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ecomalchemist:
Na Desmond Idiot, sorry Elliot....cause am.

Imma keep it one hunnid with you bro, no one really cares about what you going through. I understand that your current state is quite pathetic.

Nigeria is hard, you have to go the extra mile to make a living due to the economic state of things.

You don't need to seek the validation of total strangers on a public forum, if everybody carry thier problem come here for round table, you go thank God for your own.

Why are you feeling down ?

Life is short so ginger yourself....Time + Chance
Happens to us all. Rich + Poor..las las everybody go kpai.

50 : 50 life na dice.

Best you go to a tech school and learn hot skills (web Dev, Ecommerce, Mini Importation, digital marketing, UI / UX design, copywriting, funnel hacking and graphics design).

Work remotely and earn in foreign exchange, stay blessed.

My good friend, OP is not seeking public validation. Listen carefully to the tone of his post and u would know depression is seizing him violently and he's choking in his struggles against depression. Self-validation in this Nigeria of today, especially among the youths is almost impossible. I've worn OP's shoes before so I know what he is going through

Since you have talent in business, you are good 2 go. Sell your skill to others, make your first money, save and get a business started. I recommend you read the richest man in babylon, rich dad poor dad and the millionaire fastelane.

WhiteRuler:
First of all, apologies for any errors you may come across as I am not at the right frame of mind now.

Secondly, this post is 100% real about my life. So nothing is fake in it.

I'm a man, precisely 33 years old. I graduated from the University in 2019 at age 31. You may ask why I was still in school till that age. Well, I have realized that family/parental background matters a lot in a child's life no matter how people try to twist the fact. My family/parental background wasn't a good one educationally and financially as my parents were just petty traders and this has contributed negatively in achieving my goals and aspirations in life. With the above, you can deduce that there was no sources of funding for my tertiary education so I had to find a job after my secondary school while very ambitious about my furthering my education because I always believed in acquiring education up to university level. This led me to doing several odd jobs such as construction site labourer, security guard, cleaning, barbing, hawking, even to remove soak away and many others just to feed and see myself through school. Let me also add that @33 now, there are some jobs I can't do again because of some changes in my health system occasioned by some of the odd jobs I exposed myself to. For example, any strenuous job now is not for me as it makes me breath heavily like an asthmatic patient; any job that requires standing for long or bending down not for me due to broken waist (although these might be solvable issues but for now, I can't tell cos I have no money to visit health facility).

Moving on, while I may be thanking God for the academic success (even though the school is yet to issue me certificate) but I'm having strong feelings about myself. I feel like I have failed in life. I feel like I am a failure. My mates who got admission into university immediately after secondary school are gainfully employed today, living in comfortable apartment (built or rented), married with kids, have their own car and generally doing well. Even the ones who didn't further but venture into learning trade are doing well too. On the other hand, at 33, I have virtually nothing to show for it. Still living in one thatch house, poor, hungry and starving, no wife, no kid(s) (not even a serious girlfriend), no job, no car and nothing to show for my 33 years on earth. This is why I'm feeling like I have failed in life and it has made me to always be ashamed of myself and always trying to avoid meeting my mates who are doing well.

Also, looking at the country Nigeria, most employers recruit under 30. @33, what are my chances of
landing a good job if I refuse to forge age and go for service but collect exemption letter? What are even the possibility of getting a job as I have no capital for business? Note: between 2019 and now, I've learnt several online money making skills but yet to make a kobo out of it all. Note also: ordinarily, I wouldn't seek employment (private or government) because I'm multi talented e.g in football, entertainment or business but these talents need money to develop which is what I'm lacking.

My questions:
Please what do you all think? Do you think I have failed or I'm a failure in life? What is the future holding for me? As at today, the only thing I can boast of is "I am a graduate". Nothing more...like I said, poor, hungry and starving.

Help me with good pieces of advice please before my mind begins to consider evil as fastest way of making money. Thanks.

if you see yourself as a failure then that's who you are. As he thinks in his heart, so he is.

please how can I get in touch with you?

All4good:
First of, if you wrote this without Grammarly software then you are Marvelous and you have just restored my faith for the Nigerian Youths.

At the bolded (according to you), so it is your mates that probably took the short-cut to wealth that you are "ashamed" of. Go close and see if they are really proud of themselves or just living a-make-belief life.

