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Promises40:
Lol you are very funny ��

Thank you!

Nwaotu10:
LOL
I know you're good, that's why you're lucky to marry an igbo man.

And my Oga is a unlucky to marry one of a very crazy Japanese woman!

I'm so sorry about very late reply.

2Radii:
Dont mention ma'am


Wait.. An Igbo man?? u mean he's an igbo?, Chaii!!!
Hmm, hmm
Hmm, well. Happy married life.


Nothing dangerous about Nigeria, tho there are issues of insecurities here and there but not in every part of the country.
Sebi we are having many whitemen in the country doing their job and are living fine. What one need to do is to be watchful.
So i shall be expecting u here soon.

Yes! My husband is a Igbo man!

Thank you so much!
I really hope I can visit Nigeria one day!
Sometimes I'm still watching Nigeria on YouTube. Very interesting to me!

Anyway, I'm so sorry about very late reply.

TolaniLuv:
If the people who researches this said their men don’t want to marry. It must be fact I guess. I’m. Not blaming the women out there. The survey just said they like there freedom especially the youth 90% saw and sees how their mother lived with their father it’s also very rare to see no single mother this days in Japan.

Most of their women don’t love the men for many reason why not divorce instead of seeing the man as a ATM machine?

The youth are wiser now! That’s why they don’t want to be in relationship or marry , or even have kids.

Most of the women prefer to be house wives and the man have to work from 6-am to 10pm before he wake a up they are still sleeping , before he got back they are already in bed.

Japanese women are human nobody said they ain’t!

If they said the men don’t want to marry the fault is not the women it’s the culture they were born with. And Japan is not ready to change there culture for no Man. So, I feel happy if they don’t want to marry they are free to live there live at the end of the day the kids they lock them together the father won’t see them because of the woman .

Japanese women even prefer to be single mother because the government support them a lot too. They just want to have kids and see the men as ATM machine. Let the man get into any trouble at work or with police it’s a straight divorce.

Until they change some of their culture that’s already back dated. Japan population will decrease in future.

I think so too about this research is fact. I'm not doubting about it.

I'm sorry, I maybe misunderstood you.
When I saw your comment, I thought you are blaming Japanese women.

I still can't find out from this topic where writing about Japanese men said they don't wanna get married because women this and that like Japanese women are rude, they don't wanna work etc.

But writing about 36.2% of men between the age of 20 and 39 said they simply had not met someone they liked enough to marry.
And 35% of unmarried men in their 30s have never been on date.

So, Please where did you get to know about they like their freedom especially 90% of youth, because they saw how their mother lived with their father? I still can't see it.
Because I can't read English well, that's why I maybe can't understand what I read?

Most of Japanese women don't love their husband?
If that's true, I also wonder why they get married with their husband?

I said "some" Japanese women don't love their husband.
But this is after some years they get married.
And I also said "some" Japanese women think about their husband is their ATM.
I didn't know about "most of" Japanese women don't love their husband and think about their husband is their ATM.

Why that kind of women not divorce with husband?
I think we are already talking about this answer!
I think they think husband is their ATM. They still with husband because of money.
And some women don't wanna divorce because of kids.

I don't know this discussion about get married or not, have kid or not etc, is wise or something like that.
Because I think this is nothing like wise or not.
But talking about how they live their life, what is their choice of life etc.
That's my opinion.

Most of women prefer to be house wives?!
That's not true!

Yes, you didn't say Japanese women are not human.
But you said Japanese women don't care if husband have sex with multiple women since husband's salary going to be wives account.
That's why I wanted to tell you that Japanese women are human like you.
Japanese women also have heart, emotion etc.
Only some Japanese women don't care about it.
But I maybe can say most of Japanese women are care about it.

6am to 10pm work?
Peoples are working different time.
Maybe you wanna try to say Japanese men working long time?
If that's what you are saying, I agreed with you.

And yes! I agreed with you again!
I have no complain about peoples who don't wanna get married or don't wanna have kids.
That's their life. If they can happily live their life without married and kid, I'm happy for them!
Everybody have right to be happy!
Nothing wrong about it. But this is both men and women.
Not only men or only women.

Japanese women prefer to be single mother?!
That's not true!!
Do you know how much difficult to be a single mother in Japan?
Yes, single parent can get government support.
But Do you know about what kind of government support, how much is government support etc?

I really hope what you are saying Japanese women meaning "SOME" Japanese women.

I think changing culture is not easy. Is it easy in Nigeria?
I think you meant culture is Japan's society?

Anyway, Thank you so much for taking your time!
Exchanging opinion and discussion with you about this topic is very interesting and very meaningful discussion to me
I really appreciate you!!

TolaniLuv:
It’s a fact! 99% accurate.
It’s their culture

Please forgive me to explain to you.

There is nothing like husband's salary automatically goes to wife's bank account.
But if husband requested about it to his work place, his company will pay it in wife's account.
So, husband's salary automatically goes to wife's account is not true.
Husband use his bank account to receive their salary and he gave that ATM card to his wife.

But something you wrote about how wife use husband's salary is common in Japan.
I said use, I mean manage.
Not wife spending or wasting husband's salary any how.
They are managing his salary. They are even saving that money, but not for her.
And very common about wife keep household account (household expenses).
So, husband can know how wife used that salary like how much she paid bills, what she bought, how much remain etc.

