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zrealjaheal:
Baba na because things dey alright for you na why you fit thank am

Imagine me wey never chow since morning.. I fit thank you.. oh you would say atleast thank him for life.. no one knows what tommorow holds


Alaye make I first hold today first

No mind them. Even Jesus talk say Baba God why you forsake me!!!!

zrealjaheal:
What about hustle without prayers nko?

Affirmations, positive thinking, meditation, etc. Prayer in itself is hope that someone you can’t see got your back. Everything is having Hope mindset to keep you going when you feel like giving up. Some atheists are making it on this same earth without prayer. Hustle without prayer is even better than prayer without hustle.

zrealjaheal:
My whole life I have left this country thrice... birthed in france (story for another day)

Now when I saw things were about falling apart I decided to run to Germany... noted
: money wasn't the issue then but I was denied. . Tried SA was granted but I had to consult (by consult went to a prophet) he said why I was rejected for Germany was because I was living a wayward life. That I should put SA on hold and try Sweden(got no one in SA but I do have folks in Sweden)

Na so I enter better fasting.. shanked all the so called wayward life. Had to move down to the church sef make temptation no get the best of me lol


No embassy swedish embassy then you have to go submit your documents at ikoyi vfs. .


The day I was suppose to pick up my visa ... Bro I was denied again. . Nearly ran mad.. and thus time money done finish. .

Went to the prophet told him the outcome

He said
"Take heart my son God knows best for everything there is reason"


I just jejely waka comot after he was done with prayers head to the nearest bar got my soul filled


Really eh story too much. .

If you had gotten the visa, you would have worshipped the pastor as a true man of God. That is how religion work. Out of 100 people you tell “All will be well” , 30 will experience turnaround not necessarily because of the prayer, the remaining 70 that experience failure you tell them God knows best. The successful 30 will give testimony and draw another 100 people to the church and the cycle continues. Religion is truly the opium of the masses. There is always an answer for every situation.

Sochieke:
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I feel like I've failed him, I wish I could apologize I swear.

He was 95 years and he used to pick me up from airport whenever I came for Christmas break. Every single time despite his age

And he entrusted my younger ones to me, he used to say "as I have done to you, do to them" because I'm the first born.

Just hoping Canada waka can work by Gods grace. I want to make amends on all the mistakes. It really breaks my heart.

Sometimes even to cry go dey tire me.

Tell those younger ones to buckle up and not depend on you o!! Your father is no more. Don’t go and carry unnecessary burden because of his expectations of you!! Whoever is living suffers the most.

zrealjaheal:
No I am not from ekiti but spent couple of years there when everything was rosy

I was referring to what the previous poster said about helping build a church same thing happened to me. There is this school too at adebayo stadium(not sure of the name) around oke sha . I and my friends help with the renovation of the school cos most times we had issues playing bbal at stadium so we had to renovate the school's own.

Back to that church thing. Why I replied him was why would one help God and then later it feels like when you need him he is nowhere to be found

Good question. Personal Assistants to God will say “God knows best” or “ “He should wake up at 12pm to do midnight prayer and see God work wonders”. or “Every disappointment is a blessing” or “join NSPPD daily prayer”. Meanwhile some atheists are billionaires. Issorait!!!!

Sochieke:
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He left properties. But no cash. The land wet we just sell. Na to see if e go reach go Canada.

We still have properties. School in PH for my mom. 6 bedroom 2 storey in PH.

Problem is the polygamy. Mom is second wife. He has elder children. Business not doing well like before and so much debt to pay off.

What a pity!! He tried for you when he was alive though!! Chai!!! But he probably had cash in unknown bank accounts. A lot of unclaimed monies in all these Nigerian banks.

Life is random. Some are born whole, some are born deformed. Some are born to live a star life, some average life. Some move from grass to grace, some grace to grass. It’s all randomness. Better to just work with what has been given you and hope for the best. If you are not born with an atom of musical talent, no amount of prayer can make you a musician. Believing in God and prayer is what makes a poor man have ten children in faith that all will be well.

Sochieke:
Dad advised me to go the Canada or USA since we had relatives there but the reason I went to Switzerland was I wanted to be close to the commodity trading industry there. Switzerland is a hub for commodity trading . I though I could make contacts with large commodity traders there like Vitol, Glencore and Trafigura.

I did make contacts, initially I wanted to start if as a broker or but when I went deeper I realized that I need even more money to do the business.

Basically an my carelessness cause am. I was too excited to want to be in Swiss commodity trading circle. I was too business oriented because I'd never worked a day in my life.

