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I was lost at a point

Is the bible the progenitor of submission

Our women don't even bother with our culture anymore

I wonder what the next generation will learn when mothers don't even know the culture

Timbuktou:
Madam, in what way have you been marginalised. Stop deflecting and answer the question abeg.
You are just beating about the bush like a blind hunter. I asked you to point out the hypocrisy in pointing out something I agree with you're talking about the solar system. Simple question, how does agreeing with something constitute hypocrisy? I don't need the bible to teach wifely submission, my ancestors didn't need the bible to have such customs. And while I don't believe in love, I pride myself in treating one's wife with affection and respect. By the way, the bible also implores wives to love their husbands : Titus 2:4 - That they may teach the young women to be
sober, to love their husbands; but I don't believe in love so ...
Again, poor judgement

Timbuktou:
No mind am. If dem show the babe now, you go dey embarrassed.

Lol

You ready to die for that pussÿ

Something that can still be given to someone else aside from you too when you kill yourselves off....

Who swept around you...

ArchEnemy:
She loves her best friend's husband?
And now it's gonna be 3 children from different fathers.
She needs Christ

Lol..

ApexTitan:
C'mon guys this is not true.

NAWALT

(Not All Women Are Like That)

That's the classic refrain when the underlayer of the female pysche as relates to mate selection or sexual strategies is exposed. The workings and machinations reveal a cold and merciless efficiency in achieving its objectives that it leaves many in disbelief.

It is true that women do not emerge from an evil meeting or convention where these strategies that are being revealed today were decided upon. There was no secret assembly or coven no referendums or conferences but the fact remains that all women are subject to specific biological influences that determine their behaviour in these matters. All of this operates on a limbic, organic level. It is this behaviour that informs part of the social conventions and cultures that we have around us.

The fact which Oga TV mentioned that women are strategic in relationship matters is one that rings true every time. There is no woman who is not on some level subject to the workings of hypergamy. Indeed even the fairy tale notion of love, or romantic love as some people are appealing to here, plays to the very strengths of this strategy. It provides the perfect cover for the feminine imperative to achieve its objective with the least amount of resistance because it requires it's subject to remain unaware of its calculations in the name of waiting for true magical love.

Today, for long term relationships and marriages a man who understands the mechanics at work and what is required of him stands the best chance of benefiting from it. It is this reason that "just follow your heart" can be quite a dangerous thing to do.

This understanding has to be acquired because what used to work in the past - traditions and conventions that made accommodations for these realities - are dying or being pushed to into irrelevance.

Gbagaun!


Cool analysis

edwife:
Ha!I got a lot to learn.



I brought it up because most men still believe it's the best decision when it comes to training younger kids.

Ok

It is...does not mean it happens all the time
I know the best thing is to fly first class but money no dey now...so na premium coach or coach..

#Godwin

edwife:
https://www.nairaland.com/2481114/pains-full-time-house-wife#36318264

Yep..seen

Economic realities dictate that deliberately being a housewife is not the best in naija

I am aware western reality is different due to high childcare costs

Why did u bring this up anyway

edwife:
It's a thing in the west already,just that many don't talk about it.It is not because they want to but the cost of living here.Staying at home is a good bargain than working considering the cost of childcare.

As for our Nigerians sisters,it is not the case.Did you read the last thread created about housewives?and it was created by a man for that matter.

What's the link about the housewife thread

keppyy:
What about the men that maltreat women...
What about the men that dupe women that choose to love them...
What about the men that abuse women..
Please, let's stop this Tit for tat stuff...
Evil or Good is not related to Gender...
My Sister is a better person than me in relationship issues, she has been hurt severally but she is still a fierce lover...
If I experience half of what she has gone through, I'll be a Monk by now...

Yes...but if I see someone burned..why should I put my hand in fire..

It means the women have to smarter with their romantic choices. And men have to stand up as leaders of homes and communities

But with the erosion of male authority what do u expect..


Enjoy your Saturday

For those having epiphanies and saying depression
I wonder why...

