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mutter:
Not encouraging but also not fighting but diplomatically steering subtly against it.

I would not ask him if he wanted a doll but if he wanted one I would ask him to wait till his birthday or some other event, hoping that he would forget about it and wish something else. When he got a bit older like 6 I encouraged him to go for a male doll as well as a female and somewhere along the line it was just male dolls and then it stopped.
He wanted to wear a princess dress, I let him on condition he would take it of. The first day he wore it about an hour, the next time I let him wear it a few minutes and he took it off without protest. After the second time he never asked again. Before that he had been wanting to do it everyday but was afraid his siblings would finish him. The role I had to play here was to get them to let him be on condition that he promised to take it off after some time.

Practical ...

Timbuktou:
Exactly. The guy's bought himslef some leverage though, and what could have been an advantage to the bride's family has somehow become a disadvantage.

But he has messed everything up



He could still have achieved his aim without enbarassing the two families

joywendy:
which one is story bending?

pickabeau1 i see you

Lol.... I see you too

How are you doing and how is the countdown to year end

Story bending Na all the conspiracy theories of lezzie love una dey postulate Na

I enjoyed Korea though she was annoying in the first season

Another thing that was different between her n aang is that it was about a buildup to a showdown with zuko's father

Unlike this one that has a villain per season

Abee79:
I completed the story in a 2nd post below the 1st one. I also gave my reasons for keeping quiet and the aftermath

OK..cool

Timbuktou:
Then the family should have refused to give their daughter to him, but I guess they were more interested in the prospect of acquiring livestock.

Its not easy to call off a marriage at that stage
Com'on

People have come from far n Wide

A.fine was OK

Its traditional....maybe the extent of the fine was high

mutter:
I think that was a wrong approach.
It would have been better for her to let the child play those games and live out his fantasies while also trying to subtly interest him in other things. The problem with not living out your fantasies as a kid is that you take them to adulthood and then start doing it secretly because you have learnt to hide it. That is why most of them take time to out themselves.
I had a child tat was doing it and I let him be , I even bought him dolls. I did not encourage him but I did not stop him, every one thought he would be gay but today he is still a teen and finds girls very attractive and relates to them very well. He is also very humane and I know his wife would be very lucky one day because he is not a Macho type.

Can you explain how you did this practically

Not encouraging but buying dolls

Abee79:
(1) A similar thing happened to me some time back. I went to visit my girlfriend without notice. I was shocked to see a framed picture of another guy in her room, placed conspicously. Her own little pix was neatly tucked at the edge of the frame. I swallowed every trace of panic and anger. We were planning to get married the following year for Christ sake! I spent three hours there and did not even mention the strange picture before me. I noticed she was uneasy, but I ignored her and gisted normally.

So what happened after

Did u move on

Did she marry d guy

Timbuktou:
Hahahaha. You find him haughty, but not the deluded in-laws who have obviously over-valued their daughter. He's far from haughty, he simply told them to fvck off and go fvck their daughter as well. I would like to provide that man a year's supply of his drink of choice.

I will have agreed with you but for his drunk behavior

2014 was a super year for Arsene


First he won the stamina league topping the league for 16 weeks

Now he has first EPL club to five million followers

The torch passes on

Silkmoth33:
A Busty chick/fowl, don't u think?

Ermm......

Dunno

She's old..dude


Meanwhile... Lovely takedown by Matt n jer on enzo

Caroline mum looking good in non sheriff outfit

MizMyColi:
Truss me Beau, You'll Looovvvveee it!
Hehehehehehe

All my Geek friends in the house keep testifying!
If you wanna get the hang of it, just start from the last episode. O Lawd, those show runners iyaf pinish me


It was tight! Tight!

Haters gon hate....forget em reviews.
They just got bad PR, those guys are good!

OK....I will look out for it

It may not get a second season though

cococandy:
Some people have more than one account. They will ask wih their various accounts. You never sabi we Nigerians and freebies ?

There has to be a way
They r just repeat loading and are ashamed to say thanks...

Make una free her
She's the one even sayin thanks

See gang up

Lol

Stellx is better than some others though
At least she says tanks

Other repeat loaders just load and pass

I think there should be a criteria which ensures randomization

Say every 5th poster or based on those who ask and the numbers are PM'ed to them

Good to see clanners here

Who plays boom beach

MizMyColi:
hmmm
I'll have to re-watch.

no o o
I haven't.

Do you watch Scorpion?

OK

No ...about geeks.....

The reviews are not too cool

What do u think

MizMyColi:
Hmmm
My dear, that episode is so so confusing.

