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damiso:
A child is able to view the parents marriage from a very proximate view. Dare say I that part of a child's early views on marriage can be formed from viewing the relationship bee tween their parents. So yeah I can't speak for my dad but I can say that the age diffrence would not be an overriding factor on which my dad would have judged his wife against her other redeeming qualities.now I am not saying they did not have differences but I did not think the age difference made her respect him any less or would have been the main thing he could change.

The older generation kept a lot of their conflicts under wraps

I never saw my parents argue

I'm sure they did

Unlike those who nowadays argue in front of their kids

My point is this

The best person to review a marriage is still the spouse and not kids

As for career, that sef too is even subjective because for me sef a woman who is settled in her career has the resources to be a bit more flexible in prioritising work life/balance . A younger woman who might have just been starting out in career and then giving that up along the line for family might have some resentment at what might have been if she did not have to sacrifice her career for her family. Majority of the women I know who took career breaks to tend to family are women who are a bit more stablished career wise.

Yes this is also true
However someone starting out is more inclined to be flexible unlike someone who has a kid level position

Good points

damiso:
Unfortunately he is not with us anymore so I guess you have to take my word for it

I don't get what you are implying by 'what he knows now' are you insinuating that a younger woman might have made a better wife for him than my mum was?

My condolences I was not aware
May he RIP

My post was linked to your statement about husbandry which a child will not have the best information on
That information is best given by the spouse

On the optimal age range. You may find out he may have a different opinion of it asked him about it later in life

A family I know the man said he may have married a younger lady because the career decisions had to made immediately on his wife's case unlike if she was slightly younger

A woman far advanced career wise is not as flexible to focus on family

Do you get?

mcdreeezy:
Abi oh. The way I dey see am sef, e be like say na during dis Rafa regime dem go sell Ronaldo

The manager will go as always

Since 2007

Schuster, Juande Ramos, Pelegrini, Mourinho, Carlotti now Benitex


Who can they get..

Name the coach just sacked by his national team

HALA Keshi

coded01:
Vermalen: I don’t feel like I really won the treble...


Mr. Oga! Who cares!

of course... he did not participate

Timbuktou:
Even if, and this is a big if, it was congenital, did he bestow it upon her? The nerve she had to send that is beyond appalling.

really funny though

The funniest thing about such people is they will not hesitate to throw u to the dogs if it was their own

A bit harsh,... it could be congenital too right?

medical people help me

Timbuktou:
Lol. What entitlement! Hope he told her to fvck off with her issue? Was he the one stuffing her destiny with sugar?

TV01:
Abi, after they'd had a heartfelt chat, why did she not reveal it - in all liklihood it would have endeared her to him. Women often feel the need to manipulate men, when the men would readily accomodate whatever it is anyway ! I think he was right to reconsider.


The new "no holds barred, taking no prisoners, ox goring Pickabau1" Regulate bro'


TV

I agree...

From the little I know of diabetes, with good health.. you can manage it

If the woman had the attributes he wanted, he may have still made the choice only that it was informed

That being the key word

LOL

zandora:
It's not old school. You still need to score a minimum of 67/100 first to qualify for FSW.

thanks for the clarification

damiso:
TV01 my only question is ( you know me its ijebu I understand abeg sofry on the big big grammar ) are you saying that a younger wife for a man is more a consideration( I know you have given other considerations) than the actual character of the person in question? Now this not to hold brief for anyone but just wondering why the age factor is more an issue than the actual character of the person? A good person is a good person ( I think) regardless of their age and so if my brother finds a woman who is good woman who is 2 years younger he should disqualify her as a suitable mate because a suitable mate would be more in the 7 to 12 year age difference?

I am not asking defensively or anything cos my husband is almost 10 years older than I am while my mum and dad were in essence age mates( less than 2 year age difference) as they had been courting since their A levels. and [b]I feel my father was a good man( I am biased I know).And my mother a good wife to him.

[/b]I just want to know how age is a factor in the character judgement of any individual.

The best person to ask is your dad how his perception of wifes age would be knowing what he knows now....

Not you

boohoo

Whats the issue with diabetes

with good health and information, it can be well managed

why did the girl now back out

The man needed time to consider all the pros and cons... not some emotion laden decision

Kimoni:
You know sometimes, I pity people who have "stories" they need to share with their intended before the wedding. There is so much uncertainty about the outcome of the story that you get confused as to whether to share, when to share and how to share. A colleague was just telling me how he broke off his engagement 2 days ago because the girl shared her "story" with him.

