QuinQQ: Simple resson: if you've had a child since infancy, he is your child and you're his father and you're obligated to take care of that child till age of maturity. That's how Nature intended it. It is NOT sperm that makes you someone's father! Other people fight for custody of children tooth and nail. You don't have to do any of that. He's your child and you get ALL the benefits of fatherhood. He carries your name, references you as his father, and if he ever becomes something ALL fatherhood glory will go to you!
May God deliver you from who ever brainwashed you.
KiNg0G: Just this year alone, I have had sex with over 20 prostitutes. It's almost like I am cursed or swear for with this kind of lifestyle.
While people were in church Jan 1st I broke my resolution before the year even started, had marathon sex that night and one would think it will be enough but it never is.
Before then I have been trying to change the whole last weeks of December, even on Christmas eve and the 25th I was still holding myself, the urge to patronise them kept calling but I kept my cool was adamant on my resolution but on new year eve I lost it all and the relapse is so bad that I haven't rested since Jan 1.
From one brothel to another, different spots carrying daybreak, short time. I have lost a huge amount of weight within this 2weeks but I can't just stopped it's almost like I am jazzed... like a reflex action that I don't even think, it just happens..
I know it's the price I got to pay for starting with prostitute in my teenage days and it became a habit but now it's getting worse and I'm starting to think this isn't normal, they've gotten to me.
If I know anyone to go tomorrow to get a permanent solution even if it means paying for it I will. I met a pharmacist sometime last year if there's any medication I can take to kill my sex drive. He didn't give me a reasonable response, I just need help on how to reprogram my life, my brain to live like a normal human being with purpose and focus in life other than patronising prostitutes..it gets so bad that I take loans from friends and app to expense this lifestyle. I can't watch 2026 passed me by yet again with this kind of living. Now I am sober but give me 24hrs time especially tomorrow Sunday, I'm back to the same ways.
I need help.
Good evening brother, I read your story and it's touching. I'm also in this category but as for me I don't go there frequently just maybe once or twice (hardly twice). What I think you can do is to have a babe or get married but most importantly nah prayer and self control. God go help us. Don't forget you are not alone and u are closer to getting your freedom because you are beginning to check your lifestyle and you know it's not a normal life to live on having sex with different women. God will help us.
Ehismarkninetee: I was introduced to Tramadol in 2015 because I complained to him that I wasn’t lasting long during sex. So he prescribed Tm to me. At first I hated the feeling I just took it because it really helped with the early ejaculation.
Fast forward to 2020; I am now fully attended to this evil, it is now holding me by my neck, choking me . But I cannot seem to let go.
Tramadol has taken a lot from me; My pride, my focus, my Looks, my health, my family and most importantly my finances. I have had serious seizures that nearly took my life with my family members as witness. Now they know my situation and they are indeed very disappointed in me.
I had another seizure yesterday but the worst part of it is that it wasn’t only the seizure, I was acting demented with my clothes off. I take nothing less than 1500mg daily.
It has ruined everything because just calculate how much I have to spend for this evil everyday. For example I didn’t miss one last year 2024. It seems am now powerless to this evil. I cannot hustle anymore, I just want to take Tramadol and just lock myself indoors, all my friends have left me behind but am still living with my mum at age 31. Indeed am tired. Am really tired
I need help to stop this. I have prayed, I have tried everything. It’s not working. Please has anyone been in the situation before?? Please help me!!!!!
My dear brother, I don't know where to start telling my own story but what I can assure u is that you can get over the addiction of drugs. Before I was a strong addict. I took tramadol almost everyday and I also smoke weed. There is no day especially last year that a day will pass without me taking weed. It got to a point that if I don't smoke weed I won't be able to eat. Bro my story is a very long one but today I am completely free from those things. Ask God for the grace to do away with it and most importantly you yourself need to be well determine to stop it. You will not die bro if you stop it. It's one step at a time.
the way am seeing this lady call dammy, I can tell you that she is broke and looking for a way to make some money back by going back to portable. Portable will regret it at last and nobody will come to his aid.
princepee: What's mystery about the woman Or you rather see him with a Man? The man is Rich and he is having fun. If I have his money, I will be like king Solomon.