This is only but a logical conclusion of what is going on

When a kid says he does not want to marry because a woman will take all his money

When kids see how some women use the law to maltreat men

When a guy sees the girl he loves going out with aristos because he is not loaded at the moment....u expect him not to do same

If the truth is so depressing to you...sorry but one has to realistic

keppyy:
I know we have different opinions about issues but your opinions are always against women...

In cases where you don't give your opinion, you endorse your 'type' of remark written by someone else...

It's just my observation...I can't start going through past posts but I'll sure point out future ones to you...

Ok...this is news to me....

I hope this is not linked to you cooking or not cooking for your hubby

keppyy:
I'm sorry, I misread your other posts...

Haba nau.....i said maybe you misread however I may have unwittingly written some hateful stuff which is why I said I would like some illustrations of such

I no accept sorry..

keppyy:
Not just this thread but your comments in this forum.

If you are not what you portray then that's fake.

Because our words here make or break people and it's unfair to put up an act.

Shuo.....see me see accusation

I am surprised hearing that my comments are being interpreted as hateful to women

Please can you give illustrations of such
Let me see if I may have not communicated clearly

And no my posts are not fake...You must have misread my previous post

I said maybe the posts may sound harsh but they are not if you have an open mind not that they are fake.

keppyy:
Okay...You sound more like a fighter...

You need to relax a little bit...Your posts about women are almost 99% negative.

Yes, sabotage had a weak end.

Lol.....sounds ...maybe not the real thing

Just like okada using molue horn.... Lol

Where are the negativity about women in my posts....moreso do u mean this thread or the section or forum at large?

Now I am piqued



Sabotage was a good film..
But what spoilt it for me was the fact he stole the Money

Keppyy

I don't hate women
I am a lover, not a fighter...

Haba...why do u think I will be a hater

Sabotage... Damn....somehow I hated Arnold at the end

keppyy:
I'm interested in you.

Your "thought" process...

May I ask some questions?

You may ask ma'am
Its however optional to answer some or all of the questions..

Who has seen sabotage

Bellong u will love it

keppyy:
Theories up and down...

Long speeches everywhere...


What happened to LOVE?

Love no longer exist?


This thread is depressing...

Toodles....

vague:
its brain dead people like you that are old and still act like fools.

Some women develop sexual disorders because of their partners infidelity, miscarriages, abortion and child birth.

But hey, when others were in science class you were probably dancing with masquerades in your village.

Pray tell what the heck is sexual disorder....like bestiality?......

tearoses:
Me too oooooo
Even Ewuro and Dami are beginning to sound strange
Must be something in the water on this thread

BTW whats an alpha widow please?

A female who preys on men in every way
Brings him down then sends him to the grave

I still don't see the theory
This is real life ish we been talking about since

As you can all see, it is not easy to manage the logistics of a volunteer operation

It is however encouraging that the team is looking at a remuneration structure for a volunteer to manage this

I hope fraud allegations will not surface again like the last case where unfounded and baseless allegations were made about some volunteers colluding with doctors to fleece DJ Dola and Nairaland donations

Yep

njokusboy:
Coupled with increasing quest for equal share of marital rights and responsibilities as though it was a loaf of bread even though one side brings in more capital as well as the possibilities of collusive and frosty interactions

Still hog

How do you know Chad has better spam than Kroeger the provider

What is the value of this optimum spam by Chad when an average spam with Kroeger willdo the job moreover with security


You still miss the point

BuddhaPalm:
My oga, you are indeed very wrong.

It is now known that we evolved for competition at the, quoting you, "spermatozoic level".

There are even tons of books on the subject: Sperm Wars - by Robin Baker, and Sex At Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality are examples.

You mentioned 'high status' and 'provider', but remember, they don't need to come from the same person.

The provider blissfully provides, while she goes behind to get inseminated by caveman Chad, who has optimum seed.

I wish her the best and hope she is rehabilitated and makes the best decisions going forward

LordReed:
How can you not see the relation? Sperm battling inside the womb? It's even worse than I thought! Women need more sperm to do battle so that the true Victor will be undeniable!

