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It's well bro

Seek spiritual help, no be nairaland go solve this matter

Abeg, tell her you plan to invest 200k on Chelsea vs Real Madrid under 2.5goals. Let us know what she says.

udoka55555:
Oga we are having the same problem ..

My wife gives me nice advice and anytime I chose to behave like a man of my own and go ahead with my decisions, things go badly for me.

I consult in all I do and listens to her advice, but most times it's not easy .....sometimes if feels as if she doesn't understand what I need before rejecting my decisions...ít makes me mad and I always feel like strangling her....but I have learn to keep my cool and love her for who she is....

I don't believe she is an ogbanje....I just believe she is wiser than me and have better decision making skills ...... So I àccept her decisions most time.. éven if I reject it in her presence, I will still pick it up at her back.... And if I don't, it won't even take up to two weeks and the bad result will tell....

Your true woman should be wiser than you.... remember eve became wise before adam.

See bro I get this. But she is not God!
I find it difficult taking her advice for this two major reasons:
1. I'm first class graduate with Msc. But she is just OND holder (I'm the one pushing her to go higher in education. she doesn't know book) How can she be wiser than me?
2. I'm scared of always following her advice because it may lead me to become a "sissy" in marriage. People could now term her as the head of family since she makes all decisions. My right as a man could be reduced to nothing. (I cringe at the thought of being controlled by my wife!)

millennialaku2:
you are wrong about crypto being a useless investment. this year, it has changed a lot of people lives financially. we are up for another of massive profits soon, you better join the moving train. go to the investment section and see how your fellow Nigerians are cashing out

MMM all over again . . .

Op. Your writeup shows you are not spiritual. It is your type that they can turn to remote. You need strong backing of Jesus so that your intention will mainfest. This life is too complex to live without God. You will natually fail.

OfeAchi:
BACKGROUND:

I had a decent job before I met her and I was responsible for all the decisions I took, which mostly led to favourable outcomes.
However when I met her and began a relationship, I wasn't having the freedom I needed. Any decision I wanted to take without her authorization always ended badly. For example there was a period I wanted to jointly rent an apartment with a male friend of mine. She strongly opposed this but I still went ahead to pay rent. Unfortunately for me, within four months my friend had some issues with landlord and we were both evicted from the apartment. (although I got compensated)

Another instance was when I got paid some bonuses from company and decided to invest in some crypto projects during their ICOs (in 2017). I did some market analysis of these crypto projects before my decision to invest, only for her to advice me against it. She said we should instead, use the money to start farming. I didn't listen to her and went ahead to invest. THE RESULT: the investment that was supposed to take me to the moon now became more worthless than tissue paper! I shed tears because of this.

I now decided to get rid of her, but all plans of mine proved abortive. The more I tried to get her out of my life, the more we were brought together. Can you believe that the day I finally proposed to her was the very same day I tried to make out with an old girlfriend?

A friend of mine went to consult an ifa priest, who told him that my fiance has a cloud of good fortunes around her. But I don't believe in those spiritual mumbo-jumbos! I was determined to leave her. This made me begin applying for jobs in other states and towns, but nothing came forth. I even went for interview/test but didn't scale through. Some weeks later, she told me that she wasn't in support of me getting job in another town (she says she was scared of losing me).

Did you know? the time I decided to remove the thoughts of leaving her from mind and fully accept her into my life, was the time that I finally got a better job in another city!

MARRIAGE
We got married in 2019 and I was of the mindset that since she may be an ogbanje, therefore things would work in my favour and I would become a millionaire very quickly, but that's not the case.

Since marriage, any decision I take without her approval always leads to disaster!
I wanted to invest in a partnership deal and told her about it but she disapproved and said I should save the money instead. I went ahead to invest and I lost 400k! Same for other decisions in the house, the outcome was always negative whenever I don't heed her advice.

I hate all this! I'm a full grown man. Why should my life be based on the decisions of a woman? I feel like I'm no longer in control of my life.
I'm about to take a car loan from my company in order to escape this constant public commute and trekking but she has vehemently disapproved, that I should instead save for another year or two before buying car. But I still won't listen to her! If the loan ends in a disaster, I have decided that I would abandon this marriage and relocate to another country. A country where voodoo and religious mumbo-jumbo do not exist, so that I can be in full control of my life!