So there is this girl he met and within 3 months, he wanted to take things to the next level. He travelled all the way to London to propose to her. On the d-day, he knelt down on one knee and said the usual. She started crying that she had something important to tell him. She had Type 2 diabetes He started crying as well but was very angry that she had waited till that moment to tell him something this important. I pointed out to him that their courtship was quite short so she wasn't really at fault. He said they had several moments where they had both spilled everything about their past and he was pained because according to him, he said everything there was to say and he thought she did the same not knowing she had deliberately left out that important factor.

Anyways, he took back his ring and asked for more time to think about it. Unfortunately, the girl felt pained that he could actually withdraw the proposal so she sent him a text telling him that she didn't think the relationship was worth it, that if he could take his ring back, she wasn't sure he could handle her issue so they should both take the easier route and break the relationship completely .

Personally, I told him I didn't think he should break up with her or withdraw his ring the way he did. She must have been at a loss all along as to how to go about breaking the news to him but at least she had enough integrity to tell him before accepting his proposal. Then he shocked me; he said he would even have preferred she held it back and told him after the proposal but telling him at that joyous moment not only confused and demoralized him but left a permanent scar in his life. Poor girl! You are damned if you do, you are damned if you don't. Hmnnnnnnnnnnn

Relationships are complicated. What works for A might not work for B. There is no manual in this institution. I can only listen to how you do yours and tweak it to suit my own situation but it will be foolhardy to adopt what works for you from pali to pali.

Afam4eva

69 points is old school

Review below

Quote from: YamPower on March 09, 2015, 09:58:11 am

It's all on the CIC site: http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/immigrate/skilled/index.asp

But...

(Please note that this info does not apply to the Federal Skilled Trades Program)

1) Determine your eligibility by doing this CIC quiz http://www.cic.gc.ca/ctc-vac/ee-start.asp

2) Get your language test(s) done. You must get at least CLB 7 in each of the four sections for the Federal Skilled Worker (FSW), Provincial Nomination Program (PNP) or Canadian Experience Class (CEC) streams. But getting CLB 10 gives you maximum points for language.

How does CLB match back to the language tests? That info is here --> http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/resources/tools/language/charts.asp

3) Get your qualifications assessed by doing an Education Credential Assessment. Details here --> http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/immigrate/skilled/assessment.asp

4) Determine the code that best applies to you on the National Occupation Classification (NOC) list http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/immigrate/skilled/noc.asp

The occupation must be NOC 0, A, or B for FSW or CEC.

5) When you have those in hand you create your express entry profile. http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/immigrate/skilled/profile.asp and register for the Job Bank http://www.jobbank.gc.ca/home-eng.do?lang=eng

You'll be given points based on your age, education, number of years work experience, and language skills. The points system is detailed here --> http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/express-entry/grid-crs.asp

You'll be in a pool with thousands of other applicants http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/immigrate/skilled/pool.asp

Of course, the more points you have the better. The max is 1200, with 600 of those points coming from your ability to snag a PNP or a job offer with a very hard to get Labour Market Impact Assessment http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/work/employers/lmo-basics.asp

For CEC applicants, the max is 600 but someone who has no work experience in Canada who is only eligible for FSW can only get up to 520 points.

6) Finally, wait for your invitation to apply (ITA). But in the interim you will need to do the following:

a) Have your application fee (C$550 for principal applicant) and right of permanent resident fee (C$490 each for principal applicant and spouse) ready
http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/information/fees/fees.asp

b) Identify how you will provide proof of funds http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/immigrate/skilled/funds.asp

c) check out what is required for the police certificates http://www.cic.gc.ca/English/information/security/police-cert/index.asp

d) find out how long it takes to get a date for the medical exam. http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/information/medical/medexams-perm.asp

e) contact previous and current employers about them providing job letters. You must have at least 12 months of full-time, or an equal amount in part-time, skilled work experience. Full-time work means at least 30 hours of paid work per week. Work experience while you were a full-time student does not count.

f) research cities in the province(s) where you want to live

bukatyne:
It is a fallacy to think because everyone doesn't go your way, they are doomed

Some men with wives who 'believe' in headship are also doomed too

Anyways, this is NL

k

edwife:
I go with your philosophy,but i ain't just talking about me.What about many of my sisters who don't believe in headship?

