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That babe is clearly cheating on you.

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Some relationship motivate me to be single

Why are u guys always talking about naija girls girls girls. Abeg . Wetin na. Haba. How can you share secrets of yourself to a stranger,she even dey check your hone steady. Get the fuc k outta here fool. You don't deserve to be amongst men dem. Fool simp. Idiot

Do guys still check their girlfriends WhatsApp?


Even me that I'm married, I don't even know the last time I picked her phone, may be when I want to help her charge it or give her phone to recieve her call.


Stop checking your girlfriend phone so that you won't develop heart attack

You come turn checking each other's phone to regular assignment . Relationships & trust issues be like 5&6. I don't think I am mentally ready for any r/shp palavers

danietohbadt:
The babe is playing you, you too play her.

It's as simple as that.

Haven't you heard?

NIGERIAN GIRLS ARE USELESS.

Hope you will marry someday

Robertgreene1:
deep down u know that girl is hiding something from u...so what exactly is ur problem young man?

You harsh oo

elisha820:
Happy new week everyone.
I decided to bring this up on this platform cos I want candid and lucid advice. I be brief on this.

I am a Pharmacist working with one of the government owned health care centre. There's this girl I've been with for more than 2years now. She is a law student in her penultimate year in university. Like most Nigerian relationships, we started with lot of distractions and lacked commitment but over time it remained just the two of us.

At the beginning of this year 2021 we made relationship goals and decided to be transparent to each other. We shared every secrets, went through each others phone and asked questions where necessary. All went well until last month when I went to check on her in the university, asked for her phone as usual wanted checking her whatsapp. She didn't let me, said till she comes for weekend when we'll have good time for that. I was surprised, had my doubts but let it slide. She later came for the weekend, I acted as if I don't care anymore and that was it.

Similar event happened last night after she went through my phone (whatsapp, facebook, twitter etc) cos she has my password but I don't have hers. I unexpectedly asked for her phone too, she said it's late and we should leave it till am back from weekend call later in the evening. I kept my cool last night but was bent on seeing her chat this morning not until she bursted into tears. I ain't perfect, have my flaws but I am free spirited whenever I am around her. It normal for a lady to have lots of guys in her dm, but I think it's a problem when it becomes secretive to your partner.

Should I play along, start having secrets too or what's your thought guys.

NB: I skipped so many things, decided being straight to the point.

Lalasticla...I remain loyal, hoping you'll do the needful

you are so stupid and unintelligent, highly unscrupulous. Well, good luck to her real boyfriend. You are just a mumu.

elisha820:
Happy new week everyone.
I decided to bring this up on this platform cos I want candid and lucid advice. I be brief on this.

I am a Pharmacist working with one of the government owned health care centre. There's this girl I've been with for more than 2years now. She is a law student in her penultimate year in university. Like most Nigerian relationships, we started with lot of distractions and lacked commitment but over time it remained just the two of us.

At the beginning of this year 2021 we made relationship goals and decided to be transparent to each other. We shared every secrets, went through each others phone and asked questions where necessary. All went well until last month when I went to check on her in the university, asked for her phone as usual wanted checking her whatsapp. She didn't let me, said till she comes for weekend when we'll have good time for that. I was surprised, had my doubts but let it slide. She later came for the weekend, I acted as if I don't care anymore and that was it.

Similar event happened last night after she went through my phone (whatsapp, facebook, twitter etc) cos she has my password but I don't have hers. I unexpectedly asked for her phone too, she said it's late and we should leave it till am back from weekend call later in the evening. I kept my cool last night but was bent on seeing her chat this morning not until she bursted into tears. I ain't perfect, have my flaws but I am free spirited whenever I am around her. It normal for a lady to have lots of guys in her dm, but I think it's a problem when it becomes secretive to your partner.

Should I play along, start having secrets too or what's your thought guys.

NB: I skipped so many things, decided being straight to the point.

Lalasticla...I remain loyal, hoping you'll do the needful

Smh seriously for you .. you’re not even married to her . Yet she checks your social media like you’re a baby ?? Who’s the man in the relationship? You or her ,,? She don see u finish .. u bleeped up..seriously... secondly , my opinion.. any girl who’s in a relationship and still gives out her number is a potential fucker ... what else is she looking for ? Why give out your number when you have a boo who gives you everything?? She’s a cheat bro ... change your password... he who do he ,,, do he

Havesomesense:
If you are not fvcking her well, I mean making her cvm. She's gonna cheat on you.

To make a girl loyal you need to be great in sex and also great in mind games.

You can never fill up an insatiable hole that can never Be filled up

You think say One man dey satisfy woman were Dey bent on being a hoe


Keep deceiving yourself till you open topic dey ask us Nairaland experts “but I gave her everything including great Sex so why did she decide to cheat ?

