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Neymar

Neymar

What a run

Why did u not pass to syarez

What a goal

This match is becoming all about Suarez

That's it.....


Matthieu


Goal baby

Messist

Cho


See Ronnie hitting under bar

oi

Are there any real fans in this stadium

Are I see r d Catalan colors

ImBae:
We'll make an arrangement as regards provision, its 50/50 cos kids are involved.

Well, no one is going to bother him about his other relationships..some men want that

Plus I'm not asking him to stay with me, I'm saying be a baby daddy and housemate.

But you will also be a career woman with your own money so do u need to insert yourself in a loveless marriage when you can as well become a single mom and have your pick of men or have men pick you at your convenience

ImBae:
I didn't see a question there.

But if what you are saying is that since the man provides the house and security and you (the woman) don't seem to do anything for him, you should kiss his a.ss, I'll address that.

I'll agree to the fact that most of our women are materialistic and they'll totally worship a guy with money and probably leave him when he has nothing. I can't explain why this is so, but I will say something based on my own background and perception.

If I am in a relationship, its a relationship and I'm in it because I want to be with you and not because of what I want to get from you and I expect that that's your reason for being in a relationship with me too.

Now you provide the house and security, you do so because you are the head of the house and you shouldn't expect me your wife to reward you for doing what you are supposed to do. If you want me to provide the house and security, fine but you'll be giving that position to me and in this case you should kiss my as.s too cos I provide the house and security.

You sort of answered it

In your relationship you want to have an open marriage
You want to be provided for

I ask what do u offer d man that he will stay with you n not go to a woman who offers him romance

ImBae:
Yes, not giving up always result in success but this isn't 100 percent true when it comes to relationships. Its not a business contract, its a relationship. You put your emotions into it, you believe you love the person and he loves you back and you believe you both have something real going. Then suddenly you realise its all a lie, you are saying just brush it off and try again times seventy times seven?

Maybe that's true about women, but I don't fit in that description.

I do not hate men. What I feel about man has nothing to do with hate. I'll explain.

Youve not answered his question

D man brings the house and security


What are u doing for him

Stats in 2015:

MESSI:
18 games, 20 goals, 12 asists

CRISTIANO RONALDO:
14 games, 9 goals, 4 assists

imsuboi:
The other lecturers would gang up on her

Sadly

Spy360:
Honestly speaking.

Fatigue was written in all their faces.

Welbeck, he needs to grow up o! He sense be like a 3 year old own.

Giroud is good. Springs like pringles, pops like pop corn. Delicious akamu. 11 goals in 11 games. New contract.

He really has some good form

Tough second half
After a comfortable first


3 points the koko

I am not surprised


This will become commonplace soon

The two form teams in the CL

Barca

Bayern

Dark horse

Juventus

Real have internal crises

dearpreye:
Especially with that recent form, its possible.

AM has lost Mandzukic and some other key players

freecocoa:
You are right my dear, and these ones are usually very dangerous.

generally when a relationship is becoming violent o erratic,its best the parties move on

freecocoa:
If only there was a way to determine people's mental health before going into a relationship or even interacting with them, like who kills another over a dream?

That girl needs to be locked up or better still, hanged.

this supports what u been saying all along

Some females can be violent also

cc: coogar

TV01:
I think my faith, worldview and beliefs regards marriage and family have been clearly enunciated. Call it traditional if you will, but at least we know those things worked and led to the desired outcomes, in fact they helped quell the adamic nature, or it's excesses to a degree.

I'm always keen to hear others and see evidence that they will improve things. The move now appears to be towards liberal autonomy. That is essentially an individualistic pursuit of selfish interests. I don't see how widescale healthy families and flourishing desires can ever be built on that basis.


TV^MIC

hmm.. true
liberalism.. the bastion of the intolerant

TV01:
We are certainly seeing it in Naija. One of the main differences/restrainers for now is the lack of a welfare state and the fact that men still mostly command the flow of money. But at the margins we see more wilful baby mamaring, serial monogamy and polygamy, open and flagrant diggery, sugary etc. all becoming more acceptable - there is even a rising chorus for normalising SSU.


As successive generations have been doing for a while now. Lessening belief in marriage comes as a consequence of two things - which may be combined; 1. Lessening understanding of what marriage is and is for 2. Lessening faith (religious adherence).



I don't think pre-nups are either here or there - at best ther are remedial action. What is required is preventative measures to restore equilibrium and harmony in marriages.

TV^MIC

What do you think those measures are
Remember this is manifestation of the inborn adamic nature of rebellion

DuchessLily:
yes. I read and I knw what I'm saying

'Most' cases d reasonable ladies r paired With unreasonable men so d marriage will work. Two unreasonables = divorce

I hear

coogar:
it's a woman's nature to abuse. God designed their mouth differently from men. now, when you tell them it's also in a man's nature to use his hands when provoked, they don't want to accept that.

moca is saying verbal abuse should be retaliated back with verbal abuse. why? my retaliation doesn't have to be weighted equally with what i was attacked with. if a pedöphile rapës my child, does it mean i must do the same thing to his child?

instead of them to admit verbal abuse is wrong & should be condemned like greatgod has succintingly put it, they are running from pillar to post to justify an evil behaviour. 21st century women can never handle responsibility.