Where in Naija are you located. I mean if you were passing through all these in the UK or USA, you won't be thinking all hope is gone. Afterall Colonel Sanders ( the owner of KFC) was still selling chickens door to door at age 60 and you are just 33.

Single Graduate, that can vomit English like this (except them help you write this post ), then Sisters and Aunties no they take turn for your kitchen and the Orza room? Why? Where you dey throw your hook hmmm..
When I was in this your present stage (husband material) the table turned, it was now the sisters using their money to buy me launch, so I am asking, who is your Mentor

Your self esteem ( like most Nigerians, young and old) is battered and needs to be revamped. Then you can move on conquering like the Lion you have proven to be.

Trust me it doesn't take God one year to change your financial status and you acquire all those things you mentioned as measures of SUCCESS.

Keep your Bible close, read it in and out of season ( trouble). Let Elohim guide you, and you will never fail. God's people may face tough times like Job but they bounce back better because God can NOT fail.

Some Immediate Tips: (To be Achieved within 6 months)
I) Why you never marry? DON'T tell me money because MONEY really doesn't matter when singing marriage to women but you have to be certain she is gainfully employed (even if she get her own tailoring outfit or a Nurse, that's COOL). You have to SHINE your Eyes, Love from head before your heart. CALL me for details before we cast the parol. LOL
ii) Can you drive, getting into commercial transport is easy (driving for someone, even on hire purchase); which reminds me, those your "mates" you are envying their cars might just be Taxi drivers. Guy use your head, no let those you better pass flog you.
iii) You need to get yourself an international passport, learn German language while you are fixing your self a wife and an odd job that won't break your back.

For other details and guidance, Call me

divinitybillz:
I no go lie You. The country is messed up but u just got to keep pushing..Bro....I am approaching 32,on an income of N67,000 and a terrible gambling addiction. Been living in an abandoned car for 8months and it's scary when you log on to Facebook and you younger ones are inviting you for wedding. I think mine is spiritually. I try not to look to far ahead and I just hope to deal with my issues because giving up is the last of my choice. We'll get there eventually..

How do you cope? How do you feel comfortable living in an abandoned car knowing the state of insecurity and the possiblity of being falsely accused? U dey try ooo


You go gats stop the gambling oo

You know your problem is finance for start up. Start sourcing funds. Act on It. Stop hiding from your mates. They might be your source of upliftment

FarahAideed:
Don't stress yourself, 99 percent of human beings will end up failures financially

Are u sure?

Preciousgirl:
Call me

OP.

aremuforlife:
You have not failed, except if you quit. There are lots of thing to achieve at 33, you are already a graduate, get your self busy, no matter how little it fetch you, get a serious relationship, to avoid depression. Make yourself happy.
You are not a failure.

Where can a poor hungry broke person living in a thatched house get "a serious relationship" in Nigeria?

LegalOpinion:
Where can a poor hungry broke person living in a thatched house get "a serious relationship" in Nigeria?

In an environment where an unemployed cripple get a beautiful and supportive wife. There are lots of ladies who are not after material things but your future.

No, you aren't.

Gabe427:
I hope you see this piece and it helps

HOW NOT TO GIVE A FUUUCK

Bros OP, I don't have much to contribute, but all I have to say is pay visits to the hospitals, prison yards and cemeteries, then come thank me later after you must have thanked God. I'm 33 also and mine's also not so cool a story, but we just have to always give thanks no matter the situation.

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Some at 33 are still seeking admission, they are even happier than you are. You write so well, why not get a teaching job save some money open a blog and start blogging news and all.

Learn graphic s designing, walk around churches and ask them for small designing contracts.

Or why not try to be an agent for renting or selling houses you can even combine the two above and make a living .

You don't need public validation , or would love to be in the hospital sick bed seeking for donations to solve one kidney problem. Oga stand up and work.

1-CONTINUE TO HUSTLE & SAVE
2-KEEP TELLING GOD TO MAKE YOUR LIFE BETTER
3-ABSTAIN FROM EVERY APPEARANCE OF EVIL
4-STAY AWAY FROM BROKE GIRLS & YOUR LIFE WILL SOON CHANGE FOR GOOD.
5_ALWAYS PAY YOUR TITHE.

