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why is it so easy to abuse peoples husbands. then you now put a halfhearted sorry oo..

@oluwabukunola

So because you did not puctuate your post on the adventures of a trad marriage.. the next thing is to resort to insults and curses.. classy

priscaoge: It's obvious u are a dunce! My post is not 4 those that cannot read. Thanks

MINT!!

InvertedHammer: /
I want a private jet, but I cannot afford it.

The question is: Are you worth a ring from any of the jewelers?

Most importantly, do you have what it takes to attract a guy who can afford such a ring?

That is assuming that you can tell the difference between a quality ring and a knock-off.

Most people cannot. They only look at the price tag which any guy man can manipulate.

This is why job interviews are good -- They slap dreamers back to reality.

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edwife: To men out there when they see a lady who has pass her twenties,all they think is fertility.Are you God?

Dont blame the men fully.. Some women have been places

cococandy: I meant like counseling

But then that should be after they are done trying to fix it themselves.
So yes it should be a thing of last resort.

Ok

Exactly

Alexis is stillnot there yet but i like what i see

Henry??

Arsene says he has Sir-No-Goal, Lukasz and Campbell... no biggie

proudlysports: Then we had Sir Bendtner and a certain RVP (though injured)
Was that not the season we almost finished fifth? (not sure)
Also back then, we were only competing with United, Chelsea and City. Now there's Liverpool on that list.

Alexis won't fit into that striker position from what we've seen so far. The premiership is about strikers that can hassle defenders and stay strong on the ball. Alexis is better of on the wings or as a support striker in a 442. We will find it really difficult against disciplined defences. Pass pass pass game is very predictable.

Meanwhile, we can safely strike Falcao from the list. The guy is off to United.
Is Henry still available on loan?

I agree with your post in part but feel outside involvement should b a thing of last resort

cococandy: @ pickabeau, seen.
Yes.

But at the same time too,if he doesn't sit up and start being appreciative of her support and efforts, whatever truce they reach now may only be temporary.
Because if any of his jealousy rears it's head anytime again in future,it's back her being resentful and bitter.

Too bad he's not here.
Situations like this are best solved if both parties get some talking to.
It's hard when one person gets good advice and while working for their success,the other person won't be on the same page with him/her.
Just that there's nothing we can do about it.

blank, PI

cococandy: grudge

If grudges are the issue, then she has to be careful with some of the advice here

aisha2 has mentioned talking with the hubby.. that is the best approach

I leave Matt 5. 23-24 for her

So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you,leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.

@purecotton

why... about to start once i finish knights of sidonia

kimco: pleas please please, don't watch season two

debosky: Is that worse than playing Arshavin as striker while waiting 1 year for Chamakh?

It was a couple of months

He scored 10 goals and made 17 assists in the 2010/11 season
Sir-No-Goal no senior goal in a competitive fixture

7UP!

MizMyColi: We'll Seee

Youve not answered d q about the dog..

No problem about him bouncing back...


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into the Grave

Have u satisfied yourself that he killed the dog

MizMyColi:



Now that Meme got me cracked up.

Our Ward will bounce back, ohhh He will.

#SeasonTwo

Deiok: I just watched the episode again ep 21 i think. The shooter was not shown which means it was ward. You are right, my bad. I thought the shooter was garret.

No issue.. bro.. we all make mistakes... i want MizMyColi to see the light too on the wicked fellow that Ward is..

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Deiok: Ok let start with that of the dog. What weapon was use in killing the dog?, a pistol or a sniper?.

a sniper rifle

bastien: Lol, try watch the last ship,from ep1[b],u go understand am[/b], and find am interesting

Last Ship.. seen

Understand what?

MizMyColi: Please what's the dog killing episode.
lemme go and rewatch.

Episode 21

Deiok: no you need to watch it again, he didnt kill the dog, he dumped them beacuse he knew they were smart and will probably survive.

hmmm..... ok.. will you also rewatch it so we discuss frame by frame

damiso: I am not actually saying it is the mans(or anyone's fault) you know everyone has a right to choose what they want to do with their money.My point was more based on the recipient of the gesture i,e the girl and her parents weighing the pros and cons of basing a marriage based on ' haa it won't be good after all this money he has spent' even if the guy has some other traits that the girl might not necessarily like or if the girl in question might not necessarily have married him if not for that fact.
I know poverty is rife and sometimes people sometimes have to do what they have to do but sometimes the long hard road might actually not be that bad it's just that sometimes girls 'want' all those extras that their parents might not actually be able to give them.I had people in my class in university who probably had just 5 outfits in total cos buying clothes was a luxury that could affect their actual living costs and they did not mind and faced what they were in university to do.Today they too are graduates with those that were the 'best dressed' so I guess it's different priorities.

Yes.. that is why enlightenment and empowerment is key

aisha2: I agree like in this case the wife no talk say she get problem na "concerned Neighbour" carry the matter come here, she married a provider and she is willing to beg and come back to the house so thats her own standard.
As long as he provides water and food she is fine regardless of how he treats her

Fair enough..

chaircover: Oga B People can marry for whatever reason, but should not cry foul if mid marriage they expect other things beyond the initial reasons to change and they dont.

If you married 3 wife chief for money . . then dont start crying foul when he brings in wife 6. Afterall he is still providing you with your yearly holidays to Dubai and changes your car every year.

