wirinet:


They can never understand, no matter how much you educate them.

Poverty is a state of mind rather than a state of physical or material being. You are poor only if you believe and and accept you are poor. A rich mind creates opportunities and wealth out of very few resources, while a poor mind creates nothing inspite of excess resources at his/her disposal. This is why Nigeria and Nigerians are poor.

Marriage should be a combination of rich minds to create more wealth and not an avenue for one partner to covet the riches of the other

lawrenzooo:

Northern marry early and if you ask me I would tell you they have one of the highest divorce rate.

inumidun2010:
Abi make I marry tomorrow ni?..but e be like say Pampers don cost ooo

RunzMAN:
lol

banmee:


Make sure you add "In Nigeria", when you write things like this.

seanwilliam:


Hahah u funny o .. what of family man working as teacher earning 20k??

banmee:


I was more concerned with the logical structure of your comment rather than the grammar. Rare as phuck on NL. Really rare.

safarigirl:


And what is wrong with having kids at 70, if that is when you are ready?

The best thing for kids is quality time with their parents, a lot of poor people don't get that with their children because they are working their asses off for chicken change, and come home too tired to bond with their kids. The same kids most of them will still send out to hawk items to help the family.

The same kids that are exposed to all sorts of paedophiles and predators because they have to live in shanties, and hawk in dangerous areas, kids that may never have a decent childhood because of poverty. You think if you marry at 22, and eventually make money at 48, it will make up for that missed childhood?

Only selfish people give birth when they cannot afford kids, because these selfish people have a selfish agenda that involves the kids growing up fast, so, they can foist their financial responsibilities on the unfortunate child. The same set of people that pawn their daughters off to the highest bidder when she's old enough to be married, or maybe even younger, so, she can bring money to the family through her husband.

There are more cons than pros to marrying poor and young, and the sad thing is that the lives ruined go far beyond the young couple's. It is one of the most selfish things a human being can do, birthing a child to poverty, and I swear to God, such people cannot make heaven. It is a special brand of wickedness to do something like that to a child.

Favouredhero:
Well, everyone have right to their opinion. Life is not a programmed design, that turn out exactly how people want it. Life can be quite unpredictable, so many people would've loved to marry early if they had gotten good job early after school, or if they had made enough money in their business or if their partner had not disappointed them.

Hence, everyone know the benefits of early marriage but no one should get himself/herself pressured into marriage or feel bad for not getting married early.

Whereas, marriage is not even an achievement, it is a decision.

gbami:

Let me guess.. you are not married.
When you get married and he can't provide make sure you remember me.
Guys listen. From a married man. Marriage no be fantasy island o. It is reality. Nobody expects your wife to contribute a penny in marriage unlike relationship. You go get High BP if you can't provide basic stuff for your family. Reality is different from "20 ways to make marriage work" written by one single woman.
If you can't provide basic for yourself and another person...no marry. Guys, Stand up, Draw your ears..Repeat after me.. "If I no fit provide basics for myself and another person, marriage motivators leave me". You can now sit down guys.

Sidenote. I have checked " My Mentions". A lot of the people that said they married poor are not being fair to you.
Providing Basics is quite different from poverty.
Basics.. Shelter ( even if na face me, I face).
Clothes..Even if it is bend down select( okirika)
Food..Even if is drinking garri.
Those are the BASICS I am talking about.
Not I married poor now I am rich. Your wife live for street?

Curse Of Ham, The Greatest Lie Ever Told.
https://africhistory.com/curse-of-ham-the-greatest-lie-ever-told/

gbami:
Please, as a newly married man. Don't listen to this crap.
If you are not ready to marry. Don't do it.
If you are not financially stable to marry as a man, don't do it.

When you can't provide for your wife, that puppy love turns to resentment. If it lingers well enough hatred, then she will look for other means to get money. She go Bleep your landlord, wey go dey console and encourage you to work harder you since you no fit pay house rent.

Evil Names, Change It. The Europeanization Of African Names.
https://africhistory.com/evil-name-change-it-the-europeanization-of-african-names/

Asour:


Why should we trust you?

We don't even know you! I.e the real you. To us you're just a nairaland moniker.

Hahahahaha! Never mind my jabs.

On a serious note though, there are NO total solutions in life. Every decision in life essentially involves TRADE-OFFS. I.e. opportunities forgone for taking a course of action. There are TRADE-OFFS to marrying late as well as early.

Hell, there are TRADE-OFFS in not marrying vs marrying too. (But that's another conversation).

Intellectual honesty requires that one at least state that no course of action on subjective issues like these is PERFECT.

It always nice to marry early though, but there are costs.

Let's not get into marrying while poor. Unless of course poor is used relatively.

inumidun2010:
Abi make I marry tomorrow ni?..but e be like say Pampers don cost ooo

yetunsbay:
lol, who says so ? Then go marry at 45

GloryGlory01:


I am happily married with two boys. You see, I practise what I preach.

Chirowman:
Marriage is not for children,if you are not financially stable abort mission .if not hypertension will use you eat food, how can a poor young man of 22 to 25 who hasn't figured out what futures holds .not to talk of having his own better life talk of marriage , marriage is not about sex and children what of the responsibilities involved or they didn't tell you . Manner doesn't fall from heaven again , unless you and the girl you are getting married too has acquired skills . If not you are heading to mission impossible .

yesloaded:


Human wants is insatiable

Have you wondered why people in their 40s who has car, house of their own, stable business but yet to be married?

The thing is, proper planning with little you have will help a lot

Early marriage gives you opportunity to marry a good woman, marrying late comes with some desperation whereby you ended up marrying a mistake

It's not ok to have kids you still send to secondary school when you've reached age of 60. A man who get married at 40s means his first child will be under 20 when he attain the age of 60yrs

We only need to plan properly, work hard/smart & pray to God for blessings

I DO NOT SUPPORT GETTING MARRIED WHEN YOU CAN NOT PROVIDE FOR YOUR FAMILY

Henrymorre:
recently married? I'm sorry you married a liability. You married a lazy wife, who doesn't work, but sits down all day to wait for you to get money.. marrying young is the best time, financially or not.. if you find a good woman, she will stay with you even if to drink garri, you can't be poor forever. Marry a woman who has something doing..

yazzman:
it's better to married young and have a grown up kids when you're 50years you will surely live longer ...

Cutehector:
bro or sis, there is no best time for marriage please.

chrischigo6960:



You made a lot of sense.

Please I want to be your friend, you have a lot of wisdom.
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wirinet:


Are you serious? A woman is not expected to contribute a penny in marriage? And you got 261 likes. I now see that Nigeria is in deep shit with this stupid mindset. You mean to tell me that you expect over half the Nigerian population of women to rely only on the men to be productiv?

So what do you think women can offer to men in marriage? Only sex and child bearing? In that case why waste money educating and training female children, when they will only end up in the bedroom and kitchen.
I teach my daughter to be independent and not rely on anyone. That's the way we raise our daughters in the Niger Delta.