kenoyad:

I am depressed, not happy and I want to get over it and love her the more and put that incident behind. I only need to get over it and I don't know how to.

One thing you can do which she will notice ....is to stop nagging,abusing or treatening to send her out of the house.
Don't bring up the issue about her past anytime you both have a conversation no matter hard it is?
Find a simple, inexpensive thing that she really appreciate..a funny joke,a beach trip for the family,a box of fruity apples,etc!
For your own mind let it go!
If you refuse to let it go wahala go dey o!

baralatie:

One thing you can do which she will notice ....is to stop nagging,abusing or treatening to send her out of the house.
Don't bring up the issue about her past anytime you both have a conversation no matter hard it is?
Find a simple, inexpensive thing that she really appreciate..a funny joke,a beach trip for the family,a box of fruity apples,etc!
For your own mind let it go!
If you refuse to let it go wahala go dey o!

Thanks so much, God bless you, I'd accept to let it go and I'm helping it, having told her mum that I will try to let it go off my mind, I cant talk of it again no matter how hard the issue and she's not wanting nor wayward in anyway. Your advice, I will take to it.

detectivejones:
You need to let go of whatever she did in the past, BTW you need a counsellor and I can recommend one for you

Hope the counsellor is for free and in Ibadan?

baralatie:

My question to you is this ?
Did she end up destroying the alleged man's marriage?
Did she have children for the married man?
Did she not end that relationship with the man before they met?
Did the op not allege that the married man in question is a womanizer and known for extra marital affairs outside his own home?

Did she destroy the man's home?but check it out now !the op is the one destroying if not already destroyed his own home by his own self !

During one of my railings, she said the guy lied to her that he's single and she didn't notice such even when she visited his house (there's no woman in his house) I told her that the guys wife work out of town and that's why, there's no presence of woman in his house or rather took her to another place. She got to know when she was with a friend and the guy called her, it was her friend that told her she's dealing with a married man and she said she ended the relationship. My take was that she wasn't smart not to know that she's married and that she's too flowing with the world then not to notice.

kenoyad:

During one of my railings, she said the guy lied to her that he's single and she didn't notice such even when she visited his house (there's no woman in his house) I told her that the guys wife work out of town and that's why, there's no presence of woman in his house or rather took her to another place. She got to know when she was with a friend and the guy called her, it was her friend that told her she's dealing with a married man and she said she ended the relationship. My take was that she wasn't smart not to know that she's married and that she's too flowing with the world then not to notice.

There you have it!
You can move on with your woman!
The Lord is your strength!

kenoyad:

Hope the counsellor is for free and in Ibadan?

Not free (but very affordable) not at Ibadan(but you can talk to her online via WhatsApp 07032423546)