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Upcoming Wedding Palava by Annoms: 12:23pm On May 18, 2021 |
I'll try to make this short. Yesterday I was having a conversation with my fiancée about my mum's suggestion about how to go about our wedding which is scheduled to take place Jan next year. My mum suggested that we do both trad and white wedding on the same day to cut cost. She opined that we do the white wedding in the morning and hold the traditional marriage as a reception in the afternoon. I pretty much see reasons from her perspective considering the harsh economic condition in Nigeria. I was relating this to my fiancée yesterday in a phone call, when she flared up and said I should have consulted her to seek her opinion on this marriage arrangement before going to my family to seek theirs because I said my mum's advise seems okay. What I deduce from her plight was that she wants the trad marriage at the village (south-east) while the white at the town where we base (South-West). That was what I initially wanted but due to high inflation in the land, I'm actually tilting towards my mum advise because I can't go bankruptcy just because I want to satisfy her. Why not use a stone to kill two birds? She wants a cream-de-la-cream kind of wedding but she's not ready to assist financially to make that happen. (she's an awaiting corper) I told her that the cost of transportation and lodging people from the village (hers and mine) to the city for our white marriage alone is gulping about 500/600k. That's transportation & lodging alone ooo.. I'll now spend if not x2 of what I spent on trad for white.. Why not just do everything in the village and move on with our lives? We can actually have it in the village and it will still be all nice and glamourous. She said she wants to have a say in how her marriage will look like. Her imput is welcomed. But if she still insist on having the white wedding and not putting finances into consideration. I'm thinking that she want the white wedding on the city because of her friends who will attend which is not enough reason to go bankruptcy for. It was a heated argument yesterday. We both went to bed angrily and not in talking terms till now Pls advice accordingly. Thanks 51 Likes 10 Shares |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by duduade: 12:36pm On May 18, 2021 |
Red flags Are you sure this one will hear word in the house like this... Marriage isnt about the wedding abeg.. And i suppose till now she hasnt called you to "lets sort this out" ... No communication... This one will bully you till you fall for her demands... Is this a wife material... She wants a dream wedding and isnt ready to contribute to it financially The 500 to 600k is money that can be saved and diverted to something else better. Her priorities are different from yours... Obviously not well matured... I were in your shoes... I will put ALL PLANS on hold until both parties come to the middle.. In short walk away why you can... Cancelling an engagement wont kill you... 422 Likes 23 Shares |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Nobody: 12:41pm On May 18, 2021 |
Did She pay the bride price with her own money? Either way it turns out, one of you will be angry on the wedding day. 242 Likes 13 Shares |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Annoms: 12:45pm On May 18, 2021 |
duduade: 130 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Annoms: 12:46pm On May 18, 2021 |
Carchoice: 65 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by annro101(m): 12:47pm On May 18, 2021 |
How much will she bring for the wedding anniversary. Let's start from here 43 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by joceey(m): 12:49pm On May 18, 2021 |
My brother,listen to your mum advice and pls dont mind that your fiancee ,you are the person paying all the bills for the wedding both trad and white.Na you know how your pocket be.If after the wedding no money again na your mum ,you go still run meet while she go sit down dey look and dey talk say she be corper be wise my brother. 199 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Annoms: 12:49pm On May 18, 2021 |
annro101: 27 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Annoms: 12:50pm On May 18, 2021 |
joceey:Thank you brother. Much appreciated 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Annoms: 12:54pm On May 18, 2021 |
Lalasticlala, rocktation, farano Biko help move this thread to the glorious land for more input. Thanks 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by realman42: 1:22pm On May 18, 2021 |
All these naija weddings sef.My wedding won't have more than 100 pipul.Beautiful location,beautiful gown, nice suit, and nice pictures dats all. 94 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Chris2863(m): 1:34pm On May 18, 2021 |
Annoms:2 million for wedding. Ha, you get money oo 163 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Lilpen3758: 1:34pm On May 18, 2021 |
Women and what will people say na 5&6 38 Likes |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by michigang: 1:55pm On May 18, 2021 |