However picka,there are some men who acknowledge the fact that they have smart women and let them make most of the decisions.

The bolded is the issue

I pity the dolt who marries such women. It is better to live on the rooftop alone than with such contentions heifers

I wish such men the best

edwife:
Well for me it's not an option,brain is all i am keen on.

For some,they had no choice-many uncontrollable factors can drive them to such....

Then it comes back to the question

Which philosophy do you uphold

Once married you are in.. you have accepted to make that man your head and trust in his decisions and yes for him to consult with you!

You cant back out saying he is not worth it then disrespect him

sikena!

edwife:
Well i can ask for 50-50 doesn't mean that i can't let you make most of the decisions... ,there won't be any need for me to even hang on it [size=18pt] if [/size] i know my man is wise and intelligent.

The if again

Why marry someone thatis unwise and unintelligent
Why marry someone unfit to make decisions

Says more about the woman

This 50-50 again

Women and their unending quest for parity in all

Emmanuelomojo:
please drop your number or email for us to contact you in order to get clarification. I hope to see your reply soon

You can put the help here... thanks

ChiChi0296:
What ever. D person that wore his or her shoes knows where it pinches her the most. So thanks all for your advice. Is a free world every body is free to say whatever he or she thinks.

Instead of you to accept the feedback and do right

You are practising child labour moreover the girl was given to you to train and not abuse

You RE doing strong head

To be forewarned....

Sidewapcom:
Returned from cotonou yesterday!
It was more than fun.
No headaches except for Nigerian road safety that almost ruined the journey from its beginning.
Naija na suffer, we dey here.
Come see light and good roads.
I lodged at Golden Bed Hotel at John K.
It was fun fun fun all through.
Even met a honest Nigerian there, popularly known as FEAR GOD(at John K park).
He sells Nigerian fast food.

Some photos

Tell us more
did you go for flex or was it work
What did frsc do?

i am only trying to help her use money to spice her marriage

kimoni
5minsmadness

Hahhaha..the same old players are back

The banter continues

Its like we never left

The season about to start

If it is true
Praise Jah

debosky:
Because you are always miserable - win or lose.


Even when the team won, you had to be sarcastic in saying 'Wenger till 2035' and personalised the win to Arsene. . . .wholly unnecessary in my view.



No, but when you can't even make a statement without mentioning Wenger it is a problem bordering on obsession. This goes both ways - positive obsession and negative obsession like yours.



So you're warming up with your own moaning so you can say 'I told you so' no?



Even when I didn't mention Arsene in my initial post how many times did you mention the name in yours? Obsession I say.

K

tayoccu:
[s]critic would be "Wenger messed up in his selection, he should have played 4 in the middle...",
what you do is " Wenger is a fool, he has nothing more to offer, he should retire...".
one is constructive, the other is what babez do when they have a bad case of the monthlies.[/s]

You will know so much about that..huh?

edwife:
Lol picka,she needs guidance that's all.

I think she understood...well i hope so.

Guidance fire

Even the rich southern women in the US cook for their kids and husbands

These are people who are high net worth individuals

I wonder why it is so easy to strip nûde and have sex rather than cook for a man you claim to love...

Bobo juice

Spy360:
That's more like a fan.

Being a fan of Arsenal does not mean I will not critique wenger

Tayoccu
If na play stop am
I no do 14 years o

Proudlysports

We all know Giroud is never enough

Kimoni
Edwife

Abeg make una preach on top another thread
The girl wants a marriage of outsourcing
Make una free am

You are both old school

For every woman there is a kind of man


For every bey a jayz
For every toke a maje

So keppy don't mind the old school mamis

If you want to work to get money so you can outsource the cooking..good for you

Be patient and don't feet while you wait

It shall surely come

In short why stop at cooking?
You can hire a surrogate to have your kids so you don't spoil your figure

You can hire a porn star to give ur hubby sex so your punny is not affected

Carry goooooo

As much as you don't want to hear, every club that has won the title has bought it one way or the other

Either by better managers, players or building stadiums


Congratulations for the Emirates Cup

On to community shield

When the point is Wenger's arse...I don't want to hit it..

iPopAlomo:
Dude... do rephrase... I don't remember quoting you... as I'm directly above you...

Ignore....