So how will the victor spam be identified

Anyway how do you divorce the fittest spam from the owners of the spam

The best spam may belong to the lowest provider... gerrit

Stillfire:
The thread is so ewwwwww. This looks like a fun thread.

TV01

I don't think the premise is totally flawed. Why?

Se.x is for procreation, and our mating choices is evolutionary dependent on who is more likely to bear offspring.

The endpoint of the female mating selection is to determine the male who is more viable to reproduce.

Primitively, the metrics to determine this endpoint is through the outward appearance of the male, his physical strength, etc. Likewise in the male psyche, a generous amount of hips translates in his mind that the female is fertile and able to reproduce.

However, today we know that is not automatically the case. Big hips do not necessarily translate to fertility, neither does physical strength. Today we do not rely on mere physical attributes to determine who is fertile and who isn't. Science and technology have made it possible for us to go to the cellular level to determine who is more fertile. So since we are inherently programmed to procreate, the battle has now been reduced to the spermatozoan level. May the best man win.

So how do u know the best spamzoan

LordReed:
Ever read Sperm Wars?

From the comments of the females which you seem to be enjoying, it seems you are trolling

But lets humour you

No I have not yet read it though I have it somewhere as an ebook....

See précis below

Sperm Wars is a primarily nonfiction book by evolutionary biologist Robin Baker.[2][3] Originally published in English in 1996, it has since appeared in 25 languages[4] and in 2006 a 10th anniversary edition[2] was published in the United States. Through a series of short fictional stories and discussion following them, Baker proposes evolutionary functions for sexual habits, mostly on the principle of competition between sperm of different men for a prized egg.[2] The "sperm wars" include both literal battles between sperm inside a woman's reproductive tract, as well as figurative battles between men competing for the chance to mate.

And what is the relation to your assertion

Hogwash

TV01:
The first difference is that you equate hypergamy solely with gold-digging. It's encompases that, but is way more than that.

These days, very few men are financially and psychologically ready for marriage. Women mature faster and are - rightly - compelled biologically and socially to seek marriage earlier.

More pertinently, mens marriage value continues to climb into their 30, whilst womens - which whether one acknowledges it or not - is maximised when they are at the peak of their beauty. This will typically be mid 20's.

They may be more assured, sophisticated and polished into their 30's, bu tthey will not be more beautiful or fertile. Those are the main measures of marriage value to men.

Financial considerations may skew that somewhat nowadays. But note men that do not have these considerations, they typically end up with what you would term "trophy wives".

More generally, the key is to introduce the "marriage culture" from earlier - in both males and females. Get rid of the extended adolescence that most men seem to undergo these days, and the unrealistic picture that seem to drive womens approach to marriage.

That extended adolescence started due to the economic reasons
It was further helped by the availability of sex given by women encouraged by liberal attitudes
why buy the cow when u get the milk for free

Now with laws targeting your assets.. why marry at all

It will only get worse.

Also correct

ApexTitan:
I think it's not just about becoming "settled" as we like to put it here in Naija. The advice, which I also support, that men are better off marrying in their 30s or later, than in their 20s (to much younger woman of course) is stemmed to the fact that the man would have accrued more social capital and value, which is an important trigger for female attraction, than when he was in his 20s.

Even if he graduates from school early and lands a job in his mid 20s, in many instances he would still be working in an entry to mid level position for a few more years. It is later in his 30s that his position and status becomes much more pronounced. It is also assumed that he acquires an even better sense of judgment, he knows where he is going with his life - basically with age comes the quality of maturity that women quickly pickup on.

There are some interesting articles out there about how men's sexual marketplace value starts to peak in his 30s, would share them here if I could lay hands on them now...

on the debate so far

innervoice:
On what exactly?

innervoice:
No, why would she?

good

so whats the brouhaha about

That's the thrust of TV01 posts and the ladies said status differences (age, education etc) do not matter

im still trying to get your own angle