And yes, husband get allowance from wife.
But that allowance is from his salary.
This is very common in Japan. I know this is very strange!

But what I want you to know is not every family having same marriage life.

You said Japanese women don't wanna work after married and denying sex with husband.
I can't deny everythings. Because some women are like that.

But not all Japanese women are like that.
Old days and these days are different.
Many married Japanese women are working these days.
This is very common now.

But not everybody working like a parmanent staff.
Many married women working like part time worker including me.
Not because they don't wanna work like parmanent worker, but peoples have different reasons like their kids are still small, they are taking care of their old age parents, they have health issues etc.

And working wife also using their salary for family.
But some husbands never mind about their wife don't use her salary for family.
They don't even ask or demand for them, but they told wife to use it by herself.

Not all Japanese women are denying sex with their husband.
Some peoples wanna have sex with husband, but their husband denied, sleeping early, having ED, cheating on wife etc.
So, That's not always wife's fault.

Japanese women are humans like you.
So, when they got to know about if their husband slept with another women, they got hurt and many peoples divorce with their cheating husband.
There is nothing like they don't care about it.
But maybe some women are don't care about it especially if they already don't love their husband and if they only think about husband is their ATM.

I don't know why some peoples wanna blame other gender
Not always or everythings are only men's fault or only women's fault.

TolaniLuv:
Thank you. I would like to add my own %

In Japan when you are married. The husband salary automatically goes to the wife account. She will deduct all the house expenses and her own money and give the husband 300$ to manage in a month usually to buy cigarettes or drink out with friends .


In Japan even a deaf man is hot cake if he’s working, in their culture the money goes to wife account . While the man is working from 6am to 10pm at night wife will be home taking care of the kids or preparing food. If they don’t have kids, she will be home watching TV all day .

In Japan women don’t want to work as soon as they get married.

Worse part of all this is, When the woman finally have kids. No More Sex for the man! Any sex they want to have must be a meaningful sex like to have kids, the wife tell the man to save the energy for sex to work harder for their kids.

It makes the men go out to drink and have sex with multiple women which they don’t care since the salary is going to the wives account.

Lastly, being single man in Japan give the man time to save money and enjoy their life . Marriage is like slavery there apart from the slavery at work and over time at work with no increase of salary.


Why marry when you will love your freedom?

Please where did you get this kind of information about Japanese women?

Is this your experience with your Japanese wife?

COOL10:
Japanese women are extremely rude to their male counterparts. The men have simply realised that freedom and peace of mind are paramount in a man's life

Really?!
Are you a Japanese man?
Japanese women always extremely rude to you?

Camelot65:
Oh wow, I have been off for a really long time.

I like the kimono better, it looks beautiful and traditional on y'all

The three S sushi, sashimi and salad. I love salad too, Ill check the other two out in the internet

My favourite Nigerian dish is pounded yam with egusi soup well garnished. I like pepper soup but it's been long I took one.

Yeah, geisha is like sardine, I don't like both. A geisha has a different meaning there in Japan,right? What does it mean?

With work plus I wanted to go off nairaland for sometime. I have been good and what about you?


It's so so cold out here and raining so well.

Hello! Camelot65 san!

How far?
I hope you are good and everything good too!

I'm so sorry about very very late reply.
I apologies you.

I didn't log in this website for a while.

I like Kimono too!
I also like Nigerian traditional cloth.
Very very beautiful
And I like Nigerian jewelry like beads? and something like tattoo! I love it!
Whenever I saw pictures, I really love it.

Ohhhhh!!
I didn't know my favorite foods are three S
Wow! This is funny!

I know egusi soup. My Oga like it too!

Oh! you don't like geisha? Taste is bad? or smelling bad? or something like that?!
I really interesting about it!

Geisha is like woman entertainer in Japan.
But not like celebrity in TV etc.
Like traditional entertainer or something like that.
Wearing Kimono, singing, dancing, playing etc.
This playing call "Ozashiki Asobi".
Ozashiki is Tatami room and Asobi meaning play, game etc.

Geisha is human in Japan.
But Geisha is food in Nigeria.
This is very interesting to me!!

Oh, Ok!
I hope you are not get too much stress from work!

Still cold in Nigeria?
Japan is no more summer. Getting cold now.

ExtremeDot:
Peacefull, how far na? Hope you dey fine?

This thread was created in 2017(5 years ago).

Your instinct was giving you signs that your Oga might not be completely truthful with you, as a married man should be to his wife.

I want to believe that was one of the primary reasons that triggered you to discover Nairaland, created this thread, as you needed to know if his behaviour was due to his culture as an Igbo man from Nigeria.

You got lots of opinions from Nigerians here.

After 5 solid years, you updated this thread stating that you got to find out about your Oga having a Nigerian wife he married in the year 2013. Including a daughter.

Days later, you came back to denounce your claim and restated your commitment and complete love for your Oga.

Hmmmmn... Indeed, True Love is blind.

I do feel your soul/mind is similar to that of a sweet little child; craves love, radiates love, forgives on the spot, naive and gullible.

Know this, When one is in love, her judgements regarding her partner will always be biase, as it will be covered with emotions and not logic.

My advice: Whenever you are in doubt regarding your Oga, try not to involve your emotions but instead, apply logical reasoning. I doubt you can do that though, as you are obviously deep in LOVE.


