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My take on this, to be brutally honest, is this. First, you have flouted the biblical and godly decree of "no sex before marriage". Secondly, you have been sampling guys like say na benddan boutique you dey. Whats that,eh? Thirdly, you are looking for a perfect combination of character plus money ontop. Babe, i dikwa very greedy. Have you ever considered your own character as well, if the perfect guy would like it? There's something I notice about women. They want it all without wanting to work for it. Eve met a perfect Adam, yet she spoiled it for him. Lastly, no man, or woman was born with perfect character. Its all in the training and environment they were brought up. You can help someone to become who you want them to be through patience, love and hardwork, virtues many ladies don't have. Finally, life is all about variety. You will be bored to discover that your guy is everything you are looking for, only to find out that variety is the spice of life.

[quote author=WomaninherPrime post=92386437]Good evening house. Kindly read patiently. I promise to be as honest as possible.

I'm a young woman in her mid-20s. I've been in three relationships so far... two were sexual, and one was purely celibate, though it didn't last beyond 6 months.

I recently got out of a 2-yr relationship with Dubem when we discovered our genotype isn't compatible. But the problem is that we're still doing a lot of back and forth. Dubem wants the relationship to continue because he's working on how we'd have our babies via IVF or chorionic villi testing to first determine the sex of the baby.

This has put me in a very confusing situation because I'm unable to move on while he's still holding on for us... and at the same time, I just keep thinking about how life would be a lot easier if I'd just marry a genotype compatible man and have children the regular way without the stress and huge financial cost of an IVF.

To fully move on from Dubem, I started seeing other people..

Nedu is a very great guy... has everything I want in a man, but he's having some financial challenges right now. He's cute, godly, very intelligent, good humour, communicates very well, respectful, sound family values, neat, and seems to me like someone who can take charge of his home. But his financial situation gives me cause for concern... he doesn't seem like he'd be comfortably ready to start a family in another 2/3 years. But that aside, his condition just dampens my enthusiasm to even visit him or start a committed relationship with him. No TV or fridge in his apartment. I feel embarrassed/sorry for him when he has to go watch TV at his friend's or neighbour's... Or I'm thinking of cooking stuff to take to him... but no fridge to store. Joykiller. Or the fact that he can't be a support system to me at the moment...

There's also Victor who comes off as a great guy but I've refused to pay him enough attention all these months because I'm still entangled with Dubem. Victor is doing quite well, and is passionate about his job, but he likes to talk about himself way too much, and seems a bit arrogant. The vibes I get off him is that he tries to be at his best behaviour when he's with me, just to impress, but maybe he's real. While I don't like like him at the moment, I feel if I gave him a chance, I'd see some other aspects of him that would make me love him.

There's Denver on the other hand. Denver is an absolute gentle man... and doing fairly well with his business. I almost said yes to him, but I felt it was coming from the place of pressure. He was putting me under a lot of pressure to say yes... he wants to get married in a minute, but I'm still not resolved on marrying him. Plus he's from a polygamous family, and his plan is for us to live in his disputed family house if/when we get married, and I feel that comes with a lot of drama. Also, he's a bit lackadaisical about his wellbeing. He doesn't seem very tidy. His car always has things strung about. I worry, too about his level of education. He has just a HND and is not in the corporate world whereas I have serious plans to get either a double masters plus lots of certifications or a Ph.D I fear there might be some sort of incompatibility years down the line. Other than these concerns, Denver is a great guy.

Then there's Bright... I've known Bright since I was in uni... he was planning a surprise engagement once, when we weren't even dating. He's the most inconsistent and confused man I've ever met. He's consistent for a aweek or two, then goes off-radar only to resurface again after a few months. But somehow he seems to believe I'm the one who's never agreed to take him seriously. But how do I take a man who's inconsistent seriously? Ideally, he shouldn't be on this list because I long cancelled him... but he called this morning and we had a very long conversation... which was short of him pleading that I calm down and take him seriously so we can move to the next level.