.......PS: we have a year old baby girl. Maybe I could be sending monthly upkeep from this new country I intend to relocate to.

Able readers, is my final decision a good one?

Sooo why d fvck cant you take decisions with your wife? Why create problems where there's none or just simply wanna flex male ego? Mtcheeeew. You dont even know what marriage is all about

I feel you are not sensitive enough sir. Your life is not revolving around a woman making decisions for you but you are applying a man ego and trust me it doesn't work that way. Marriage is a partnership. Can two work except they agree? No! God bless you with a dutiful wife and all you could see is obanje , haa! Have you tried listening to your wife and see the outcome once? You would have made it far in life if you have obeyed or listen to her. You really need to appreciate that woman every day for trying to make you a real man. Cos right now you are still living in your bachelorhood.

Check yourself well. Some men treat ladies like trash and in the process undo their selves. Am talking from experience. How you treat your girlfriend or wife determines how good things will come to you! A word is enough for .....

You see her kind of person... Any day you break her heart...she use vex open mouth cause you Chaii... I no go fit talk wetin go happen... There some kind of people you don't hurt their feelings... But I go advice you... Don't break her heart... I know what am saying

tunnex190:
This OP no get sense, no offense. I wish I had someone in my life to tell me what the outcome would be if I didn't heed the advice, maybe our life would have been better than this. You have this type of person in your life and you are posting rubbish here.

Bro, wake up. Consult her for any decision you want to make before you finally ruin your own life. She is your wife for crying out loud. My little cent.

I was the one who made the decision to study computer science, become first class graduate, get my Msc, land my first job, achieve certifications, etc.
Na me dey teach her computer. Na me dey write her CV.
Why should I consult her for decisions? It's not like she's a professor of life studies. I'm even 7 years older than her!

Bros..abeg if u divorce am..I go like replace u..I need that kind of woman in my life

Having read all you wrote, It's obvious you lack the principles of handling of Gold. How can you collect loan to buy a car? This same car, you will service and repair from time to time, this same car, monthly repayment will be deducted from your salary. You are adding plenty liabilities to your portfolio. Your wife is a good and great woman. She wants you to acquire assets instead of incurring more liabilities. Harden not your heart to her words of wisdom. Honestly you will regret it if you collect the car loan to buy a car. Be wise.

Bagehot:
MMM all over again . . .

you are confidently ignorant

All I see is a good woman giving advice and a stubborn he goat for a husband

Pls leave that your wife, but pls give me her contact. I need a blessed woman like her.
Ode, oponu. God bless you wit an helper you de complain. Ah,. If my wife is blessed like this I will be happy.

OfeAchi:
BACKGROUND:

I had a decent job before I met her and I was responsible for all the decisions I took, which mostly led to favourable outcomes.
However when I met her and began a relationship, I wasn't having the freedom I needed. Any decision I wanted to take without her authorization always ended badly. For example there was a period I wanted to jointly rent an apartment with a male friend of mine. She strongly opposed this but I still went ahead to pay rent. Unfortunately for me, within four months my friend had some issues with landlord and we were both evicted from the apartment. (although I got compensated)

Another instance was when I got paid some bonuses from company and decided to invest in some crypto projects during their ICOs (in 2017). I did some market analysis of these crypto projects before my decision to invest, only for her to advice me against it. She said we should instead, use the money to start farming. I didn't listen to her and went ahead to invest. THE RESULT: the investment that was supposed to take me to the moon now became more worthless than tissue paper! I shed tears because of this.

I now decided to get rid of her, but all plans of mine proved abortive. The more I tried to get her out of my life, the more we were brought together. Can you believe that the day I finally proposed to her was the very same day I tried to make out with an old girlfriend?

A friend of mine went to consult an ifa priest, who told him that my fiance has a cloud of good fortunes around her. But I don't believe in those spiritual mumbo-jumbos! I was determined to leave her. This made me begin applying for jobs in other states and towns, but nothing came forth. I even went for interview/test but didn't scale through. Some weeks later, she told me that she wasn't in support of me getting job in another town (she says she was scared of losing me).

