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MizMyColi: Certainly Not! I just mentioned that they are two good indicators. Carriage has barely nothing to do with the kind of appearance I'm talking of here. It goes beyond the physical, what she wears or doesn't. It has to do with individual perception of the aura surrounding her, the kind of energy she exudes: positive or negative, attractive or repelling...........you get?

On a ketro level..metaphysical..

How come some women generally don't use these same parameters for guys

Nairalandinfo: Got this statement from base:
Oh Kishi, where did it all go wrong that even ya defense teamz on NL could no longer stand & fight 4 thee? What a downslide....but $€¥£ don swell enuff to retire 2 anoda manga or possibly anoda time-skip.

hahaha... A female follower of naruto series called me after reading it and said "IS THAT ALL"

So anticlimactic

Let me call his chief defenders maybe they will have one or two things to say

tayoccu

Godmystrength: I know what i am saying. what are you doing with a yoruba girlfriend if you can't marry a yoruba female??

olowodaddy: . Abeg no vex, but what are those consequences, I assume U mean negative consequences. Cos right now I can only see the good sides of having just one kid. Please enlighten a brother.the reason I opened this thread is because I was actually contemplating another kid. But I paused because I found out the only reason I was thinking about it was because of what people were saying not because I saw anything good in having more kids

I did not mean it in a negative light
But every decison has a consequence.. whether good or bad

Nothing ventured; nothing gained..

It is YOUR decision, YOU will live with the rewards; YOU will live with YOUR wife,..its YOU

Synonyms of consequence

1. outcome, issue, upshot, sequel

You dont need to hve someone else to make a decision that is yours to make and yours to enjoy or suffer the consequences

olowodaddy: . Touching. You almost converted me. Is there nobody that wants to have just one kid like me out there? I'm beginning to feel like an alien. Or am an alien? if you are like me please come out and support a brother.

3cycle: Both

ok...i have to commend your frankness though i cant help but wonder on the life cycle of friendships taken offline
More often than out the friendship cannot be romantic as one or both parties will be engaged, married or about to.
These things take time to grow even to the extent of passing friendships and maturity is key

Do you think you had enough info to even make a leap... what if there was no romantic angle..

lrguru: The same thing is happening to me right now. last nite just cos a girl just replied my whatsapp message after a long time when I just reformatted my phone with "lol", all hell was let loose and my babe insulted the living day light out of me and has even packed her things and left. She said she is my gf that I am a devil, bastarrrd, demon bla bla bla. She was shouting all thru the night till almost mornin. She just evicted herself by herself

Maybe she has packed herself out for another amiable person
Shouting all through the night?

Just mess up my day the next day.. no sleep

Exactly... personal responsibility

Godmystrength: I say.
Na you sabi....
Anything you like advocate o. OPs go still do wetin they like

3cycle: Lucky you

If i may ask

what does wooing mean? whats the end game
Is it an e-thing or it goes offline

TV01: Just a big unnecessary and incoherent rant.

If a man - of whatever age - decides a woman - of whatever age - is too old for him or too be considered an old hag, he has every right to think that and make his choice of a wife - or no wife - based on that. It may well be crude and uncivil to voice it out, but no one has any right to shame him because of his choices.

You'd be best advised to take your crusade to young women - best write-off the "old hags" - and educate them about the biological and social imperatives that will come to bear in their lives and the expedient of maturing and marrying in a timely fashion.

This will avoid long lines of egg-shrivelled old hags with calcified uteri trooping into religious institutions of questionable nature and parting with large sums to robe-clad men of questionable character and possibly being "coerced" into questionable or immoral activities.

All the best


TV

The bolded......OUCH!

magictouch: Well I cant completely say that I am happy cos I dont like the fact that I have to ignore my husband sometimes but since that is the only language he understands and respond to, I got to apply it. I use to weep at his feet each time we had issues, he walks over me and let me cry till my eyes are swollen. but these days, he is the one doing the begging. though am very careful how I apply it sha.

i can appreciate where you are coming from but mind games in a marriage are never the best
Nothing works like communication in my opinion

Godmystrength: tah!! you full every classroom o......

who sai..u sef tah!.. i will never advocate mind games or divorce as some are wont to do

olowodaddy: . My point exactly is, what are the consequences? Its like some people have children like spare tyre, incase one dies you have back up or "spare child"

That may seem crude to some but it is not less valid than your desire to have one child

Tradtionally kidshave been a support system for when parents are old, a means of achieving expansion however quality of the child is very important.

One child may be more successful than the remaining siblings. I have single children as friends who are doing very well

However the choice is yours

Godmystrength: reject wetin? you no be student from the school ni?

i no dey..

As long as u r happy with your decisions and the consequences of that decision

Godmystrength: Who are you talking to now??our principal?

I reject am....

imasleek: he's an acquaintance.

What kind of acquaintance

How long have u known him for

Lets assume he just needs the opportunity to get close to you and if he loses interest in you.. what next??

egopersonified: Game changer, op, I withdraw my entire first post,except he has a sister staying with him, if not, pls start searching for options. If you were involved in a church or some other group at home, maybe they can know someone that knows someone that u can stay with.
But pickabeau1, this one you have already termed him a benefactor, maybe na good samaritan nigerian.

Wetin i go call am now...

he may be genuine or he may be looking for an inroad...

harrysterol: the was no need for alarm or scrupulous and provocative words...every single thought has been on opinion, try and be constructive in replies

As you were destructive with your opinion

Dude ... step up your circle

imasleek: i don't have any option. i'm just scared that being a guy, he'll one day want sex in return and i may end up being pregnant

How did you meet him

egopersonified: Do you have any other options? If not, as long as he doesnt use people for rituals or eat them, then why not try his place?

i think d poster is female and the benefactor is male ....

