DaddyRochie1642:
Love still dey shack this one

Tomorrow na you'll start Weeping and gnashing your teeth saying this girl "Used Jazz on me".... How can the girl know your password and have Unrestricted access to your phone and Privacy and she'll deny you access to hers with Idiotic excuses.

Oga are you not a Man that knows what he wants, I believe you have goals and priorities that you wish to accomplish in this Life, So why is it difficult for you to Let that girl know that you're not here to "Play games", why is it difficult for you to Express yourself and let her know with a serious tone in your voice that you will not tolerate such behavior and excuses from her.


Oga it is your type that finally gets married and start lamenting "I Made a Horrible Mistake by Marrying this Woman", meanwhile it is your Fault from the beginning because you failed to set Boundaries and stamp your Authority as a man that knows what he wants.

People won't like to hear this and I personally dont give a FÚCK, nowadays, Respect is what makes a Relationship last longer and Stronger especially when the Respect is Mutual, Love is just secondary.

If that girl had a good Percentage of Respect for you, she won't have the guts to go through your phone and your Privacy and start giving excuses when you want to go through hers.

You're seeing the "Red Flags" now and you're forming gentleman, your eyes go soon Clear

elisha820:
Happy new week everyone.
I decided to bring this up on this platform cos I want candid and lucid advice. I be brief on this.

I am a Pharmacist working with one of the government owned health care centre. There's this girl I've been with for more than 2years now. She is a law student in her penultimate year in university. Like most Nigerian relationships, we started with lot of distractions and lacked commitment but over time it remained just the two of us.

At the beginning of this year 2021 we made relationship goals and decided to be transparent to each other. We shared every secrets, went through each others phone and asked questions where necessary. All went well until last month when I went to check on her in the university, asked for her phone as usual wanted checking her whatsapp. She didn't let me, said till she comes for weekend when we'll have good time for that. I was surprised, had my doubts but let it slide. She later came for the weekend, I acted as if I don't care anymore and that was it.

Similar event happened last night after she went through my phone (whatsapp, facebook, twitter etc) cos she has my password but I don't have hers. I unexpectedly asked for her phone too, she said it's late and we should leave it till am back from weekend call later in the evening. I kept my cool last night but was bent on seeing her chat this morning not until she bursted into tears. I ain't perfect, have my flaws but I am free spirited whenever I am around her. It normal for a lady to have lots of guys in her dm, but I think it's a problem when it becomes secretive to your partner.

Should I play along, start having secrets too or what's your thought guys.

NB: I skipped so many things, decided being straight to the point.

Lalasticla...I remain loyal, hoping you'll do the needful

elisha820:
Happy new week everyone.
I decided to bring this up on this platform cos I want candid and lucid advice. I be brief on this.

I am a Pharmacist working with one of the government owned health care centre. There's this girl I've been with for more than 2years now. She is a law student in her penultimate year in university. Like most Nigerian relationships, we started with lot of distractions and lacked commitment but over time it remained just the two of us.

At the beginning of this year 2021 we made relationship goals and decided to be transparent to each other. We shared every secrets, went through each others phone and asked questions where necessary. All went well until last month when I went to check on her in the university, asked for her phone as usual wanted checking her whatsapp. She didn't let me, said till she comes for weekend when we'll have good time for that. I was surprised, had my doubts but let it slide. She later came for the weekend, I acted as if I don't care anymore and that was it.

Similar event happened last night after she went through my phone (whatsapp, facebook, twitter etc) cos she has my password but I don't have hers. I unexpectedly asked for her phone too, she said it's late and we should leave it till am back from weekend call later in the evening. I kept my cool last night but was bent on seeing her chat this morning not until she bursted into tears. I ain't perfect, have my flaws but I am free spirited whenever I am around her. It normal for a lady to have lots of guys in her dm, but I think it's a problem when it becomes secretive to your partner.

Should I play along, start having secrets too or what's your thought guys.

NB: I skipped so many things, decided being straight to the point.

Lalasticla...I remain loyal, hoping you'll do the needful

oke2018:
Hope you will marry someday

fortune1968:
Remember you have sisters o and one day , you may have daughters . Stop making a sweeping statements like this . Some of them are good though I he one in question here is obviously cheating her boyfriend who brought this topic .