Did you know? the time I decided to remove the thoughts of leaving her from mind and fully accept her into my life, was the time that I finally got a better job in another city!

MARRIAGE
We got married in 2019 and I was of the mindset that since she may be an ogbanje, therefore things would work in my favour and I would become a millionaire very quickly, but that's not the case.

Since marriage, any decision I take without her approval always leads to disaster!
I wanted to invest in a partnership deal and told her about it but she disapproved and said I should save the money instead. I went ahead to invest and I lost 400k! Same for other decisions in the house, the outcome was always negative whenever I don't heed her advice.

I hate all this! I'm a full grown man. Why should my life be based on the decisions of a woman? I feel like I'm no longer in control of my life.
I'm about to take a car loan from my company in order to escape this constant public commute and trekking but she has vehemently disapproved, that I should instead save for another year or two before buying car. But I still won't listen to her! If the loan ends in a disaster, I have decided that I would abandon this marriage and relocate to another country. A country where voodoo and religious mumbo-jumbo do not exist, so that I can be in full control of my life!

.......PS: we have a year old baby girl. Maybe I could be sending monthly upkeep from this new country I intend to relocate to.

Able readers, is my final decision a good one?

mumu, you have a good financial adviser and yet you no wan get sense. who in his right thinking takes a car loan instead of saving to buy a car, you are a mumu man. who rents a house with friend(s)? your mumu no get part 2.

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I hate all this! I'm a full grown man. Why should my life be based on the decisions of a woman? I feel like I'm no longer in control of my life.







This is were you make the mistakes,God gave you a helper, you refuse because of ego and pride. You think you are being controlled by a woman, that vid your problem, and not even what you stand to gain when you listen to her.

Thank you for bringing your case here , get ready for some foolish advice even from little kids who are not fit to advise you..

It's quite unfortunate that you are a fool and no one told you till this age

OfeAchi:
I was the one who made the decision to study computer science, become first class graduate, get my Msc, land my first job, achieve certifications, etc.
Na me dey teach her computer. Na me dey write her CV.
Why should I consult her for decisions? It's not like she's a professor of life studies. I'm even 7 years older than her!

Bro why are you even talking like this? As we used to say here **"iwe kika ko kan ogbon"** meaning: Being wise has nothing to do with your educational background. You can be professor and she is just a lowly clown who hates the school but she is just gifted with decision making. And this doesn't mean you take every advice but be a good listener to your wife. Don't think because she doesn't have standard education like you and you cannot heed to her warnings.

Whatever she's doing or has advised you to do, has always with good intentions. Getting car loan is one. If you believe it's convenient for you to wait for a couple months, or years to save more to buy a car of your own, there is nothing wrong with that.

OfeAchi:
BACKGROUND:

I had a decent job before I met her and I was responsible for all the decisions I took, which mostly led to favourable outcomes.
However when I met her and began a relationship, I wasn't having the freedom I needed. Any decision I wanted to take without her authorization always ended badly. For example there was a period I wanted to jointly rent an apartment with a male friend of mine. She strongly opposed this but I still went ahead to pay rent. Unfortunately for me, within four months my friend had some issues with landlord and we were both evicted from the apartment. (although I got compensated)

Another instance was when I got paid some bonuses from company and decided to invest in some crypto projects during their ICOs (in 2017). I did some market analysis of these crypto projects before my decision to invest, only for her to advice me against it. She said we should instead, use the money to start farming. I didn't listen to her and went ahead to invest. THE RESULT: the investment that was supposed to take me to the moon now became more worthless than tissue paper! I shed tears because of this.

I now decided to get rid of her, but all plans of mine proved abortive. The more I tried to get her out of my life, the more we were brought together. Can you believe that the day I finally proposed to her was the very same day I tried to make out with an old girlfriend?

A friend of mine went to consult an ifa priest, who told him that my fiance has a cloud of good fortunes around her. But I don't believe in those spiritual mumbo-jumbos! I was determined to leave her. This made me begin applying for jobs in other states and towns, but nothing came forth. I even went for interview/test but didn't scale through. Some weeks later, she told me that she wasn't in support of me getting job in another town (she says she was scared of losing me).

