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Icareforyou:
Female nairalanders, please give your insight on the topic.
Share your experience or opinion.

Icareforyou:
Good evening Nairalanders,

I was discussing with a friend on the topic and I would like to hear your experiences or opinion : Do you think it's possible to approach a random girl on the street and get her phone number?

I told my friend that it's super tough for a girl to give out her phone number to a guy on the road, I told him the success rate is like 2 out of 100, no matter how smooth, packaged or charming you are .

I opined that I think social platforms like Facebook, Instagram, etc., are way more effective for connecting with people in this digital age but he disagreed.

I did a social experiment with car and without car to see if a girl would accept to give her phone number to someone on the first meet but the attempts were almost like a joke ( although it was a bit fun since it was just an experiment)

Even in my campus days, I always laughed at my department guys who approached random girls for phone number because it was never successful.

I have seen it work also but that was in areas where the girls did it because they were scared of the environment.


So back to the question:

Guys, have you had any success asking girls for numbers on the street? Girls, would you give a guy your number if he asked on the first meet? Share your experiences!

Let's discuss.

AndSunGorilla:
Former Super Eagles invitee and ex Kano Pillars dependable defender, Stephen Eze, captained and played full 90 minutes for Jamshedspur. The 6.6 giant defender played all 90 mins as his team are fighting hard to win the league.

elyte89:
National teams are now operating like club sides, with structured systems and extensive scouting networks to identify players who best fit their style of play. This is why many countries have strengthened their coaching staff, assigning specific roles such as player scouting to support the head coach. With this level of organization, African football is becoming increasingly competitive, especially in AFCON and World Cup qualifiers. The next round of qualifiers will be particularly tough. While other nations are advancing in scouting and recruitment, Nigeria is still debating whether to include foreign-born players.

AndSunGorilla:
Happy for the guy that he finally made it. That means it isn't impossible to get a couple of decent players from the NPFL. Not necessarily injecting them into the SE. The truth is any good one invited to the SE would leave in no time and the cycle starts again.

89green:
Wahala wahala wahala ooo

People don't understand what is going on and I don't blame them because US Media is imperialist propaganda so here's the 411:

Donald Trump is freaking out because he is not only losing, but this war against Iran is speeding up the collapse of the US empire

Iran taking control of the Strait of Hormuz is going to cost the US $3 trillion a year. Since the 1970s oil has been traded using the petrodollar. Iran knew this and knew it could severely weaken US hegemony by allowing ships to pass if they switched from the petrodollar to Chinese yuan.

The other major development that isn't being covered is the US has spent trillions of dollars on building US bases in order to occupy and control the Middle East. These bases have taken significant damage from Iranian missiles and are being abandoned.

The US is not and never was "liberating" Iran, but Iran is absolutely liberating the Middle East from US imperialism.

Like all empires of the past the US is no different: It is collapsing under the weight of its own greed, corruption, and barbarity.

TheSuperNerd:
A simple trivia... GKs wars: Trust and reliability

The Super Eagles are in the final of the 2027 Afcon and will inevitably end that game in penalties shootout. Question is which Goalkeeper do you absolutely trust to man the goal even into penalty shootouts?

Option A. Maduka Okoye

Option B. Arthur Okonkwo

Option C. Francis Uzoho

Option D. Amas Obasogie

Option E. Stanley Nwabali

WarHammer2000:
I remember saying this guy, rather than Adams should start alongside Osimhen at the AFCON. I was laughed to scorn. Now he is outscoring Osimhen in the same league with a weaker team.

They preferred to start an injured Osimhen against Morocco when he was on the bench, by the way.

SuperOnyi:




I'm challenging any Nigerian college "graduate" to come here and prove that people with high school education are "illiterates." There's absolutely nothing a graduate can teach me except what they studied in school (and even if they paid any attention in school).

And even if they know what they studied, I will teach myself right here in the home country and still beat them.

AndSunGorilla:
Well done my oga. Still surprises me, Obinna Nwobodo never got a chance with the Super Eagles. At least Yusuf was invited from the same MLS.

SisterAnn:
Biafra would surely come and it will come on a platter of gold.

