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Duchess90 you are really trying responding to people so early in the morning .God bless you for all you do .

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Tragic.....

The videos are heart wrenching.......
Even the place of worship is no longer safe........ Nigeria..

cowboyvs:
English is not our mother tongue. As I said earlier, she is Edo and I am Igbo. Besides, she is a brilliant girl. I am jst disappointed with her whori*h tendencies. I know nobody is perfect but I can’t live with a cheating partner. I can’t tolerate that.

In every relationship there should be limits ie what you can accept and what you can't tolerate, if you can't tolerate her cheating on you then let her go. when trust is missing in a relationship then what is left?
Please Op let her go because if you marry her, you will live your life together being suspicious of her always and that is a lifetime problem.

Look Op no court of law will grant you custody of a four years old child and considering what transpired between you and your wife I believe that child is safer with her mother.
You have hurt your wife terribly but work on yourself and pray that your wife finds a place in her heart to forgive you.

[quote author=Stereotypes post=109549323]The way people gloss over rape on NL is shocking.So many sick men or boys here.

The Op said he slapped his wife till blood was pouring from her face.Does that sound like one slap to you? Is his hand  made of iron? This man probably punched her face till she bled.

His wife must've been screaming and struggling with him,but what did he do?

He had an erec tion which he proceeded to put into a terrified woman who's vag ina was dry.

What happens when a vagina is dry? It gets bruises and tears,Op continued to fu ck till he ejac ulated.
Who gets turned on till ejaculation with a partner who is bleeding,struggling and dry down there? Does this sound normal to you sickos?

Next day,his wife must've had a bruised face ,traumatised psyche and a battered bleeding  vag ina,and Op expects her to be fine  just because he said sorry.

Then you sick fu cks expect her to have recovered instantly and accepted it as punishment for not having secks for 2 months.

No one is taking into account the sort of trauma he has caused her.This will be with her forever.The woman is so traumatised that she hasn't said a word to him since that day and you people are here talking rubbish.

So, if he asks her something and she says no,what next? Beat out another blood and shove it in again? You people have no concept of trauma ,the effect of seeing someone that loves you become a monster ,beat out blood and then proceed to be aroused from it Disgusting!

There are a lot of ways to deal with lack of sex for 2 months.Forceful intercourse garnished with iron fisted slaps is not the way.

Imagine saying her parents are not welcoming you? No atom of self awareness in your bones.
They have said she needs time,leave her alone and let her have that time.Its not in your place to dictate how she should deal with what has happened.

A lot of you have daughters or will have daughters abi? No problem.



God bless you

MALIGNANTGuest:
Yeah.
It's too bad.
It's impossible to eradicate poverty.
The reason is simple:
While some people and countries are making effort to lift theirs out of poverty, some others are hell bent at ensuring POVERTY permeates every nook & cranny of the human space.
Some people are busy recycling it.
Ensuring it stays and gives birth.

I ask again!
How can a Teacher be paid 8k monthly?
What will such a Teacher be teaching her kids?
What's the Teacher still doing in that school?

IF she's saying the truth, then I may have to register her under our NGO in the United States.
She has to be supported for at least 5 years.

OP please help whoever your spirit leads you to help because a lot of people are going through the unimaginable especially here in Nigeria. How I wish I could also be in a position to help like you are doing?

MALIGNANTGuest:
Update your profile like the other John did.
U are getting something too.

May God bless you for helping others.

jos4kay:
Don't because of 2 beating in the past cancel your wedding. The man might have realized his mistake and vowed never to raise hand against women again

I once beat my gf now my wife, that time she really needed that slap to reset her mode. Since I never beat her.

Women need resetting once in a while. You never told us what you did to warrant only 2 beating in 4 years relationship

See talk....... imagine...... so you are saying the beating is small abi.

Rest in the bossom of the Lord Pastor Dare Adeboye. This is indeed a great loss.

May Gods judgement be upon the rapist.

Your English sucks and you're a liar.

Why do you give birth to children you are not ready to care for? Why ? Why?
Why deny the innocent child of parental care and affection?

OP thanks for this tips.

Congratulations madam, God bless and protect these beautiful children.

OP please leave every other thing for now and take the baby to the hospital ASAP. You can go to the nearest govt. hospital.

Don't worry your baby will be fine.God Almighty will heal her.

Your story is so emotional, I was moved to tears while reading this it's filled with life lessons for everyone and am sure going to show my junior ones this story.

For anyone having suicidal thoughts please learn from the OP..... There would always be a light at the end of the tunnel. Suicide cannot be the only option ,know that you are not the only one going through that particular problem. You are to come out of that challenge a stronger person.

