I feel right now, I’m ready to remain celibate for life.

If you’ve gone through this, can you please share your experience?
Do you regret your choice?
Looking back, would you make the same decision again?

marriage is enjoyable. Just marry right sha!!! let the idealistic reasons for marriage be at least part of what made you marry and not just the aethetics and cash. Otherwise you will be part of those chatting up your ex and pouring out your pain.

Toolegit123:
Good day everyone here.

So lately I've been in contact with my ex girlfriend who's now supposedly a happy married woman, according to what I was told initially . Tho it on Whatsapp when I got a message from her,but I tried to be careful and mindful while conversing with her.

After a while,one thing led to another and I curiously asked her if she was really happy in her marriage. To my greatest surprise,she said NO,and she didn't even end it there. She said she regrets getting married to a man who's old enough to be her father. Mind you, she's in her late 20's while her husband seems to be in his early 60's. They've got a son together

Well,I just told her plainly,that I shouldn't be the one she should be complaining to . I only asked her a simple and polar question,and she ended up pouring out all her pains and agony before me as if I was amongst her kinsmen that took bride price from her husband Because I could remember we were still dating when she left me for him, thinking everything that was glittering then was gold .

The funny thing was that it didn't end there, because ever since then,she has been on my neck,from one polite billing to the other. And to be honest,I don't want to and will never have anything to do with her . I'm even Planning to block her number if she wouldn't stop pestering my innocent single and not searching life

Now,the real problem is that,for the past one week,her messages have been popping on my phone like steadily . And which has left me wondering and pondering , are married men not spending quality time with their wives ? 🤔. Is marriage not really enjoyable like those married folks makes us believe, especially on social media? Those of you who are married and happy in your marriages, please come in and give those us who are about to consider getting married in the future some tips on how to make a happy home.

I used Kakanfo a lot a few years back. i liked it. Old yes but well maintained it had an almost rustic feel to it.

I would to pick rooms that overlook the Town. Great view.

BNLR:
You will agree with me that hospitality business is one of the most profitable business in the world if well managed. A clear evidence of this argument is the numbers of hotel and other accomodation outlets you can find around you and still counting on a daily basis.

As a typical Ibadan boy and a hospitality practitioner with over 30 years experience in the industry. I can't stop imagine the secret of existence of some of the hotels in Ibadan that has been existing over the past 30 years in the city.

I know there is no other secret to any sustainable business more than good management and intangible assets that has been built over the years by the owner or the management. Interestingly, 95% of the hotel in Nigeria today are privately owned by individual or partnership. This argument again brought my attention to some of the oldest and active outlet in the second largest city in Africa.

Here are three to four hotels that are still keeping the legacy of hospitality in Ibadan over 30 years ago.

1. KAKANFO INN
2. HILLTOP TAVERN
3. DAVIES HOTEL
4. UI HOTEL

Unfortunately, Premier hotel is suppose to be on the list. While D'Rovas, Lafia Hotel, Green Springs, SEGELU are not active anymore. However I will like to receive more inputs on any information about oldest and active Hotel in Ibadan.

OriOko88:
Does anyone know where I can auction this big 🦉 owl? Today's early morning rain made it lose its bearing,so it was found hibernating at one corner of my compound.

I attempted to handle it but it fought back aggressively,so I used a basket to capture it.

What specie of owl is this? It's a big one. Can anyone buy it?

It's a Barn Owl. Please release to tonight

These men dont learn. if she is not your wife she is not your wife. don't be doing husband duties.

Even Married ones dey see Shege..........not to talk of boyfriend.

alphonsojidebab:
https://eyesoflagos.com/2026/01/13/girlfriend-dumped-man-after-selling-car-to-send-her-abroad/

Islie:
https://www.thecable.ng/extra-my-defence-minister-would-be-a-drone-if-elected-president-says-sowore/

While I agree that Drones are very effective for our current challenges. We must aslo prepare for future challenges with a more capable enemy. It was lack of preparation for future chaklenges that left us running from pillar to post when BH started.

that said we need a lot more drones now, even if it is for surveilance only

[quote author=Mikedel80 post=138030983]Please my people help judge this family matter..............we will need to hear from the other side

Check the post again....slowly this time.....cos China is actually 2nd

Chetas81:
FRAUDULENT POST, CHINA SHOULD BE IN FIRST OR SECOND POSITION,