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sihom: 1. The marriages in my life and world have impacted negatively on me to a point where I'm pessimistic about marriage no matter how hard I try to see the good sides to marriage I always end up thinking the negatives out-weigh the positives. To give you a few examples

a. My mum had to treat herself one time for gonorrhoea (not sure that's the correct spelling) and as far as I know she married as a virgin and has never cheated on my dad. My dad's girlfriend at the time was also treating herself for the same STD. I figure he picked it up from somewhere and infected both women. I knew about the STD because I overheard a conversation btw two of my aunts when I was 11 or 12.

b. An acquaintance parents divorced after 25 years of marriage, reason being that his mum caught his dad giving the house help head. Something he had persistently refused to give the mum always using the excuse that it was unhygienic, unhealthy and not medically good in all their 25 years of marriage.

c. One of my relative's husband had a messy affair that resulted into a pregnancy and a lot of damage to relationships. I also have twin half sisters courtesy of my father's away matches. A fact that came to light when I was a young adult, these are just a few short stories, there's more but I won't go into it.

2. I'm female and I get chased by married men a lot of the times its amazing the lengths they are willing to go to, just to get laid and it makes me wonder if my anatomy is any different from their wives. The frequency at which I get hit on by married men is starting to make me think my husband would do this too (if I get married). As a matter of fact I've been told by some of these men not to expect 100% fidelity from my spouse. Based on my personal experiences I'm tempted to believe all married men cheat, have cheated at some point in their marriages or may cheat in the future. A tough pill to swallow

3. The prevailing evils of child abuse/molestation by relatives, house helps etc makes my blood run cold. One of my nephews has been a victim and it was perpetuated by an uncle on the father's side.I cannot imagine bringing a child into this world only to have such a misfortune befall him or her. I know God protects people but let's face it there's still evil in this world and bad things happen to good people. I shudder to think of this

4. I've always been a one man gang not by choice but by the circumstances of life. So I usually tend to do things by myself without waiting for help from people or asking for help unless I'm really drowning. My point is- I'm too independent & self reliant that's not a good trait for a successful marriage and the truth is I don't know any other way to live.

Ur so on point I knt help but totally agree wif u.

faakay: you must be very stupid for that statement! idiotic girl!

Tank u.*big grin*

lyntiffany: In my own understanding, you pray for the two cos the man you call boy friend may turn out to be your husband. On the other side your boyfriend needs prayers as well cause if he prospers he will remember you whether you ended up being his wife or not. Is good to pray for the both.

Yea I feel the two should be prayed for aswell.tanks

emmyskies: Christians ought not to have boyfriends or girlfriends. If they have feelings for eachother, they should remain just friends and work things out till marriage. The Bible says we should give no chance -Ephesians 4:27 in No form of fornication or lust whatsoever.

Concerning praying for your future husband or wife, if we ought to pray for our enemies and those that hate us -Matt 5:44, how much more them?

I have never heard of that before,dat ppl become frnds and just marry,nt even a relationship or courtship n to my best understanding dat is why most marriages fail.m nt saying it's nt ok to be frnds bt being in a relationship shows u guys re dedicated to each other n show signs of future togetherness(marraige) this process of relationship also helps dem open up to one anoda n dey learn each other characters so as to know how to handle each other. being in a boyfrnd/girlfrnd relationship (am talking abt classified ones for matured adults who re ripe to marry nt small small children play play) ie courtship.thats my own opinion of dat sha coz f twas by friendship hmm many women will have multiple husbnds bt d relationship helps to state he is mur important dan all other girls at the moment n e or she is serious.its nt every boyfrnd girlfrnd that has s** wif each other(i feel dats y u do not advice it)

Well as for me oo,i would study her closely after d incident coz for her to say dat she obviously has guys dat re after her n lyf isn't a bed of roses,f we have issues tomorrow or m nt able to provide for her in a short while she would definitely cheat on me wif d guys she claim to be mur handsome and better.
We ladies reali should learn ow to talk,m sure f twas d guy dat told her such all hell would have been let loose on him.i dnt c d babe as a contented babe.
I ask u out u agree,f u no say u no want me again why nt tell me rada dan complain and compare,men have ego n love to be respected

Team#Big#BOLD#BEAUTIFUL.
I love the way I am n m gonna rock it while I last.life is too short to be getting depressed over size,height,complexion or whatsoever.

victovrry: I got married to my husband several years ago, we are blessed with two girls, after 8years of our marriage my husband and his family called a meeting which the outcome was just to tell me of a boy my husband had when he was in secondary school, though he denied the boy then but now he has grown and look exactly like him...the issue now is that whenever I wanted to give birth to a boy, it always lead to miscarriage or born him dead...hmmm we had nothing when we got married, infact we married in a room, now we have more than four houses and cars, in which all my salaries and efforts are contributed but ...my kids are all girls and all our properties are written in my husband's name, pls I don't know what to do.....

