Nacoss25:
Good morning everyone. I am a young man newly married to a 22 yr old lady. our marriage is just 2 months old.

Before I met my wife in 2019, she has this male best friend who they have been best friends even before I met her though my wife is a social and jovial person always cheerful, she easily makes friends wherever she finds herself that's her nature and kind of personality.

Right now her friendship with that her male friend is what am becoming uncomfortable with right now because of the so much attention she is lavishing on him. I have complained to her that I am not comfortable with her closeness with the guy but she is seeing it that am trying to cut her off from her friends.

One interesting part of the whole thing is, since we got married the guy has been trying to distance himself from her a bit knowing too well that she is now married but my wife is even the one doing all she could to keep the friendship going the way it has been going. 2 days ago I and my wife were together she called the guy complaining bitterly how he has been distancing himself from her.

My people what do you think I should do to cut down that connection or will the friendship grow week by the day on it's own? My wife is refusing to understand that in marriage there are things u will have to let go.

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That’s your problem.

Like you didn’t see this before marrying her.

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BadBradley:
a 22 year old isn't old enough for marriage?

You want them to be prostituting and become an old dejected lovlorn-shrew like you?

Old frustrated feminists like you won't allow these young girls breathe except you corrupt them and level the playing field for oold oafs like you whose pussy is as dry as the biblical wilderness.

Many women now see their menopause in their 30s, but a damaged community object like you would even encourage a woman to keep close male friends in their marriage when it is clear the male friend wants only one thing.

Na God go punish bitter old olosho like you.

Ah! This is fire.

AishaYesufu:

Many silly men have said more than this until they did DNA test on their kids. Simp

Don't use your mothers standards to judge other women.

RightToReject:
You are obviously a disingenuous pseudo-libertarian because you cannot tell me that you did not notice during the dating or courting period that she has a best friend but feign comfortable with it because of your low self-esteem/unscrupulousness, which you obviously glossed with the garb of a libertarian.

Anyway, one sure way to get her to put a stop to the nonsense by herself, provided that she is still interested in the union or you will not mind losing her in principle is by abhorring peace and togetherness achieved on servility with her. Put an ethical philosophy that is humane in place - one should always have this in place before going into any form of relationship - and let it serves as a bond to hold the both of you in the union, with far-reaching consequences against either of you who fails to live by it or within its limit.

With that in place, everything with the relationship will be on autopilot without you needing to control her or dictate for her what to always do, and vice versa, while mutually enjoying peace occasioned from everyone doing what is right/taking delight in doing what is right at almost any given time. Her action has nothing to do with her age; it has everything to do with her weak ethical leanings.

Until you reach the height where you will not feel perturbed losing anything or anybody on principle, no matter who and what, you have not conquered yourself and have not started living a healthy and worthy life.

Powerful!!! Triple wow! I Pray you shall become President of Nigeria or your Nation. You are a real Strong Man, not the fake ones that think being StrongMan is all about killing others. Low self-esteem is what make guys to go into relationship without well defining the parameters for her before even starting. It's better to remain unmarried and fulfill Glorious Destiny than to marry someone that'll give your brain useless laborious stressful payless extra Work in Marriage, making good marriage Work is already enough Work..

ArcFresky:


je is jobless naa.

See ehen, this marriage requires the effort of both and requires a lot of sacrifice. Even the Bible says a woman shaa leave his father and mother and Cling to her husband.

You should marry your bestie
Your husband should be your bestie
If your husband is not your bestie, divorce and marry your bestie.

Asides from "misquoting" the bible, you are 101% right...... Including the part where you "misquoted" the bible

Sundrus:
If u truly want make that friendship wane out naturally, become friend with that her bestie.

become what? u never see where friend they shag his friend’s wife before. abeg make he no go there

Why marry a 22 year old?

BadBradley:
a 22 year old isn't old enough for marriage?

You want them to be prostituting and become an old dejected lovlorn-shrew like you?

Old frustrated feminists like you won't allow these young girls breathe except you corrupt them and level the playing field for oold oafs like you whose pussy is as dry as the biblical wilderness.

