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RIP Padre. Back then in the 80s and 90s, St Augustine Parish Ikorodu was like a Pilgrimage centre, beehive of activities every Tuesday as many troop to attend the Healing Masses. His Priesthood impacted positively on many as my family personally benefitted from him spiritually.

Hmm

ritababe:
who is running it?

Going by the CEO of the hospital, it is a Public Private Partnership.

Metooreal:
Thanks.

If i get the right person, I think his/her first role will be to seek their consent.

You are welcome.

Wish you the best.

Metooreal:
I'm ready to pay for a client going. Reason why I'll need one in Lagos. I know some counsellors travel to clients locations. I want to actually contract the counsellors anonymously, i don't want my parent to know it's me. Counsellors too will know i don't want my parent n sibling know I got him or her involved.

My parent wont honour invitation to leave their base, they wont am certain.

Thanks, I really appreciate your contribution. They have vowed not to come back together. And it's shameful to me. Some of my siblings aren't helping matters. But i know once my parent solve their isssues, the rest will fall in place.

You know your parents better but do you think they are open to therapy as consent is key in developing a therapeutic relationship with the counsellor, also do have in mind that reconciliation is not the only outcome of marriage therapy because at times marriage therapy helps couples see clearer that they have no business continuing the marriage.

Look for a MFT (Marriage and Family Therapist) because it is not only about your parents because to work towards resolution you and your siblings will have to be involved thus the family therapy component.

emmaodet:
Funny how people thinks a man marrying down is easy also. The only difference is that men are more reasonable than most women. The are better managers when it comes to spouse picking.
Every excuses a woman sees in picking a man down are still the same excuses men will see and overlook.
Like been insecure and regularly checking his phone, liability, bringing the woman up by tushing her up despite the fact that there is a 50% chance the woman will cheat or leave him if things go south.
But when it is a ladies turn, all she will see are the negative side of the man - how he will be cheating, insecured, blah blah blah blah
Tbh women don't know what is called love, what they called love is money first, then love will come

Our socialization expects a man who is going into marriage to have a higher earning capacity than the woman, just as our socialization have made a woman feel more comfortable marrying a man older than her.

For me I keep on saying, a woman who can't pay her bills or financially take care of a child has no business getting married because it is the same educational institutions and economy both men and women are exposed to.

It starts from the family setups where some parents raise their daughters that getting married to a financially comfortable guy, should be the game plan while there is less emphasis on their daughters' personal development.

And the management of the hotel allowed minors into their premises during school hours?

E no go pass money for weed and betting.

I believe it will be well maintained as per it will not be civil service run.

J111333:
Live illegally in the USA without crime, no body will give a damn, but living illegally is some of these Asian and European countries even without committing any other crime is like living in hell.

Then don't go there!

The justice system should put into consideration for him to provide for the baby.

desvi:
she can hardly marry up
that's the point

Because she is already at the top.

desvi:
and what if a woman belongs to the upper class?
who will she marry?

She is more likely to marry within the upper class. Women marry up, marrying down tend to bring its issues as the husband tend to feel uneasy.

Metooreal:
Hi,

I tried getting some contacts of good marriage counsellors but unfortunately I do not know of any certified one.

Can anyone help? My parent are no longer together and the children are divided. Pastors have tried and it has failed. I need professional marriage counsellors please. It's shameful to me, my friends and inlaws who know them to be together can't hear they are no more together. All of the children are adults, but I can say we are enemies of ourselves because of the foundation. We can't continue this way, I want peace in my family.

All I need is link to their website and I do a background check on them. Don't drop anyone's phone line as it wi be a total waste of your mb, time and a pure indication you don't read the full text of my message.

I need few meaningful inputs on getting the best marriage counsellors.

Note: preferred age of the counsellor should be between 50 - 60, must be married with his wife, ready to travel down to my parent state of residence. Must own a car with a driver. Respected and vocal.

Thanks

Effective therapy is client-centred, your parents must have to leave their comfort zones and go meet the counsellor, not the other way round! Should the counsellor have to travel to go meet your parents, you have given your parents the power over the marriage therapist and would remain dug in, in their trenches.

Leaving whatever you are doing to go see a therapist in his/her office, is the first indication that you desire a change from whatever you are going through.

People go for therapy, therapy don't go to them. Even Jay-Z and Beyonce had to go for therapy for their marriage, they didn't fly in a therapist.

The marriage counselor ethically is not supposed to be in the room with his wife while in session with clients, it erodes privacy.

I suggest your parents get individual sessions at the initial stage because there are likely some thoughts, words and emotions they would be more comfortable to express in the absence of each other before they can have sessions together as a couple with the therapist.

BiafranBushBoy:
Have you ever seen a rich man and his wife quarrel?

Their quarrels are close to cheating, investment mistakes, choices for the kids, vacation or not.


Have you ever seen a middle-class family or poor family quarrel?

If not cheating, kneeling down to cook food or standing up, calling me daddy or mummy, finances, money for house rent, financial contribution, or wasting of food in the house, and others too numerous to mention.


Even if I want to quarrel with my wife, I want it to be at the back of a limousine. You won't have time to know if she greets you in the morning or not.

Kneeling down to cook food or standing up!

Glad over the arrest

Go to the police and make a report while also getting a guard for the property.

I no blame her biko!

She even sold her own son!

What he cannot dream of trying in Nigeria!

kikelomojessy:
Oh you haven't heard how an Igbo man calls his first baby girl different names, you will ask yourself if the wife just gave birth to the baby and ran away. ��

Back in the 80s!

Boko Haram and the Northern elites feed off this system.

Well said.

Nice one.

I don't blame her.

Probably a scanned copy!

Hmm...

Nice one.

WisdomFlakes:
Hmmm. So after ordination, these ones no go f.u.uckk woman again? Yeah right.

Who has been awarded Nobel Prize for that?

E no easy.

Classical music.