I wish you forever Happiness in your marriage.

Hello! I dey! I dey fine!
But I lost my baby girl (pet) few days ago and I just done her funeral yesterday.
I'm still so sad

Anyway, Thank you so much for asking!
I appreciate you!!

What about you? How far?

When I found out this website, I was so emotionally, hurt, weak etc.
And I'm always confusing person.
I know every marriage is different. But I thought something I can't hardly to understand about my Oga is because of our different cultures, traditional etc.
And I thought if I will know more about his country, his peoples, his culture etc, I can more understand him and I can make more good relationship with him.

Yes! I think I got to know more than before!
But I'm still learning. Many many things I still don't know, I still hardly to understand etc.

Yes, I thought I saw the truth.
That picture is 2017. But that woman writing she married in 2013.

But I'm feeling so guilty now.
Because I didn't try to trust my Oga. But I trusted what I saw it.
I must trust him first. But I couldn't do that.
Before I talked with him, I came here to pour my emotions.
That was make me little bit calm down.
But what I did is just talked about I, I, I and me, me, me! and I made him look like a bad person.
Very very bad and very very selfish.

I'm feeling guilty, But I also still have feeling what they did is disrespectful.
Very disrespectful, no moral, no manners for me and her husband.
I don't know if her husband knows about it or not.
Because of gain somethings, they did it.
Fake or joke or whatever, what they did it is very disrespectful. At least he could tell me before he accepted that offer.
Sorry, I can't write everythings.

But my Oga explained to me everythings and I'm still trusting him.
I know him very very well.
One of very strong proof why I can trust him is because he is still with me.
That's very strong proof about my Oga is still love me, caring about me, cherish about our marriage.
If not, he already dump me long time ago or now. He can't be with me.
But he is still with me.
Anybody who know my Oga can confirmed about it.

But when I'm so emotionally, I hardly to think like that.
Very very bad.

Yes! You are very very right!!
I don't think I can do it
Not involving my emotion is very very difficult to me.
If I don't love him or I'm not interesting about our relationship any more etc, maybe not so difficult or maybe I already leave.

Sometimes I really doubt him. But when I calm down, I really hate myself.
If I always could keep calm down, I never doubt him.
He can't even understand why I always doubting about him and that woman, he always said she is a cousin.
But I really can't confirmed about it. What I can do is just trust him.
I have some reasons why I always doubt this woman. Not today or yesterday, but some years.
I really don't wanna have any negative feeling or bad feeling about any his family.
So, if she is a really his cousin, I'm so guilty.
I'm already don't have good image about her.

If I really really calm down, I don't think he is married with anybody especially if someone who already know about he is a married man.
Because I don't think he can choose to be with that kind of woman who can have relationship with married man.
If not her culture or religion etc, that kind of woman can have relationship with anybody.
So, I don't think my Oga can marry with that kind of woman.
How I wish I can always keep calm down, not so emotionally.

I know this my writing already have many many my confusing. I'm sorry.

Thank you so much for giving me advice!
I really appreciate you!!
I will try to keep calm down!

marvinsync:
Peacefull san , you talk about your husband a lot but you never talk about how you met him. You talk about first love, yakuza friend, even stalker friend in diary but not how u met Nigerian husband and why you like him.
Because you weren't interested in friend with lots of money , Nigerian ladies can't do that ( well not all of them) ,Or he wasn't attractive and your Nigerian husband is very attractive?

So I'm curious how peacefull san meet and like Igbo man





Also you need to know what bans you isn't a person but a "robot" (computer program)
And it malfunctions and makes mistakes, so sometimes you get banned not because of what you did but error from the robot okay?
Seun needs to work on it





Also a little about Nigerian politics, Nigeria is a heterogeneous country ,meaning many different tribes (over 300 in Nigeria). Created by British ,didn't ask us if we like each other just say okay all of you are one country now .
So a lot of us get along but some people don't

But it affects politics ,like who will be President? Who was President? One tribe has been president another tribe's turn , lots of fight and competition and anger , people feeling cheated ,some scared if person from this tribe or religion President or governor will people from my tribe be okay?
So politics section very toxic


Nigerian people can be kind to foreigners no problem with foreigner but if Nigerian from another tribe or religion some Nigerians won't be kind
But just some and online

In real life we live just fine with each other, friends ,intermarriage okay ,but politics? Dirty...

Japan is a homogeneous country right??
Like everybody one tribe, ethnicity, Japanese?


Also you are learning English the hard way here, on nairaland we mix English and pidgin English plus slangs and local dialect, difficult to understand ,even Google can't help

But your determination is really strong, I gave up when I tried to learn small Japanese so I can watch anime without subtitles

Hello! marvinsync san!
I'm sorry about very late reply.
I'm apologies you. I'm very sorry.

How are you today?

Oh! I didn't talk about how I met my Oga before?
Maybe because I wanna keep my sweet memories in my mind!
And I can't write everythings on internet.
Maybe seems like I already wrote everythings.
But no, I can't do that.

What I can tell you is someone introduced us!
My Oga said that was in 2004.
That's how we got to know each other and fell in love and still together!

Oh! first love, Yakuza friend and stalker friend
I really hope that Yakuza friend is still alive and not in jail.

