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Whenever there is need to put on a tie I do and more over tie looks good on me don't knw about you

If he is bad you ll complain good still complain well IMO tell her to go hug a transformer

Chrisbenogor: Life my dear friends is a war, sometimes its hard to swallow because we are all brought up thinking we have to be nice and we have to carry other people along that we tend to forget that our primary instinct is to survive. One of the biggest and the most fought war fronts since the history of man is in our “romantic” relationships, personally over the little time I have spent in this world I have found this war to be very ferocious and fought with so much passion but with very little tactical awareness. The main reason is that most of us ignore the main rule of warfare which is know thyself and thine enemy, today that enemy is the Man and we are going to try and understand how this man fights his “romantic” battles.

You see a man is a very straightforward creature, if men were to be a programming language we would be a basic machine level language that understands just zeros and ones, a man does not need a valid reason to want to have sex with another woman aside from the fact that she looks “hot” on a very basic level. A man does not need to do any permutations and think is she good enough or is she smart enough? Maybe to have a real relationship or to settle down with yes he might consider that, but in a very basic and primal way a man is moved by what he sees. So when I hear ladies say “what I cannot stand is cheating, if he does it once I will kick his ass to the curb” , I ask is that what the real problem is?

During one of these spats recently I asked my friend which scenario she thinks would hurt her the most:

- You find out your boyfriend went to strip club with his friends and ended up having sex with a hooker

- You find out your bf has been secretly having lunch with his EX for the past month

Nine out of ten times they have a damascus moment and realize that it is emotional betrayal that is much more important than a man having sex, but she says, why is it that when a woman goes out to a club and ends up sleeping with a guy she is called names? Well that is because women usually have to cross that emotional barrier first before it gets to sex. I like to look at it from an evolutionary point of view, you see a woman’s child is always her child, and as such her own issues are things like will this man be able to take care of this child, provide food and shelter for us or is he just going to run a way ? In that light a woman has to be a lot more careful and scrutinize who she is getting into bed with. The man on the other hand has a bigger dilemma, he does not always know for sure if a child is his own, so he wants to “try as many times as possible” to make sure that his own genealogy continues to exist.

Now like I said I know this is probably hard for some of you to swallow and some might look at this as a justification for a man to cheat but it is really only an explanation of how a man works. No amount of wishing away would change the fact that men will cheat regardless of what the stakes are, Bill Clinton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, JFK, Tiger Woods………the list is endless. The trick is to know when the man crosses the emotional line and from then onwards the gloves come off, protect yourself as much as you can, betrayal is the real pain in any heart break.

I am a staunch believer that a relationship is 40% love, 40% commitment and 20% of sacrifice, as a man I often remind myself of this and it keeps me from straying. This does not mean that we should hide how we really see things, I think embracing who you are and comparing it viz a viz what you want from life or what you have committed yourself to goes a long way in dealing with this “demon” we carry inside. The world is fast changing and one of the big tenets of evolution is the specie that fails to adapt ultimately goes extinct.

In the words of the famous Sun Tzu:

1. Therefore, I say: Know your enemy and know yourself; in a
hundred battles, you will never be defeated.
2. When you are ignorant of the enemy but know yourself, your
chances of winning or losing are equal.
3. If ignorant both of your enemy and of yourself, you are sure to
be defeated in every battle.

As always I appreciate your comments. Have a nice weekend guys.
http://leenigma./2012/05/18/rules-of-engagement/

hmn iwo wi

His passes were spot on he did great and more grease to his elbow

Part 6 pls

Nice one but @seun don't you think its better to post the whole story once instead of sequential posting now am wondering when the next one is coming up wish its the full story long or not its meant for consumption @umari thumbs up and keep it coming

Nice thumbs up

If Obama could rule America why won't he allow Okonjo take over at the world bank ? Nice try okonjo

Na waO wey d part 3 na shuo. Anyways nice story keep it coming cos I dig this by the way pero sorry better luck next time

Henhen so na ur plan be dis campus blues you no finish you don start anoda one bt wetin come happen after dis one na update pls am so luving this tanx

Wrong,wrong and so wrong tattoo? On her privy ?a married woman without her husband consent? Just so wrong .Me thinks she is not interested in the marriage anymore WTF!!!

Rebranding ke boko boys are doing a good job of that lol. But seriously Nigeria lacks continuity in her policies hence they come out with different policies after each administration/tenure

So where is the concluding part shuo why una dey kip pesin 4 suspence @seun if u no say tory go get part 2 why u dey post am

My elder sister always complain about our my mum showering much love on me nd my kid sister ever since my mum passed on she has made us understand that we her nt her family but having grown up I now see why mum was so she is d aggressive type always taking offense at any slight thing then it became obvious when her spouse started complaining of her always nagging hence I made a decision to keep my distance

IMO @op if you love ur gf marrying or not should not b problem what you should knw is dat marriage is all about sharing even each others problem d guy being bad does nt necessarily mean it will rub off on you family join your gf in prayer over the guys way of life

Hmn nice story but pls can you get to d part where they share a kiss? Abi them no go kiss Ni?

basty: Thank God for the Rich in Nigeria, I saw on CNN yesterday, a car that that fly and equally move on the road. The thought of hold up is no longer there. Case closed.