If you want to become a blogger and you don't know how to build a blog, I will build it for you for Ten thousand naira only.

Call this number : 0 8 0 6 5 4 1 1 5 4 4

Men are always insecure when it comes to trusting but they do the most

elisha820:
Happy new week everyone.
I decided to bring this up on this platform cos I want candid and lucid advice. I be brief on this.

I am a Pharmacist working with one of the government owned health care centre. There's this girl I've been with for more than 2years now. She is a law student in her penultimate year in university. Like most Nigerian relationships, we started with lot of distractions and lacked commitment but over time it remained just the two of us.

At the beginning of this year 2021 we made relationship goals and decided to be transparent to each other. We shared every secrets, went through each others phone and asked questions where necessary. All went well until last month when I went to check on her in the university, asked for her phone as usual wanted checking her whatsapp. She didn't let me, said till she comes for weekend when we'll have good time for that. I was surprised, had my doubts but let it slide. She later came for the weekend, I acted as if I don't care anymore and that was it.

Similar event happened last night after she went through my phone (whatsapp, facebook, twitter etc) cos she has my password but I don't have hers. I unexpectedly asked for her phone too, she said it's late and we should leave it till am back from weekend call later in the evening. I kept my cool last night but was bent on seeing her chat this morning not until she bursted into tears. I ain't perfect, have my flaws but I am free spirited whenever I am around her. It normal for a lady to have lots of guys in her dm, but I think it's a problem when it becomes secretive to your partner.

Should I play along, start having secrets too or what's your thought guys.

NB: I skipped so many things, decided being straight to the point.

Lalasticla...I remain loyal, hoping you'll do the needful

NwaAmaikpe:





Verily, verily I say unto you, only the sight of a happily derailed brother graciously strolling into the Simp's Legion of Gloom will make NwaAmaikpe toss an overload of global assignments and run to their aid.

It is so sad that in your lineage, neighborhood, work environment and amongst your everyday acquaintances; you'be been unfortunate not to have anyone train you up in the ways of men.

For men only two rules exist; Rule #1 and the Golden rule.
Rule #1: "Trust no one till you've verified".

And

Golden Rule: "No matter the amount of your verifications, never trust a female".

There's an even a peculiar one for Nigerian ladies.

"NEVER EVER TRUST A WOMAN IN A NIGERIAN TERTIARY INSTITUTION" (Triple emphasis on Never Ever')

You my brother have broken the 1st rule, the golden rule and the peculiar rule with a huge smile on your face.
Of all the girls in the world to choose to commit your heart to, why go for an undergraduate?
Those fickle minded broads aren't ready for commitment but just attention thrills, infatuation whims and a race on the fast lane.

Take it or leave it, half the time you've kissed that girl, you've been licking the remnant of one diseased lecturer's semen she has been gulping to scale through in school or that of a lodgemate whose room she goes to charge her phone to chat with you.

To answer your questions.

Yes, it is normal for an attention-deficient, undecided whorre to have so many men in their DM, because that is what they do for a living, get high off flatters and spread their legs for the man with the best tongue.
Sad still, these type of girls get fvcked for free while their pharmacist boyfriend recommends cocktail of drugs to treat infections she claims to have gotten from the hostel toilet.

No committed girlfriend/wife encourages needless Social media communications with men because they know that inspite of all the detours, any man who chats up a woman is ulitmately headed to one direction.

Should you play along?
No! Stop playing because you've been playing yourself all along. You need urgent help but my fear is that you are utterly unhelpable and have been condemned by the devil to be a SIMP on earth
If a grown ass worker like yourself will let a teen in on your secrets, your passwords and worse even; be swayed by her manipulative tears, then I have no words for you and I take back my rants.

GBAM..

As e dey hot, no chill, no sweet words...

Yes, continue..

So we can learn from your experience in the future..

elisha820:
Happy new week everyone.
I decided to bring this up on this platform cos I want candid and lucid advice. I be brief on this.

I am a Pharmacist working with one of the government owned health care centre. There's this girl I've been with for more than 2years now. She is a law student in her penultimate year in university. Like most Nigerian relationships, we started with lot of distractions and lacked commitment but over time it remained just the two of us.

At the beginning of this year 2021 we made relationship goals and decided to be transparent to each other. We shared every secrets, went through each others phone and asked questions where necessary. All went well until last month when I went to check on her in the university, asked for her phone as usual wanted checking her whatsapp. She didn't let me, said till she comes for weekend when we'll have good time for that. I was surprised, had my doubts but let it slide. She later came for the weekend, I acted as if I don't care anymore and that was it.