My offer to you if you want o , no be force

Free Nord vpn
Free Pc
Free spectranet
Free accommodation for ikoyi to be with my guys for a maximum of 6 months
Free 7 paid bombing sites
Free chow and kpoli (food and smoke) plus free booze or softs
No worry about wears , my boyz dey change wardrobe weekly
Free lutavangerous (babes)

Even if Dem swear for you sef you suppose get at least 10M in one month being with my boyz
That's my offer if you want , you know where to reach me

Lights up my kpoli in peace

Call iheanacho to cut soap for you

WhiteRuler:
First of all, apologies for any errors you may come across as I am not at the right frame of mind now.

Secondly, this post is 100% real about my life. So nothing is fake in it.

I'm a man, precisely 33 years old. I graduated from the University in 2019 at age 31. You may ask why I was still in school till that age. Well, I have realized that family/parental background matters a lot in a child's life no matter how people try to twist the fact. My family/parental background wasn't a good one educationally and financially as my parents were just petty traders and this has contributed negatively in achieving my goals and aspirations in life. With the above, you can deduce that there was no sources of funding for my tertiary education so I had to find a job after my secondary school while very ambitious about my furthering my education because I always believed in acquiring education up to university level. This led me to doing several odd jobs such as construction site labourer, security guard, cleaning, barbing, hawking, even to remove soak away and many others just to feed and see myself through school. Let me also add that @33 now, there are some jobs I can't do again because of some changes in my health system occasioned by some of the odd jobs I exposed myself to. For example, any strenuous job now is not for me as it makes me breath heavily like an asthmatic patient; any job that requires standing for long or bending down not for me due to broken waist (although these might be solvable issues but for now, I can't tell cos I have no money to visit health facility).

Moving on, while I may be thanking God for the academic success (even though the school is yet to issue me certificate) but I'm having strong feelings about myself. I feel like I have failed in life. I feel like I am a failure. My mates who got admission into university immediately after secondary school are gainfully employed today, living in comfortable apartment (built or rented), married with kids, have their own car and generally doing well. Even the ones who didn't further but venture into learning trade are doing well too. On the other hand, at 33, I have virtually nothing to show for it. Still living in one thatch house, poor, hungry and starving, no wife, no kid(s) (not even a serious girlfriend), no job, no car and nothing to show for my 33 years on earth. This is why I'm feeling like I have failed in life and it has made me to always be ashamed of myself and always trying to avoid meeting my mates who are doing well.

Also, looking at the country Nigeria, most employers recruit under 30. @33, what are my chances of
landing a good job if I refuse to forge age and go for service but collect exemption letter? What are even the possibility of getting a job as I have no capital for business? Note: between 2019 and now, I've learnt several online money making skills but yet to make a kobo out of it all. Note also: ordinarily, I wouldn't seek employment (private or government) because I'm multi talented e.g in football, entertainment or business but these talents need money to develop which is what I'm lacking.

My questions:
Please what do you all think? Do you think I have failed or I'm a failure in life? What is the future holding for me? As at today, the only thing I can boast of is "I am a graduate". Nothing more...like I said, poor, hungry and starving.

Help me with good pieces of advice please before my mind begins to consider evil as fastest way of making money. Thanks.

My beloved brother,pls kindly ignore any negative experiences that you have had since you were born. Look first banish the thought out of your mind that you are a failure. You are not a failure bra. Failure is not a destination but an event. At 33 years, the best of life is still ahead of you.
Thank God vehemently that you are still in the land of the living bro.
My advice to you is that stay close to God and then read books.I read 'tough times don't last last by the late Robert Sucheller and it really transformed my life.
Bishop David Oyedepo made a statement years ago that cause a revolution in my mind
when he said' 'do not let your certificate dissapoint you. There is something that God has deposited inside of you that the whole world is looking out for'.
You are not an abandoned project bro. Look for something productive to do and seek business opportunities while looking up to God for divine assistance. God has you in mind.

WhiteRuler:
First of all, apologies for any errors you may come across as I am not at the right frame of mind now.

Secondly, this post is 100% real about my life. So nothing is fake in it.

