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Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Mindlog: 3:14pm On Apr 11, 2021

notoriousbabe:
come make I borrow you money

You see how you jumped in without reading, insulting the wife thinking she was the complainant! You words before you edited! cheesy

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Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by IbrahimSkiba(f): 3:15pm On Apr 11, 2021

Kebbiprince:
Fvck her

Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by crossfm: 3:15pm On Apr 11, 2021

We keep on trying more to live western life here.
We are talking about your mother in-law bro.My question is:

1 Does her visit effects your wife negatively?.

2 Do she beg you for money each time she visit?.

3 Will you complain if she bring a lot of goodies while visiting.

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Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Offpoint1: 3:15pm On Apr 11, 2021

pmc01:
I just weak. His tone sef is demeaning

One of the worst shxt I've read on Nairaland, truly marriage is not for everyone.

Imagine if it was the wife telling him to warn his mother not to visit without pre...

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Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by IbrahimSkiba(f): 3:16pm On Apr 11, 2021

americaninja1:
Una too get wahala. Wetin Dey there if person visit u. People visiting is an act of love to me. Maybe because I grew up with my mum and dad recipients of extended family. Remembered growing up, we cook with big party pot every night, because of extended families living with us. It’s all love man. Don’t take it personal.

Na the bride price still dey vex am grin

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Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Magenta232: 3:16pm On Apr 11, 2021

You are just two months gone in marriage, I feel it is too early to start having this displeasure towards her visit...

Moreover you sounded like you don't even have an iota of likeness for her at all... I understand you might love your privacy that much, but don't forget, you still have a long way to go with her and the family at large...

Don't create enmity where none exist..
My suggestion, anytime such visits come up, stay out of sight totally, either you remain in your room or you drive out to breath...

Hence, both the mother and daughter might get to understand you aren't comfortable...and tend to adjust...

Thread carefully

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Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Mindlog: 3:16pm On Apr 11, 2021

pmc01:
I didn't know that. I actually meant his mentality, not his age. His attitude is worrisome.

Yes, worrisome with the throwing of tantrums.

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Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by valentineuwakwe(m): 3:16pm On Apr 11, 2021

just be bold and tell the mother in law your mind....you dnt like her coming unannounced, simple...discuss with your wife first

Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Blackfriday: 3:16pm On Apr 11, 2021

Deathisfree:
I see no sense in this. Even if it’s 1mins drive. There should be a notice. It’s obvious you visit people without a pre ? If so stop it ,it’s a bad habit

are you here to advice or to be adviced?

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Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by COMPENGRFRANK(m): 3:17pm On Apr 11, 2021

she should call before coming but she is already there take good care of her pls she is your mother inlaw.
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Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by PrimadonnaO(f): 3:17pm On Apr 11, 2021

Vaughanlanrewaj:
surely you are not married
That is why boys and girls don't marry. Only men and women do. And please be careful about words you proclaim on your future marriage. May you not have a broken home.

He sounded so thoughtless and silly. I actually hissed at the comment.

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Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by IbrahimSkiba(f): 3:17pm On Apr 11, 2021

Magenta232:
You are just two months gone in marriage, I feel it is too early to start having this displeasure towards her visit...

Moreover you sounded like you don't even have an iota of likeness for her at all... I understand you might love your privacy that much, but don't forget, you still have a long way to go with her and the family at large...

Don't create enmity where none exist..
My suggestion, anytime such visits come up, stay out of sight totally, either you remain in your room or you drive out to breath...

Hence, both the mother and daughter might get to understand you aren't comfortable...and tend to adjust...

Thread carefully

Maybe she's poor and not as wealthy as his parents undecided

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Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by DivineDynamics: 3:17pm On Apr 11, 2021

Be careful about discussing domestic affairs in the public domain.

She is your mother-in-law, bear with her.

In Nigeria, marriage is not only between the man and the woman; it is between families.

If your are really 'one' with your wife, then the woman is your 'mother.'

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Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Princedapace(m): 3:18pm On Apr 11, 2021

JaneYave:
I guess it's the attachment, the daughter should be the one to technically talk to her. A notice before coming will help

But why is it that in marriage, it is always women that have one Wahala or the other?

Mother-in-law VS wife

Wife VS mother-in-law

Sister-in-law VS wife

Wife VS sister-in-law

U rarely see fathers in these who drama. Does the really mean that women are naturally dramatic and men are really trying living with then? grin

Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by santos247(m): 3:18pm On Apr 11, 2021

God bless you. Lets add that the poster should not start his family on conflict. Relocate and live far from them. Thats your best bet. IF she comes unannounced, please welcome her no matter displeasing it is.. MArriage is a union of 40 or more years, if God preserves both of you.

Ammishaddai:
Bros endure her visit for today. After that, try and relocate to place that's far. So even if she wants to visit, she will think twice or latest call to know if your home

Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by DrDax: 3:19pm On Apr 11, 2021

Did she come with one month worth of luggage?

Has she announced that she will be staying indefinitely?

If not, then what's your problem?

Ok, you're broke? Stop putting yourself under undue pressure.