Numerouno94: A whole Russian General taken out like a Christmas chicken in Moscow in this 21st Century.
Guys, his not an ordinary General; A General incharge of Russia's Nuclear, Biological, and Chemical Protection Troops, taken out in his own territory. Come on, the joke is on Russia.
EriMma1: Even though some religious settings kick against it, I don't really see anything wrong there. If you truly love and care for each other, it won't affect your relationship.or marriage or even encourage any form of drifting or cheating. After all, when you guys were dating, you were sleeping apart for the most part of it, yet you got married.
I'm big on personal space and privacy especially when sleeping. Most times before I finally retire for the night, Im usually on the phone for hours and this might disturb the other person or means I'll have to adjust and drop the habit which may not sit well with me, like sort of inconveniencing myself. So, I'll rather just be apart.
Another reason I don't really fancy the idea of a shared space is because, some men don't know how to sleep. some just want to use you as pillow, holding you while sleeping and at the end of the day you don't get to sleep well or even sleep at all. That's not bonding, you're depriving yourself of good quality sleep which will take a toll on your health in the long run. If you want to bond, during the day, we could cuddle each other and have our lovey dovey moments ( not sex) It could even be at the beach. So there should be time and space for everything.
I remember the last time I visited my guy. He wouldn't let me sleep and I just hated him for it. He wanted to use me as pillow. Go now oga, he just wants to rest his big head on my tommy and chest. Na so I push am go one corner. Sofri go for ground on cold tiles and slept off like a baby. Next morning baba dey tell me say, "I was just looking at you last night" huh.. I said "and so? Make person no sleep because she come visit you. Abeg park well. Even if we were married, I would have still done the same thing. I love my sleep!
Lastly, whether you sleep in the same room in each other's arms o or sleep in separate rooms, person wey wan cheat go still cheat. A man will remove hisi wife's hand from his body and still go meet Ekaete for her room sleep with her. So why deprive myself of natures beautiful gift for one yeye bonding wey no work? Bondfire!
Tife270: I have a challenge which I need to overcome ASAP in this new year. I’m averagely good looking ( probably a 6/10), I find it difficult to say ‘NO’ to the financial requests of female friends, although I get laid in return sometimes. I have seen guys that do not spend much on ladies and they seem to attract a lot of ladies. Those category of guys also get laid lot of times without spending much. How do guys pull stunts like this?
My dear brother, the truth of the matter is that keeping a lady will cost you money. You will spend money but it depends on how you step up your game. I have learnt this from my past relationships. Let me give you an instance, there is this girl I meet in my okacpof work. I will say we became friends the day she ate my vegetable soup (I worked as a cook) so not too long she invited me over to her house and we became friends like that but nothing like s*x on the first visit. But I don't want to rush into her because I no laslas nah money the thing go chop. Womanizing will cost you your single dime ooo, no say I no tell you.
envoymedia: Jay Jay Okocha And Wife, Nkechi Celebrate Their 25th Wedding Anniversary (Photos)
Former Nigerian footballer and ex-Super Eagles captain, Austin Jay Jay Okocha has taken to his Instagram handle to celebrate 25th wedding anniversary with his wife, Nkechi, today January 3, IGBERETV reports.
He shared a photo of himself and his wife with the caption;
Lade18: Recently met this single lady of one. Been the one footing her bills and sending her daughter (5yrs old) to school. She told me She wouldn't let us have sex until she sees I'm committed and reality love her. Although, that's not the reason I'm talking care of her daughter, I just naturally love to spend for people I care about. Just recently, she's wanting to know how much I give my mom and why I'm the one sending her money when she has a shop and making her money.
Yesterday, she told me I don't love her enough. That, if I can open a shop for my mom , then I can do more for her. But I wasn't the one that opened the shop for her, I just supported her.