How my money take finish was I was flying around the world a lot. When I request for a meeting with some commodity traders, Them go make I come Hungary or Monaco or London for meeting and I go fly go there for like 1 hr meeting while juggling my studies. No much progress because it requires a lot of money even to be a broker.

Sha the experience was lovely, I just wished I made better decision

You have lived the life!!!! See travel!!!! Money good o!!!!

Martinez39s:
Take heart, bro. We were all indoctrinated into various religions and superstitions growing up, thanks to our parents who should have known better. To varing degrees, we've all been victims of our ignorance and superstitions... sometimes, at the hands of crooked men (eg. clergies and spiritualists) who exploited these things.

Good thing is you are now awake. God is nonexistent; we are on our own; and there is no supernatural force from anywhere coming to bail anyone out. Cheers!

Everything i learnt about God i was told. If i was born an Indian i would probably be Hindu, in Iraq probably a Muslim. Different religions with different beliefs. Who is right and who is wrong?!!!! I have suffered from cognitive dissonance for so long until recently i decided to stop hiding behind my fears and tell myself the simple truth.

Martinez39s:
There is no god. Humans are on their own and left to their devices. No god is coming to save anyone. Know this and know peace.

The energy some use in praying can be better utilized elsewhere. The only advantage of religion is that you become part of a community and they can share your burden. At least in some churches if you make yourself useful they can help you with food, cloth or job connection. Better to attend church with a business mindset and look for who will help you there than spending hours praying on your knees.

Sochieke:
3 years ago I was basically a King from 2018 to 2019. I was doing my MBA in Zurich Switzerland, the most expensive city in the world. I was young at 24 to 25 years. Before that I was in Malaysia doing a levels and Bsc between 2010 and 2017 plus gap years I took.

Malaysia is less expensive than Switzerland but its not really that cheap because I lived in the capital (Kuala Lumpur). 2 of my sisters were also studying together with me. All financed by my father

All funded by my late father. My school fees in switzerland was 33,000 swiss francs and 25,000 swiss francs for living expenses for 1 year. Together everything then was about almost 40 million naira for a year.

While I was there I didn't try to find a job until it was too late (permit was expiring). Before that I'd never worked a day in my life before.

Basically I lived a life of luxury and everything came crashing down

I left switzerland in December 2019, didn't finish my MBA. No funds. Dad's burial took almost everything . family was in so much debt. Its crazy

Dad died few days I was supposed to leave for switzerland (he was old enough 95 years).

Anyway countdown three years later. I'm doing POS business in Lagos. I tried dispatch business but I stopped after 6 months unable to find quality riders and the Daily headaches.

Back to your question on grace to grass.

I used to travel a most every 2 weeks when I was in Switzerland. I've been to France, Germany, London, Dubai for holidays before and now I do a POS business. Its funny because i could be insulted by people wey never cross third mainland bridge before in tjis POS business but it makes me laugh though. I don't beat myself up.


If I tell people say I from.Switzerland, dem no go believe.

Tried to get a job but no positions.

I regret certain things I did. I was too comfortable that I didn't even try to get a job until it was too late.

I regret certain actions. I wished I could change things but I've moved on. Om working hard to see what I can do to rebuild. I believe if God gives me life I can go back to my former lifestyle with improvements

I'm trying to see if I can go back cheaper place like Canada or others, getting help from sister.

Picture attached was my swiss visa.

This story get as e be o!!!! Your dad must have been stingingly rich. Didn’t he leave a will? Properties, investments?. What about your relatives or was your dad the only rich man in his family?

To deceive gullible people!!!!

Berankis:
Atiku vs Southerners 2:0
1. Deleted his comment on the gruesome murder of a southern innocent girl
2. Said Northerners need a northern President, even if the person is an slowpoke, so far he is northerner, all well and good.

This is why the country keeps sinking. I regret my support to Buhari. But I seriously detest Atiku, I feel Atiku and Obasanjo should be in jail by now, with the way they accused each other of financial crimes with evidence before leaving office, but Nigerians will continue to be docile and continue to suffer so much. The worst is yet to come...

I remember what Obj said about Atiku. The man has come to finish the remaining money.

Krak:
I will not be surprised if most of the people commenting on that Twitter thread and even on this Nairaland thread, are Russian bots and propagandists.

Gbam!!! You Sabi!!!

abbey621:
It's the reason why many men misbehave in Nigeria. The divorce settlement is not men settling women but the household assets divided between the two people who contributed to it over the years either physically or emotionally. Furthermore, who told you divorce rate is low in Nigeria? Maybe you believe only those who go to court are actually divorced, in 9ja many women are still married legally but are living separately from their husbands and never going back, in fact them don born for another man

Gbam!!!