I'm a man, precisely 33 years old. I graduated from the University in 2019 at age 31. You may ask why I was still in school till that age. Well, I have realized that family/parental background matters a lot in a child's life no matter how people try to twist the fact. My family/parental background wasn't a good one educationally and financially as my parents were just petty traders and this has contributed negatively in achieving my goals and aspirations in life. With the above, you can deduce that there was no sources of funding for my tertiary education so I had to find a job after my secondary school while very ambitious about my furthering my education because I always believed in acquiring education up to university level. This led me to doing several odd jobs such as construction site labourer, security guard, cleaning, barbing, hawking, even to remove soak away and many others just to feed and see myself through school. Let me also add that @33 now, there are some jobs I can't do again because of some changes in my health system occasioned by some of the odd jobs I exposed myself to. For example, any strenuous job now is not for me as it makes me breath heavily like an asthmatic patient; any job that requires standing for long or bending down not for me due to broken waist (although these might be solvable issues but for now, I can't tell cos I have no money to visit health facility).

Moving on, while I may be thanking God for the academic success (even though the school is yet to issue me certificate) but I'm having strong feelings about myself. I feel like I have failed in life. I feel like I am a failure. My mates who got admission into university immediately after secondary school are gainfully employed today, living in comfortable apartment (built or rented), married with kids, have their own car and generally doing well. Even the ones who didn't further but venture into learning trade are doing well too. On the other hand, at 33, I have virtually nothing to show for it. Still living in one thatch house, poor, hungry and starving, no wife, no kid(s) (not even a serious girlfriend), no job, no car and nothing to show for my 33 years on earth. This is why I'm feeling like I have failed in life and it has made me to always be ashamed of myself and always trying to avoid meeting my mates who are doing well.

Also, looking at the country Nigeria, most employers recruit under 30. @33, what are my chances of
landing a good job if I refuse to forge age and go for service but collect exemption letter? What are even the possibility of getting a job as I have no capital for business? Note: between 2019 and now, I've learnt several online money making skills but yet to make a kobo out of it all. Note also: ordinarily, I wouldn't seek employment (private or government) because I'm multi talented e.g in football, entertainment or business but these talents need money to develop which is what I'm lacking.

My questions:
Please what do you all think? Do you think I have failed or I'm a failure in life? What is the future holding for me? As at today, the only thing I can boast of is "I am a graduate". Nothing more...like I said, poor, hungry and starving.

Help me with good pieces of advice please before my mind begins to consider evil as fastest way of making money. Thanks.

Baba hope say you sabi play bet9ja, try am e go work, if e work. Jakpa my man..you're still young and theirs hope..

Dreyton36:
My offer to you if you want o , no be force

Free Nord vpn
Free Pc
Free spectranet
Free accommodation for ikoyi to be with my guys for a maximum of 6 months
Free 7 paid bombing sites
Free chow and kpoli (food and smoke) plus free booze or softs
No worry about wears , my boyz dey change wardrobe weekly
Free lutavangerous (babes)

Even if Dem swear for you sef you suppose get at least 10M in one month being with my boyz
That's my offer if you want , you know where to reach me

Lights up my kpoli in peace

.
How far

Op, the is no global timeline for achievement, everybody will move in their own pace and time, thank God you are one step ahead in ur journey. Men up faith hope and cheer up.

You need to understand that just like time, everyone will move at their own pace. Don’t compare, don’t envy, we all move in different time zones. Even a spoilt clock is right twice a day.�

Just keep moving... There is God somewhere.... He knows you even before you were born... His process maybe slow but trust me, He has a great plans for you. Cheer up brother!!!, Beautiful days await you.

Oshokalo:
whether u get handwork u go still say yes sir to ur client abi na costumer

Yes that kind of yes sir better because you fit still employ somebody way go do yes sir for you too,. Employ somebody for the sake of workload or when you no dey around. Brother, handwork better pass job o

Officialgarri:
I don't know why many of you always seek public validation when you have a head to think for yourself.

If I call you a success or a failure, it has little or no effect on your effort to strive harder and beyond where you are currently at.

It is left for you to ask yourself; am I comfortable with this stage I am?
Is there something I can do to improve myself?

Asking yourself a few of these questions out of so many is enough to make you decide rather than wait for some faceless people who don't give an actual F**ck about you to encourage you or weigh you down.

You won't understand His situation unless you in his shoes. There are some questions you can answer yourself especially if you personality has been uttered.

NoFucksToGive:
Without reading I label you a failure !!! For the fact you need the validation of total strangers says it all

You are weak and mentally immature totally unfit for any leadership position

People who seek validation are people not always weak like you mentioned they are open to change don't be surprised he had already made his own decisions. He's only trying to see who's in his shoes to keep hope alive.