Now, we had sex for the first time last month and has been denying me sex since then. Yesterday, she came around and I initiated sex, she denied. She told me if we're ever gonna be together, I should learn how to be a man. In her world, being a man involve me cooking, laundry, take her out, and clean. I told her that's cool. But I don't know what a woman will be doing in a House if she's not working while I'm the one footing her bills. If I ask her this, she would get angry.
My fellow men, why are the requirements for sex getting on the increase these Days? Is that they way it's supposed to be?
Hello bro, sex is not that hard to get as you may think. There are some things women love that will always want them to come back again. Firstly you must be neat and be a caring man and not just spending alone and secondly you must be in cooking too and in the other room. This three things I said here is one of the top notch ladies desire most in men. I don't want to talk much bro make e no be like say I dey make mouth.
Blessedmercy8: Someone raised this question in church last week being a family weekend in my denomination. She asked if it's right for christian couple to do other sex styles apart from the "mummy and daddy " style and there were mixed reactions from the youth and some of our old school parents.
One elderly woman said, there's only one way to the door while some young mothers said if both parties agree then it's fine but I ( representing the youth) was of the opinion that it's a sin. This didn't go down well with some of our middle aged mommies until I backed it up with some points..
One of the mommies was like, since they are now married, they own their bodies and can do whatever they like with it but I countered her by asking if such styles glorify God.
I went on to ask where such styles were copied from... Pornography. This dirty styles were not in existence before now and was not practised by our forefathers; even if it was, it was probably during Sodom and Gomorrah and we all know God's take on their actions. Now bringing to our own time, these styles became popular when pornography took over the internet and most couples practicing it learnt it from pornographic contents ( which is a sin) probably during their worldly days and are now gradually bringing such practice into the church and trying to paint it nice by saying their bodies belong to each other therefore they can do anything.
Pornography where these styles emanated from is a sin and this makes the practice of such styles a sin as it doesn't give glory to God but the devil. As christians, I believe everything should be done in moderation and to the glory of God.
Remember, your body is the temple of the holy spirit. So, do not use worldly practices and fetishes to defile your bodies.
What you guys think?
Modified.
Ok guys, I see everyone trying to justify this act by saying it's not stated anywhere in the bible what styles couples should do but at the same time condeming the act of anal sex. What a double standard.
Now, if we are to go by your submissions, where is it stated in the bible that the VJ is the right entrance and not anal?
Were Adam and Eve taught where to use, going by your argument? No, they chose it themselves. So why kick against anal if I can't kick against different styles?
This shows that we all have a sense of right and wrong and should be able to do the right thing and not try to bend it to favor us when it's not convenient reason some can say anal sex is wrong and different styles is not right. Simple!
So on judgement day, if God ask me what have I done with my talents make I come dey look abi? Abeg talk for yourself ooo
bestdudes: When you say I attract such, I laugh cos how do you know what someone is made up of if you do not interact with them?
Is it written on their head?
I am not the first to experience it neither will I be the last. The point I was trying to make is that women can’t eat their cake and have it.
You can’t be the one with repulsive attitude and still wonder why decent guys are not coming for you.
I don’t know what you are reading or comprehending from all I wrote.
Yet , you try to make excuse for the girls and blame me who chose to avoid trouble after I notice red flags.
This I had experience many times and I have come to the conclusion that very many of those single ladies that are desperately looking for whom to marry has in one way or the other missed their golden opportunity to meet their man. Up till now even the younger girls are still exhibiting this same character. Tomorrow they will now be running from one mountain to another for life partner.
Basiljoe: "Monogamy (as we know it) is really a tool for low SMV men to socially ensure reproduction and paternity (at least in theory)." - Rational Male
"Monogamy is a byproduct, not a goal. One of the biggest obstacles guys have with Plate Theory is breaking themselves of this ‘LTR-as-Goal’ mentality." - Book 1, RM
"Spin plates for as long as possible, because once you do commit to an LTR, even with the tightest of Game you will lose a measure of the competitive anxiety that made your attentions valuable to any one woman." - Book 1, RM
Like I said before, most Nigerian men don't understand what's going on or even get what "game" is all about.