Now the reason I created this thread. I like having a linear focus when I'm in a relationship, but I'm unable to leave Dubem because all these other guys have one issue or the other. No, I'm not looking for a perfect guy. Dubem isn't perfect, but we've come a long way, and we love each other, and we've come to accept and understand each other as we are.
I've become impatient... I feel like I'm at the prime of my life as a woman, and I have other suitors to choose from but I'm holding on to a very precarious relationship. Dubem might as well just wake up one day and decide that our genotype incompatibility is a big deal and we should see other people... at that time, one year of my life would have gone by...... Hahahahaha! Madam you think say relationship na Nairabet abi? You wan eat ya cake and have more? The kind of husband you dey find is not yet born, or na angel for heaven. Nb: angels no go forgive you if you take a false step, sha.

Vyzz:
Exactly... What kind of love exist between a beautiful angel like that and an ugly beast...

I mean the guy had to cheat on her after turning her into a borehole.... Damn he deserved more...


That's beasty... U loose her up and then try to leave her.... Same thing the have been doing to this country since 1960.... Bleeping the nation to death and later the will dump it..

I am proud of the girl...


U think say na only u mumu

nothing will ever justify the killing of a human being by any individual. She should have just left him instead. Now she will face the heat when the devil has gone from her head

Many christians voted the scourge called Bubu.

chukwuibuipob:
so,some of these Pentecost church don't do evil/wickedness,fetish.? Ko si ona Miran to otoka si orun.E yin araye e Yara WA gba jesu

By your ire you have proved that you are a member of a white garment confraternity (church) and you are angry that a former member just exposed your open secret. Deny the fact that your church uses The Six and Seven books of Moses.

Thelimitbreaker:
They are not fetish but the fact that there may be some inconsistencies in some of them doesn't make them fetish.... What many Christians fail to realize is that all churches cannot be the same.... True brotherhood in Christianity is when we ignore our differencies (indoctrinations) and focus more on our similarities which is CHRIST.... while GOD prudently mends the broken lines in all the churches cause it is there except you want to deny it... It is called " The Body Of Christ " for a reason , which means we may be different but still in the same body unified by LOVE.....

I admire your ignorant gullibility. You never see nutin..

dhardline:
I have a Cele church right opposite my house so I can confidently tell you that Mr man... You too lie! What I've seen over the years makes we wonder how people who go there confidently refer to it as a church.

My fellow NLer, many people on this thread will never believe you and will simply label you a hater. Just as APClueless supporters will never agree that Bubu is not corrupt, even with overwhelming evidence.

Interesting. Have you ever heard of exotericism and esotericism? Don't judge by outward appearances. Check out their beliefs, foundation and doctrines before you say anything. And if all you can see is just all that is advertised, sorry o.

Many ladies are very lazy, naturally, and will read so many negative meanings into this piece of advice for men. No good man will want his wife to go through all these, but a point must be made about many wives who just love to be very active at home, and therefore, are misconstrued as enslavement by many feminists and gender equality proponents. We all know, especially married men, that many women indirectly control their husbands. I am, therefore, surprised that this topic is coming to social media.

Amaechi probably did what he did to make sure these looters pay the loan no matter what, because this government hardly pay loans. Therefore, if they default on this loan, boom, no oil, no gas to loot. Zero income=recession. Amaechi just put them for siki one.

Arry110:
Live your life and let others live theirs, Most Christians tend to forget that not everyone Believes in God let People believe in what they want, if someone’s decision dosent affect you in anyway then it’s none of your business, that’s why many people characterize Christianity with being judgemental, stop using Christianity to feed your homophobia.

You might as well stop speaking out against Boko Haram because they also believe in something you dont believe in and justify their beliefs by killing anyone who doesn't believe in their beliefs. The yahoo yahoo boys also have a right to their beliefs. What about the drug peddlers, the armed robbers, etc? So long as what he does is in contravention of the laws of the Federal Republic of Nigeria, he aught to be arrested and prosecuted. Besides, his actions also negatively impacts on our kids and teeming teenage and adolescent population. How will you feel if your kids start dressing like Bobrisky? I know you will never like it, being a typical Nigerian brought-up. We have cultures that don't support effeminate practices and were never brought up to be such. It makes me wonder why some of us will pretend all is well because it is not our relative doing this sh.t. Lets commend what is commendable and condemn acts that betray our hreitage and sense of right and wrong. If, as Nigerians, we've lost our morality and sense of right and wrong, we are doomed as a people.

sigiyaya:
When will they finally blow this Trumpet

Calculate when Israel became a nation till when she will get to 100 years as a nation. That's when God will wrap things up with this present government of satan. Read the book of Daniel.

