| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by iknopro(m): 10:30am On Apr 28, 2021 |
That girl get mind oo, if to say you don knack am she for become worse oo, and to think she doesn't have admission yet and be acting like she own the school. Na waoo |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Octobertwentysix(f): 10:34am On Apr 28, 2021 |
daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.
A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now
I offered a roof over her head.
The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed
I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.
She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!
She got angry and took some money and left
That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies
The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.
On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...
Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.
What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.
She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...
Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!
You are not out of line, you did the right thing, your house your rules. |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by akpota(m): 10:36am On Apr 28, 2021 |
Connected1:
I can't judge better, it's a one end story.
But I observed you were being bossy when you told that do her friends bring their food to your apartment for cooking when they run out of water, that was harsh and must have been said in a harsh tone.
You could have simply said No, I don't like that idea, and you could do well to show her where to get water.
Moreover a lady needs to bath at least twice a day, so forget the part where you said she used the water,. Because if she doesn't, you might perceive foul odours and still complain.
Like I said, it's best I hear from both parties. That is one area, I pointed out ASAP. He could have thought of what to do to the water problem. The babe ran out of idea and she looked up to him for a solution but he felt a bit unconcerned. Although, the girl couldn’t decode that he doesn’t like the idea she proposed of going to the Neigbour upstairs. At worst, they could have bought a bag of water. Let me share my experience in school. My roommate sister used to cook for us. The well in our school is very deep(those well you have to row) if I see the way she struggles to get water as a guy, Omo I assist her to get the water. You need to see the smile on her face. Her elder bro, my roommate also does that too. Till today, she is a good lady. She was a minister of women affairs lolz 1 Like |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by ekerintee: 10:38am On Apr 28, 2021 |
How Long were you supposed to accomodate her ? AS Landlord ,you No suppose inconvenience your self for Long.Are you Guys Sharing Bills together.You need to call her to Order. if she wants to remain with you ,she needs to abide by your Terms and condition.if she No fit abide,lets her find her squareroot .Are you the one WHO is suppose to abide by her Rules ?.so she has to comply ,If she knw comply ,Report her to her Parent and then eject her .possibly she has Seen a Boyfriend WHO is ready to accomodate her lol
quote author=daveyjay post=101166418]Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.
A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now
I offered a roof over her head.
The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed
I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.
She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!
She got angry and took some money and left
That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies
The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.
On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...
Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.
What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.
She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...
Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!
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| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by ShawnT(m): 10:43am On Apr 28, 2021 |
You've been noticed...Move pls realtalk19:
You just expressed ur mental condition. Seriously you need help. |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by yinkbell: 10:59am On Apr 28, 2021 |
Everyone is entitled to his/her opinion.
No one likes to stand the sight of arrogance not even God of all flesh.
One thing I know about God is that; He is a long suffering God, gracious and compassionate, He does not repay us according to our transgressions.
You just reached your breaking point thus you locked up her belongings.
Remember, we are all emotional human beings but in your anger do not sin.
You have a good heart and I see you are not being ruled by lust.
I know you are a child of God; just ask yourself, what would Jesus do in this situation?
Please, allow her to have access to her belongings pending the time she will sort out her accommodation problems.
Thanks bro! |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by yinkbell: 11:01am On Apr 28, 2021 |
[quote author=daveyjay post=101166418]Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.
A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now
I offered a roof over her head.
The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed
I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.
She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!
She got angry and took some money and left
That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies
The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.
On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by NevetsIbot(m): 11:02am On Apr 28, 2021 |
Rocktation:
Well, what if she doesn't? She was going to cook. Have the decency to admit that that is no easy chore in itself. Cooking is a social construct and not hardwired to women's gene, so y'all better stop thinking it's a non issue. Unless clearly defined from the get-go, every help you render shouldn't involve a quid pro quo, anyways.