Another testimony from the Nairaland school

I hope you are happy

magictouch: I wasnt going to comment until i read the bolded part. Anyways just know that with your lovey dovey behaviour, he is going to hate u more.
you dont love urself and u are VERY weak and he knows this, so he is taking advantage of this.
Babes u are too young to be putting yourself through this stress, if u drop dead today, he wouldnt even think twice about remarrying within a year.

Oh girl no time for dolling oooh, let me tell u wot works for me.... when my hubby begins acting funny, I just distant myself completely. If he like make e use e head waka, if he refuses the eat, no problem, I and my kids eats the food in his very presence, if he ask questions I give straight answers, I tell you he cant carry on for more than 3-4 days he will be on his kneels begging unlike before I use to cry and beg at his kneels. he now knows that Kaki no be leather and he wonders where I get my strength from cos he know I also do not have friends.

I got this tip from Nairaland and it's been working for me. Please stop licking his ass and live ur life.

harrysterol: A man that has been eating good food will find it difficult and unnecessary to eat outside apart from his home, been prone to eating outside as a married man can lead you to certain unseen stories been observed in everyday life most leading to broken homes, having mistresses,food poisoning and a host of others just to mention few
With respect to my fellow yoruba people I have observed in many occasions where the woman of the house does not cook but rather gives the kids money to eat road side food, this alone incorporate character in that child which he or she grows up with, therefore making the female children practically unable to be a good house wife material in the kitchen
Haven spent most time in the western part of Nigeria especially lagos I have seen this peculiar character in the female gender not just by observations but by practical examples
One of the illustrative example among the many I have had with my yoruba female girlfriend has been she cooking fried egg with what I could not imagine,the second has been a very annoying situation with a food which was supposed to be a delicacy called fried rice turn out tobe a ("doomicacy" that left me stooling for days, it dint only end there among many I can't explain
With this point so far been expansiated I doubt in my right sense I will want to marry a yoruba female
N/B this is just my opinion, if food does not count in marriage then u can give me a better reason to marry a yoruba

. clown

At the bolded... another crappy generalisation which says more of the people you associate with
You need to step up your circle of associates

You are free to marry from any tribe.it is your prerogative

derbybliz: Cuz she does nt have a super team like anag, plus no direct source of motivation like anag

Exactly

MizMyColi: Her appearance and the way she speaks in a serious conversation are two good indicators.

Can you explain further what u mean

Is the desired wife all about appearance and carriage ...?

coogar: you nigerian women set those standards - don't lump nigerian men into it.

Im surprised she made it all about the church and later the men

zboyd: The only thing worse is being married and remaining childless.

But that's another issue entirely.

People should take personal responsibility for their own lives
Yes some are genuine miguided but these are few. the majority are willing to be misled

First believe in yourself, seek God for who he is and not through middlemen, develop yourself to be worthy spouse but above all, believe in yourself and be ready to face the consequences of your choices.


At the bolded.. we await your next rant topic

zboyd: First, I am condemning predatory pastors and their minions who use Christian women's fear of never marrying to s-xually exploit them and gain access to their money, in the name of 'sowing seeds', as a way of gaining blessings from God, in the form of God-sent men, worthy of marriage.

Second, it's the single women who have bought into this mindset that are now complaining...not me. I'm just critical of the teaching (belief).

Third, it's the women who formerly embraced this belief who are now shunning it...and finding it ineffective...especially women in their late 30, and 40s...who still have...NO HUSBANDS!

Then your points are clear

Your initial post sounded like a rant on Christianity coupled with an chant on its ineffectiveness in finding men for women

RedBenson: Has this happened to you before?

No....its just the revenge dish was served cold

rebella: Actually nashville, pickabeau is right, he has a job and earns around 100k, but as the first born, he has a ton of responsibilities. So that 100k leave him with almost no savings at the end of the month. She on the other hand earns 500k and is looking for either and increase in pay or a title rise/vertical promotion with the same pay.
Btw there are people that earn ridiculously high income and still do side businesses. They are the ones that even if they didn't have their jobs will still have potential for greatness..

I fear.... I knew what I read Na....

I think he should increase his scope for better paying jobs....

But my point was n is still some people are not necessarily crazy about some jobs... Some are OK as long as their basic needs r met

RedBenson: Thank you my brother @bolded. That's the spirit of the game. I remember a guy whose girl dumped him so mercilessly around 2005 after they had concluded plans on marriage simply because the dude was broke and she went for the supposed financially stable guy hoping they are married already even before they kick-start the relationship. The supposed rich dude used and dumped her like a sachet of pure water. Four years along later, she was still very single with no committed relationship, the dude she dumped was now gotten a good pay job and was doing well. No one knows who told him to revenge her. He took himself to her and was still telling her how much he loves her and ready to still take her as his dear wife. Seeing the dude was doing well now, she urgently grabbed him and next was marriage plans. Honestly, most of these intrigues we watch on Nollywood movies happen live. Could you believe that on the fateful day of the traditional marriage, the supposed awaited husband was being finger-crossedly waited for till sunset and he never showed up even till today. What surprised all was why the dude had to spend so much money on something he wasnt serious about. Funny things really do happen sha.

Badosky...wow... Evulz...

Nashville: Pick, the guy here had no job, and he was waiting for his girlfriend to send him links before he could apply. Seriously?

Not sure which method he is using o.

Are u sure u got her....i thought I read he had a job but she wanted him to get another job