Nooooo, I don't wanna believe that!
Everywhere have some women who only wanna follow men's money not love.
Here in Japan too. One of my friend who think men are only for money and sex, she just follow money not love or character, humanity etc, but money

When I met my Oga, many African men are lie about their country at that time.
This is my Oga also told me about it.
They said they are from America. Because many many Japanese peoples like America.
So, some African men believed or think if they said they are from America, they can easily get Japanese women.

But my Oga never ever told me that kind of very strange lie to me when I met him at first.
This is one of reasons I trust him and I fell in love with him.
But to be very honest with you, I can't explain very well about why I fell in love with him, Why I love him etc.
I can't explain very well.
If in short words, I only can say, because I fell in love with him, because I love him, because I'm still in love with him!
Sorry.

Yes, I know "bot san" is not human.
But I like to say "bot san". Sounds like cute!
Kawaii

Thank you so much for teaching me!
Very very good lesson to me.
I appreciate you!!

I once watched YouTube about Africa.
Not about Nigeria, but Africa.
One Japanese man made that video.
He talked about Africa very easily to understand. But not details. Quick and easy, something like that.
He said something like same things marvinsync san said.
Like British peoples made border and divided peoples. They didn't care? think? about peoples, their tribes, cultures, languages etc.
They messed Africa and African peoples etc.

I think politics is maybe everywhere sometimes very very toxic.

Seems like some reasons some peoples can't be kind to own peoples.
But can be kind to foreigners?
This is I maybe very difficult to understand.

About homogenous in Japan, No, not truly homogenous.
Not so long time ago, one politician said Japan is racially homogenous country, that's controversial statement.

Oh! Learning English on this website is hard way?!
But I'm not only learning English on here.
I'm learning many many things!
But marvinsync san is very right! I'm still really difficult to understand what peoples are saying.
Many many times I don't even know which is English, Nigerian languages and pidgin English.
But I'm really enjoying to learning!
My determination or my stubborn?!

Oh!! You like Anime?
Long time I didn't watch Anime now.
I still not even watch Kimetsu no yaiba
Because my mom scared me, so I'm feeling like that manga or Anime is scary.
But my kid and nephews told me, if that Anime is like horror or really violence etc, small kids can't watch it. But there is nothing like age limit.
Small kids could watch it in movie theater.

Have you watched that Anime?

AlphaTaikun:
@Peacefull, how're you doing once again? I've just read your final feedback and I love your sense of awarenesss and honesty feedback here.

First off, there are folks who had the same issues you stated back in the primary school and high school days because they were compelled to study subjects they didn't like. This led to boredom, truancy, rebellion and more.

Interestingly one of my favorite traders and investors from Singapore called Adam Khoo [who is 48 years old as of 2022], had the same issues of rebellion and poor academics while in high school. His father was also rich by Singaporean social standards. In Singapore, education is not taken lightly so his father had to enrol him for some youth programs that featured such learning tools as NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) and that helped him later life. When he proceeded to the University, he scored high marks. He later went on to become a millionaire entrepreneur, investor and author of many investment books. You can read more about him and his life... and also take NLP classes in Japan to resolve any negative issues from your past and enable you to unleash the unlimited opportunities within you. That's my secret gift to you and your family from out of my bag.


Second, do not listen to all these folks that post negative stuff here or on other discussion forums worldwide about women who are... let's say single mothers, etc. Many are not happy with their lives so they throw bad energy around because it makes them feel good. Lol. Many single mothers have raised single-handed some of they greatest men and women on earth!

Oh, wow, I knew right away that your child (son) would be older than 18 years. It seems you gave birth to him before you got married to your Nigerian spouse, and he's already a young adult at 24 years of age. That's mad cool. Both of you would have related to each other like siblings because you had him pretty early in life. You're in your 40s and you'll soon be a grandmother if he decides to bring a Japanese woman home when he becomes financially, mentally, and emotionally stable for that.


I've never been to Japan, but my father has been to Japan. My dad first visited Tokyo and Osaka, Japan in 1978 and then the early 1980s on a business trip. From there, I remember that he got on a plane to Germany and the UK before returning back home. There are countries that I'm gearing up to visit for leisure or business within the next 3 years though. You get to learn more and appreciate mankind and nature when you travel locally and internationally!


Yeah Peacefull, major Japanese news media have English language outlets or editions as well. I love reading news from around countries of the world so enable me to spot instant opportunities.


I wish you a truly inspiring NEW MONTH of September 2022.

Enjoy your time with your son and Nigerian spouse in Japan!

Hello! AlphaTaikun san!
How are you today? I hope you are good and everything is good too!

I'm very very sorry about always very late reply.
I apologies you. I'm sorry.

Wow!! Thank you so much for your kind!
I will check about NLP and Adam Khoo, AlphaTaikun san's big gift for me!
I really appreciate you!!

I was trying to continue graduate high school.
But not from same school. My class teacher at that time tried to do his best for me.
He gave me advices, visited to other school which he recommended me to enter, did paper work for me to change school etc.
He did everythings for what I need to change school.
And I passed exam to entered that school.
But many reasons, I couldn't continue and I dropped out again.

In my real life, at least peoples who know me very well and close to me never ever insulting me or looking down me or judge me.
And on this website, everybody never did that kind of things to me too including you!
I reall really appreciate all of them!!
I'm a really happy and lucky person who always have very kind and understanding peoples
Thank you so much!