Many women now see their menopause in their 30s, but a damaged community object like you would even encourage a woman to keep close male friends in their marriage when it is clear the male friend wants only one thing.

Na God go punish bitter old olosho like you.

Amen and Amen!!! Satanic old haggard witch of Edom and daughters of Jezebel that have poisoned the minds of younger Nigerian girls not to settle for love until they have served their bodies to the whole World and become borehole for the unfortunate pathetic husband who they'll never be loyal to like the OP story.

[quote author=Vickyvice post=102038029]OK. Don't just assume anything funny. Your wife being naturally jovial and bestie being wise to know that some things such as their being too close for his comfort have to let go upon marriage. [/quote
DID HE HEAR THE GUY SAY SO ?

A fool at eighteen is a fool forever. male besty my foot

I can really understand your feeling brother,,........since you have let her understand your feelings,just leave are alone because if you push you it might lead to something you don't expect.your marriage it's still fresh brother ,I don't think you need to push thing hard at this point because there's a lot of things to work on .]Good morning everyone. I am a young man newly married to a 22 yr old lady. our marriage is just 2 months old.

Before I met my wife in 2019, she has this male best friend who they have been best friends even before I met her though my wife is a social and jovial person always cheerful, she easily makes friends wherever she finds herself that's her nature and kind of personality.

Right now her friendship with that her male friend is what am becoming uncomfortable with right now because of the so much attention she is lavishing on him. I have complained to her that I am not comfortable with her closeness with the guy but she is seeing it that am trying to cut her off from her friends.

One interesting part of the whole thing is, since we got married the guy has been trying to distance himself from her a bit knowing too well that she is now married but my wife is even the one doing all she could to keep the friendship going the way it has been going. 2 days ago I and my wife were together she called the guy complaining bitterly how he has been distancing himself from her.

My people what do you think I should do to cut down that connection or will the friendship grow week by the day on it's own? My wife is refusing to understand that in marriage there are things u will have to let go.[/quote]

Petyprince:
Good one... I wonder how people find it hard to stop their wives from doing wrong things.

My kinda person my wife can't insult me by insisting she must keep a male bestie.

She can hide it but lemme not find out! Cause she will explain to me if that friend is more important to our marriage.

Then i will know my next line of action.

Lots of men are too weak to make their stand. They accept bullshit just to be in their women's good books and societal validation

He fvcked her seriously

AishaYesufu:

You are contradicting yourself. You won't bother about her movement? WTF

YOU even say Ignorance is a bliss? What manner of men are we breeding? Emotionally weaklings and simps like OP. Wait till DNA test shock you...

You're the one mixing things up your self.

There is one thing to know her movement (which she ought to give you full account)
And there's another thing to pry in all her movement like a spy to catch her cheating ( and that's a bad idea if you'll ask me)
They're two diff things.

Ignorance is bliss is another talk entirely .
And that's if she has a bestie and u don't know about it.

But if u should know, then action must be taken to end such ties

Lmao. 2-year old?
You never marry bruh.

Oga, be very instructive and tell her to cut the relationship with her male friend. They have had intimate relationship before. Warned her seriously. No time!

Learn what from the guy.... What exactly he used to grab her attention and make her happy
I think I can do so things will work well ..
OR
Try to overlook her to avoid untimely death nio

xpressionx:
My girlfriend will never have male bestie.
From Bestie pant go shift.

The day my ex girlfriend confessed that she kissed her bestie when they were drunk.....the relationship ended in my heart that very moment.

I cant comman kill myself by myself.

Knowing females. For her to have confessed kissing. Na him be say, AT LEAST, fingering and b00b sucking for don take place. Take that from me.

Una dey try oo.
Which kind yeye bestie be that?
Not in my house,...Women wey sabi dey emotional, d day una go quarrel one kind quarrel be say; she go go the guy house go stay.
Men with their bad life, I believe they're discussing in secret, him go begin express d love wey him no talk since when she neva marry.
Na steady whinning him go dey whine her now wey she don marry

My brother, be a MAN,...cut dat shit off.
If she do anyhow, let her go back to her parents house!!
Marriage no be by force! Na u marry her, not the other way round.