She has not asked you for tfare. Have some respect.

Grow up.

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Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by LesbianBoy(m): 3:19pm On Apr 11, 2021

OP, you must be a "real man" that's why she has the effrontery to enter your house without notice probably with the help of your wife

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Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by LEOSZ(m): 3:19pm On Apr 11, 2021

If na me I go happy die ... Extra joli grin

Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by yusufobinna1(m): 3:20pm On Apr 11, 2021

The op is not matured and sounds bitter, once you are married just know you are married to a whole family. Please thread with caution.

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Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by CHoccolaTE: 3:21pm On Apr 11, 2021

Mindlog:
You see how you jumped in without reading, insulting the wife thinking she was the complainant! You words before you edited!

That's exactly what I said in my previous post, if a woman started a stupid thread like this she for don recieve insult tire

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Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by davidodiba(m): 3:22pm On Apr 11, 2021

Oga change your name first. Maybe she dey fear for her daughter. How can your name be death is free and you are expecting your mother in law not to frequent your home?....

By the way she will soon get tired of you both and stop coming.
I also notice you don't love her...try and be free with her and love her like your own mother

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Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by SimplePlan34: 3:22pm On Apr 11, 2021

Abeg op deal with it. She has every right to come at anytime especially when the marriage is young. Make she no monitor her daughter abi. I have seen many marriages where if d daughter was monitored it things would never get out of hand. Hv u not Seen many husbands who have recked their wives. Pls no d family u are about to marry all this western ideologies that does not hold water in naija. Between dis is coming from a guy.

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Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Shurtman79(m): 3:23pm On Apr 11, 2021

Meaning what please huh

Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by DWJOBScom(m): 3:26pm On Apr 11, 2021

Dont warn
Dont do anything my friend and I understand how you feel.
Sometimes letting things slide does a long way , the poor lady may even be lonely and passing thru a tough time and needed a place for closure.
Your presence situation or condition will not be forever
Calm down
I have taken actions in the past and regretted it and right now know when a mild wind can become a whirlwind

Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by vexing(m): 3:26pm On Apr 11, 2021

RMoneyInTheBank:
35 minutes drive from your house and you expect her to inform you before coming ALL THE TIME ? Bros fear God... After all she is not there to stay... In as much as it is good to inform people before visiting them, I feel it shouldn't be ALL THE TIME especially if the person is related to you and if the distance is as small as 35 minutes like you said... Is either the OP was brought up in an hostile environment or na Money yab man

True talk

Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by MufasaLion: 3:27pm On Apr 11, 2021

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mutter:
Some men are mean!
Why don't you allow them to get used to the fact that the daughter is now married!
It's not easy to break a bond like mother daughter.
Anyway personally I could. Never be married to a man with your expectations!
My family remains my family irrespective of marriage. Same goes for my husband's family.
This is why it is important for couple to agree about such things before marriage.
Very sad...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QkQ2a_3mB4g

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Shut up please!

Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Donedeal1(m): 3:27pm On Apr 11, 2021

Are you suggesting she is an unwanted guest or even an intruder to your house, very soon you will be an in-law also.

Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by MufasaLion: 3:28pm On Apr 11, 2021

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SimplePlan34:
Abeg op deal with it. She has every right to come at anytime especially when the marriage is young. Make she no monitor her daughter abi. I have seen many marriages where if d daughter was monitored it things would never get out of hand. Hv u not Seen many husbands who have recked their wives. Pls no d family u are about to marry all this western ideologies that does not hold water in naija. Between dis is coming from a guy.

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Stop justifying nonesense.

Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Reference(m): 3:29pm On Apr 11, 2021

RMoneyInTheBank:
35 minutes drive from your house and you expect her to inform you before coming ALL THE TIME ? Bros fear God... After all she is not there to stay... In as much as it is good to inform people before visiting them, I feel it shouldn't be ALL THE TIME especially if the person is related to you and if the distance is as small as 35 minutes like you said... Is either the OP was brought up in an hostile environment or na Money yab man

It is very rude and disrespectful not to call ahead of a visit. While you may not be able to control that due to cultural differences you should not let go of the values of decency.

Consider the visit as unofficial with this poignant example. Mr. President can and has visited the United Kingdom on a State visit, to attend an International Confetence and privately to attend to his health.

Same person, same country, different purposes and so different receptions. A State visit will roll out the red carpet and brass band, the private visit will likely happen in the dead of the night with only the local law enforcement informed.

You are the king or Head of State of your house. If visits are random, unplanned, ill informed then your representation is not always mandatory. You don't need to roll out the red carpet and stand in attendance.

She may then come and go as she pleases without even a 'coke and a smile'. Keep your respect. It is your house.

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Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by americaninja1: 3:30pm On Apr 11, 2021

IbrahimSkiba:
Na the bride price still dey vex am

lol.. wen my own sister and her husband they vex say nobody come visit dem since they got married. People just get issues.

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Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by egemgeo(m): 3:30pm On Apr 11, 2021

it is wrong she should have informed you first before coming, what if the both youband wife travelled for picnic or so.

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