By the time Boko Haram begins to fully activate their sleeper cells in Oyo, Lagos, osun and ekiti and Ondo, Nigeria as we know it will naturally dissolve into thin air.

Host78:
I'll write again.

You don't know a person's true nature unless they are the ones with power.

You can't tell if a man is humble when he's in poverty because then he cannot be anything but humble.

You cant tell if a man is a good man unless he has the means to be both good and evil.

In Nigeria, men have the power. They earn more, yet they marry women with nothing and love these women.

They take her across the border because they feel that's what's best for the family.

In the UK, the same woman who professed love for the man and her family is suddenly given power

And remember, power shows one's true nature.

Suddenly, the family that loved and protected her, she suddenly strikes it back and divides it into two.

Power showed her true nature which have laid dormant because she never had the power.

So, the broken homes you see in the UK have very little to do with men being terrible people but with women being terrible human beings.

Who choose themselves over others especially the ones they claim they love.

This is the hallmark of selfishness: choosing oneself above everyone else regardless of how close or how much they have sacrificed for you in the past.

Look around you: all they talk about is excuses like how these men want to be treated like kings because they don't do house chores.

Forgetting that these men never cared for them to bring a kobo for the 10 or 15 years they were married in Nigeria.

These men never cared that these women never contributed one kobo to their own wedding expenses.

Yet these men never said "she wanted to be treated like a queen". In fact these men treats their women like queens and want to see her like their queen.

But suddenly a year in the UK, she faults him for domestic chores and break their homes.

Ah! terrible humans and yet not realizing how terrible they are.

TheSuperNerd:
Emmanuel Fernandez is a really decent CB talent but his positional sense when defending needs some work. This is where Benjamin Frederick already excels in at 20. For Fernandez at 24, I expect he will improve and surely get even better. If anyone watched him for the first time today and judged him straight off this porto game, one may not exactly see what is there to like but he is quality.

minfelix:
baba forget all this thing you dey talk🤣🤣….Spain,Portugal and Belgium are world class teams….decline or no decline, any african team that beat them in a quarterfinal/semifinal match has done a huge lot…..
SA beating Morocco in 2023 does not remove that they are also a big team and one of africa’s current inform teams….Didn’t Benin also beat us?
You want to play and win a team like Spain as an African and you say you wont park the bus, home of tiki taka…issokay

All i know is, you dont need to rate them, but almost a 100% of its football fan will be rooting for them to reach final on home soil….Just wait make SA qualify to round 16 of world cup and see them coming to brag that they will win afcon 2027😂😂….its a general thing with African countries…same thing as us…with our poor showing at 2018 wc, if we had qualified for 2022 and reach the semis im telling you, we would be handing ourselves the trophy of 2030 if we were to b the host🤣

Pukkalolo:
First, the idea that raw attraction or genuine desire has an “expiry date” like carton milk…

Nah…That's totally false…

You're confusing temporary “interest” vs raw desire.

They are two totally different things…


First off…

You're right… Interest can wear off because of life's stress, arguments, familiarity… She might pull away, stop texting first, or wherever… but that’s interest dying. Not raw desire.

Raw desire doesn’t just evaporate because time passed or Instagram flooded her feed with male options.

Raw desire can go dormant. It can get buried under resentment or life circumstances. But it doesn’t expire like a coupon code.

Here’s the key difference:

You can lose interest in a woman who’s smoking hot…maybe because she disrespected you, maybe you got distracted with work and hustle…and then, one day, you catch a glimpse of her in those sexy tight jeans, smell her perfume… and boom. That raw pull hits you again like a truck. You never “lost” the raw desire. It was just sleeping.

Same for women. A woman can lose interest in you, because she got bored, annoyed, distracted by life… and still have that raw desire flood in back the second you flip the right switches again.

That’s why exes who “moved on” suddenly get wet when you show up looking sharper, acting dominant, reminding her “body” why it reacted to you in the first place.

Look, Zabiboy… Social media didn’t shorten the “desire window.” It only shortened the attention span window.