I watched it in a haste.
I haven't re-watched since then.

Plus, my not being so grounded in the comics kyna puts me at a disadvantage.

What questions do you have


Have you watched flash point paradox

MizMyColi



Did u see the fight between the Flashes

I like the firestorm cameo but in the comics
He was two personalities
The man and d fire
Let's see how this firestorm Plays out

Smartini:
Yeah, the battle formation and combo against the tanks and the giant robot was nice...which was weird, because the formation seemed so faultless and perfect. When did they plan it?


Kuvira gave up too soon. The fight was so short, and it was painfully predictable. The Finale of The Last Airbender lasted over an hour, but it seemed the producers wanted this one to be done with quickly. How do you explain Zuko, Toph and Katara not seeing eye-to-eye at least once in this series?

It was the same length of the last air bender finale
2 episodes in one
They planned it..
There's no need to show us d planning like a nollywood film

There's no need
Remember what toph said this is the new kids era
They will sit back


This was between earth and republic city

Fire nation was tired of wars
Southern tribe too are still recovering from unalaq

Smartini


Interestingly I think the fight was superb


Team Avatar vs Mega Mech
Bolin/Mako vs Metal benders
Kora vs Kuvura

Beifongs vs Metal benders....


It was superb

joywendy:


so much i wanna say

Lets wait till evening at least many people like ujsizzle,saintneo, cao,pickabeau1, etc would have watched it by then.

my opinion

Lovely finale......


Kora has matured greatly

Wendy80:
To ans ur questions,
@ Tallesty1 we don't knw why d guy left her. She herself doesn't know too. When I tried to communicate to get something out of him he kept saying nothing, that he lost interest. I got my hubby to talk to him to see if he can open up as in Man to man for where. As in he just walked away without telling her or any1 anything.
@ chaircover I don't know why he's in a haste o. I'm still trying to figure dat out myself.
@ pickabeau1 she can't inform her parents when she hasn't made up her mind abt ds guy.
She has always known this new guy but not dating. He didn't know about d pregnancy when he proposed to her. When she told him about it he tot she was joking, he had to come down to see for himself and still stood his ground.
What I don't get is d rush. I just have ds strong feeling nothing ain't right.
He has even informed his people.
Omoo me I don't know again oo

Inform her people about which guy?
Is it only when she is marrying she talks to her parents?

OK..then
I wish her the best

mutter:
He is a special guy and there are quite a few men that would do it when they love a woman. My father married my mum although she has a child and it went very well.
Since her parents are aware of the situation I am sure they would happily give their blessing. Many parents even look to get their daughter married off if she is pregnant.

eagleeye2:
An average man will not want it, if he was deceived into believing it was his before.
I have seen men urge their wife to adopt child(ren) other than their own.

Ok

mutter:
The man is a very noble man. He is marrying the girl in her condition and is in a hurry to take away the stigma of her being a single mother.
Your friend should go for the marriage, that way it would be easier for the child to be absorbed in the family.
There are so many children born into marriage where the man does not even know he is not the biological father.
I have also seen many cases like this where the family just marry the girl of.
Years to come she would realize that she made the right decision.
A child bearing her own fathers name is not just as easy at it appears. It brings implications with it and one day people would surely remind that child that this is not his home.
Please advice your friend to go for the marriage if she has feeling for the man.

An average guy does not want to raise another mans child
he will even prefer to have her without the child hence the need to be patient in this scenario

Smhart1:
chill till after the marriage

this

Juzzybabe:
My problem is even at 1year,I still don't want my mother in law to raise my kids,and that is my husband plan. what will I be doing in Dubai while my mother in law impacts her ideas of life in my kids?

There is nothing wrong with your line of thinking.....timing is the issue

Have the baby first hassle free

Then you can face that battle


Get help in addition

First things first


Remove all worries from your mind as you are in a delicate situation n high bp is not the best thing for a pregnant woman


Try n get help with you n forget your hassles with ur in laws


You can't even leave that baby with anyone until 6- 9 months which is a year away so why stress yourself

Create a post here
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Wendy80:
She's yet to tell them, she's afraid of another disappointment.

Well that's the first step

Also I see the point of the second man who wants to get the matter over and done with

However I suggest she tells her parents the matter
They Trry to reach out to the family of the first man
If no progress, he forfeits everything from that relationship


The child is born without his name as father
Let her use her father name.

Then she courts the new man

If he is interested he can adopt her first child properly


Her parents are key

What have the girls parents said


Wendy80