Some homos and bi's on Nairaland will be like......

hisgrace090:
Go and thank God you did not ask this question in a Muslim dominated area.

Yesterday a Pakistani's man was shot six times to death for claiming to be a prophet and a defender of Allah have to take over the case by killing him instantly inside a court.

Service to Allah is what they called their actions and are proud of it always.

Talk about religious extremism. Killing a fellow human being in these modern times in the name of defending your religion is a sign of regression and religious intolerance.

I'm so pissed with youths in Nairaland who are still supporting everything this government does because of the peanuts they are receiving, even when the obvious truth is being spoken. I'm ashamed.

Obviously, no love lost between the wife and her mom-inlaw. They've not been in good terms, so, it plays out in this little drama.

If he had said this with absolute honesty, devoid of any evil intensions I would have said he was right. But seeing the evil being perpetrated by his tribesmen in the guise of herders, it will be hard to believe any word of his.

See why the situation for Naija nuh go change for the better? Our youths have sold themselves to these polithiefians for shishi. Can you imagine these jobless youths? Shame shame shame, shame.

Somebody in Kano are you seeing what Im seeing

Gee I did painting job in an oil company for N150,000 for over a year and six months. The contract was terminated due to unforseen circumstances and I'm still wishing the job was still there. NB: I never was a painter by profession but I had to love the job because it paid my bills

PigTormentor:
I don't only sense, I know a retarded brainwashed easily fooled slowpoke when I spot one. You are a confirmed retard. So the vast majority of Doctors in the world are working with WHO to hide the fact that Hydroxy works abi? While their own people are dying all over the world? Your level of stupidity has no know cure.

Its only mental cretins and psychologically defective people like you that see others as stupid, especially when they dont belong in their stupid political party. I am quite aware that most guys and gals in the ruling party are against Trump, therefore, anything he says is gall and wormwood to their ears. Its pathetic that ya'll chose to reason like your half educated masters in government that have ruined the country, even the so-called educated ones. What a shame.

mozzking:
That is very unreasonable for you to say, God said he has given us every green plant as food,

Or a you saying God makes mistakes, what else can you use herbs for if not consumption and curing ailments, you can as well weed in your car as fuel since it's not meant for consumption.

thank God you said herbs are for eating. Why dont you smoke your soup and garri, or inhale your abacha and stock fish? Why havent you smoked ugu leaves to make you high? Anything you take that puts you into altered states of consciousness is directly violating the safety guard God has placed over your psychics gates to protect your mind from invasion by psychic entities(demons). These include the nonmedical and habitual use (abuse) of halucinogens like LSD, Marijuana aka Cannabis spp, Cocaine, Alcohol, Methamphetamine, Opium etc. Are these not herbs made for humans by God? Of course they are. But they were made for medicinal purposes, not to be abused. Abuse of narcotic drugs is a crime. You know the truth, but as ususal, trying to justify your actions. Even G-boys dey claim right for scamming people

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PigTormentor:
This woman sabi lie well well.

many many studies have been done by many countries and they all came to same conclusion that it does not work.
She's fanatical religious fool that's just trying to support Trump.
She's basing her argument on emotions instead of proven science.
This is what some posted about her.

(Comment from someone that knows her )
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I don't want to burst any bubble. But this very event was politically motivated to support Trump claims. There is no science in it. She lives in Louisiana and Houston but came to Washington DC for this speech. She even said no need for mask!!. This physician is a cameroonian who schooled at Unical Nigeria. She is also a pastor. I know her personally. She is a pediatrician and claims to be treating adults even 90yr olds. Its all American politics. Election is coming by Nov. this year. Trump needs to shore up his image after a dismal performance in the control of the pandemic.Shes being used. I work in the ER in Dallas, there's is no evidence that hydroxychloroquine zithromax and zinc work. Many people have died while on these drugs. These are patients that I participated in their care. As it stands now, no known cure yet. Best thing is still prevention(mask, hand washing and Social distancing).
COPIED


If the shit work so well how come all the other countries are not using it? Same way the Madagascar cure was erroneously pushed onto people, and now Madagascar has one of the worst cases in Africa.