Yes, I was a already single mother before I met my husband.
Oh! Yessss! When my kid was a small, anytime when we went to the park, I was playing with my kid like not mother but like same age!
Like two kids playing together!
I will be 43 years old soon.

AlphaTaikun san's dad visited Japan in 1978 and in 1980s?!
That is before I was born in here and when I was a kid! Wow!! Amazing!!
When I was a young, one of my dream was visit to many many countries!
I love to hear your experience about another countries
Next 3 years, you already decided about which countries you will visit?

I really didn't know about that.
I just knew about few Japanese news have English language.

Thank you so much!
I really really appreciate you and I wish you the same!

Naijatask:
Okay, I understand. Arigatou gozaimasu

Do Itashimashite!

Anytime you can ask me anything about Japan and Japanese peoples!
I will do my best to answer you
If I don't know well, I will research and check about it on Japanese website and I will tell you!

marvinsync:
you're marriage seems good


Next time your banned you would get a message on your profile, maybe you screenshot it and create a thread asking what that message means and why you were banned and people here can tell you your mistake



Also how do you see nairaland??
Many people are angry and toxic here especially the politics section , even I as a Nigerian feel its ugly thing to see the comments

Do some statements shock you or do Japanese people also get very toxic in politics

Yes! I'm happy with my Oga
Thank you so much! I really appreciate you!!

Now I'm feeling so guilty. Very very guilty.
I didn't try to trust him. But I believed what I saw it.
Until I talked with him, I just believed pictures than trust him.
But I must trust him first.
And I only cared my feel and my emotions.
Only I, I, I and me, me, me.
This is so bad. Really really bad. Very selfish.
But my Oga didn't blame me about it. He didn't get angry or blame me till now.
Instead of angry with me or blaming me, he is caring about me. I really really appreciate him.
My Oga is never ever take any nonsense.
That kind of person
But this time, he really understand how my feel. Even my misunderstanding.
Of course I apologized him. I'm a so selfish.

Oh! my banned always anti bot? spam bot?.
Always get banned it from "bot" san.
I will try it! Thank you so much!

Angry and toxic?!
Everybody are very kind to me!
Sorry, politics is still very very difficult to me.
I still don't know about Nigeria politics well.
I think I maybe visited politics section few times.

My English is still very bad.
Most of times I can't understand what peoples are writing especially Nigerian languages and pidgin English.
Only reading English is still very hard.

But if I'm not misunderstanding, I was surprising about somethings and sometimes I'm still surprising.
Like peoples insulting each others, men and women, Igbo person, Yoruba person, Hausa person etc, each other's religions, opinion, cultures, region, other countries etc.
This is surprising me and sometimes make me feel sad.

But Sometimes I'm reading Japanese website and I saw similar things.
So, I think that kind of things are everywhere.

I see this website is very helpful website to me!
I met many many good Nigerian peoples like you
I'm always feeling like I have many many good Nigerian friends!!
And this website is like my textbook.
I'm learning about Nigeria, Nigerian peoples, Nigerian languages, pidgin English and English etc.
Very helpful website to me! I love it and I appreciate it!!

Mostly Japanese peoples don't discussion about politics in daily.
On TV, on website etc, peoples discussion about it. But in life? real life? peoples don't discussion like on TV or on website.
But I don't know much about Japanese peoples on website.
I just reading. Not join it like I joined on here.
And I don't use any other website like Twitter etc. So, I don't know much about internet peoples in Japan.
But I'm sure about here have also toxic peoples.
If talked about Japanese communist party or left wing, they are very toxic!

LienwaltAbel:
It means trouble, and it's wahala. Okay since you insist

Oh! sorry, Wahala. Not Wahara.
Thank you so much for teaching me!
I learned meaning "Wahala".
I appreciate you!!

Insist?
Sometimes I'm a really stubborn woman.
Sorry. But Thank you so much for giving me advice! I really really appreciate you!

2Radii:
Yea u re correct

Thanks for ur understanding ma'am

Hello from Nigeria

You are very very correct dearie

Lol, the word "sha" is from my language but even me i dont know how to translate it to English
But the best meaning close is "anyways"
So we are safe if we say "sha" means "anyways" in English language.

Ooh!! What happened to ur marriage??
Ur husband is a Nigerian man? Which tribe is he from?

Yea, we would be more than happy to receive you wholeheartedly., Nigeria is a good place with wonderful people, in my corntree its fun everyday,
When next ur man is coming, do well to come with him ok??

Yeahhhhh!! I correct!!

Thank you so much for teaching me!
I learned meaning "sha".
I appreciate you!!

Yes! My husband is a Nigerian man.
He is a Igbo man!

Thank you so much!
I really love to visit Nigeria one day.
Many many times I'm watching Nigeria on YouTube.
My husband always said Nigeria is danger
So, I really don't know when I can visit to Nigeria.

Agbebakun22:
Sorry about that, now that you know the truth i hope you find peace in your heart to forgive him.

I'm a still only his wife!
Sorry, I can't write everythings on internet.
My Oga explained to me and I'm trusting him.
Nothing change our relationship! This kind of happened can't change anything
Thank you so much!
I really appreciate you!!

papiilo:
Good to know this. Japanese people are beautifuls

Wow!
Thank you so much for kind word for Japanese peoples!
I appreciate you!!

papiilo:
yeah. OMG! I was surprised never thought so. I thought Japan and China were one both interms of culture n anguage.