And you're disappointed in me? Awwww  Hello... I’d put this question to you... would you rather starve for a whole day and not cook because you will not fetch water in the house of your benefactor  When it’s a rare occurrence for the tap not to be running? It takes less stress to fetch water than to hop on dicks or even stay hungry for a whole day.. It’s not a chore in itself, just as you said, so why would she wait on someone to do it. |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by NevetsIbot(m): 11:03am On Apr 28, 2021 |
Nyanyafk:
Same here I just couldn’t say no to someone that was like a father to me Lol.. I’d say no to my own father.... so I’d say no to anyone else... I honestly do like like to cohabit with anyone unless my biological siblings or parents. If my girl stays three days at my place sometimes, it begins to choke |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Nobody: 11:07am On Apr 28, 2021 |
daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.
A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now
I offered a roof over her head.
The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed
I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.
She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!
She got angry and took some money and left
That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies
The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.
On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...
Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.
What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.
She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...
Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!
When you house rat in your house and it started behaving as if he is the lion of the house. Then you drop rat poison for it to eat and die. The said Jezebeliam Spirit like girl is becoming a burden to you as her host. You had tried keeping her in your apartment for sometimes, treat her fuc* up wella by informing your parents her character and you can't do with it again. Eject her a*s out of your house. Let her go and look for accommodations since she can't respect herself. For now all her to wear one cloth like one month or two or she will borrow from her friends. Don't return back yet, she will understand that Lion that doesn't make trouble is her host. |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by poporinwa: 11:10am On Apr 28, 2021 |
Solution: allow her in but let your attitude change towards her
1. After cooking add more than enough salt and pepper to the food
2. Fart at intervals in front of her.
3.Always frown when she is around
4. Finally bring in arrangeee babe to discomfort her stay in the room.
She Will pack out in 5 days after these this actions. 1 Like |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Nobody: 11:11am On Apr 28, 2021 |
daveyjay:
I should unlock and evict her??!
I don't actually want to be the one who tells her to leave.
She should make that choice herself
What do you mean, seems like you're getting emotional. Forget the relationship stuff with your parents as you said. Go out of your house and inform your parents about her character and you can't go on with it. Unless you are eyeing something. |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by billyG(m): 11:14am On Apr 28, 2021 |
Malawian:
Why you go give am your bed to sleep? by that, you tell am say you be beta simp. Next time, buy am Mat (Not Foam) to dey sleep on. Buy her wetin?She shld come with her mat or foam. 1 Like |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Nobody: 11:15am On Apr 28, 2021 |
LordDarius:
You're trying so hard to sound Intelligent, but you ain't... Sorry Bro, No vex That guy or girl is so terrible. He /she will do worst than the girl. |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Erastuslove: 11:20am On Apr 28, 2021 |
Bros you are a man , disciplined guy for that matter and can control a girl... She wanted you to fetch her water and pamper her like a spoiled child.... Her attitude shows that she HAS FOUND AN ALTERNATIVE SOMEWHERE TO STAY AND CANT SAY IT OPEN.. allow her to try that new friends thanks for locking her out |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by chival(f): 11:35am On Apr 28, 2021 |
daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.
A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now
I offered a roof over her head.
The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed
I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.
She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!
She got angry and took some money and left
That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies
The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.
On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...
Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.
What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.
She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...
Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!
She went too far and your actions are justified. Call her to come pick up her stuff and find alternative accommodation |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by sanyaolurilwan(m): 11:37am On Apr 28, 2021 |
I respect men that don't take rubbish from females. daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.
A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now
I offered a roof over her head.
The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed
I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.
She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!
She got angry and took some money and left
That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies
The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.
On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...
Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.
What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.
She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...
Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!
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| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by bobbyslim(m): 11:43am On Apr 28, 2021 |
What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.
Bro you did it nice
You make a nice move man |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Telstar: 11:45am On Apr 28, 2021 |
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| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Connected1: 11:48am On Apr 28, 2021 |
akpota:
That is one area, I pointed out ASAP. He could have thought of what to do to the water problem. The babe ran out of idea and she looked up to him for a solution but he felt a bit unconcerned. Although, the girl couldn’t decode that he doesn’t like the idea she proposed of going to the Neigbour upstairs. At worst, they could have bought a bag of water.