I will agree with you 100 percent but the fact is that people change
Even people who said they will have only four kids decide to have kids later -- example
People who will not tolerate inter ethnic marriage are open to it


Life is dynamic

You are not the same person you were 10, 15, 20 years back

As long as people are open to reason, marriage is mostly about tolerance

Fair enough and as i said earlier... we all have standards.. its just relativity

Mr A married for love; Mr B married for money.. all na standard....

everybody marries for whatever reason as they deem fit

The morality of the reasons why the married is not anyones' to judge on

chaircover: Yes standards are different to different people and that is why I used the chief example
I dont think that all women dont have the right standards
Some do, some dont
. . . and some that dont have the right standards, just havent had a chance to think about it all in depth.
What Aisha is trying to make them sit and think about what they are doing before they make a mistake.

damiso: I know it is not always the case and yes your spouse is meant to support you in fulfilling your potentials but I am just not comfortable with this man training girl in university and then expecting marriage as a reward for his investments thing.

All this 'reaping investments' based marriages can get as e be jare(again not saying all marriages that the man sponsors the wife's education are bad or abusive) but it's more as a precaution to parents(am guessing and hoping most NL parents will be more enlightened sha ) not to abdicate their responsibilities to a another person who may or may not want to use it as leverage in the future.

I get your point but this is not only aquality of the males
Marriages r being contracted nowadays and what u hear is the lady already preparing for post divorce shortly in the marriage

What will i get if we split

Hmm... i think you guys need to watch that episode again

The flashback was tied to him releasing fitz simmons into the depths of the water

He killed that dog.. he dumped the two into the water

Deiok: No he didnt kill the dog, he only made its run away. But that his S.O i cant realy remember his name knew he was not going to do it, then shot and killed the dog with a sniper as it was running.
Thats why he also use that same worlds again when he asked him to eliminate both fitz's and simmons.
Ward is not realy a bad charater per say, just that he was manipulated.

Na today monkey no fine and hin mama like am??

MizMyColi: Ohohoho Help me tell Pickabeau1 o o

chaircover: It depends on what you mean by standards
Will a ritualist chief who already has 3 wives at home fit some womens standards and get a wife? Yes yes yes . . .so long as he is rich

Find below the meaning of standard.
Standards - a principle used for judgement
I dont believe females dont show good judgement except you females are buying into the same stereotype that females dont know what they want

noun
1.
something considered by an authority or by general consent as a basis of comparison; an approved model.

2.
an object that is regarded as the usual or most common size or form of its kind:
"We stock the deluxe models as well as the standards."

3.
a rule or principle that is used as a basis for judgment:

Even here on NL, look at some of the qualities some women consider to make a man good, He is nice, he is handsome, he is generous, he is caring bla di bla di bla

Nothing wrong with this... they are also standards... they may not wash with another person but as humans we have our freedom of choice

You wont hear them talk about the nitty grity such as Integrity, Godly, Honest, Strength, Fair, Consistent, Hardworking, Kind, Reliable and other key attributes.

90% of the time, the man hasnt changed. Its the woman who wants to change the man. You see ladies fighting their finaces girlfriends every day but they still went ahead to marry the guy and on the wedding day they dance down the aisle flouting their new ring. Then start crying when he starts spending 7 days a week having drty chats with his girlfriends on facebook.

Has the man changed? He certainly hasnt! its the new wife that is trying to change him. Walking down the aisle and saying I DO doesnt suddenly bring a total body/brain reset back to factory settings to anyone. You either have it within you or you dont and signing a peice of paper doesnt suddenly make you a different person.

Since we all agree that standards can mean different things to different people

What is meat to you is poison to another

Making a statement that women have no standards is inaccurate.. ditto for men

aisha2: I don't see where she was asking to return, she was asking that her personal issues shouldn't be used to judge him, big of her because most women would want to destroy him.
People of Enugu say despite his dictatorial tendencies he is a working Governor. Some politicians may have been using their rift to score cheap points she was simply saying he may be a good leader despite being a bad husband. This letter was in 2013, If one is not careful to read through journalists and headlines sensational will mislead one.

This makes sense

aisha2: .
Point is everyone should realise they are responsible for their actions and will live with not society, make good decisions and have the right to be happy on their own terms

I fully agree with this conclusion

Coded01...on point

On the contrary in my experience women have the highest standards.

They don't date ordinary people as they call it

Women are naturally hypergamous..how many women marry gatemen or bricklayers?

Your point will come to be when the woman has no other options and she has to settle

You are making women out to be hapless victims saying they have no standards...lol

How many women will marry a conductor

I think you r being economical with the realities of life

aisha2: The truth is that even a drunk man will have standards when it comes to choosing a wife.
You find a man with a long list of attributes in a wife he is looking for no matter how he himself is he will tell you which of the girls he is dating is good for marriage and which is not. It is the women who seem to be allergic to having standards. You will see a supposedly smart put together woman who just wants a husband, she can be picky about her shoes, clothes bags etc but she is willing to accept any kind of man just to be someone's wife because all her mates are married, or her parents are forcing her to marry.
Over the years we have emotionally blackmailed women into not having standards, we tell them that they are choosy and will end up frustrated spinsters, so women have no conditioned their mind to grab any man even with no tangible husbandish character just so they can be considered married with the hope of changing himwhich normally totally fails.
My message is for women to have and stick to standards and not allow fear and desperation make them make bad choices anymore.
No one should marry a silly spouse male or female

This is a strange turn of affairs if it is true

I will like to get second opinion as the info was that she was divorced?

Cococandy
Aisha2

MMotimo: Nairaland is where I have heard/read the strangest things about marital relationships
Who would have thought there are women, in today's world, whose names are not on ownership documents, part financier or not?
And what kind of man leaves out his wife's name on ownership docs?
I do not know any such couple amongst my contemporaries, not in my world
So, now you know why I made that statement

OK.its a wide world

Specialist900: we're in real dilemma.



Sitdownlook approach activated

I sit beside you on the sidelines

Vela makes it 4 2!

Specialist900: real loss. If he'd departed calmly it would've been easy to return (henry, Campbell come to mind)

Lol...

Wat do u think of the striker situation?