So far as men keep neglecting their innate hard-wired evolutionary mating strategy: which is to spread their seeds to as much sexual partners as available, they will keep running into problems stemming from oneitis, monogamy-as-a-goal and the soul mate myth.
You don't just make a single woman the sole source of your intimacy, her ego will show you shege.
More men should expect divorce. Cause women fundamentally cannot appreciate the sacrifices men are expected to make. Sacrifices to facilitate her reality.
Frame is everything. I doubt the frame Oritse femi set for her was healthy enough for a LTR.
[quote author=Meektunz post=117869548]Been married for over 5 years now and ever since my wife gave birth to my first child, I've been suspecting that it's not my child due to no sense of resemblance.
I finally did a DNA test but unfortunately the result shows that I'm not the father of my first child. No doubt my wife loves me so much and honestly she has done a lot, sacrificed alot for me.
My conscience never allowed me to end the marriage because honestly she is a good wife one could ever ask for though she has her bad sides.
Since the result came out, I never told her or confronted her because I'm very very certain that once I confront her the marriage will end cos alot will happen but everyday once I see the boy and remember, I get so angry but after some time when we are all playing as a family I will forget.
I still do everything a father could do for his son. Honestly it's not easy to forget about everything.
What do you advise me to do guys?[/quote Hinestly speaking untill you hut the nail on the head, you can't have that peace of mind. Man up and confronts your wife, don't be scared of the outcome or whatever, abi nah she put you for house? Abeg do the needful else the memories of that shits will keep coming to your mind. If you do not take the necessary steps now, it may lead to depression and you may find yourself being addicted to drugs, and alchoalco consumption. Pls take action abeg
Interesting15: Romantic relationship with the opposite gender has placed many young folks into grevious issues that has left terrible indelible scars on a lot of them; while some have been unfortunately sent directly or indirectly to their early graves by these sweet-turned-sour affairs. It's been six months now, I no knack kpekus, no be say e no dey hungry me too but I just want to stay off it for now because having it at the wrong time is not good. If I see any babe dey look me nah to carry my face commot, I no dey send Dem again coz they will make sure they drain you finish and go to the next target.
The core reason young people will keep having unpleasant experiences from boyfriend and girlfriend romantic relationships is because it was never in the original Will and Plan of God - the Wise Creator of everything, in the first place.
The Will of God is that when a man (not a boy) has attained a certain stature where marriage can be embraced, (after such a man has discovered his identity and purpose on earth), He (God) should be approached to provide a woman (not a girl) who will become his wife. After God has provided the woman, prior to marriage, the couple embark on what we call courtship, where they learn to know more about themselves (in an attempt to make necessary adjustments before they tie the knot), and must not defile the marriage bed during the courting period (that is, must not indulge in premarital sex).
There are different things that attempts to compell young people into a romantic relationship at the wrong time and in the wrong manner. There will be members of the opposite gender who wants to pull you into a romantic relationship when it's wrong. Your parents might even be an agent of pressure - trying to force you into a relationship directly or indirectly. Your friends and even the media are also prominent agents. Nevertheless, you must be resolute and be patient enough to do the right thing at the right time.
Now, this is one of the major things pushing many young people into premature romantic relationships and entanglements outside God's Will for them. Loneliness (or the fear of it). Two major things sponsors this: idlness and lack of self esteem (thinking you are totally not complete without a partner).
Even at the basic level, an important solution to eradicating loneliness is getting busy and occupied. Now, I'm aware that some (probably many) young people still feel empty even as they are occupied with several jobs. There are several things to say about that. One is, the emptiness they feel might emanates as a result of neglect of certain important things, such as an intimate relationship with God their Creator (which means, in such a case, the problem is not about loneliness). Also, it is possible to be engaged with several things and still feel inadequate, if you are engaging yourself in things that doesn't bring fulfilment (particularly things that are not God's purpose for you).
