Ogosoga: What a man can do
A woman can do even better

fluid26:

True, d nysc year is indeed an abominable one. However, girls from d east aren't as promiscuous as those from the south-south, the west and middle-belt...I stand to be corrected.

Chrisbenogor: Life my dear friends is a war, sometimes its hard to swallow because we are all brought up thinking we have to be nice and we have to carry other people along that we tend to forget that our primary instinct is to survive. One of the biggest and the most fought war fronts since the history of man is in our “romantic” relationships, personally over the little time I have spent in this world I have found this war to be very ferocious and fought with so much passion but with very little tactical awareness. The main reason is that most of us ignore the main rule of warfare which is know thyself and thine enemy, today that enemy is the Man and we are going to try and understand how this man fights his “romantic” battles.

You see a man is a very straightforward creature, if men were to be a programming language we would be a basic machine level language that understands just zeros and ones, a man does not need a valid reason to want to have sex with another woman aside from the fact that she looks “hot” on a very basic level. A man does not need to do any permutations and think is she good enough or is she smart enough? Maybe to have a real relationship or to settle down with yes he might consider that, but in a very basic and primal way a man is moved by what he sees. So when I hear ladies say “what I cannot stand is cheating, if he does it once I will kick his ass to the curb” , I ask is that what the real problem is?

During one of these spats recently I asked my friend which scenario she thinks would hurt her the most:

- You find out your boyfriend went to strip club with his friends and ended up having sex with a hooker

- You find out your bf has been secretly having lunch with his EX for the past month

Nine out of ten times they have a damascus moment and realize that it is emotional betrayal that is much more important than a man having sex, but she says, why is it that when a woman goes out to a club and ends up sleeping with a guy she is called names? Well that is because women usually have to cross that emotional barrier first before it gets to sex. I like to look at it from an evolutionary point of view, you see a woman’s child is always her child, and as such her own issues are things like will this man be able to take care of this child, provide food and shelter for us or is he just going to run a way ? In that light a woman has to be a lot more careful and scrutinize who she is getting into bed with. The man on the other hand has a bigger dilemma, he does not always know for sure if a child is his own, so he wants to “try as many times as possible” to make sure that his own genealogy continues to exist.

Now like I said I know this is probably hard for some of you to swallow and some might look at this as a justification for a man to cheat but it is really only an explanation of how a man works. No amount of wishing away would change the fact that men will cheat regardless of what the stakes are, Bill Clinton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, JFK, Tiger Woods………the list is endless. The trick is to know when the man crosses the emotional line and from then onwards the gloves come off, protect yourself as much as you can, betrayal is the real pain in any heart break.

I am a staunch believer that a relationship is 40% love, 40% commitment and 20% of sacrifice, as a man I often remind myself of this and it keeps me from straying. This does not mean that we should hide how we really see things, I think embracing who you are and comparing it viz a viz what you want from life or what you have committed yourself to goes a long way in dealing with this “demon” we carry inside. The world is fast changing and one of the big tenets of evolution is the specie that fails to adapt ultimately goes extinct.

In the words of the famous Sun Tzu:

1. Therefore, I say: Know your enemy and know yourself; in a
hundred battles, you will never be defeated.
2. When you are ignorant of the enemy but know yourself, your
chances of winning or losing are equal.
3. If ignorant both of your enemy and of yourself, you are sure to
be defeated in every battle.

As always I appreciate your comments. Have a nice weekend guys.
http://leenigma./2012/05/18/rules-of-engagement/

fijiano202: not all men cheats cos i can honestly tell you i dont do that,have date someone for 4yrs without even kissing or touching another gurl

fluid26:

self-righeousness aint a virtue bro. Have a rethink when next u get d urge to elevate urself.

90love: Because they are selfish and power hungry. Men don't think as thoroughly as women about long term coniquences and re just opportunists.

luckgames:
You are not a man
Sorry

luckgames:

Nigerian women are becoming better cheaters than Nigerian Men
Nigerian women use to know how to hid the BS
But now it is all over the place
So stop playing

joanana:

Playing? you think marriage is all about geting the ring, change if status and certificate? Many couples today dont know the true meaning of being married. Its a way of life filled with
commitment, understanding, tolerance, patience n faithfulness to your partner.

Not all. Luckily for some of us, we are blessed.

sosomi:
hahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

luckgames:

I do agree with "commitment, understanding, tolerance, patience n faithfulness to your partner."
You miss the other factors that make marriage work
What about the lying who that think she can lie her way out
Selfish me, me
No Respect and No consideration type of person
The secretive type too
The one that don't know how to say thank you
Stop playing game
Two can play the game

joanana:

n how long do u intend to keep up with d lies? 5 years? 12yrs? If u dnt understand the word married my advice is remain single n continue with ur deceit bit dont it when u r married n commited cos.it will.defintely bite u in the a.s.s. gerrit!!!!! For ir info any mariage or relationship built on deciet, lies n ur two can play d lies is destined to fail
gerrit!

luckgames: [code][/code]

What are you lying about fool
Sorry, I am married
You think you can manipulate the world dumb B
Deception is keeping secret
Agreed the lies, manipulation and deception will lead to unhappy marriage

joanana:

Please dnt insult me. May God ve mercy u.

wizzy11:

@ Fluid26
and who's being self righteous or rather elevating ones self? If I'm to elevate ma self do you think this is a place to do so? Where pple hide behind shadows? What you take me for, a dumb ass like you are? Gee. Grow up, the internet is filled with lies, that I know. I know where I role, you got your hood, I just come here to share ma opinion, and I ain't interested in any dumb ass sh*t. If you feel I'm elevating ma self, that's your crap. well you are you, and I'm me, I have principles, and that's just it. If you don't have one, go hug a transformer, by the way, I am bound to ma views, and FYI don't start what you can't end.

brainchild78: Generally speaking men are driven by lust and immediate false gratification via carnal indulgence. Men cheat based on impulse with no emotional connotation. Women cheat after much contimplation and emotional submergence. Hence as unfair as it may seem a man cheating on a woman is far more tolerable than a woman cheating on her man.