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Gboliwe:
Sir, leave accountability alone. TeHN is accountable to us, you don't have to tell them, its a core part of their process and we have had no doubt to query them on that yet.

Thanks for your vote of confidence

somebody:
Thanks - any help has been suspended till further notice.

good

kimco:
lol

oh buh he did die...remember....rasengan.

sasuke vs itachi was more weapon fights before eye battle. i know there were taijutsus...but they wasnt much of them. wanted more.

No he died when he did the rinne tensei
The clone bodies could be destroyed.. yes

The weapon fight was super also
Shuriken!

yOU DOnt need to explain yourself to anonymous people
However i think where you have helped him to is enough for now

Let him show responsibility first

somebody:
I just wanted to clarify and explain my position. When I came across this thread and got involved, i decided that I would see the OP through university which was why I kept up with a monthly allowance. When I discovered his new post lying, of course I was upset and washed my hands off him. But after sleeping on it, I remembered what my initial intentions were and incidentally had read about forgiveness a few days prior.

I don't want to encourage his laziness any further which is why the allowances have stopped and he has to demonstrate that he has manned up and is able to pay his final years fees on his own and I will refund it. I am giving him a way to redeem himself. If he doesn't, then of course my money will be put to better use.

cococandy:
a man tells his WIFE his whorres are better than her yet somehow she's the one with acidic tongue?

You people think only women know how to talk?
Those words alone can kill a woman for ever yet you only saw the woman's mouth.

Remember too she said he never agrees to his own faults because every time she tries to communicate it ends in a shouting match even when she has agreed to work on her fault.

Was she shouting to herself? So it is plain that they both shout at each other and say hurtful things to each other.

Don't make it a young-women-have-acidic-tongues issue Biko. This man is just as mouthed as any foul mouthed person ever.
Add unrepentant philandering and pride to it.
Recipe for disaster

Ok

Spy360:
I wonder how you study players and their technique. Is Wilshere that bad?
His style of play brings a special dimension to a team. Wilshere is a player that can collect the ball from defence and drive it into attack just like Pirlo.
As far as I am concerned he is above average, he is not there yet but is coming.
When I see a player progressing into a star I know, only few people in the world (like Arsene) have such ability.
Mou sold off Schurrle for Cuadrado, for me thats absolute lack of faith. Hope he wont regret it.

Its not about style


Let him play one full season before u call him next vieira

damiso:
Ok o Mr Pickabeau

I don taya

OP you need to apologise for the threat .Believe me we all have one thing we want to change about our spouse but that's the irony you can't change another human being to what you think they should be not even your children.Be the bigger person I was talking about and apologise.

Try not to issue threats and ultimatums when discussing issues.Some people don't respond well to 'talks' which aim to highlight their flaws (even though I know uv admitted yours).Sometimes written communication in a non accusatory way might be a good way to pass thoughts across.

Nice one

damiso:
Because sometimes in marriage its not always about being right or having the upper hand or having the last word or ego or power tussle or mind control etc. .

I also don't think its good to throw the D word around but you know what very early in my marriage I said some things that I now look back and am not proud of (e.g I once told hubby I would have been better off in Nigeria if he did not bring me to come and suffer in the UK ) amongst some other silly imature things. You know what he choosing to overlook my silliness at those times was him being the bigger person and moving forward because the marriage meant more to him than my silliness at the time .

That is hubby
Moreover you never said u wanted out
Dealing with relocation is different from saying no marriage


My point is that this is not the first time this woman sharpens her tongue on this man

The man don tire

kimco:
the naruto vs pain fight had some funny moments like the road runner legs pain suddenly developed, he was also torn apart, he was smacked against a hill hit with a huge rock like a nail into wood and still he didnt die. but guess wat...rasengan killed him atlast. all hail rasengan, the be all end all of all attacks. kishi smh.

i dnt know why taijutsu was less elaborated in this manga. wud have awesome to see orochimaru's taijutsu skills. i hate sasuke but his fights had less chirping and more incorporating of everything he knew. his fights were just beautiful to watch

He couldn't die cos those were avatars.

Taijustu...


Lee vs Kimimaro
Obito vs kakashi..kamui dimension
Sasuke vs Itachi before the eye battle...I don't know if Knives count

damiso:
That's why I said empty threats naa if you want to leave why don't you just leave without announcement? People that want to leave just do it so all that her 'announcement' was childish.

That said it's not about who leaves the house .It's more one person choosing not to act as childish and immature as the next person. They sha slept in that house till the next morning.


I agree with your last sentence a bit sha. I know he too gave her 'transport fare' to add melodrama to it too joor.

I know couples fight (me and my husband have had our fair share) but one person knowing when to diffuse tension or soft pedalling for the other helps..Humour helps as well.If hubby gives me transport money(won't happen though just saying) the next morning after an argument I will tell him I will use it to buy a top because this is my house. What's your own sef so you too are taking what I said seriously (I agree that individuals and relationships differ though) He too could have also said in a joking manner ' so madam will you be here when I get back'

Me I am not blaming the husband because i know some people hate being threatened but I think he could have also not gone down her melo dramatic route.

That said there seems to be underlying issues that they both need to go throw.

Whether you call it empty or not
The woman said I no do
The man said OK..dey go Na

Why are u blaming d man for granting her request

Nonso23:
The husband even gave her Tfare ... in this naija
I think O.p is realizing that she's about to lose a very good man and hence is grasping at the wind for all available forms of moral support.

Not everybody will take serious threats like that lying low. Any man who begs his wife after she throws the Divorce word has automatically ceded the steering of the marriage to her. It would become a case of her doing him a favor by staying married to him.
That man is a real man.