DaddyRochie1642:
Love still dey shack this one

Tomorrow na you'll start Weeping and gnashing your teeth saying this girl "Used Jazz on me".... How can the girl know your password and have Unrestricted access to your phone and Privacy and she'll deny you access to hers with Idiotic excuses.

Oga are you not a Man that knows what he wants, I believe you have goals and priorities that you wish to accomplish in this Life, So why is it difficult for you to Let that girl know that you're not here to "Play games", why is it difficult for you to Express yourself and let her know with a serious tone in your voice that you will not tolerate such behavior and excuses from her.


Oga it is your type that finally gets married and start lamenting "I Made a Horrible Mistake by Marrying this Woman", meanwhile it is your Fault from the beginning because you failed to set Boundaries and stamp your Authority as a man that knows what he wants.

People won't like to hear this and I personally dont give a FÚCK, nowadays, Respect is what makes a Relationship last longer and Stronger especially when the Respect is Mutual, Love is just secondary.

If that girl had a good Percentage of Respect for you, she won't have the guts to go through your phone and your Privacy and start giving excuses when you want to go through hers.

You're seeing the "Red Flags" now and you're forming gentleman, your eyes go soon Clear

Havesomesense:
If you are not fvcking her well, I mean making her cvm. She's gonna cheat on you.

To make a girl loyal you need to be great in sex and also great in mind games.

elisha820:


Don't wanna say this, but this is disgusting...I mean there are exception to some things. Not all university girls are thesame. Believe it or not we have family and siblings in the system... not all of them are runs girls...get that clearly.

Thank you for your advice though

NwaAmaikpe:





Verily, verily I say unto you, only the sight of a happily derailing brother graciously strolling into the Simp's Legion of Gloom will make NwaAmaikpe toss an overload of global assignments and run to their aid.

It is so sad that in your lineage, neighborhood, work environment and amongst your everyday acquaintances; you'be been unfortunate not to have anyone train you up in the ways of men.

For men only two rules exist; Rule #1 and the Golden rule.
Rule #1: "Trust no one till you've verified".

And

Golden Rule: "No matter the amount of your verifications, never trust a female".

There's even a peculiar one for Nigerian ladies.

"NEVER EVER TRUST A WOMAN IN A NIGERIAN TERTIARY INSTITUTION" (Triple emphasis on Never Ever')

You my brother have broken the 1st rule, the golden rule and the peculiar rule with a huge smile on your face.
Of all the girls in the world to choose to commit your heart to, why go for an undergraduate?
Those fickle minded broads aren't ready for commitment but just attention thrills, infatuation whims and a race on the fast lane.

Take it or leave it, half the time you've kissed that girl, you've been licking the remnant of one diseased lecturer's semen she has been gulping to scale through in school or that of a lodgemate whose room she goes to charge her phone to chat with you.

To answer your questions.

Yes, it is normal for an attention-deficient, undecided whorre to have so many men in their DM, because that is what they do for a living, get high off flatters and spread their legs for the man with the best tongue.
Sad still, these type of girls get fvcked for free while their pharmacist boyfriend recommends cocktail of drugs to treat infections she claims to have gotten from the hostel toilet.

No committed girlfriend/wife encourages needless Social media communications with men because they know that inspite of all the detours, any man who chats up a woman is ultimately headed to one direction.

Should you play along?
No! Stop playing because you've been playing yourself all along. You need urgent help but my fear is that you are utterly unhelpable and have been condemned by the devil to be a SIMP on earth.
If a grown ass worker like yourself will let a teen in on your secrets, your passwords and worse even; be swayed by her manipulative tears, then I have no words for you and I take back my rants.

NwaAmaikpe:





Verily, verily I say unto you, only the sight of a happily derailing brother graciously strolling into the Simp's Legion of Gloom will make NwaAmaikpe toss an overload of global assignments and run to their aid.

It is so sad that in your lineage, neighborhood, work environment and amongst your everyday acquaintances; you'be been unfortunate not to have anyone train you up in the ways of men.