Japanese peoples speaking Japanese.
Chinese peoples speaking Chinese.

LienwaltAbel:
It's not funny honestly. It's painfully annoying. Don't trust that man because I as a Nigerian guy know how terrible most Nigerian men are. I am not saying that Nigerian women are not bad too, but men wahala too much. That man is using you divorce his silly ass and move on. The only idiots that will be laughing at you are his fellow Nigerian friends that would be encouraging him to continue using you. Drop his ass.

Sorry, I made you annoyed?
If I did to you, I'm apologies you. I'm very sorry.

LienwaltAbel san, my Oga is a good person!
I'm still trusting him and I still wanna trust him.
I'm still wanna be with him.

Sometimes I'm a very emotionally and I'm a always very confusing person.
I can't write everythings on internet.
I'm writing and I wrote only few my side of talk.
And many times I pour my emotions.
So, how I write about him is making him looked like a bad person. I never meant do that.
But I did it. This is very very bad about me.

Since when I fell in love with him till now, I'm still in love with him and I can't change it.
We will get more old together
And I think I don't know how to move on.
Maybe I don't wanna know how to move on, because I wanna stay with him.

But Thank you so much!
I really appreciate you!!
I have learned from you about only bad peoples will laughing at me!
I will remember it. Thank you so much!

Please LienwaltAbel san, I wanna know what is meaning Wahara?
Many times I saw it, but I don't know what is meaning.

2Radii:
When we want to make a mockery of a particular country we change it to corntree in Nigeria

Sorry i didn't know u re a japanese, my bad..am sorry for the lousiness, forgive my manners


What i said using my native language is(in translation) All these Abule-egba dwellers sha...





But wait, if truly u re a Japanese, how come u know about a forum in down-down Nigeria?? Have u even bn to this part of the world before??

Oh! That means I'm correct!
Contree meaning country! Yeahhh!! ＼(*´∇｀*)／

Noooo! It's ok! You did nothing wrong!
At least I had fun word "corntree"
Like my Katakana English! When I speak English is like that!
Yes, I'm a Japanese. Hello from Japan!

I checked about it.
Abule-egba is place's name? Close to Lagos?
Dwellers is somebody living there?
Am I correct?
And that means maybe you said or you thought Nigerian person who living Abule-egba saying or claiming he/she is from Japan.
Am I correct?

I can't find out meaning this word "sha".
Please what is meaning sha?
I like to know!

I found out this website when I was very confusing about my marriage.
My husband is a Nigerian man.

I still have never been to Nigeria before.
But I really hope I can visit one day!

Naijatask:
Konbanwa peacefull San, a quick question please.

Are all Japanese girls this trustworthy? Or this is just you?

I like your courage to be sincere and you're a wonderful woman who your husband should have never gotten in the first place.

Konbanwa! Nijatask san!
And Konnichiwa from here!

Oh! trustworthy? Me?! Really?
Thank you so much! I appreciate you!!

I think everywhere have many type of women.
I have heard from my husband about two Japanese women who married with Nigerian man cheated on their husband with Japanese man inside their home and Nigerian husband caught them.
Very disgusting!!

And I have a friend who think men are only for money and sex.
But this kind of a friend I have is only her.
Mostly my friends are married and they are long time relationship with their husband.
Some of them are from their teenage, some of them are from their early 20's etc.
And some friends are divorcee but have boyfriend now.

Mostly my friends think cheating woman is more bad than cheating man.
I also have this kind of think.
I don't know if this our thinking is old fashioned.
But some peoples including older peoples said I'm a old fashioned woman.

Not everybody have same thinking.
Like that one my friend who think men are only for money and sex is never think cheating is bad things.
She thinks like what is wrong if she has having fun or something like that

So, I can say not all Japanese women are trustworthy.
That my friend can never ever trustworthy woman
Depend on person.
Here have good women and bad women.

Thank you so much!
I really appreciate you!!
I really hope I'm a wonderful woman
But I have very bad mouth!

My husband is a very good person!
How I write is making him always looked like a bad person. This is really my bad.
He is a good husband. But because sometimes I'm a so emotionally, I pour my emotions on here. I'm so sorry.

I'm very happy to be with him

marvinsync:
I absolutely respect your decision and wish u good luck, seems we all just assumed the worst in your husband because of several other cases
but you've said u have a good man and I believe that's true



as for the banning, sorry about that , seun needs to work on his anti-spam bot, that thing malfunctions sometimes and bans people wrongly

Thank you so much!
I really appreciate you!!

How I write is making my husband always looked like a bad person. Very bad about me.
My Oga is a really good person!
If he really married with someone and hiding it from me, maybe seems like a not good person.
But I believing that there have reason.

What I saw it is I can only say something like camouflage.
That's what I understand now.
Many many things I still can't understand.
But I will try to understand it.

marvinsync san maybe already know about how much I love playing with my Oga and I'm a his big attention seeker!
I wrote about it before on my diary.

Sometimes I'm jokingly tell him to get another woman who is always ask him to buy this, buy that, take her to here and there, give her luxury life, tell him to do this, do that etc.
Then He will know how much peacefull chan, his wife is a good wife!
Some peoples don't wanna know what they had until when they lost it.