As in
See the way they lynched the lady when all she said was mutual respect between the sexes

TV01:
Sadly there are many relationship pathologies that Black America has to deal with. And, unfortunatlely, these have been getting steadily worse since the point in time – mid last century – when Black American family indicators were as good as any other races.

It’s worth noting as a phenomenon in itself, and as an indicator of where the populace (and not just the American populace, but worldwide and certainly in the West) as a whole may be heading, as a lot of the reasons for the pathologies are now taking root more broadly.

At the top end, women are outpacing men academically and as a consequence financially. This is unavoidably leading to a change in the relationship dynamic in terms of power/authority. Many women are now demanding “equality”, if not outright control in relationships where they contribute significantly, equally or more.

On this face of it, this may seem fine in a “control” sense, but doesn’t really work in a needs and desires sense. Women typically want men who are higher status than they are (although this status is more than just wealth/income). And long-term, tend to be dissatisfied with being partner to a lower status male.

Men on the other hand typically want greater authority and women who are more feminine – not women who feel they have to, or can compete with them in all ramifications.

Whilst it’s easy to say let every man/woman or couple find their level, on a wider scale it has consequences for the overall family dynamic and health.

The “over-achieving” women at the top end who are not willing to adjust effectively price themselves out of the market. Earnings are not typically high on the list of desirables a man looks for in a woman.

Of course, men could also adjust; but this means becoming more “feminine” in outlook/nature (chopping ewedu leaves as “T” would say) – but women do not really desire such men long-term, and will be more likely to cheat or wreck the relationship.

^{As an aside, I’d like to touch on chores; yes, there are gains for men and families if men get involved to a degree. But sharing chores or being allocated them by your wife will not do anything for the relationship. She will not value => fancy => or sex you more. Further, the more you are delivering on your side, the less you have to. Conversely, if you are not delivering on your end, doing more chores will not increase your stock. Simply put; women screaming for equality in chores are liars or married to betas.}

It means the few men that do meet up – or find other ways to boost their Alpha – have way too much choice and little incentive to settle down. Another phenomenon worth noting is the “informal polygamy” that goes on in that strata in black America. Men having a number of lovers who openly compete for the his favour. The instinct to “marry up” is so strong many women would rather share than marry down.

Further down, the women that are not as accomplished still shriek the same mantras of equality. Cries of “independent/strong black woman”. And did I mention they also feel they deserve the “best men”? They are also effectively pricing themselves out – especially as there are options for the men here.

This essentially translates into single mother – most likely welfare dependent to some degree. Even the "over-achievers" often end up as single mothers. up to 70% of black children are born out of wedlock and in many places - if not yet overall - more pregnancies are aborted than delivered. Akatas are tapping out.

Whatever men and women want, demand or desire, enough of them have to come together to form strong and healthy families. Otherwise society suffers. It’s all well and good playing us vs them or patronisingly sneering at black American society, but like the good book says “You who think you stand take heed”. Take care or we’ll be there in no time. Or do you think we aren’t on the way?


TV^MIC

this is getting into the naija setting gradually as more people become more economically stable and the effects of the bad name this country has/had is being washed out

The next generation will believe less and less in marriage

I imagine one day fathers will be telling their sons to have a prenup before they tie d knot (I mean middle class people)

ok

no problem

TV01:
However you look at it, whatever your perspective, a Christian cannot pursue a polygamous lifestyle - that would be sinful - if you come to Christianity a polygamist, that's another matter.

You cannot read polygamy as permissable into the Christian scriptures.


TV

women will never accept that verbal abuse is destructive

see all sorts of justification

DuchessLily:
Yeah! Thank God u said "a reasonable man"..... Which means most men r 'unreasonable'

Especially d married ones. Cos u will see mistresses cruzzing big rides and traveling here and there, while wife who won't ask for money cos she wants hubby to save enof to build their empire, will be suffering with her children

so most men are unreasonable yet the ladies who date them are reasonable ..

do you actually read before u post

Tv01

that you r both right is not in doubt however I don't think the converse is a sin which was my point

Implying something to be a sjn is my point
This is a recommendation

Not a sin

FrancisTony:
After you've produced where bible called Feminism Sin too.

Simple

The Bible said women should submit

Feminism is counter to that

Next

coogar:
a college graduate african american dude who is just fed up with the obnoxious black women.



what are you sowing? are you a farmer?

LOL

The guy must be so pissed


Not all of them are bad though

Though I admit I'm seeing more and more single ladies in their late 20s, early 30s

FrancisTony:
Matthew19 : 4

And He answered and said to them,"Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning made them male and female."

5. And said, For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall be become one flesh'?.

6 "So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no man put assunder.


Pickabeau1, did you read that two, three or four will become one?

Mind you, taking 2nd wife defies the verse 5 which says what God has put together, no man should put an assunder.

By the way, going by your logic, it's safe to say that unsubmissiveness isn't a sin since God didn't say it's a Must or the offender will be damned.

Your point is moot
I said show me where the bible called it a sin

HayWhyLawal:
Its certainly not. God knows am trying my best to get a job and will never wish to beg. I'm really sad doing this but its quite unfortunate that I have to go this way to help myself for now.

Ok