For men only two rules exist; Rule #1 and the Golden rule.
Rule #1: "Trust no one till you've verified".

And

Golden Rule: "No matter the amount of your verifications, never trust a female".

There's even a peculiar one for Nigerian ladies.

"NEVER EVER TRUST A WOMAN IN A NIGERIAN TERTIARY INSTITUTION" (Triple emphasis on Never Ever')

You my brother have broken the 1st rule, the golden rule and the peculiar rule with a huge smile on your face.
Of all the girls in the world to choose to commit your heart to, why go for an undergraduate?
Those fickle minded broads aren't ready for commitment but just attention thrills, infatuation whims and a race on the fast lane.

Take it or leave it, half the time you've kissed that girl, you've been licking the remnant of one diseased lecturer's semen she has been gulping to scale through in school or that of a lodgemate whose room she goes to charge her phone to chat with you.

To answer your questions.

Yes, it is normal for an attention-deficient, undecided whorre to have so many men in their DM, because that is what they do for a living, get high off flatters and spread their legs for the man with the best tongue.
Sad still, these type of girls get fvcked for free while their pharmacist boyfriend recommends cocktail of drugs to treat infections she claims to have gotten from the hostel toilet.

No committed girlfriend/wife encourages needless Social media communications with men because they know that inspite of all the detours, any man who chats up a woman is ultimately headed to one direction.

Should you play along?
No! Stop playing because you've been playing yourself all along. You need urgent help but my fear is that you are utterly unhelpable and have been condemned by the devil to be a SIMP on earth.
If a grown ass worker like yourself will let a teen in on your secrets, your passwords and worse even; be swayed by her manipulative tears, then I have no words for you and I take back my rants.

oke2018:
Hope you will marry someday

elisha820:
Happy new week everyone.
I decided to bring this up on this platform cos I want candid and lucid advice. I be brief on this.

I am a Pharmacist working with one of the government owned health care centre. There's this girl I've been with for more than 2years now. She is a law student in her penultimate year in university. Like most Nigerian relationships, we started with lot of distractions and lacked commitment but over time it remained just the two of us.

At the beginning of this year 2021 we made relationship goals and decided to be transparent to each other. We shared every secrets, went through each others phone and asked questions where necessary. All went well until last month when I went to check on her in the university, asked for her phone as usual wanted checking her whatsapp. She didn't let me, said till she comes for weekend when we'll have good time for that. I was surprised, had my doubts but let it slide. She later came for the weekend, I acted as if I don't care anymore and that was it.

Similar event happened last night after she went through my phone (whatsapp, facebook, twitter etc) cos she has my password but I don't have hers. I unexpectedly asked for her phone too, she said it's late and we should leave it till am back from weekend call later in the evening. I kept my cool last night but was bent on seeing her chat this morning not until she bursted into tears. I ain't perfect, have my flaws but I am free spirited whenever I am around her. It normal for a lady to have lots of guys in her dm, but I think it's a problem when it becomes secretive to your partner.

Should I play along, start having secrets too or what's your thought guys.

NB: I skipped so many things, decided being straight to the point.

Lalasticla...I remain loyal, hoping you'll do the needful

wunmi590:



Lol, superior what?

All these kids on NL, be forming superior, what you said was total nonsense that was the reason I couldn't give you a better response.

I have no time for somebody who is still being fed by mum and dad, and some relatives to survive.

BigHULK:

.
The Legendary NwaAmaikpe , Nairaland's most revered savage User. I'm jumping on my Chair for You Man. I hope that dude absorbs wisdom.
I'm sharing Your comment to my whatsapp status.
One Love Bro

elisha820:
Happy new week everyone.
I decided to bring this up on this platform cos I want candid and lucid advice. I be brief on this.

I am a Pharmacist working with one of the government owned health care centre. There's this girl I've been with for more than 2years now. She is a law student in her penultimate year in university. Like most Nigerian relationships, we started with lot of distractions and lacked commitment but over time it remained just the two of us.