Abundance of male options on social media makes women flake faster on mild interest. But raw desire is biological, not algorithmic. A woman scrolling past 1,000 cute guys on TikTok doesn’t erase the imprint you left on her nervous system if you genuinely triggered her raw animalistic circuits once.


Now, you said the “third-world desire is fake because of survival instincts” line…


Lolz… you're wrong…

But true, women prioritize providers more openly. They’ll admit it outright, like my Bleep buddies did, she told me: “I’m marrying the rich guy even though I don't desire him sexually.” That’s hypergamy on full display: securing resources while secretly chasing raw desire.

So no…raw desire doesn’t expire.

That’s why a woman can swear she’s “over you,” block you, marry someone else… and still melt the second she sights you because your presence triggered that emotion and primal desire in her.

Interest comes and goes. Raw desire stays forever.

TheSuperNerd:
Sani Suleiman is in Germany for the Medicals!

Host78:
@merry100

I stopped reading here because this opening alone shows that you have zero idea what I'm talking about.



For one, the strongest man cannot single handedly walk into Aso Rock because Aso Rock is protected by a strength greater than his, the military.

I have highlighted this many times in my writing.

Now the military is the strongest force of any nation and anytime they get organized and agree on any rule, that rule becomes the constitution.

In fact, if the military agree that civilian rule must come to an end today, the constitution will be torn up and your courts becomes useless.

Again strength alone is the reason for everything stability in a country.

There's nothing like systems, organizations or whatever.

There's only force. If the force is sufficient, every other thing permitted by that force thrives.

If the US force is sufficient, it can allow Nigeria to have sovereignty or remove the president today if it wants.

Doesn't matter the systems nigeria have in place.

This is why every powerful country spends heavily first on military and not politics, religion, systems or psychology.

The force comes first because without it, nothing else matters.

Now imagine a man who is stronger than any human. An indestructible man.

Think of superman.

If he wants power, he'll take over the whole world and bring everyone to their knees regardless of their "alliance, systems or whatever you can think of.

Watch every superman movies, there's always a quiet fear in which the people fears that since they cannot destroy him, he might want to rule the world.

So, the military first line is always to fight that superman, and then you hear quality from superman like, I do not wish to fight you or take over.

They make him a moral being. One that wants to be good.

Now let's look at AI. Imagine an Ai that's indestructible, super intelligent beyond your comprehension.

You think the AI wants to form alliances, be under your constitution and obey your tiny minds?

Why exactly do you think we fear AI? it's because it's a power far greater than anything we've got at the moment.

But even more so, we cannot control it. And so if we cannot control it, how does our alliances matter?

I can give you a gazillion examples but you just cannot comprehend it because your mind is fixed on the stability of the system and not the chaos.

Image: power is power. Nothing else matters.

Merry100:
Wow ... you have single-handedly condensed centuries of history, law, and human civilization into the idea that everything depends on the ego of the strongest man. Lazy ass, you simply don't understand power, society, or rights.

Let me unpack your masterpiece of nonsense: Women didn't receive rights because men woke up generous one morning. They protested, resisted, voted, and risked their lives to force societies to change. Laws weren't written out of kindness; they were written because chaos, oppression, and brute force don't work long-term.

Muscle isn't power. Real power is political, moral, and social. Without laws, institutions, and societal order, even the strongest would be unsafe, and nothing could be controlled.

Your obsession with "survival of the strongest" exposes the biggest flaw in your argument: if humans truly lived by brute strength, there would be no laws, no armies, no governments; and people like you wouldn't last long at all. Life doesn't reward ego; it rewards cooperation, intelligence, and systems. That is why civilization exists.

What we call armies would just be organized mobs if they weren't operating within laws and societal systems. Strength alone never guarantees control. Even armies are not powerful on their own, they are tools of power
shaped by political leadership, and the legitimacy that directs their use. Which is why they surrender when larger systems, alliances, or collective pressures demand it.

Rights aren't pieces of paper protected by men or fragile gifts from strong men. They are social contracts that protect everyone, including ordinary men like you. The "survival of the strongest" idea is a naive fantasy: the same laws that protect women also prevent someone stronger from taking what you have. Strip those away, and you don't become powerful; you become expendable.