MedicH:
so that when the oil explode it bcoms a barbeque festival lol

black people from the sahel

E sure me say when God said let us create man in our own image, na white people they create. How black people take emanate remains a misery.

Pandev:
baba dodged the question. Religious people only believe in heaven and hell, they actually don't have concrete evidence of the existence.

Some people are already experiencing HELL in this earth while some are in Heaven.

internationalman:
You people must find a way to support these leaders that don't care about you.

Mind y'all Nigeria is not even in the top 30 biggest country by land mass.

Y'all are yarning dust saying media is making it seems like crime is everywhere. If anything, crime is underreported in Nigeria.

Not every crime is on media. Just last month alone there where 3 cases of kidnapping and 2 cases of ritual killings in my area in Benin which I've not seen anywhere on social Media.

Gbam!!! Nigerians are selfish. As long as they or their families are not affected. They probably believe the people that died did not pray or speak the blood over themselves before stepping out.

Queensfield:
You want it to be reflected on the whole country and exterminate every soul before you agree there's a security failure from your govt?!

Don't mind him. When you sell your soul to the devil, lying becomes natural.

That's why i am never in support of Pastors joining politics. They become part of the world and stop telling the truth.

Halo22:
I have been working in this company for about 8 years now and to be frank, I don't see any much improvement both financially and otherwise.

In addition to that, I noticed some degree of negligence and disregard for old staff, it seems the more years you spend in the company, the less value you accrue. However, I attribute that to the administrative incompetence of the Director who took over from the mum before she( the mum) finally joined her ancestors.

Recall that in April this year, she fired the General manager without any explanation to the rest of the staff, no staff meeting nor briefing. Shortly after that, she reshuffled the managerial team and employed 3 unknown persons who were never part of the company to take over the Management of the company, while she still remains the Director.

All these she did without any form of recourse to her old staff. I never bothered as an old staff until recently, when we started noticing some more incompetency in administration and management of the company. It rose to the extent that workers receive half salary sometimes without any briefing, allowances are not being paid and when they pay, they short pay us.

I couldn't hold it any longer as a man of justice and as such, I wrote to the Director after having meeting with the new GM. In my letter I expressed on behalf of other workers, the feelings of maltreatment and administrative Injustice, as most of them are afraid of opening up, to avoid being sacked.

Then after, the Director herself called for a general meeting and instead of to apologise for all these financial and managerial malfeaseances, she chose to tackle the old workers particularly myself, thinking that we were working against her. I still stood my ground on the path of Justice, finally she tried to pacify the workers by promising a salary increase, based on the number of years spent in the company. But then, I have been on her watchlist all through.

Any little mistake I make, she would capitalize on that to weigh me down. I now seek ur opinions, whether to continue in the company or resign. Good a thing, I have a business that even pay me better than the job.

Your opinions please.

You should have tread softly until you got another job. Before embarking on a battle, you study your opponent. Tackling a vindictive woman direct was not really wise. If you have side business that can sustain you, you can resign immediately. If not, get a job and leave. The way you wrote to Mgt sef when everyone else was afraid of getting sacked, be like say you get some small connection sef.

This thread was interesting and insightful. It reminded me of the debates in secondary school then.

The Nigerian Govt needs to write a letter of commendation to the Navy especially the officers involved. I think for now the Navy is more disciplined than both the Army and Police combined.

Trust50:
I'm a bakery owner with eighteen years experience. Infact we started like family business but we later settled ourselves. We are three out of four men in the business.
Currently, we are checking on other business to do as bakery isn't profitable again.
My dear, if I see any job that pays me #100.000.00 naira now I won't think twice but gladly accept the offer.
Don't leave your current job, you will surely regret

This is reality on ground. One needs to be careful. Motivational speakers are dangerous. There are important factors that need to be taken into consideration.

POTUS9ja:
My brother please listen to me. I'm a bakery owner and a master baker here in Uyo. I started the business in 2015. After I trained in the Living Faith Church Headquarters (Canaanland) Bakery and other local bakeries at Ota. After my training, I did not have the funds to start; so what I did will shock you. I started buying loaves from Canaanland and flying them via plane to Uyo to sell. That was how passionate I was. Who does that? Lol!

I eventually started my bakery small scale and within a year, it grew to become one of the best three brands in Uyo City. My secret was quality and good customer relations.

See enh! A lot is required of you if you must go into this business. This decision is not to be taken lightly. There are a mile-long reasons I can give you why you must not just saunter into it. Get yourself a professional for advice. You must know the enormity of the task ahead.

I speak this way from personal experience as an owner, baker and Consultant in this business.