I understand ur plight oo bt u have to b smart ooo.its nt too late to change d names on d document,tell him it's on one condition u would accept d kid n dat is all properties should b name after both of u.PLZ NOTE dnt put Mr and Mrs ur surname oooo coz any woman can Mrs (f e remarries her she will b Mrs ur husband's name) so it should be Mr and Mrs ur name,husbands name and surname.its nt too late to change it.n next of kin tinz ur girls ooooo.bera change it and not take d risk.

Gud mawnin every1,ur opinion is highly needed on this topic,alot of single ladies who re in a relationship presently or not often get confused on either to pray for their boyfrnd they re dating presently or their future husband( to be on d safer side).
Eg. oh lord bless my boyfriend or future husband(which do u pray for and y)
For those who don't pray who do u advice them to pray for?

am totally against abortion,u neva can tell f dat is d child dat will make u proud.i would like to take u guys tru sum memory lane
1.a teenage girl gets pregnant weeks to her weddn nt even knowing who was responsible aldoe she was a virgin bt who would belive,f Mary d mother of Jesus had felt so bad abt her pregnancy n aborted him DO U THINK JESUS WOULD AV BEEN BORN?
2.There is a preacher and wife who are very, very poor. They already have 14 kids. Now she finds out she is pregnant with her 15th. They are living in tremendous poverty. Considering their poverty and the excessive world population, would you consider recommending abortion? Dat is today's john Wesley who is d founder of methodist.
3.The father is sick with sniffles, the mother has TB. They have 4 children. The first is blind, the second is dead. The third is deaf and the fourth has TB. The mother finds she is pregnant again. Given the extreme situation, would you recommend abortion?u could have killed beethoven
4.A man Molested a 13 year old black girl and she got pregnant. If you were her parents, would you consider recommending abortion?
you would have killed Ethel Waters, the great black gospel singer.
5.pope john Paul d 2nd was almost killed(abortion)
6.justin bieber.
7.celine dion.
8.nick cannon etc.d long list goes on and on.
It's abt commiting matters to d hands of God n sumtyms ur own safety sha( f u seek medical counsel and dey claim d preggy is gonna be an hindrance den fyn bt it must be done legally and ryt.bt UT still doesn't change d fact dat it's murder.i av a frnd who paying greatly for dat nw,she aborted 3 bby's 1st.she was in 100l d guy disvirgined ha after dey dated for two year n she agreed to have sex wif him.2nd 200,3rd biggest mistake sleeping wif a guy she met just hrs ago.we ladies should be careful f se* is a must den plz ensure we use protections to avoid stories dat touches d heart.

After doing a lot of research on dis guy lik Goin tru ez frnds,profile piks,abt n all.what I c is a guy who was into the tech programme by luck or yahoo and was caught n punished n maybe even deported,who is now quite jobless n maybe a little broke using ez former field of study to an advantage ie publicing himself etc coming up wif ideas that e hopes would yield best results.
(sha who am I to judge all na boredom and insomnia)

Ujujoan: I can't believe I read all 11pages.

God punish insomnia.

Twill be insanely dumb of ppl to actually vote for dis guy wif d way e condemns nigerians.how can sum1 who doesn't love u make d best decision for u.
E keeps contradicting himself in many ways n left to me I think all dis was a publicity stunt.e needed attention and we all gave him.how can ez company be worth wat e claims it worths n still be dat way e is,complain abt poverty,light,lyf in d ghetto n all.ppl reali should stop lying on d Internet coz it's faceless doesn't mean we should take advantage.