This is what happens when you court a wedding material who see wedding ceremonies as big deals or avenues to show off irrespective of her partner's financial capability 63 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by 900warriorz: 2:13pm On May 18, 2021 |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by BruncleZuma: 2:14pm On May 18, 2021 |
[img]https://media1./images/35094ffd0223e145af0b235a8e0b9157/tenor.gif?itemid=15415824[/img] And you think your solution lies in Nairaland? 27 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Jirehz(m): 2:14pm On May 18, 2021 |
My cousin had exactly same issues with his now wife 2 years ago Girl wey no dey bring any kind of financial support to the wedding oo My bro just called her 2 days after the argument and told her to put the phone on loudspeaker and give her mom the phone. “Mama I’ll be coming with with my elder brother to apologize for all inconsistencies. I no longer want to proceed with the wedding. I no get money!” Nah there area scatter Nah she come dey beg las las She turn to Yes sir Yes sir girl till wedding and trad finish 437 Likes 33 Shares |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Biglittlelois(f): 2:14pm On May 18, 2021 |
Your mistake is, you shouldn't have told her your mum suggested it, you would have said that it was your idea, you should have brought up the topic in a way that will make her see reasons why it is logical to cut cost, instead of calling her on phone saying bla bla your mum bla bla, and i can imagine you saying it in a bossy way sef, it is her wedding as she said, as it is yours too, make her feel like she's in charge but you're the one controlling things on the side, very simple Most times it is you men that majorly cause unnecessary animosity between your mother and wives, you guys don't know how to present a case smoothly without bringing up issues. 340 Likes 29 Shares |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by DropsMic(m): 2:14pm On May 18, 2021 |
.. A real man doesn't discuss his relationship problems on a public forum .. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by wunmi590(m): 2:14pm On May 18, 2021 |
My brother, please cut your coat according to your size... If she wants to do the wedding different days, let her foot the Bill's for either of the two you want to do and move on... The truth of the matter is that, after wedding is the koko, most especially if you don't have a supporting wife.... When I lost my job for like 3month, my wife was the one footing food bills while I take care of the responsibility of light, generator and other small things at home..... So my brother first make sure that the woman you want to marry would be able to assist you when things go south.... Don't let her pressure you to spend beyond your budget and then result to hunger after wedding or be paying debts after wedding... 53 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Nobody: 2:14pm On May 18, 2021 |
Cancel the wedding 20 Likes |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by EMXTAN1(m): 2:15pm On May 18, 2021 |
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Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by AgreatMan: 2:15pm On May 18, 2021 |
It's ok. You pay for church wedding n she foot d bill for traditional. Case closed. NEXT 9 Likes |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by babadee1(m): 2:15pm On May 18, 2021 |
Annoms: My brother you never see wife o. Run for your life! Any woman who is more concerned about what her wedding will look like, than what her actual marriage will be like is not yet ready to be a wife. 110 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by FalseProphet1(m): 2:15pm On May 18, 2021 |
If you go ahead with the marriage, I see you coming back to Nairaland to complain to us how your lazy wife who doesn't contribute a dime towards the upkeep of the family doesn't appreciate the little financial efforts you're making, I see you being very frustrated in the first six months of your marriage. This I have seen. 106 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Skillsnigeria: 2:15pm On May 18, 2021 |
So you are still seeking the advice of a liability on how to run your marriage/family. The Lord will deliver you 25 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Davefed(m): 2:16pm On May 18, 2021 |
Annoms:The Piper determine the tune 5 Likes |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by fatymore(f): 2:16pm On May 18, 2021 |
Use that 500k/600k do cryp.to you go dey happy. During the planning of my wedding, We both discussed everything before telling anyone. I contributed but he did the most. Where we have clashes I let his own prevail. 31 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by kekakuz(m): 2:16pm On May 18, 2021 |
Correct guy 1 Like |
Re: Upcoming Wedding Palava by Successmind(m): 2:16pm On May 18, 2021 |
You are seeing the future gradually......may God bless the union. 1 Like |
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