PigTormentor:
This woman sabi lie well well.

many many studies have been done by many countries and they all came to same conclusion that it does not work.
She's fanatical religious fool that's just trying to support Trump.
She's basing her argument on emotions instead of proven science.
This is what some posted about her.

(Comment from someone that knows her )
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I don't want to burst any bubble. But this very event was politically motivated to support Trump claims. There is no science in it. She lives in Louisiana and Houston but came to Washington DC for this speech. She even said no need for mask!!. This physician is a cameroonian who schooled at Unical Nigeria. She is also a pastor. I know her personally. She is a pediatrician and claims to be treating adults even 90yr olds. Its all American politics. Election is coming by Nov. this year. Trump needs to shore up his image after a dismal performance in the control of the pandemic.Shes being used. I work in the ER in Dallas, there's is no evidence that hydroxychloroquine zithromax and zinc work. Many people have died while on these drugs. These are patients that I participated in their care. As it stands now, no known cure yet. Best thing is still prevention(mask, hand washing and Social distancing).
COPIED


If the shit work so well how come all the other countries are not using it? Same way the Madagascar cure was erroneously pushed onto people, and now Madagascar has one of the worst cases in Africa.

you are even worse than WHO. Its people like you that make politicians continue hiding the truth and keeping people in ignorance. What makes you think that those doctors you just mentioned working in other countries are not working for WHO, just to discredit Ichie Donald J. Trump and to make him politically irrelevant? I sense an APC zoneb here.

Janosky:

NO !
Jesus Christ is a Servant of Jehovah his God and Father
Jehovah's witnesses are servants of Jehovah , the God of Jesus Christ.
Revelations 3:12-14. Acts 3:13. Isaiah 42:10-12. 1st Corinthians 3:23

So this is the reason your leadership conveniently rewrote and reinterpreted John 1:1. I feel genuinely sorry for all jehovah's witnesses. They are lost, and only a few of them eventually find the truth of Jesus Christ.

Jehovah's witnesses are not Christians. They are jehovites just like the judaisers and therefore, see Christians as evil.

Hmmmm everyone is a critic. How do you know boiled monitors are gross when youve never tasted it @ pepper soup? Naija guys and galz be claiming oyibo

Superwave:
Which human being will love to remain in a devilish party that pride itself with the slogan to share the country's wealth among the wolves in human flesh politicians it parades ?!

Imagine having a criminal Peter Obi that looted Anambra state to stupor as your best candidate for VP n another deluded thief who declared on National TV he will sell NNPC which generate over 90% of Nigerians wealth to his cronies n he sees nothing wrong in that on national TV.

PDP no de fear God n it is God that will punish every member of the party, both young n old.

APC zoneB spotted. If Peter obi looted why did the EFCC not go after him immediaty he was chosen as Atiku's running mate? Nonsense and anuofia

Make una stand up defend una self o. We no get president for this country

hmohammed:
Only fools without foresight don't understand the worth of my darling president

You are the blind f.oo.l here who has stubbornly refused to acknowledge the complete lack of pity and absolute callousness of GMB as the CSO of this beloved naija. Nonsense and zoneB

hmohammed:
Only fools without foresight don't understand the worth of my darling president

. You are the blind f.oo.l here who has stubbornly refused to acknowledge the complete lack of pity and absolute callousness of GMB as the CSO of this beloved naija. Nonsense and zoneB

hmohammed:
Only fools without foresight don't understand the worth of my darling president

. You are the blind fool here who has stubbornly refused to acknowledge the complete lack of pity and absolute callousness of GMB as the CSO of this beloved naija. Nonsense and zoneB

Where are those buharians in the house? I hope you are prepping to defend your lifeless principal o? These are serious allegations that need answers, asap. Nonsense and GMB.