Strong female leaders, like Queen Elizabeth I, ruled and survived because they understood power, laws, alliances, and institutions; not through physical strength. Strength alone never guarantees survival or power; something your whole argument completely ignores.

Civilization isn't about brute force; it's about cooperation, intelligence, and systems. Social media hasn't erased men's protective nature; it exposes insecurity in men who confuse dominance with strength and fear equality because it removes imagined leverage.

If rights only exist because men allow them, then your entire sense of security depends on pretending civilization is optional. It isn't. And if "survival of the strongest" were true, trust me; you wouldn't even survive a week.

Stop fantasizing about power and start understanding why society exists in the first place. Laws and rights aren't optional gifts; they are the backbone of civilization.

Stephen0mozzy:
Start online, then start dressing well to look confident with yourself.

Make sure you have some kind money that makes you happy with what you do and with your life - but don't put money upfront to woo a woman.

When you move to physical approach, start first by simply asking for directions from a fine girl. Then move to asking a girl who's walking that you want to walk with her (compliment her dress or shoe, ask about the area, but don't ask for number - rejection may make you run back to your shell).

Small small, you go get am clear.

When you finally get a girl that is interested in regularly talking to you, make sure she's actually an interesting person, not those ones that are hungry 6 times a day. Talk about life, trending topics, tease her, don't love bomb her - give her space, let her also initiate conversations, basically build a decent friendship, but no allow am turn to Friend zone or friends with benefits; throw am toast and then you'll have a girlfriend worth loving.

Philosopher1979:
See Boko haram started for reasons like this. Mohammed Yusuf (the founder of Boko haram) rallied against government corruption, the poverty in the country, neo colonialism, the fact that our leaders are stooges of western imperialism and were stealing our resources. However, he just used it to promote Islamic estremism and radicalism. So Boko haram is actually a people movement to emmancioate the common man in the North from the tyranny of the leaders.
This is why terrorism in Northern Nigeria is difficult to stop.
In the first place it is caused by the corruption and incompetency of the government and the faulty colonial foundation of Nigeria.

SuperOnyi:




Dear Nigerian Politicians,


I hope you all had productive week full of all the good things I can only imagine. As years pass by, I find myself alienated by the state of this great nation — my mental health has become akin to a dirty rag, I've shed tears as I suffocate but God forbid SuperOnyi ends up as a statistics—one that isn't even entirely correct.

And with the transitions I've gone through over the years, if I write down my raw thoughts, the same thing that happened to Nnamdi Azikiwe (replace the last name with Kanu) would surely happen to me; and I might be un-alived before the cock crows.

I've been called unpatriotic and crazy because I've always had a different and "weird" view of this country which can be described as anything but great. A wise Nairalander once said "you can never bet against Nigeria and lose" and this words keep manifesting like a prophecy.

I remember how "patriotic" I used to be, even as a kid, I can still feel the adrenaline of patriotism that flowed through my veins and how I'd stand like a soldier any time the national anthem was being recited. It felt good to have something I'd readily give my life too, but I keep wondering if any of you feel the same patriotism.

Do you feel motivated to make your country great like these western countries you visit?

Do you feel ashamed that your country is still in a state of absurdity when you visit other countries?

How come you believe in our educational system so much that your children are all abroad or study in private institution a poor man like SuperOnyi can only masturbate to but never enter?

I'm only a reasonable human, isn't it right that I should ask the right questions? There are just too many things that won't sit well with any reasonable human. I can't even enjoy my egusi soup and akpu anymore without being affected by your wrong actions.

What do I do?
I've prayed uncountable times already!
I've remained a good citizen!
I've hustled legitimately!
Even Mama Sadiya would confirm, I never touch even her mountainous mammary glands without her permission. God knows how much I love big boobs!

But unfortunately, the entire system is just so crooked than the veins in my gbola. Can you blame me for demanding for right governance? It's just too hard to be a Nigerian when I'm confronted everyday by insecurity, hardship, and other abnormalities like a LovePeddler spreading her legs just so she can push you into a bottomless pit.