Did you know? the time I decided to remove the thoughts of leaving her from mind and fully accept her into my life, was the time that I finally got a better job in another city!

MARRIAGE
We got married in 2019 and I was of the mindset that since she may be an ogbanje, therefore things would work in my favour and I would become a millionaire very quickly, but that's not the case.

Since marriage, any decision I take without her approval always leads to disaster!
I wanted to invest in a partnership deal and told her about it but she disapproved and said I should save the money instead. I went ahead to invest and I lost 400k! Same for other decisions in the house, the outcome was always negative whenever I don't heed her advice.

I hate all this! I'm a full grown man. Why should my life be based on the decisions of a woman? I feel like I'm no longer in control of my life.
I'm about to take a car loan from my company in order to escape this constant public commute and trekking but she has vehemently disapproved, that I should instead save for another year or two before buying car. But I still won't listen to her! If the loan ends in a disaster, I have decided that I would abandon this marriage and relocate to another country. A country where voodoo and religious mumbo-jumbo do not exist, so that I can be in full control of my life!

.......PS: we have a year old baby girl. Maybe I could be sending monthly upkeep from this new country I intend to relocate to.

Able readers, is my final decision a good one?

I will not advise you to leave your wife. What I will tell you is that you need to be more prayerful and serious with God. Your wife's decisions are not entirely selfless and noble, for instance when she said she doesn't want you to get job in another town because she is scared to lose you. That's manipulation. Manipulation by man is witchcraft. Note, though, every man has an element of witchcraft in him. Only the holy spirit can transform a man. Only the holy spirit has the right/legal authority to manipulate circumstances because every other being is naturally selfish. I'll suggest you become close to God, the holy spirit will guide you better. If you don't like your destiny in the hands of a mortal, place it before God the holy spirit. That is more secure.

OfeAchi:
BACKGROUND:

I had a decent job before I met her and I was responsible for all the decisions I took, which mostly led to favourable outcomes.
However when I met her and began a relationship, I wasn't having the freedom I needed. Any decision I wanted to take without her authorization always ended badly. For example there was a period I wanted to jointly rent an apartment with a male friend of mine. She strongly opposed this but I still went ahead to pay rent. Unfortunately for me, within four months my friend had some issues with landlord and we were both evicted from the apartment. (although I got compensated)

Another instance was when I got paid some bonuses from company and decided to invest in some crypto projects during their ICOs (in 2017). I did some market analysis of these crypto projects before my decision to invest, only for her to advice me against it. She said we should instead, use the money to start farming. I didn't listen to her and went ahead to invest. THE RESULT: the investment that was supposed to take me to the moon now became more worthless than tissue paper! I shed tears because of this.

I now decided to get rid of her, but all plans of mine proved abortive. The more I tried to get her out of my life, the more we were brought together. Can you believe that the day I finally proposed to her was the very same day I tried to make out with an old girlfriend?

A friend of mine went to consult an ifa priest, who told him that my fiance has a cloud of good fortunes around her. But I don't believe in those spiritual mumbo-jumbos! I was determined to leave her. This made me begin applying for jobs in other states and towns, but nothing came forth. I even went for interview/test but didn't scale through. Some weeks later, she told me that she wasn't in support of me getting job in another town (she says she was scared of losing me).

Did you know? the time I decided to remove the thoughts of leaving her from mind and fully accept her into my life, was the time that I finally got a better job in another city!

MARRIAGE
We got married in 2019 and I was of the mindset that since she may be an ogbanje, therefore things would work in my favour and I would become a millionaire very quickly, but that's not the case.

Since marriage, any decision I take without her approval always leads to disaster!
I wanted to invest in a partnership deal and told her about it but she disapproved and said I should save the money instead. I went ahead to invest and I lost 400k! Same for other decisions in the house, the outcome was always negative whenever I don't heed her advice.

I hate all this! I'm a full grown man. Why should my life be based on the decisions of a woman? I feel like I'm no longer in control of my life.
I'm about to take a car loan from my company in order to escape this constant public commute and trekking but she has vehemently disapproved, that I should instead save for another year or two before buying car. But I still won't listen to her! If the loan ends in a disaster, I have decided that I would abandon this marriage and relocate to another country. A country where voodoo and religious mumbo-jumbo do not exist, so that I can be in full control of my life!