Hence, two things I've seen worked for me as well as some other persons I know, are:
1. Being very occupied with seeking and knowing GOD 2. Being very occupied with purpose exploration
A primary function of man is to seek, know and keep exploring God. The truth is, God is very deep and inexhaustible. Even the 24 elders who have been with Him for ages, are yet to know all about Him. And I must tell you, GOD is very exciting, and we can't have enough of Him. Focus on knowing God and you won't be empty. You will get to a stage where you enjoy spending hours alone with God in the secret place, and you enjoy God's presence, always looking forward to the daily experience. The first step is to make Jesus Christ your Lord and Savior.
Finally, get busy with discovering yourself, your talents and gifts and purpose, and occupy yourself with developing and deploying. These things brings fulfilment, and you won't have time for unproductive affairs.
If you are in an immoral relationship with a member of the opposite gender, break it immediately. Receive grace to do so in Jesus Name. Amen.
Interesting15: Romantic relationship with the opposite gender has placed many young folks into grevious issues that has left terrible indelible scars on a lot of them; while some have been unfortunately sent directly or indirectly to their early graves by these sweet-turned-sour affairs.
The core reason young people will keep having unpleasant experiences from boyfriend and girlfriend romantic relationships is because it was never in the original Will and Plan of God - the Wise Creator of everything, in the first place.
The Will of God is that when a man (not a boy) has attained a certain stature where marriage can be embraced, (after such a man has discovered his identity and purpose on earth), He (God) should be approached to provide a woman (not a girl) who will become his wife. After God has provided the woman, prior to marriage, the couple embark on what we call courtship, where they learn to know more about themselves (in an attempt to make necessary adjustments before they tie the knot), and must not defile the marriage bed during the courting period (that is, must not indulge in premarital sex).
There are different things that attempts to compell young people into a romantic relationship at the wrong time and in the wrong manner. There will be members of the opposite gender who wants to pull you into a romantic relationship when it's wrong. Your parents might even be an agent of pressure - trying to force you into a relationship directly or indirectly. Your friends and even the media are also prominent agents. Nevertheless, you must be resolute and be patient enough to do the right thing at the right time.
Now, this is one of the major things pushing many young people into premature romantic relationships and entanglements outside God's Will for them. Loneliness (or the fear of it). Two major things sponsors this: idlness and lack of self esteem (thinking you are totally not complete without a partner).
Even at the basic level, an important solution to eradicating loneliness is getting busy and occupied. Now, I'm aware that some (probably many) young people still feel empty even as they are occupied with several jobs. There are several things to say about that. One is, the emptiness they feel might emanates as a result of neglect of certain important things, such as an intimate relationship with God their Creator (which means, in such a case, the problem is not about loneliness). Also, it is possible to be engaged with several things and still feel inadequate, if you are engaging yourself in things that doesn't bring fulfilment (particularly things that are not God's purpose for you).
Hence, two things I've seen worked for me as well as some other persons I know, are:
1. Being very occupied with seeking and knowing GOD 2. Being very occupied with purpose exploration
A primary function of man is to seek, know and keep exploring God. The truth is, God is very deep and inexhaustible. Even the 24 elders who have been with Him for ages, are yet to know all about Him. And I must tell you, GOD is very exciting, and we can't have enough of Him. Focus on knowing God and you won't be empty. You will get to a stage where you enjoy spending hours alone with God in the secret place, and you enjoy God's presence, always looking forward to the daily experience. The first step is to make Jesus Christ your Lord and Savior.
Finally, get busy with discovering yourself, your talents and gifts and purpose, and occupy yourself with developing and deploying. These things brings fulfilment, and you won't have time for unproductive affairs.
If you are in an immoral relationship with a member of the opposite gender, break it immediately. Receive grace to do so in Jesus Name. Amen.