Yessss! I'm praising myself front of Oga like I'm a good wife!

My Oga said he think so too and he told me that many peoples who got a second wife or remarried realized that their first wife or first marriage is better than second wife or second marriage, but they didn't know about it before.
He also told me about somebody's talk who married two times. I think famous person in Nigeria or something like that.

And I asked him When did I ask him to buy this and buy that?! When Did I ask him take me to here and there?! When Did I demand him to give me luxury life?! When Did I tell him to do this and do that?! etc.

Oga said No, I didn't ask him or demand him like that.

Then I praising myself again like Yeahhhh! I'm a good wife!
And I told him, I don't know why somebody san (my Oga) don't know peacefull chan is a good wife
He has something wrong

Oga said he don't know

I maybe wrote this before?!

I don't know if I'm a good wife or bad wife.
Only he knows that.
But I really hope he think I'm a good wife and I will try to be a his good wife!
So, anytime if he tried to be with another women, he will always come back to me!
He can't find out more comfortable place than with me

I have learned seun san is a owner of this website?

I don't know which rules I always broke.
I really don't wanna do that.
Maybe I will get long time banned one day?
Because I already got many many times banned.
I hope I will not get banned again!

marvinsync:
peacefull , you are going through a lot right now, and ur mind can't handle the truth, so to cope you'd much rather believe the easier side than the harder side . maybe we are all wrong and ur husband isn't cheating on u and we are all assuming or maybe we are right,
only u know the truth

u said u Dont want to waste 15+ years of marriage


well DO YOU WANT TO SPEND THE NEXT 20+ YEARS OF THIS?


can u handle more years of distrust and suspicions?

can u waste spend more decades of this,
just trusting him till the end, believing whatever he tells you because its easier

or would it be better to end it soon and go through sometime of heartbreak, maybe a year or so
but u come out stronger , u move on, maybe find somebody else that makes u happy



whatever decision u make I hope ur are happy in the end because u seem like a wonderful lady and I believe u absolutely deserve to be happy .


BTW I am Igbo too and i love ur diary, I must visit Japan ,pls Dont ever stop

My mind can't change. I still can't change my mind and I still can't change my love for him.
I'm still in love with him. I still wanna be with him and I want him to be with me.
Maybe seems like I chose easy side.
Oh! only he knows the truth! I just trusting him than trusting what I saw it.
I still wanna always trying to trust him.
But sometimes my emotions don't wanna try it.
Very very bad about me.

Yes! I don't wanna waste our marriage because of my misunderstanding or just my emotions.
Sometimes I'm so emotionally like yesterday.
I was really hurt.
But what I wrote it is before I talked with him.
This is so bad. Very very bad.

I got hurt by myself.
But my Oga already healed me.

I'm not wasting my time.
Yes! I wanna spend more times with him!
I'm still wanna laughing with him!
We will get more old together!

I'm already decided to allow everythings.
And He is still with me. This is proof about him.
He still caring our relationship. If not, he is already leave me long time ago.
He can't be with me just for paper, for pity etc.
He can never ever do that.
I know this. I know him very well.
But I was believing what I saw it.
I was wishing about I wanna see the truth with my eyes and I thought I saw it with my eyes.
But now, I'm trusting him and I'm trusting what I heard from him.

I know I'm a confusing person.

I'm always getting strong!
But sometimes so weak and so emotionally.
In fact, I really don't like it. But sometimes I really get weak and emotionally.
Really really confusing person.

Anytime anybod can change their feelings, mind etc.
I don't even know if my mind will change one day or if my Oga will change his mind one day.
But at least now, I can't change and I don't think I can change it.

Noooo!
I wanna be with him. Not somebody else.

Wow!! Thank you so much!
I hope I'm a wonderful lady!
My happy is be with him
I appreciate you!!


Oh! Thank you so much for reading my diary!
I will continue to write my diary! I really appreciate you!!
But many times I got banned.
Yes! Yesss!! Welcome to Japan!! Sushi!!

bukatyne:
So sad.

Why do you love him?

Why do you want to stay married to him?

I don't think you are a fool; I think you knew there was something wrong somewhere however insistent on staying married to him (whether he wants you or not).

From the first page, your husband has shown constant disinterest in the marriage. He doesn't want you however afraid to divorce you (probably because of your laws or society).

So he found the best way around it: work away from home, have no kid with you, remarry in Nigeria, take long breaks to Nigeria and never bring you to Nigeria or fly his family to meet you.

In essence, that man is only married to you on paper.

So back to my first two questions:

Why do you love him?

Why do you want to get married to him?

Perhaps the answers would give you the clarity you need.

Oh! bukatyne san!

I'm so sorry!
I wrote too much long!

bukatyne:
So sad.

Why do you love him?

Why do you want to stay married to him?

I don't think you are a fool; I think you knew there was something wrong somewhere however insistent on staying married to him (whether he wants you or not).

From the first page, your husband has shown constant disinterest in the marriage. He doesn't want you however afraid to divorce you (probably because of your laws or society).

So he found the best way around it: work away from home, have no kid with you, remarry in Nigeria, take long breaks to Nigeria and never bring you to Nigeria or fly his family to meet you.

In essence, that man is only married to you on paper.

So back to my first two questions:

Why do you love him?

