So Obua, what happened to your car?

Oooh how naïve we are! No-one here has apparently heard of industrial espionage?
It’s a shame that these valuable items were stolen bit lets not assume that this was done by half baked illiterate house burglars. Stealing moulds? Stealing Plans?

What a shame. There goes another Nigerian dream.

Now I have to bite my tongue on this one, as for beauty without brawn, that is without hearing what's in their brains, here are my Picks.

Oyo, Niger and Delta

If someone knows anythng about their intelligence then we can re-arrange the list. Beauty is the sum of many parts not just the looks.

Every Nigerian discussion always ends with people pointing fingers. Yoruba's this, Ibo;s that. Pure balderdash.
anyway if the truth is to be told, only ignorant people are tribalists. Intelligent people know that regardless of where your come from we are all the same people, including none Nigerians.

On the subject of beauty. It is rare that two people agree on the same thing. What looks beautiful to one person doesn't to another. My comment about the big nose was a joke. Afterall the current MBGN has a big nose. I was pandering to a European concept of beauty.

Here's my observation, I know three men that will never have problems of fighting over women. One likes dark slim women, the other likes dark big women and the third likes light skin "Euro concept women".

Silverbird is not looking for the most beautiful women in Nigeria ala Nigerian woman, they are looking for a girl that go on to win international competitions ala Western looks so let's not deceive ourselves.

For me, I spent last Friday night with two of the most beautiful Nigerian women alive today, one is a former MBGN, (can't say who) and I'm certain regardless of our difference in impression you will agree with me that they are indeed beautiful. Hopefully with their permission, I will post their pictures.

PS: Some people say I'm not bad looking either, check out my profile.

And Miss Oyo too, and Miss Ekiti too. They all have Ibo names. Where are all the Yorubas?

They all have big noses so they did not make the screening

I think the handsome men appear to cheat more because they are attractive and thereby attract more women. But the person that sets out to cheat more is the ugly guy. He will use every means available to him including lies, fabrications, mirage, illusions and every bit of cunning to get the women. It has to do with a Napoleonic complex

Sometimes, I just wonder if I'm too old for nairaland, this issue just went from a real call serious review of an issue to kiddie time,

Is there a difference in Nigerian women that use the internet and Nigerian women at large. The responses by the girls so far have been interesting. While the boys are screaming and cursing the women are gently restoring my faith in Nigerian womanfolk. Sorry to say my impression of Nigerian women under the age of 30 are gold digging, opportunists. The word Aristo was created as an excuse to collect from Big Daddy while looking smart. But if the responses to this issue are true (from the heart), girls, you are alright. I now agree, one little stain can spoil white cloth. Keep it up, spread the word not the legs

Is there a difference in Nigerian women that use the internet and Nigerian women at large. The responses by the girls so far have been interesting. While the boys are screaming and cursing the women are gently restoring my faith in Nigerian womanfolk. Sorry to say my impression of Nigerian women under the age of 30 are gold digging, opportunists. The word Aristo was created as an excuse to collect from Big Daddy while looking smart. But if the responses to this issue are true (from the heart), girls, you are alright. I now agree, one little stain can spoil white cloth. Keep it up, spread the word not the legs

sorry to go off topic
@pendelite
I'm slightly confused did you have a sex change ? on other threads you were "male" now you're "female" wetin happen now ? Cheesy

there is male in fe*male*, maybe that explains why I have one bone too many. Got an extra one. Do you want me to undergo another sex change? What's up with these observations? Seun asked the same question. maybe it's tinkering with the board, screwing things around,

There are 40 year old men living with the parents, the problem comes from how you conduct your business and the living arrangements.