.......PS: we have a year old baby girl. Maybe I could be sending monthly upkeep from this new country I intend to relocate to.

Able readers, is my final decision a good one?

receive sense

Hmmmm

If this is real then I think you're an example of a man who feels his ego is bruised; cos why would a woman(that you pitied & used your money to marry) be capable of giving solid advice, she doesn't have any right to "dictate" to her husbandman, she should only nod "yes" and show her unflinching support and not counter anything he says even if it leads to his doom bah..

Just one question for you, why did you even consider getting married in the first place? Cos you do not have any business getting married, you do not.. I'm just wondering why she chose to do life with someone like you, likee babe why would you want to mortgage your future this way?Just why? After dating him, you ignored the red flags babe.. For how long do you intend to keep doing this with this man, someone who only wants to be in control & not reasonable omg I feel for the little princess..

As for you OP, I see you've decided to keep your decisions to yourself from now henceforth.. If your mind is already made up, it's safe to say you do not need any advice.. You see dah your coconut head ehn, egungun be kiafu egungun be kiafu

Let me consult the oracle b4 I comment..

millennialaku2:

you are confidently ignorant

Am I? This is Tulip mania all over again.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tulip_mania#:~:text=Tulip%20mania%20(Dutch%3A%20tulpenmanie),dramatically%20collapsed%20in%20February%201637.

OfeAchi:
A friend of mine invested crypto same period and made X100 of his investment. He's a millionaire now. Besides, before I met her I lived in a shared apartment with friends.

Bros, pass her number in case u decide to leave her

OfeAchi:
BACKGROUND:

I had a decent job before I met her and I was responsible for all the decisions I took, which mostly led to favourable outcomes.
However when I met her and began a relationship, I wasn't having the freedom I needed. Any decision I wanted to take without her authorization always ended badly. For example there was a period I wanted to jointly rent an apartment with a male friend of mine. She strongly opposed this but I still went ahead to pay rent. Unfortunately for me, within four months my friend had some issues with landlord and we were both evicted from the apartment. (although I got compensated)

Another instance was when I got paid some bonuses from company and decided to invest in some crypto projects during their ICOs (in 2017). I did some market analysis of these crypto projects before my decision to invest, only for her to advice me against it. She said we should instead, use the money to start farming. I didn't listen to her and went ahead to invest. THE RESULT: the investment that was supposed to take me to the moon now became more worthless than tissue paper! I shed tears because of this.

I now decided to get rid of her, but all plans of mine proved abortive. The more I tried to get her out of my life, the more we were brought together. Can you believe that the day I finally proposed to her was the very same day I tried to make out with an old girlfriend?

A friend of mine went to consult an ifa priest, who told him that my fiance has a cloud of good fortunes around her. But I don't believe in those spiritual mumbo-jumbos! I was determined to leave her. This made me begin applying for jobs in other states and towns, but nothing came forth. I even went for interview/test but didn't scale through. Some weeks later, she told me that she wasn't in support of me getting job in another town (she says she was scared of losing me).

Did you know? the time I decided to remove the thoughts of leaving her from mind and fully accept her into my life, was the time that I finally got a better job in another city!

MARRIAGE
We got married in 2019 and I was of the mindset that since she may be an ogbanje, therefore things would work in my favour and I would become a millionaire very quickly, but that's not the case.

Since marriage, any decision I take without her approval always leads to disaster!
I wanted to invest in a partnership deal and told her about it but she disapproved and said I should save the money instead. I went ahead to invest and I lost 400k! Same for other decisions in the house, the outcome was always negative whenever I don't heed her advice.

I hate all this! I'm a full grown man. Why should my life be based on the decisions of a woman? I feel like I'm no longer in control of my life.
I'm about to take a car loan from my company in order to escape this constant public commute and trekking but she has vehemently disapproved, that I should instead save for another year or two before buying car. But I still won't listen to her! If the loan ends in a disaster, I have decided that I would abandon this marriage and relocate to another country. A country where voodoo and religious mumbo-jumbo do not exist, so that I can be in full control of my life!