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God go bless you for this write-up, you are absolutely right and I think I know this eaeliea before I go into these fake relationship in the past, I wouldn't have done so. I'm grateful today because am living and enjoying my happiness and peace of mind. I'm still praying to God and hoping to meet my own wife one day. God bless you op
AdamuKD: I don't know but my feelings is telling me that the problem must have been from that boy. He looks like a chronic and unrepentant womanizer. These days, when I attend either traditional or weddings and see how happy the couple's are especially the ladies, I just laugh within me because they don't really know what they are getting themselves into. After the whole noise, when they get home, their eyes go clear by force. I know what I am saying because I'm married too. If you think that I am lying , ask any couple around u
The only sweetness in marriage na money and pikin period. If you lack any of these two things or both, your marriage will be hell on earth
What have said is nothing but the truth. He who has ear let him hear.
taylor88: If you’re a boy who’s still in his 20’s Abeg just impregnate like 4 women and hand over your kids to your parents
If the mother no gree release the child leave him/her with the mom and still pay him/her bills when e grow e go ask for him father
Just hustle hard to take care of their bills
Marriage is trash
Only focus on Olosho and friends with benefit
I gave up on relationship after fvcking so many guys serious girlfriends and fiancé
That’s when I knew relationships and marriages in Nigeria are useless
Me self tire for relationship, looking back at the things have done to some girls who claims to be in serious relationship with their guy. My brother nah fake Dem be
My mother usually takes care of her but her aunty decided to come this time.
I usually have sex with my wife 2 weeks after she puts to bed. It pains her a little but I am very gentle with her. She knows I am not a cheating husband that is why.
Last night as I tried to make love to her, she was crying as usual. Before you know it, her aunty started banging the door and was shouting that I want to kill my wife.
I felt so embarrassed and went tried to explain to her that it’s not so. She said if I try it again she will carry my wife and children back to the village and will return her bride price.
She asked me to wait for at least 4 months before I touch my wife again which I promised her I will as I did not want her to report to my wife’s family.
What can I do? I don’t want to cheat on my wife and I don’t want to disrespect my Inlaw by sending her away. She is a nice woman but she is making me uncomfortable in my own home.
Why not give her some time for her to get over the pain of childbirth. Infact there's no how you can sex your wife that period that can make you to enjoy it. Be patient ooo bro.
obembet: I believe everyone has a picture of their dream husband/ wife in their head but sometimes destiny and journey through life might change everything.
It’s always good to marry a wo-man with a good job, but the nature of the job will also determine how effective the woman will be as a wife and as a mother to the children, also how responsible the husband will be.
If you are to marry based on a person's profession, who will you want to marry?
Me I will like to marry a trader and not busy body woman aka iya Philo
Ilekokonit: Once husband and wife sleep in different beds or in different rooms, the marriage is almost over and may not last for very long
Husband and wife have no business sleeping in different beds or in different rooms.
The excuse some women give is that they are nursing a baby who must breast feed through the night and thats a fair point but at some point, the baby will stop feeding on breast milk and at that point, the baby can go and sleep in his or her cot and not in the parents marital bed and after some time he or she or they if twins have to go and sleep in their own room and let Mum and Dad have the needed private time so that they can bond if their young marriage is to survive long after their children have left home (which they will someday).
But the mistake a lot of women make is to over prioritize their time with their baby / toddler to the detriment of their marriage. Why go into a marriage when at the first sign of a baby, the wife imports the baby permanently into her marital bed under the guise of breastfeeding and in some cases even when the child is more than 3 years old, he or she is still sleeping beside the mum at night and often times the man has been stylishly shunted to sleeping in another room and even if chairman wan nack during the day, the 3 year old child is furiously banging on the door for the parents to open the door because the child has been made to always feel he or she has to be beside the Mum.
But wives who want their marriage to last will know where to draw the line and give unto Caesar what is Caesar's in a TIMELY manner.
A word is enough for the wise woman who wants her marriage to last way past when the kids will have left home to start their own families.
Have always think about this for a very long time now how married men cope with this even after their wife might have gotten kids and how they manage their privacy.
LawMan44: I pray God answer my own prayers o because I am just existing and hanging on to a little thread . I'm continually having scare, fear and anxiety. Sometimes I have contemplated suicide.
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What's mystery about the woman