But if I must give my candid and undiluted advice; now is NOT a good time to enter this business. As I speak to you, I have closed my factory for months now. Almost 40% of my colleagues have done same too.

This is Uyo I'm taking about. I don't know of your own base. Generally speaking, there has been a serious downturn of the business. Bakery business is lucrative despite it's huge challenges. But the reality on ground now is that we are no longer making money the way we used to. Why do you think the National body of Master Bakers have threatened to go on strike? Our materials are so costly now that we can no longer make profits. You will attest that prices of bread have hit the roof. As a result people can no longer afford bread as before. Consequently, sales have dropped for the few factories still managing to produce.

You will also notice that the quality of the bread you used to buy has dropped drastically. This is the only way the bakers can manage to make a little profit.

Personally I have refused to alter my quality just because I want to make sales. I have come too far to lose my position in the market. I reckoned that I rather take a hiatus than to temper with my bread quality that is so beloved by many.

I am not discouraging you o! But please seek the input of experienced practitioners or consultants.

If you were here in Uyo or neighbouring towns, I would have gladly helped.

Goodluck Amigo!

The best advice comes from people who are in the business. When people are running away from the business, is that the right time to start?

Better to have everything on ground so when things stabilize you hit the ground running. Not jumping into it now.

Cleanworld:
''What of'' Will never allow you to be great. Seven year on 100k salary? So what of if you are sack today? won't you find a way and start that business. if you can put all ego aside and handle that business like its for another person, it won't be long before you will get to your great height .

SO WHAT OF IF YOU STRATEGIZE AND ASK OTHER TO JOIN YOU BASE ON COMmISSION?

GO I SAY ....AND PROSPER NOW!

Aspire to Inspire. Na una dey lead person to grave.

LoveUdie:
My wife and I have been married for 6 years and have a son who is 4 years old.
She confessed to me that she has been having an affair for “about a year” with a guy from church and is around 6 weeks pregnant based off when she had her last period. The last time we had sex was yesterday, before that the last time was maybe 4 months ago. She told me that she pretty much only had sex with me because she thought maybe she could make it seem like the baby is mine.

From what I understand, she hasn’t told her affair partner that she is pregnant. She showed me the last texts between them (it looked like there were some that were deleted). He asked her to call him when she could, and he replied with she needed some space from him and to not contact her anymore. She told me she will end it officially with him and was crying begging me to forgive her. I told her that I needed space and went into our bedroom and locked the door (which is where I am now). I could hear her sobbing a little while ago but it sounds like she’s stopped.

I posted on relationship_advice and a lot of the replies were validating but not helpful for the kind of advice I need right now. I’m going to have to face her tomorrow morning and our son will be there. I don’t know what to say to her. I know he’s only 4 and I don’t know how much of this he will remember but I never want him to see me speak to his mother with anything except respect. I grew up with divorced parents who hated each other and I don’t want that for him. I don’t know how I feel about her right now, I’m too angry but I’m pretty sure things aren’t salvageable.

A Nigerian man asking advice about his wife’s infidelity? Lmao. Anyway, your child will survive if you part ways.

VeryWickedMan:
Take your son for DNA test. If positive, kill the mother.
If negative, kill both.

Use poison.


Modus operandi:
Smile a lot in the days leading up to this act.
Forgive her. Act like you've come to terms with the situation. If abortion is decided, support her. If successful, act relieved and happy. Behave well. Buy goodies for the family. Defend her furiously if attacked by nosy friends/family. Allow sufficient time to pass so you won't be suspected (months).


Strike.

What!! This is so funny.

This man is a big time fool.

They thought Boko haram will focus only on Christians. But an inferno doesn’t recognize anybody.

I don’t like reading news like this cos i feel panic building at the edge of my mind. Can’t imagine what the victims are going through.

SadiqBabaSani:
All will end in nothing.

I would Preffer they investigate Northern Nigeria Development Company NNDC and Several other corrupt laden agencies.

Since Buhari took over in 2015 he appointed over 80% of the Heads several agencies from the Northern Region, this people most of whom are currently looting with reckless abandon will not be brought to book if another 'Namu Namu neh' person take over Aso Rock.

Let there be mo sacred Cows, we need to investigate and prosecute, Anyone whether he be Hausa, Yoruba or Igbo when theh cross the line

Buhari just pack northerners put for juicy positions and no be say dem get sense. Cow brain all of them. Including the southerners wey him put.

isaacasak:
What about his pple in NNPC what is he doing to the and his so called northerner Malami and co

That’s his son in law. He don become untouchable.

Na now Efcc wake up.