No one's arguing about who messed up, the fact is that she felt bad enough about it to seek advice. That it lasted for ten years makes the real difference. The fact is that she started it and stayed in it, then realized that she screwed up, get the pun. So what next, realize her mistake and fix it, or walk around with guilt or maybe even pretend that it did not happen. The choice is hers. If she want to fix what she did, take my advice. If she wants to run from it, that is also an option, if she does not want to learn from it, it is also an option. By the way, the title Aristo, glamorizes, prostitution,

Sage, you sound like a woman hurt you real bad,
pips will learn that revenge is not about another person. It hurts the revenger too.
That said, waiting until you are married is an ideal not a bad thing, we seem to have lost all decency in this society. We should learn to appreciate people that still have moral desires, Life is not about sex sex sex, relationships are not about sex sex sex. even the sex, one day you will get sick of it and find the rest of your relationship is empty. I have seen lots of women say I want sex sex sex, I need sex sex sex, then when they get it they either start to run from it, or look for something more fulfilling.

People with empty pantries are also hungry,

My dear nairalanders, everyone seems to miss the point on this one. All that I am reading is about sex and virginity. Where is love?

Here’s the answer. If she is truly sorry and knows that she made a mistake, she should go kneel before her boyfriend and tell him she has something to apologize for. Tell him she got carried away and started another relationship that caused her to lose her virginity. If she is sincere and he loves her, he will forgive her and they will carry on like nothing happened; after all he’s marrying a person not a virginity. Let the truth be told, he is probably not a virgin either. Even if he is, no-one deserves to die for making a mistake. Love is about forgiving the human failings of those that we care for and LOVE. It is better that she made her mistake now, not in the middle of her married life for which even God’s wrath will be visited upon her.

That said, the relationship will be strained for a while, he will be disappointed, that is human too, but two people that LOVE each other can work through the most difficult things together. On the other hand if she has tasted the apple and wants to follow the devil in his sweet delicious chocolate nourishment, nothing good will ever come to her.

That said let me share another story.

A friend of mine fell in love with a girl in secondary school and they dated for over 4 years with the understanding that we will have sex for the first time on the night of our honeymoon. He went onto the University in the US and she went onto OSU. While in the US, he started to her about her adventures, she was now into those boys whose last names ended with “ISM”, first name as Mr. President or another friend who’s medical doctor father makes foam etc. etc. You know the celebrity types. When my friend came back he challenged her about the stories and she denied them. So he insisted that they were going to make love to determine if she was still a virgin. I was in the house at the time because we had discussed out and I heard her scream and moan in pain. Do you know what my friend said to her? Shut the “f#@7k up, if that is how a virgin feels like, I have been missing the point myself all this while

They never got married, not because she was not a virgin but because she refused to own up and wanted to play him till their wedding day. I doubt if she would have been a alive now if she had pulled that trick. She is now married and is a medical doctor. None of the show boys she used to date but she’s ok, and my friend, he went on to marry a nice girl who by the way the issue of virginity never came up…….

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That I run a forum doesn't mean I have to be nice to every asshole that logs on.

I guess you missed the "fun/irony" of my comment? It's your board so I won't argue with you. But before you use the "a". word, remember not to believe everything you read, look before you leap. How can I possibly to understand the complexities of any human being from a picture? but I certainly can understand them from the words they write.

Please stop talking about phones that we neither manufacture the towers nor handsets. You sound like the government, well we have tried for our people, we gave the telephones, we increased teledensity. How about giving them locally made malaria medicine. You dont see the distorted information you are presenting on numbers on phones. What is the ratio of the Nigerian population to the south african population then on those ratios what is the real growth rate. Yes there were 400K lines of our own doing, now there are millions. Where is the real progress, JUST MORE CONSUMERS consuming foreign proucts.

Seun when I look at the picture in your profile. I can tell the kind of person that you are
You were brought up as a deprived child, now you are making it on our own and you are getting a bit of attitude. You will soon realise that the best things always come to nice people at which point you will realise the historical truth. Be nice to people on the way up becuase they are the one's you meet on the way down. I wish you forever rising stars but as night follows day so does life come with its ups and downs, Words of Love Seun

sbucareer, talking about knowledge and the future, I'm working on an article for a well known newspaper The #@vv!()&:" ?1#@$, ends with Times, you have one as well in the UK and I'm looking at jobs in the future. I'll send you a copy when it's done. Funny, do you know who Will have jobs in the future, tour guides, artists etc. Jobs like nurses, doctors (to a large extent), drivers, architects etc. will be gone, replaced by what I called proxybots. I'm still trying to determine the social rankings of these proxy bots, it may be that the rankings will also require functionality minimizations. Currently my idea is to give them the same rankings as their human aliases. That is if you are a cleaner, your proxy will be a cleaner etc. and if you are brain surgeon your proxy will earn the wages of a brain surgeon. Can't give away too much at this point. The problem is, if the machines can do the jobs why give it to emotional humans that require health care and other benefits.