I don't see how that will close the case how do you expect the average nigerian guy to afford that cos you only mentioned the rich so the average nigerian is still going to be stuck in such holdup while the so called rich fly its still the status quo changes nothing except the government wakeup to their responsibilities then and only then can the case be closed

Yes of course true love will accommodate you and your child just be yourself and be honest about it

There are different reasons for wanting to lock the door use to have a boss. Who like locking his doors cos he doesn't want people barging into his office especially since he drinks during office hours and there his this other one likes locking his door each time he receives large sum of money guy like money die in my own opinion anything could have been going on aside sex n that office so my two cent if he says he likes locking his door then so be it until you can prove otherwise and pls don't forget ur condition its not worth jeopardizing so pls do exercise caution and restraint

Seriously I dunno bt in most cases I guess its the way to bragg that you have a car bt some do it unconsciously

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]I'm sorry... pardon me. . .

Adnumumumuwhatna? [/quote];Dlol

I think people do have secrets but the need to divulge such is equally pertinent and it does not you have to be detailed about such for instance telling your spouse you have done grave and bad things that you are shamed of but the discretion to leave out the details of what you have done lies solely with you in as much as you have informed her of the grave and bad things in quote but its better if you gradually tell the person in details for instance you are together and something happens that you can relate to one of your experiences start from there my 2 cents

ogbeche77: My last relationship of 3 years ended today... Like 30 min ago to be precise
The full jist below
My ex schools outside Lagos, Often visit me when she's back from sch, just some weeks back I met an old classmate of mine on face book, I added her den asked for her number on her wall, she posted it there.. Like 10 min later, I got a text frm my gf dat am a Arrow I just added a gal then askin 4 her num.. I was dumbfounded... She kept sendin me insulting messages calling me a cheat.. I ignored them... 4 days later.. She called to apologized that she only did such out of jealousy, I accepted after much appeal frm her.. The rtp continued.. Thursday last week she called she ll be comin 2 lag 4 Easter break & we ll meet on Monday(today) @ my place
Out of curiosity I logged into her fb account and u guys ll be shocked to wat I saw... She has been hitting on a guy 4 like 3 weeks now...Going through D history of there conversation I was shocked...
For a guy she has not even met.. They ve both bin calling each other honey & using the 'love u' word... How she ll satisfy him on bed.. They chat almost 12 hrs in a day.. When d guy asked of her bf.. She said I was a cheat & Neva want 2 av anytin 2 do wit me again.. I was like WTF
For a lady that can even withstand me lookin @ anoda chick in her presence
I saved d whole page on my phone & mapped out my plan... She already sheduled a date with d guy on Easter Monday... So this morning she came visiting... I pretended as I no nothing... We eat... Drank....Ban.ged her as if there is no 2mrw... Then I told her I bought her a BB... Which she ll collect @ d bus stop but under one condition dat I ll collect her prev fone which I bought 4 her...
She accepted... I collected d fone.. Kept it @ home, then escorted her to d bus stop.. She was like where's d fone.. I told her 2 a plaza...Then opened d saved conversation on my fone.. (NB.. She deleted them dis morning b4 coming to my place)
She was shell shocked... Felt like entering d floor..
Omo c as d chick dey beg..Henn ag not met d guy now.. Told her silence will help her in dis situation... But me don make up my mind.. I told her she shuld go & experiment wit d guy.. Ladies don't appreciate wat they av until dey loose it... Make d guy buy am fone if he won follow her talk.. Abi wetin una feel? I was kind enough 2 give her T.Fare
Let bye gones be bye gones

well she asked for it

Warri no dey carry last

Yes and I think its immature not to be except we had a nasty breakup but still I prefer being her friend

Gbawe: And what the Zap are folks like you going to do about it? You think great nations got to where they are today with dithering citzens who sit on the fence and condemn everyone? Every Nigerian ,as much as possible, should get involved and shape the political party they support to become what they feel it should be.

We should have the spirit and passion to take over from our fathers and rectify the mess we feel they created. The ACN is certainly a better political party than the PDP but no Nigerian Party is beyond redemption if good folks get involved instead of standing back and criticising everyone sanctimoniously while refraining from joining the process that can bring the transformation we all say we want.

and who is going to give you the platform to join and make a change

Ekans: Lord why are nigerian ladies so greedy,igbos in particular.Before the abuses,take NOTE,am igbo too.

its not only igbo girls I believe its a general thing