That may be why she brought up the condom angle. ...who knows

Ewuro4:
You're the one adding to the story. I'm only dealing with what was said here.

'Saying the D word Raised the bar'.. Laughable

Once again..i ask you

Have you read the original post

Let me quote for you

I also said I wasn't interested in the marriage if he can't accept his fault and make efforts to change. He told me what am i waiting for that I can leave the next day which is today. I said fine I will leave and to my suprise, this morning

Women

No wonder they say when a woman says NO..she means maybe

Maybe is YES

So now I'm leaving is like let's stay together

Feminine Lingo....lol

Nonso23:
Women dey funny.
House that is a product of his sweat, effort and stress. He should leave it for you??

You are a co-owner as a wife until you directly or indirectly indicate your interest to leave the union. Then it becomes 'all man answer your papa name' which is not a bad idea at all.

Lol
That's what is causing the wahala

I even asked if he left the house next morning.

They don't mind

damiso:
Not holding brief for empty threats (OP threatening divorce at sign of conflict is a no no) but its THEIR house naa oga.

She said I am not interested in the marriage(agreed wrong ) not I want to go back to my father's house..That transport fare gesture kinda signals 'this is more my house than yours'.

Another home holder

So if he leaves the house for her.

You are ok

What does I am.not interested in marriage mean again ?

Is it different from divorce
.LOL

Ewuro4:
1. Damn right .. Couples fight , it's a norm.

2. Take a breather , yes.
Leave the marriage? Why would he?

Madam....
You r not getting it

They have been having couple fights up.n.down


She raised the bar with the D word
The man.said ok na..i agree


The issue you have..i.put to you...is that he is the one staying put in.d house

Maybe he wants d divorce

Ewuro4:
Answer my Q

No I would not

But if her mouth is driving me to High bp levels I will leave the house and move to another house of mine

Ewuro4:
Yes.

Ok....no wahala

So am I wrong if I say your indignation about this issue is not about the marriage and reconciliation but the fact that she was encouraged to leave the house

If he had left the house and marriage for her..you no get wahala

Ewuro4:
ofcourse after she lashed out to leave. So next step is to give her Tfare, will you do such if she coown that house with you?

That's why I asked u earlier

Do you prefer he left the house for her

Ewuro4:
Go reread the post.

He gave her Tfare and told her to leave the keys with the guard, what did that indicate to you?

Lol

Did u read d op

He just gave her tfare out of the blue?

Ewuro4:
There's nowhere in my posts that supported her actions in any way ( it's beeteeen both of them) .... I only have a problem with his behaviour that all. If You still don't get that that then dont know how else to put that.

Ok

The beauty of this thread is that the op herself said she knows she has an acidic mouth

Her mouth will cause issues for her

Let's start from there

Ewuro4:
I give up. No more gentleman left in Nigeria. #Red eyes

I don't get you at all

A man is obviously cracking under the strain of a self professed harridan that harries him up an down

So he should stay and suck it up like a gentleman?


Why don't u guys talk to the younger women about the power of the tongue and its potential to destroy a man's psyche.

Ewuro4:
Leave to cool off?? Now that sounds mature to me.
He needs to be coached how to treat a woman.

No

Leaves the house for her and rents another accomodation

carefreewannabe:
We don't know what choices she has.



Don't know what you are talking about.

OK

One billion monikers makng umpteenth posts

Classic obsession compulsion

Ewuro4:
Well that was my initial solution- Get his family involved.. And not move an inch from that place.

Well there are other mature and sensible ways to express ones grouse to your partner in a marriage besides Deportation out of where is meant to be her home too.

What is she to him ; his kid thrown into a naughty corner.

Pele pele oh baba olowo.. Ejo oh

Do you prefer he leaves instead

This op is mouthed.... There's a limit anyone can take

carefreewannabe:
I was being sarcastic.

You have summarized the story well but how is your opinion at the end, that she should leave if he is cheating, different from what others have told her?

Its her choice
Others will see if there is a chance to work things out

Wat I found amusing was the staccato posts on the same issue coupled with the assumptions being made

People were projecting

Ewuro4:
hehehe



but pick' jokes apart, couples are meant to argue. Even the śhittiest argument. In fact any marriage devoid of it is scary and must be paid attention to. My grouse is not even with his way of life after all she was aware of this prior tying the knot. When couples fight, they should sit and thrash it out , he has no right throwing her out like he did, it's disrespectful and belittling way of treating one's partner and future mother of his children. He's very rude and be reprimanded for that.

His behaviour is way more crude that her runny mouth sef. Or is that how women are being treated in your neck of the woods now??

Obviously he is tired of her acidic mouth and decided to call her bluff

If she begs....he will now be in charge fully (not that he should not be but there should be mutual respect though he is d head)

Let her go and get the elders involved

She has to curb her mouth

No man will just want to deport his wife ordinarily especially as she is preggers

carefreewannabe:
Not forgotten, perfectly justified.

Not so

If you read the op

She agreed she has some faults which she agreed to work on

What ticked her off was the fact her did not accept some of her feedback

Then the verbal fisticuffs

She threw down the D word


Everyone condemned her

Then now she brings up a story of condoms

If it is true he is cheating.. Its best she moves out for her sanity.

But if she just said it to troll....

Once the topic became cheating.... See hyperventilation

Her self professed evil mouth has been forgotten

Her self professed faults thrown in the abyss

Na today?

Keky:
Decent? Dude has been outstanding.

ok

You said the same about wilshere in 2011

Na today

Every flash in the pan is hailed as lightening gold

zeb04

im trying to get the link of the question to the topic of people instilling hatred in kids
LOL