.......PS: we have a year old baby girl. Maybe I could be sending monthly upkeep from this new country I intend to relocate to.

Able readers, is my final decision a good one?

But she knows you are writing this mumbo jumbo. You are finished thos man. This ogbanje loving man. You married her cos you knw she is ogbanje and u can be a millionaire. Hahaha

Be happy man, you got a seeker, she sees the future and advice you about it.she is not controlling you, leaving such a person with make you rekt. Make her happy always and you will definitely be happy and successful.

OfeAchi:
BACKGROUND:

I had a decent job before I met her and I was responsible for all the decisions I took, which mostly led to favourable outcomes.
However when I met her and began a relationship, I wasn't having the freedom I needed. Any decision I wanted to take without her authorization always ended badly. For example there was a period I wanted to jointly rent an apartment with a male friend of mine. She strongly opposed this but I still went ahead to pay rent. Unfortunately for me, within four months my friend had some issues with landlord and we were both evicted from the apartment. (although I got compensated)

Another instance was when I got paid some bonuses from company and decided to invest in some crypto projects during their ICOs (in 2017). I did some market analysis of these crypto projects before my decision to invest, only for her to advice me against it. She said we should instead, use the money to start farming. I didn't listen to her and went ahead to invest. THE RESULT: the investment that was supposed to take me to the moon now became more worthless than tissue paper! I shed tears because of this.

I now decided to get rid of her, but all plans of mine proved abortive. The more I tried to get her out of my life, the more we were brought together. Can you believe that the day I finally proposed to her was the very same day I tried to make out with an old girlfriend?

A friend of mine went to consult an ifa priest, who told him that my fiance has a cloud of good fortunes around her. But I don't believe in those spiritual mumbo-jumbos! I was determined to leave her. This made me begin applying for jobs in other states and towns, but nothing came forth. I even went for interview/test but didn't scale through. Some weeks later, she told me that she wasn't in support of me getting job in another town (she says she was scared of losing me).

Did you know? the time I decided to remove the thoughts of leaving her from mind and fully accept her into my life, was the time that I finally got a better job in another city!

MARRIAGE
We got married in 2019 and I was of the mindset that since she may be an ogbanje, therefore things would work in my favour and I would become a millionaire very quickly, but that's not the case.

Since marriage, any decision I take without her approval always leads to disaster!
I wanted to invest in a partnership deal and told her about it but she disapproved and said I should save the money instead. I went ahead to invest and I lost 400k! Same for other decisions in the house, the outcome was always negative whenever I don't heed her advice.

I hate all this! I'm a full grown man. Why should my life be based on the decisions of a woman? I feel like I'm no longer in control of my life.
I'm about to take a car loan from my company in order to escape this constant public commute and trekking but she has vehemently disapproved, that I should instead save for another year or two before buying car. But I still won't listen to her! If the loan ends in a disaster, I have decided that I would abandon this marriage and relocate to another country. A country where voodoo and religious mumbo-jumbo do not exist, so that I can be in full control of my life!

.......PS: we have a year old baby girl. Maybe I could be sending monthly upkeep from this new country I intend to relocate to.

Able readers, is my final decision a good one?

Bagehot:
Am I? This is Tulip mania all over again.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tulip_mania#:~:text=Tulip%20mania%20(Dutch%3A%20tulpenmanie),dramatically%20collapsed%20in%20February%201637.

hehe, ill educate you for free.
in crypto and stocks, there are two market cycles; bull and bear. currently we are in bull market that happens usually once in four years. the price of cryptos will generally skyrocket due to the influx of new investors. all you have to do is to find a coin that is about to moon (through ta & fa) and buy it, once it does you take your profit. it is predicted that this current bull market will end early next year, so you are not too late to the party.

P.S elon used teslas money to buy BTC. Also write down current price of bitcoin and check it again a month from now.

https://www.nairaland.com/6318352/crypto-currency-investors-thread

modified: im giving you an assignment. go and research about bear market and crypto in general

Ynix:
I don't think she is, I have that type of Gift too but I am not ogbanje. It is just a gift to know the best decision for the future

That's what we call spirit of discernment.

See better wife

I wan carry games for sporty, help me hala your wife.. I need better games