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Na long life we all dey pray for,...any bad energy should stay far away from us biko.

BadBradley:
a 22 year old isn't old enough for marriage?

You want them to be prostituting and become an old dejected lovlorn-shrew like you?

Old frustrated feminists like you won't allow these young girls breathe except you corrupt them and level the playing field for oold oafs like you whose pussy is as dry as the biblical wilderness.

Many women now see their menopause in their 30s, but a damaged community object like you would even encourage a woman to keep close male friends in their marriage when it is clear the male friend wants only one thing.

Na God go punish bitter old olosho like you.

From two things:
Your Opinion and Manners


I can draw out one thing:
You're a Muslim.

LadySarah:
It will be a gradual weaning for her.It seems If her bestie was ready financially she'd have married her instead of you.They seem to share a lot of emotional history. So just ignore her and hopefully she gets the message.

You can also watch warroom,try to look hot for her and win her affection.

Rubbish, no be only try to win her affection.. Try this shit with me and we will be visiting ur parents house buh u will definitely not be coming back with me. 2months marriage that they should be giving each other all the attention is now when u want the guy to be fighting for attention. God forbid, I don't even know why this kinda men keep falling our hands and lowering the standard day after day. Anyway the lady know she married a simp.

Joromi1:
It's Stockholm syndrome, my brother. If you didn't deflower the girl you're dating/marrying right now, never expect her to be 100% loyal to you.

I still believe marriage is a trap, especially when you view it from the Christian angle.

How does stockholm syndrome get into this now?

I can really understand your feeling brother,,........since you have let her understand your feelings,just leave are alone because if you push you it might lead to something you don't expect.your marriage it's still fresh brother ,I don't think you need to push thing hard at this point because there's a lot of things to work on

Ones she's pregnant....she will be the one to distance her self from the male friend....that's her ticket to real womanhood( 22yrs still falls within hoeing period)


But as the first guy adviced: DNA test is necessary for you o


To be sure you are not fetching water inside basket

Una still dey marry. This is not your grandfather's generation, buddy.

Imagine a married woman having a bestie.

I think if you can learn what exactly that guy use to do to grab her attention to make her happy it will definitely work well or u overlook her

Get a female bestie and see the everything falling into the right place

The lady and the Nestor have dated each other before, you just have to make her understand that you are not comfortable with her friendship with her bestie,inshort do everything possible to cut her off him,if not I am sorry to tel you this,they will still be having sex,it has happened to me,an ex who is married,she calls me her bestie,she even introduced her husband to me as her bestie,but she still wants us to be having sex

GET A FEMALE BESTIE AND START BEHAVING EXACTLY AS YOUR WIFE DO WITH HER OWN.....NO BE PERSON GO IGNITE THE JEALOUSY IN HER, IT'S WOMEN'S NATURE.

Tugee:


Don't use your mothers standards to judge other women.

no wonder misery runs in your lineage

Nacoss25:
Good morning everyone. I am a young man newly married to a 22 yr old lady. our marriage is just 2 months old.

Before I met my wife in 2019, she has this male best friend who they have been best friends even before I met her though my wife is a social and jovial person always cheerful, she easily makes friends wherever she finds herself that's her nature and kind of personality.

Right now her friendship with that her male friend is what am becoming uncomfortable with right now because of the so much attention she is lavishing on him. I have complained to her that I am not comfortable with her closeness with the guy but she is seeing it that am trying to cut her off from her friends.

One interesting part of the whole thing is, since we got married the guy has been trying to distance himself from her a bit knowing too well that she is now married but my wife is even the one doing all she could to keep the friendship going the way it has been going. 2 days ago I and my wife were together she called the guy complaining bitterly how he has been distancing himself from her.

My people what do you think I should do to cut down that connection or will the friendship grow week by the day on it's own? My wife is refusing to understand that in marriage there are things u will have to let go.

call the guy to thank him, he'll cut off completely knowing that's what you want