Let me share my experience in school. My roommate sister used to cook for us. The well in our school is very deep(those well you have to row) if I see the way she struggles to get water as a guy, Omo I assist her to get the water. You need to see the smile on her face. Her elder bro, my roommate also does that too. Till today, she is a good lady. She was a minister of women affairs lolz She can't decode what he meant, they aren't logical beings, he could have related it to her straight away. She's snubbing him for the last few days because she's had been developing some feelings and she didn't expect him to treat her that way. Women are complicated to handle. |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by timberprides: 11:48am On Apr 28, 2021 |
daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.
A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now
I offered a roof over her head.
The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed
I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.
She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!
She got angry and took some money and left
That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies
The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.
On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...
Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.
What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.
She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...
Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!
do you normally bring ur girlfriend around d girl when ure in ur room together,cos she might have been developing some love feeling 4 u...try to let her know ur anger she might open up completely 4 u |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Telstar: 11:50am On Apr 28, 2021 |
Connected1:
She can't decode what he meant, they aren't logical beings, he could have related it to her straight away.
She's snubbing him for the last few days because she's had been developing some feelings and she didn't expect him to treat her that way.
Women are complicated to handle. OP does not know how to handle women. I'm sure he's asked the girl out but she refused. |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Hndrrxxx(m): 12:04pm On Apr 28, 2021 |
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| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Tytan600(m): 12:29pm On Apr 28, 2021 |
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this. I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities. A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now I offered a roof over her head. The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy. Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!. She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook. I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??! She got angry and took some money and left That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response. I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place. On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes... I made her understand that I am her benefactor. Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment... Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost. daveyjay:
What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.
She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...
Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!
This is obviously the best way to handle people with bad attitude. |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Connected1: 12:32pm On Apr 28, 2021 |
Telstar:
OP does not know how to handle women. I'm sure he's asked the girl out but she refused. That's his business for now, I am more concerned about the insecurity in Nigeria, how I will be able to make an impact. |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Belawy(m): 12:37pm On Apr 28, 2021 |
Uncle you dey simple and a the same time,you be baddest...just allow her have access to her things.Then take your decision..I off my cap for you |
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| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Sammyblaq(m): 12:41pm On Apr 28, 2021 |
If her people are aware of her staying with you, report to them about her development and further evict her.
Picking her calls/returning back to your place should be on a "Park your things" level.
B1TCH! |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by iInjureHerYansh: 12:52pm On Apr 28, 2021 |
daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.
A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now
I offered a roof over her head.
The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed
I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.
She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!
She got angry and took some money and left
That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies
The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.
On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...
Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.
What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.
She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...
Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!
Guy if i see you for real life ehn...i go buy you beer till you go faint 1 Like |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Oshlander: 12:57pm On Apr 28, 2021 |
daveyjay:
Lastly the matter has been resolved in the best possible way after the lock out.
She apologised, I did apologise too but I let her know the earlier we part ways, the better for us(me especially) I'm so glad that this issue has been resolved. Obviously, most people on this platform have a single way of reasoning. Please be opened to learning how to resolve different multifarious issues using different mild approaches. After all, "it is when mosquito lands on your scrotum that you'll understand that violence is not the solution to all problems" @Daveyjay, please don't hesitate to assist her in future whenever you see her in need because you can never tell where or when you will meet again; even though this experience has not been palatable with you, considering your workload or study load. Imo, most people who have commented so far forgot the part that the op is a student before they placed their comments. Good luck to you. |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Graciafun(m): 12:58pm On Apr 28, 2021 |
daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.
A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now
I offered a roof over her head.
The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed
I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.
She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!
She got angry and took some money and left
That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies
The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.
On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...
Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.
What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.
She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...
Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!
I'm just clapping for you here. That should reset her brains to a default mode
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| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by iInjureHerYansh: 12:59pm On Apr 28, 2021 |
Richochett:
At least I'm more intelligent than you. No you ain't bro I'm also a witness.. You the dumbest ever liveth |