I've been told about the likelyhood of being attacked and accused at all, I stay in ABJ and raising money to get a good apartment takes a lot of saving and my habit detest that. I'm improving and getting better. Thanks for your concern. In the end nobody cares about your story or struggles. I know oneday I'll also tell on how good things have gotten.

free2ryhme:
How do you cope? How do you feel comfortable living in an abandoned car knowing the state of insecurity and the possiblity of being falsely accused? U dey try ooo


You go gats stop the gambling oo

I understand his point being labelling him weak but there's healing and improvement from sharing too, as long as you share with the right folks.

Maliqcious:
You won't understand His situation unless you in his shoes. There are some questions you can answer yourself especially if you personality has been uttered.

I understand how you feel, if I were you I will just drink poison; commit suicide and be roaming around withouts clothes, responsibility...

By bringing ur problem here it shows you only acquired a degree but not education.

You are never a failure, you are just in the wrong country.
Do not give up, keep pushing one day you will be glad you did

You are not a failure and can never be a failure. So many people you are seeing today have alot of troubles too but you definitely don't see it because you feel yours is the worst kind of situation. I will be 30 yrs by July, still in school, not in any kind of relationship, finances is zero, I am in a very critical situation now that I am even finding it extremely difficult to eat but guess what? I woke up this morning telling myself that I wouldn't be worried over anything anymore. What God hasn't given me means I don't need it but I only want it. I am not sick, I am not a disabled, I am not deformed but I am whole to the Glory of God, I have learned to look beyond my situation. Please be encouraged, the Bible said "when the time is right, I the Lord will make it happen. Your breakthrough is closer than your imagination. Peace brother, Peace

WhiteRuler:
First of all, apologies for any errors you may come across as I am not at the right frame of mind now.

Secondly, this post is 100% real about my life. So nothing is fake in it.

I'm a man, precisely 33 years old. I graduated from the University in 2019 at age 31. You may ask why I was still in school till that age. Well, I have realized that family/parental background matters a lot in a child's life no matter how people try to twist the fact. My family/parental background wasn't a good one educationally and financially as my parents were just petty traders and this has contributed negatively in achieving my goals and aspirations in life. With the above, you can deduce that there was no sources of funding for my tertiary education so I had to find a job after my secondary school while very ambitious about my furthering my education because I always believed in acquiring education up to university level. This led me to doing several odd jobs such as construction site labourer, security guard, cleaning, barbing, hawking, even to remove soak away and many others just to feed and see myself through school. Let me also add that @33 now, there are some jobs I can't do again because of some changes in my health system occasioned by some of the odd jobs I exposed myself to. For example, any strenuous job now is not for me as it makes me breath heavily like an asthmatic patient; any job that requires standing for long or bending down not for me due to broken waist (although these might be solvable issues but for now, I can't tell cos I have no money to visit health facility).

Moving on, while I may be thanking God for the academic success (even though the school is yet to issue me certificate) but I'm having strong feelings about myself. I feel like I have failed in life. I feel like I am a failure. My mates who got admission into university immediately after secondary school are gainfully employed today, living in comfortable apartment (built or rented), married with kids, have their own car and generally doing well. Even the ones who didn't further but venture into learning trade are doing well too. On the other hand, at 33, I have virtually nothing to show for it. Still living in one thatch house, poor, hungry and starving, no wife, no kid(s) (not even a serious girlfriend), no job, no car and nothing to show for my 33 years on earth. This is why I'm feeling like I have failed in life and it has made me to always be ashamed of myself and always trying to avoid meeting my mates who are doing well.

Also, looking at the country Nigeria, most employers recruit under 30. @33, what are my chances of
landing a good job if I refuse to forge age and go for service but collect exemption letter? What are even the possibility of getting a job as I have no capital for business? Note: between 2019 and now, I've learnt several online money making skills but yet to make a kobo out of it all. Note also: ordinarily, I wouldn't seek employment (private or government) because I'm multi talented e.g in football, entertainment or business but these talents need money to develop which is what I'm lacking.

My questions:
Please what do you all think? Do you think I have failed or I'm a failure in life? What is the future holding for me? As at today, the only thing I can boast of is "I am a graduate". Nothing more...like I said, poor, hungry and starving.

Help me with good pieces of advice please before my mind begins to consider evil as fastest way of making money. Thanks.

You are a failure once you are dead.
The living has hope.
How can you improve is what you should look for.
Some people aren't University graduates or learnt any skills at 33.