Why do you want to get married to him?

Perhaps the answers would give you the clarity you need.

I'm so sorry, if I made you feeling sad.
I never meant make anybody feeling sad.
But if I did to you, I'm really sorry. I'm apologies you.
Please don't be sad.

What I wrote yesterday is before I talked with my husband.
I thought I found out the truth.
I believed what I saw it before I talked with him.
This is very very bad about me.
He denied it and I'm still trusting him.

Oh! Because I love him!
Why don't I love him? Why I shouldn't love him?
He is a my husband and sometimes my best friend, sometimes my brother, sometimes my dad etc.
He is a my Oga and hero!
I'm still in love with him like beginning our relationship or more than that time!
He knows me very well and I know him very well.
We know and we understand each other very well.
We had bad times and good times, sometimes had argument, misunderstood each other, get tired etc, just like other peoples.
I just love him since beginning till now and still continue.

Because we are married!
We are husband and wife!
Marriage is not playing or not cheap things.
If we had something problems, we are solving together. Face that problems together.
Not throw away or run away.
Trying to our best to solve problems and make more happy to each other.
Bad times or challenge can make more strong love and more strong bond together.
Of course good times too!
Why I shouldn't respect and cherish our marriage?
Why I should leave our marriage?
Marriage is not like changing clothing, changing make up etc.
Our marriage is like a baby!
Growing, growing and growing.
Not like flowers like just short time is beautiful.
Not like that.

Thank you so much for your kind words!
I appreciate you!!
But sometimes I'm a really fool person!
Yes, many times I was feeling like something wrong our marriage.
Feeling like something strange our marriage.
But I know every marriage is different. Not everybody have same marriage life.
But I thought our marriage is maybe because of our different cultures, different traditional etc.
When I joined this website and I wrote about my marriage, I was really confusing, weak, emotionally etc.

I didn't wanna ruin our marriage because of my misunderstanding or just because my doubting.
So, I thought and I still think if I learned about his country, his culture etc, I can understand him more and more, and we can make more good and more strong our relationship!

But seems like my Oga is a really different
Sometimes I tell him about he is a too different from what I read and what I learned.

He don't need to afraid about anything.
I don't know why many peoples talking about paper?
Please if Nigerian peoples married with foreigners, most of peoples think that marriage is just for paper?
I had read about it.
But he already have papers. He don't need me to live and work in here.
He don't need to stay with me for paper.

And if he truly married with me for papers, he is already leave me. Already dump me long time ago.
That's my Oga!
And that's one of the reason, I can trust him.
He is still with me meaning he still caring about me and caring our marriage!

We are always trying to live together again.
He still always trying to come back to our house and spend time with me whenever he has time.

How I wrote is making him look like a bad person.
But No, I was so emotionally and confusing.
I pour my emotions. Never meant make him a bad person. But I did it. I'm feeling so guilty.
He is a good person and he is always trying to make me happy.
But my Oga is difficult person and very stubborn man!
And sometimes I'm so emotionally.
Feel so lonely, missing him so badly etc.
Oh! and our character is too different!

Anyway, Thank you so much!
I really appreciate you!!
I'm still wanna be with him and that's making me happy!

LienwaltAbel:
Nigerian men! Pocohantas, come and see something

Sorry, What is funny to you?
Because I said I still wanna trust my husband?
I know I maybe sound like funny to some peoples.
I know maybe some peoples laughing at me.
But I wanna trust him and I wanna be with him.
That's making me happy.
Is that so funny? or so bad?

Naijatask:
Konbanwa peacefull San.

I've always loved Japan even since I started watching anime 5 years ago.

Does anime portray the Japanese culture I see? Like the wife always in her traditional kimono robe while serving food to her husband?

Konbanwa! Naijatask san!

Thank you so much for writing Japanese to me!
I appreciate you!!

Wow!! You love Japan?
Thank you so much! I'm very happy to hear that!
I really appreciate you!!

No, peoples don't wearing Kimono daily these days.
That's old days.
Even my both late grandma (dad side and mom side) didn't wear Kimono daily.
Maybe they wear it daily when they were young.
But peoples wear it ceremonial occasions, coming up age ceremony etc.
And some peoples love Kimono and they are wearing it daily.

Nwaotu10:
I would love to migrate to japan and possibly marry a Japanese woman.
Any help?

Oh! Really?!
Migrate to marry with a Japanese woman?

Sorry, I can't help you.
I wish you to good luck!!
Please don't get a bad Japanese woman like me!

BJanta:
I like you , especial your kindness, candour and honesty. Japanese must be an extremely nice, gentle and patient people from the tone of your posts.

Thank you so much for your kind words!
I appreciate you!!

Oh! Yesss!
Here have many many good peoples like any other countries!
Just like Nigeria! I have met many many good Nigerian peoples on this website!

Zombiedients:
Don't worry about that guy....he is just a noise maker and constitutes noise pollution.

I have lived in Japan for many years and I love it.

I have traveled to other parts of the world and I still can't find any country closer to Japan in moral, respect and discipline.

Oh! No, No, Noooo!
Not noise maker. Please don't say like that, Please.
He is sharing about his experience and sharing about Japanese language.
I really appreciate him!

Wow!!
You have lived in Japan?!
I'm glad to heard that!!

Thank you so much for your kind words about Japan!
I appreciate you!!