I look at other countries, how much progress they've made through strong leadership and blueprint, and I'm forced to wondered if apartheid South Africa was right when they said people who look like me can not rule themselves.

I keep fantasizing of a country where my safety could at least be 89% guaranteed, then we can think of good roads, strong educational system, hospitals, and etc.

My mind must be watching too much telemundo.

But God gave me a brain and you expect me not to use or throw it in the trashcan, I've been frustrated all because of your actions; spare me those lies you tell, I'm not listening to them! You no longer hid your horrible and corrupt ways, it's clear enough that my friend Maikudi a blind beggar has been feeling the heat all his life.

I used to believe in "1 Nigeria" so much I wrote a song about it when I was just 10 but it was a mission I had to abort for the sake of my insanity — how can Mama Aisha who's 60 years old be shouting "up Nepa" all her life and Aisha is doing the same now?

Next time, anyone tells me anything about voting; I swear I'm biting off their tongue. A lot of people still believe Nigeria needs to be over 400 years old like America to get it right, I'm not surprised, Nigerians are so dúmb they were locked up in 2020 pandemic and their relief materials confiscated.

I'm not trying to be disrespectful or adding salt to injury but merely pointing my fingers at a mad woman who doesn't know she's insane.

I'm tired of hearing foolish words like "pray for this country", so I'm supposed to close my eyes and keep praying for years until you all decide to stop looting and do the right thing — you might as well, ask me to choke myself to death.

If you really care, show the proof by doing right things like:

1. Withdrawing all your kids studying in abroad and bringing them to government institutions.

2. Declare all your assets and the sources.
3. Withdraw all the security personnels around you and houses.
4. Relocate Aso Rock to Borno state.
5. Restructure the country and conduct a referendum.

I know this must be hard decisions to make, I wonder how you would react when you see all of my requests.

After you oblige to these requests, do to me as you please, if I ever open my pussy eating mouth to complain again. I truly cannot stand the fact that Nigeria was fairly better during the colonial rule and that you all have millions of dollars stashed away in invisible bank accounts, while I can't even afford to eat a decent meal.

I have never had the opportunities a lot of you had during the 1960s or the ones your kids are enjoying now. I'm currently at a stage where my view—that this country is irredeemable—keeps getting reinforced every morning I wake up with an erection strong enough to keep the economy standing.

This stage isn't easy for me; my revolutionary anger building up, and the hatred getting stronger than the love in my heart.

Lastly, I ask the same question a great thinker Hopsin asked in his song—man, what if Jesus was a facade; then, that would mean the government is god?

That would be mean, we would never get to experience all we keep praying to God to do for us even when we have a government:

Constant power supply,
good roads,
strong educational system,
good hospitals,
security,
and etc...

What do we have to beg God for everything in this country when he has given us the same brain he gave to South Koreans and Singaporeans?

I'm done with bothering myself about the state of this country, I was born to live and not kill myself with worries, if you all care for the country then you prove it but until then, you can do as you wish.

I'll be damned if I waste my life thinking about the future of country that even those at the realm of power couldn't care less about her future. I will spend more time doing the things I love and devouring the labia minoras and labia majoras of this world once I master my superpower of a rigor mortis pènis.

Yours sincerely,
SuperOnyi.

Cocony:
Didier Deschamps, Christian Karembeu, Emmanuel Petit and Zinedine Zidane were in the midfielder in the finals for France against Brazil in which they triumphed 3:0 and Ronaldo,Rivaldo and the other Brazilian stars were dominated.

PHIPEX:
The effect of extreme civilisation and wokeness.

the first world nations will soon go extinct due to low childbirth rate. That's why they now rely on migrations to keep afloat. Soon Europe will be populated by 50% migrants while their own people journey towards extinction

typicalgamer:
How did we lost WC ticket to them ??

If i recall we played other countries too

TheSuperNerd:
Left Back Prospect, 24y/o Emmanuel Maviram played all 90 for Tondela in their 3-1 win vs Arouca in the Liga Portugal.
He bagged a goal⚽️and provided 2 assists🅰️🅰️

His 12th start in 14 league games.