At the beginning of this year 2021 we made relationship goals and decided to be transparent to each other. We shared every secrets, went through each others phone and asked questions where necessary. All went well until last month when I went to check on her in the university, asked for her phone as usual wanted checking her whatsapp. She didn't let me, said till she comes for weekend when we'll have good time for that. I was surprised, had my doubts but let it slide. She later came for the weekend, I acted as if I don't care anymore and that was it.

Similar event happened last night after she went through my phone (whatsapp, facebook, twitter etc) cos she has my password but I don't have hers. I unexpectedly asked for her phone too, she said it's late and we should leave it till am back from weekend call later in the evening. I kept my cool last night but was bent on seeing her chat this morning not until she bursted into tears. I ain't perfect, have my flaws but I am free spirited whenever I am around her. It normal for a lady to have lots of guys in her dm, but I think it's a problem when it becomes secretive to your partner.

Should I play along, start having secrets too or what's your thought guys.

NB: I skipped so many things, decided being straight to the point.

Lalasticla...I remain loyal, hoping you'll do the needful

DominusPrime:


If you reason from both sides of that empty skull you'd realise that some couples should indeed check their spouses phones while some others shouldn't. How a married man can say that checking phones is bad simply because he doesn't do it baffles me. You that feeds yourself and is married shows that sense doesn't come with these your 'achievements'

mrksquare:



Must the both of you check each other's phone ? common, that's childish.

elisha820:
Happy new week everyone.
I decided to bring this up on this platform cos I want candid and lucid advice. I be brief on this.

I am a Pharmacist working with one of the government owned health care centre. There's this girl I've been with for more than 2years now. She is a law student in her penultimate year in university. Like most Nigerian relationships, we started with lot of distractions and lacked commitment but over time it remained just the two of us.

At the beginning of this year 2021 we made relationship goals and decided to be transparent to each other. We shared every secrets, went through each others phone and asked questions where necessary. All went well until last month when I went to check on her in the university, asked for her phone as usual wanted checking her whatsapp. She didn't let me, said till she comes for weekend when we'll have good time for that. I was surprised, had my doubts but let it slide. She later came for the weekend, I acted as if I don't care anymore and that was it.

Similar event happened last night after she went through my phone (whatsapp, facebook, twitter etc) cos she has my password but I don't have hers. I unexpectedly asked for her phone too, she said it's late and we should leave it till am back from weekend call later in the evening. I kept my cool last night but was bent on seeing her chat this morning not until she bursted into tears. I ain't perfect, have my flaws but I am free spirited whenever I am around her. It normal for a lady to have lots of guys in her dm, but I think it's a problem when it becomes secretive to your partner.

Should I play along, start having secrets too or what's your thought guys.

NB: I skipped so many things, decided being straight to the point.

Lalasticla...I remain loyal, hoping you'll do the needful

wunmi590:


If you are intelligent enough and you didnt come from a cheating parent, checking your spouse phone to check for the possibility of your spouse cheating wouldn't be your top priority.

Nah poor man mentality and idleness dey cause am.

If you are dangote or otedola, those things wouldn't matter to you.

Because you were born and raised in a cheating family doesn't mean other people cheat, you lack better understanding of marriage.

I'm sure if you continue like this, in every opportunity you find yourself, you will always think your wife is cheating, even if she's not.

No be until you go school you get sense. I'm sure that most of all the ladies you patronise recall olosho, that's why your mind dey always be say your wife go cheat.

You better change your circle and mindset begorevis too late, think about money and stop thinking about a cheating wife who is not...

NeeKlaus:

Bruh, don't date an undergraduate girl and expect commitment and exclusivity. Most times, they are swayed by the frivolities and gratifications coming from the guys they meet in school.

At that age, they are not really thinking about sticking to one person; they are more concerned about having a taste of each "broth", especially when the person they are supposed to be committed to is working class and not there to check them properly.

You have your fears and misgivings about her currently and I am here to tell you that they are all TRUE. Every one of them. And that's just the bitter truth.

However, as a caveat, not all undergraduate females are like that. There are obviously good and committed ones, but can you vouch for your Girl being among the exceptions?

Havesomesense:
If you are not fvcking her well, I mean making her cvm. She's gonna cheat on you.

To make a girl loyal you need to be great in sex and also great in mind games.

elisha820:


What should I do?