Chaiii I wrote pnti tinz n dey dint paste.*crying* choi where do I start from now ooo.anyways for dos who said she wrote a fake story abt d preggy b4 marriage tin.its so totally wrong,these things happen real life based on traditions and all I came very close to all of this n trust me it takes being in sum1 shoes to appr8 and no d pain dey re Goin tru,sumtyms we do certain tinz nt bcoz we wana do it bt coz we love sum1 n have to protect her relationship(which some women c as desperate)
As for me sha I have d policy of DONT START WHAT U KNT FINISH.and F UR MATURED ENOUGH TO TAKE CERTAIN ACTIONS(s*x) DEN U SHOULD BE PROUD ENOUGH TO DISPLAY D RESULT(pregnancy).
Our religious circles also have a lot to do wif all of des,pregnancy b4 wedlock is sumtyms/most of d tyms bad(coz d couples dnt end up together sumtyms n dis affects d child's psychology,wanting to know his/her dad,pressure from peers abt my dad bought dis and dat)i was a result of a child outside wedlock aldoe my parents got married 4yrs after,e had to get my mum preggy purposely coz dey felt e couldn't take care of her n dey always felt my dad wasn't best for her n all(aldoe t worked for dem bt myt nt work for all)
I am totally against abortion,u neva can tell f dat is d child dat will make u proud.i would like to take u guys tru sum memory lane
1.a teenage girl gets pregnant weeks to her weddn nt even knowing who was responsible aldoe she was a virgin bt who would belive,f Mary d mother of Jesus had felt so bad abt her pregnancy n aborted him DO U THINK JESUS WOULD AV BEEN BORN?
2.There is a preacher and wife who are very, very poor. They already have 14 kids. Now she finds out she is pregnant with her 15th. They are living in tremendous poverty. Considering their poverty and the excessive world population, would you consider recommending abortion? Dat is today's john Wesley who is d founder of methodist.
3.The father is sick with sniffles, the mother has TB. They have 4 children. The first is blind, the second is dead. The third is deaf and the fourth has TB. The mother finds she is pregnant again. Given the extreme situation, would you recommend abortion?u could have killed beethoven
4.A man raped a 13 year old black girl and she got pregnant. If you were her parents, would you consider recommending abortion?
you would have killed Ethel Waters, the great black gospel singer.
5.pope john Paul d 2nd was almost killed(abortion)
6.justin bieber.
7.celine dion.
8.nick cannon etc.d long list goes on and on I won't advice u abort d bby,keep her n use her or him to comfort ursef in most cases dis men come back looking for des kids dey abandoned bt one tin I would say is don't beg him back else f tinz go wrong in d future e would blame u.

carefreewannabe: How do you know her motive is to belittle and ridicule the man?

Well der re cases lik dis oo,even in churches d wives want to just show off,i remember d case of a lady who uses all her earnings to buy shoes,bag,brazillian hair and all competiting wif d single ladies forgetting ha husbnd is nt dangote n she is ment to be an helper expecting d man to use ez little salary to do all down to even giving her personal allowance despite she is working ha shakara stopped Wen she lost her job.
Ladies plz always try to support ur husband's in any little way u can(fianancially,morally,spiritually etc) dat is d basic reason why till today my dad loves my mum silly n we girls have learnt dat coz it knt be always rossy.
Dh dnt say no dime at home,mayb no dime for u,f she doesn't have a dime she won't have pulled dat stunt.dats d mur reason why men should study women b4 getting married it's nt abt d beauty,physiq,its abt is she supportive,take her out on a date n c d reaction wen u ask her to pay d billz,put her to test n see f she is d kinda lady dat can stand by no no Mata what.my tori don dey too much,anyways forgive her n let t slide(dnt forget to correct her n prove to her dat wat she did was rng before giving her d money. bt f u c she continues to do dat den punish her,ur a man uv got authority over her,wen I say punish her I dnt mean beat her up oo.u no how u husband's punish us nw f u say u dnt av money n dnt bring none der is nothing we can do bt succumb.

Estacy00: Thank you very much ma'am.

Ur very welcome.

MarvellousGod: What are you even on about? ? How does telling someone you're pregnant for him translate to entrapping him? He didn't want a baby yet had unprotected sex. .btw, what's the primary reason for sex if not procreation? ? You actually expect a girl to take some pills whenever you have sex with her? Like your di*k can't contain a condom or wait till you put a ring on her finger?? She takes pills, damages her organs gradually while you stay stay hale and hearty? ? Smh. ...




Op, have no advice for you because this story sounds like it was made up....your bf told you, you must take in before he marries you and you agreed? ? You even tried with him for years? ? Chaiiiii, so smh..which kind desperation be this
You met a guy and same day he planted a kiss on your lips, a month later he's already proposing and you started having unprotected sex with him??

Abeg, this your story no just follow...