To the OP believe that this is the beginning of great and mighty things that God has in store for you. God will take you to heights you never thought you could reach. It is well with you.

Madam OP don't ever protect a rapist, report your brother to the law. If you have a good consience you will take a stand and do what is right .

Imagine the pain that little 11year old girl would have gone through.,..what if she was your daughter.... Would you have told her to forgive your brother......

Your brother is evil and you and your sons are not save with him.
Report to your husband and get that girl treated.... I just hope she is not scarred for life......

Vyvyanvyvy:
Yes I am very happy to have my son , I feel good that I did not abandon him just for a man who never love me , he just come to my life for the world to see him as a hero for marrying me a single mother of 2. I have no gained anything in this marriage , it’s better for me to be a single mother than to reject my blood and flesh. I know it will not be easy but God will help me to raise my children all alone , I thank God I have my shop something that fetched me money , my children will never starved of anger , they will go to school as usual and nothing will change. For now all I want is for him to bring my child back to me because he cannot take care of her , at the moment my child is with his sister so what’s the point of taking her away from me then to abandon her with his sister ? The same sister that cannot even love her own blood and flesh so is she gonna love my child too? If he wanted to take care of his daughter on his own why can’t he rent a place and take care of her ? He did it because he taught by doing so , I will send my son on the street so I can beg him to come back home , never , all I’m begging him to do is to bring back my child , she is the one that I need , I don’t need him , he can go ahead and remarry , it will not shake me . You and others can rain insults on me but let me tell you one thing , all your insult doesn’t bother me , I’m not regretting loosing my marriage because I did what any true mother in my position would have do in my shoe. Like said my son will always be first no matter what. Let me attached the picture of the 3 people that gives me happiness my children my life.

Wow! See beautiful children that God has blessed you with. This children shall be a source of joy to you and all that you need to take care of them God Almighty will provide for you. Thank you so much for not abandoning your son ,please train him and his siblins in the right path and the good lord shall reward your efforts over them.

Please plead with your husband to bring back your daughter(she is to young to be seperated from you) involve the elderly ones in your famillies or any concerned person to wade into this issue.

Please ignore every negativity as you can see a lot of people commenting here don't have a child not to talk of children and therefore do not know what it feels like.

Relax God is in control and he makes everything beautiful in his own time.


For the OP husband..... My advice for you is that You have a beautiful family ,don't let pride,anger or ego deprive you of what you have.Go back home and reunite with your family. Decide in your heart to be a good father to ALL your children and you shall forever gain the love and respect of your wife and the peace of God shall reign in your home.

Most of the comments I've seen on this thread comes from people who are :

-neither married nor are they parents
-some never grew up in love
-while some are immature

Some are here to insult the OP and anything that has to do with the female gender forgetting they have mothers and sisters too.
Well, I believe the OP brought this issue to the family section to get advice from matured and responsible men and women and so let's be guided in what we post.

OP wipe away your tears and trust in God. I want you to know that you did the right thing by not not abandoning your child.

obakovich:
I guess you are happy now. God will never punish him my dear, he will live long and take care of your girl. I told you to talk to him gently its a delicate matter but you followed a wrong advice. You could have sent your son to stay with your husbands relative.

So you are blaming a woman for deciding to be a mother to her son. I guess when you have your own children you will understand.

Dear OP, I can feel what you are going through presently. Please try and call your husband to atleast release your little girl to you or better still get people he listens to, maybe family to plead with him to return your daughter to you.
Please calm down, you don't need all this stress considering your condition and have faith in God for divine intervention.

Please OP for the sake of your daughter don't do it, think of her as the reason why you should live please.

Dear OP when you get your son apologize to him for neglecting him all this while, show him love and let him know that he is very important to you, But please l beg you train him well with the fear of God and with God on your side you will be proud of him.
For your husband, don't resent him plead with him still .
But please in everything your children comes first.

Dear OP I am also a mother like you and I can tell you with all sincerity that your son is your responsibility and therefore must stay with you.
These children have been given to you by God to nurture and train in the right direction, if you fail in your duty as a parent God will judge you, But if you train them in the right way God will bless you.
And please I beg you don't put the boy in a boarding school, most of the problems we have with the youths today started from some of these boarding schools.
Take your son with you, he is your own and that is the most important thing.

honestman1987:
pls, I need advice concerning this issue I am presently going through.
we have been courting for more than three years we did introduction last year and we fixed our wedding for February 2020.
recently my mother called me that a prophet told her that i should not marry her that she is not my wife and that if i go ahead something terrible might happen. please, people, give advice on what to do.

Pls op go to God in prayer yourself with a clear heart and he will direct your path.