Similar event happened last night after she went through my phone (whatsapp, facebook, twitter etc) cos she has my password but I don't have hers. I unexpectedly asked for her phone too, she said it's late and we should leave it till am back from weekend call later in the evening. I kept my cool last night but was bent on seeing her chat this morning not until she bursted into tears. I ain't perfect, have my flaws but I am free spirited whenever I am around her. It normal for a lady to have lots of guys in her dm, but I think it's a problem when it becomes secretive to your partner.

Should I play along, start having secrets too or what's your thought guys.

NB: I skipped so many things, decided being straight to the point.

Lalasticla...I remain loyal, hoping you'll do the needful

........funny thing is, u know that 90 percent of the opinion here will suggest she is either cheating on u already or about to and that's why she is hiding the chats from u....u know this but yet u don't want to accept it....u want us to be the one to tell u........ok bros, u want to know what she's hiding ? she is undergoing deliverance from her pastor and she don't want u to get delivered too.......hope we are ok now ? happy Easter sir

With your response I know you are new here. That is the legendary NwaAmaikpe

elisha820:
Don't wanna say this, but this is disgusting...I mean there are exception to some things. Not all university girls are thesame. Believe it or not we have family and siblings in the system... not all of them are runs girls...get that clearly.

Thank you for your advice though

70% of Nigerian educated men are easily manipulated by female teenagers.

Such a pity.

Tufiakwa

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elisha820:
What should I do?

let her go

fati2001:
love her more.

to end up with High blood pressure

Two of you have serious Trust issues.

I can understand at the beginning the need to check your phones for transperancy(which I still find somehow), but was this going to be a regular ritual of anytime we see, we will check each other's phone ?

You both are paranoid. If you cannot at least give a relative trust in a relationship, what is the essence of being in one??

It's just ordinary phone checking that is giving you guys headache when real serious relationship issues occur how will you do it. You both are not emotionally ready for relationship just break up already

Just imagine the children calling themselves men these days. Its sad. Girls av took control of ur life.

Drop the lying snake!
Go look for a woman who really respects & honours you!
Loyalty is key.

OP can you hear yourself ?
I don't get the part of relationship goals and you are checking each others phone.
Young man if both of you see the need to be checking each others phone, then you should not be in a serious relationship so don't mention relationship goals here

elisha820:
Don't wanna say this, but this is disgusting...I mean there are exception to some things. Not all university girls are thesame. Believe it or not we have family and siblings in the system... not all of them are runs girls...get that clearly.

Thank you for your advice though

I wouldn't throw his words into the bin if I were you. Any girl within that age range is still in her hoeing phase. The probability of such lady staying faithful in a relationship is extremely low. I speak from experience

DaddyRochie1642:
Love still dey shack this one

Tomorrow na you'll start Weeping and gnashing your teeth saying this girl "Used Jazz on me".... How can the girl know your password and have Unrestricted access to your phone and Privacy and she'll deny you access to hers with Idiotic excuses.

Oga are you not a Man that knows what he wants, I believe you have goals and priorities that you wish to accomplish in this Life, So why is it difficult for you to Let that girl know that you're not here to "Play games", why is it difficult for you to Express yourself and let her know with a serious tone in your voice that you will not tolerate such behavior and excuses from her.


Oga it is your type that finally gets married and start lamenting "I Made a Horrible Mistake by Marrying this Woman", meanwhile it is your Fault from the beginning because you failed to set Boundaries and stamp your Authority as a man that knows what he wants.

People won't like to hear this and I personally dont give a FÚCK, nowadays, Respect is what makes a Relationship last longer and Stronger especially when the Respect is Mutual, Love is just secondary.

If that girl had a good Percentage of Respect for you, she won't have the guts to go through your phone and your Privacy and start giving excuses when you want to go through hers.

You're seeing the "Red Flags" now and you're forming gentleman, your eyes go soon Clear

One of the most down to earth...truthful responses I have ever seen on here..listen to her very well

Havesomesense:
If you are not fvcking her well, I mean making her cvm. She's gonna cheat on you.

To make a girl loyal you need to be great in sex and also great in mind games.

What if he satisfies her sexually but not financially?
What if he satisfies her financially but not sexually?
What of he satisfies her both sexually and financially but not emotionally and doesn't stimulate her intellectually?

When you realise women are unpredictable, you'll find the one who loves you unconditionally.
Only then can she be loyal to you.

elisha820:
Don't wanna say this, but this is disgusting...I mean there are exception to some things. Not all university girls are thesame. Believe it or not we have family and siblings in the system... not all of them are runs girls...get that clearly.

Thank you for your advice though

Not all snakes are venomous but it is smart to assume that anyway
What is my business with anybody's phone?
Am I Columbo?

elisha820:
What should I do?

Remove emotions from that relationship.

Just fvck her anytime she comes around and stop giving her money.

She will get the message and find her level with time..

No give yourself headache because one undergraduate