Well to u it myt look made up bt that's what happens in real lyf,pressure from in-laws who bliv in der tradition so much forgetting dis is d 21st century,sumtyms we do tinz nt bcoz it's our wish bt coz wev got to do it coz of love#toughLove#loveIsSacrificial so u knt blame her or dos in her shoes,it takes been in a sum ones shoes to no how painful it is.she has made d mistake n m sure she has learnt.i always advise IF U RE NOT RESSPONSIBLE ENOUGH TO BEAR D CONSEQUENCES OF S**(either protected or unprotected) den dnt Boda practicing d act or just be wise in doin it.its actually sadning dat despite all d preaching we get from our churches and mosques most ppl still bear kids knowingly outta wedlock(aldoe I was born b4 my parents weddn)nt all of dos kids turn out most especially wen dey dnt no der fada.as for me my utmost rule is NO ABORTION if we were matured enough to practice d act n it leaked den we should be responsible enough to display d result.imagine if Mary had aborted Jesus bcoz of all ppl said n judging wif d fact she was getting married soon without even knowing who got ha preggy,sir wesly(founder of methodist)as I heard could have been aborted,justin bieber,Celine Dion,pope john Paul 2ND and d list goes on and on.plz let's face d consequences of our action.i won't advice u to beg d man aswell bt at least keep ur bby,lets b logical n realistic here

What I would say is dnt start what u knt finish,we re all humans n a lot of ppl love to take advantage and dey push d Boda line,no1 Is saying u shouldn't help bt just b wise n no d kinda person e is,a frnd had such an issue nt knowing d guy was a frat guy n was pretending one day him n ez gang came in raped ha.we should be careful what we condone. F u re dating him or have feelings for him dnt be surprised f sex crosses his mind coz u two are opposite sex n such will always happen.u can also help wen I was in my 200l I also used to stay alone n my X den had an extra year ez dad refused paying ez fees,mum was full tym house wife n all is t sum1 who won't pay fees dat will pay for accommodation so I took him in.twasnt so bad doe n we stayed together all through d session wif me providing n all.today he is good n always prays for me(aldoe we couldn't end up based on genotype tinz) e dint exceed ez boundaries coz I put a standard which I myself had to measure up to(which lik sum1 said d tym e kums in and out)it all boils down to human heart sha.sumtyms it works out fyn n sumtyms reverse is d case so u av to be wise.

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malikmoreni: abi na, might just be Car Keys smh

Abi ooo,reminds of d story of a girl who was always bragging to her frnds dat ha bf was rich,on her birthday e came wif agege bread which she threw back at him just for d ring or was it car keys to fall off it.d guy disagreed sha coz e felt all she wanted was money,which is tru.

cupid4ig: it's network mine works

Wev been trying it both on my fone and my bfs z10 aswell.same old story.

walcolm: did you download them from BBWorld?

Yeah I did.wen it dint work deleted it and downloaded from one mobile market same thing av been on dis issue for months now n I desperately need dos messengers

Goggle messenger,yahoo messenger doesn't work on my z10

U neva can tell what's inside the leaf so it's beta to accept wif good fate

3cycle: I wish a good cook can open a restaurant named Masa where all types of masa delicacies are prepared.
Masa with spiced beef
Masa. With chicken sauce
Masa with egg sauce
Masa with ketchup seasoning
Masa with fish stew
Etc
Ideas rule the world!
Goodluck to the person who will start an African kitchen with masa recipe

Dis ur idea ehen!!!!!still thinking

armyofone: 2012 Now I'm hungry of masa

Thank you Perry2020. I have some questions:

White rice as in chinese white rice?

For number 3, blend till very smooth right?

Please can you add measurement, how many cup of rice and what amount of yeast?

Yea U can use Chinese white rice or even normal rice,d idea of white rice is for it to be very white. Hmmmm for measurement at least for first tym trial use a big cup or 2 for d rice. And as for yeast a full spoon will do for 2 cups and a teaspoon will do for a cup.i dunno if I added dat f u knt fry all at a tym u can keep it in a refrigerator or put a little water untop of it,(max 3days so as not to change taste),dnt forget it must be covered coz of d yeast.wen next u wana use it just mix well and add sugar and a little water if it's too thick.Yea blend till very very very smooth.after mixing b4 frying note that it shouldn't be too thick neda should it be watery. Plz don't forget to lemme in on d result wen or if u try it.cheers.

Making masa.

1.buy your white rice
2.soak t for like an hour
3.grind it
4.mix it well
5.put some yeast in warm water n mix very well wif d grinded rice
6.some people put potash it's optional
7.cover to rise overnight
8.mix wif enough sugar,add sum salt
9.f u av ur masa pan or ur fry pan oil a little
10.pour it bit n by bit to fry n den u av ur masa.serve wif vegetable or yaji.
It's my fav8 n I miss it whenEva m nt in abj

Where do we start from n what's d process

Being hearing alot abt that country an even did a lil research dis mawnin. is it dat good.