Nigerian bots get to seat at home unemployed, others sell oil (petroleum) until we can solve the hydrogen/ethanol/solar problem then they get to stay home as well, in the short term we'll have the China principle of population control and long term poverty and disease will finish the job. Unless of course we understand and prepare now,

Nigerians

So whats so special about that car?

The fact that south Africa is interested in this car means that Nigerians should not let it go. That we do shows how shortsighted we are. Consider this, it is not until late last year that China was considered a player in the global automotive manufacturing industry. It was less than 15 years ago that Korea launched cars. No-one wanted a Honda 20 years ago. Today Toyota is positioned as the leading automotive manufacturer.

The fact is that if a Nigerian developed a car that Nigerian deserves a national honor. It is not just a dream but a proven scientific endeavor. He needs the support of both the private and public sectors. I wrote here how we Nigerians like everything foreign and never support anything local. It will be a crying shame if he goes to South Africa and succeeds. It will also be a crying shame if our robotics friends also go to South Africa and succeeds, the smallest consequence will be the loss of Nigeria's regional position. In short others will benefit from our lack of vision.

As to the knowledge economy, that is too much for Nigeria at the moment unfortunately, we simply cannot compete, not with the half illiterates we graduate from our Universities nor the potential risk to data by fraudsters and 419ers that will man call centers or manage information. Nigeria is f@&.%ed.

The law of comparative advantage puts us in competion with countries at our level of development and resources; to the global marketplace we offer potentially good low cost labor but not if we are destroying the educational system or creating negative images about ourselves.

Obviously you are not reading before posting,

I started with Transnational Corp, a mega Nigerian company that was established to make Nigeria the likes of Japan, Malaysia, Korea. Instead of investing in opportunities like this they are after buying NEPA, NITEL at stripped down prices. What do you think they will do with such companies? Strip and Sell, that is the Nigerian trader mentality.. do you actyually think that your robotics or any other idea stands a chance in Nigeria?

We are doomed becaue of people like them leading us and hopefully, now that ayanfe has realised the (delicately put) the errors of his ways we can all join in saying NO to such wasteful enterprises at the expense of society and No to third terms etc. and YES to vision, opportunity, challenge and a better tomorrow

Good luck Timmy and this of the rest of us.

Nikinash, this has to do with precious moments. I had 2 friends that were very dear to me. One was like my mother's cousin son and the other was my mother's sister's husbands brother; see how convoluted. We were very close and grew apart because of distance. The first one was in the states and the other in Nigeria.

The first one went back to Nigeria and I remained in the states. I visited a couple of times and we had lots of fun. Then for about ten years we all got caught up in life's daily grind and lost all contact. I thought of them often and knew that we would hook up soon, but we were all young and had plenty of time.

Guess what? They are both dead now and we never got the opportunity to meet again, both went into politics and the rest is history, funny stories are being told about what happened to them before the elections they were expected to win.

Moral of the history, now not later is when you want to accomplish your tasks, I used to be a great procrastinator, no more, I devour opportunities. Make up with friends, relatives and even enemies. Spend quality time with your parents, children and family. You just never know, you can walk out of the door and walk into a moving truck, God Forbid,

ayanfe, you miss the point, so it will take him 20 years. Will that be 20 years from now or twenty years from when we realize that we have lost track? For the hungry, we cannot afford to throw away food or nitpick.

Hahaha to all of you screaming that they like Transnational Corp, I would have liked TNC if they invested in projects like this, instead they want to buy Nitel. NEPA, Ports and Airports. Don't you see that they are the same clowns that continue to steal the national wealth for personal benefits. Until we can look ourselves in the face and tell ourselves the the truth, we as a society are doomed.

Maybe some of you are too young to remember when Nigeria's Maitama Sule was transversing the global, raking at the U.N to end apartheid. I recall because I was a kid but know him personally. Today we are the lumbering giant that sleeps all the day while yesterday's Lilliputians (I hope we still read in school), eat and grow bigger than us, certainly at our expense.

Just re-read my post and see that this codeine stuff is crazy. well I still can't understand what I wrote but I'm glad Timmy found it useful. Still on it though so will keep this one short and sweet. To every1 out there, Koks may not have the same view or presentation, but he has his. Until we recognize that if we ask 10 people a question, were likely to get what sounds like 10 different opinions we are always going to be happy with some and mad at others. Also remember that most times we dont tell people everything, only that we wish to share so they are making suggestions based on limited knowledge.The point is to listen for the essence of the responses, then the essence of the messenger, then remember that it's their views. Next ask with everything I've heard what's best for me and you will find that even your worst enemy will have something useful to tell you.

Been down for a week with the flu, return to check on nairaland and find Timmy’s story in my private mail. Clicked on the link and see that it is already 4 pages long. Being a busy person whenever I am behind on a subject that is that long, I usually don’t have the time to read the previous 4 pages of Post so I usually just leave the subject alone so that my response is not useless if someone had already given the advice earlier.

I read this because just a week ago a friend of mine was thrown out of his 40 story apartment building by his son from a multi-million dollar Midtown Manhattan apartment; the man was a respected surgeon and an older friend. I just wondered if his son reached out to the world like Jimmy is doing. Which is not to suggest that jimmy is planning anything so extreme.

welll this is a little personal but i choose to share it,
i always have issues with both my parents and i don't like the feeling i get from it, sometimes i feel like beating my dad or just wishing he were out of my life, as for my mum she nags like hell gosh!!!, she pissing me off.

i was wondering if i was the problem, but some of my pals have similar parental issues too some are even worse than mine, so i was wondering if there are any other members who don't seem to find the right click between them and their parents

I read all four pages of the post to see if Jimmy gave any additional reasons and they included

im an enterprenurer, i pay 120,000 for my office evry year, i pay 32,000 to my three staff, i pay fee (recharge card and the like), fuel , i have two girlfriends, and im a fucking webdesigner, au on earth would i afford a comfotable home, when i have a whole room to my self and i don't need to pay extras, ofcourse i wouldt stay forever, but the exact time hasnt come yet. trust me i know what im saying,

is there an exact age you have to get out.? well im the strongest (more like the only grown up kid in the house) i do all the man stuff, shout at trespassers, help with the ironing of cloths, fixing light when nepa messes up, get to drive the whole family round all day,
but since i started working it all stop, i started duin my own things all alone, leave early, get home late, pay my bills, and more

they didnt even support me when i was going solo, old man didnt believe i could do it, but shame to him now,,, i getting the onions right

thank you all, i guess i know alot more than i have even recieved, but i just don't get what exactly it is that i do, dey keep refering to events i did in the 90's , don't dey know now that im grown!! gee's

and the truth is they don't even want me to live their house.

So information gathered

Timmy is not a teenager going through teenage blues; he has one job, two girlfriends, three employees and limitless opportunities. He does not tell us what he did in the 90’s but tells us that it could be influencing what his parents think of him. He’s done all the right things to be called a man but he lives at home with his parents single and still very much a kid.

Solution: Timmy needs to

1. Recognize parents are never chosen, they are not like the most fashionable shoes or bag that you change when it’s convenient.
2. Will change status from boy to man, not when he makes enough money to act like a big boy but when he moves out of his parent’s home, gets his own and makes his own rules.
3. Accepts whatever happened in the 90’s are his fault, apologizes to his parents for it and everyone moves on. But not while living at home.

The nature of the relationship with your parents will never change even when you move on, have your own kids and act like parents. Hating your parents is not an option once you realize that no matter what your parents are, you did not buy them and you owe your existence whatever that may be to them, creating and nurturing you. We are not like fish that lay eggs and leave them to nature.