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Which kine it's part of marriage?
Oya they should bring their own toto when he wants to do that thing na, as them don put their hand inside him marry complete. [/quot.
marriage is not all about toto those family members may be ur helper tomorrow most especially to ur kids

HONESTFACT101:
so anichebe just this week we came to your house you came here to make it seem we are are hopeless poor gluttons whom have been feeding fat into your pocket^{......signing out✈}

See wahala

BoosBae:

I don't even understand you people, the Op's wife funds and cooks with her money many times too. She was probably doing that before getting married, so she should forget her family because she married a poor man?

Sister don't mind that frustrated soul

He's part of them, I cannot be saying what my responsibility is even with my worobo jobs I'm
presently doing. Glory to God

But some sisters fall my hands atimes, how can you marry such mentality man when u know the type of your responsibility you will be facing ahead.

Is it love gan ni because I don't seem to understand

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Thank you bro, they might be even the ones that will sponsor all their kids to school in future because no body owns tomrw, anybody can die at any time.

It's what we do today that will feed our kids tomorrow

Tajbol4splend:



Why you too come like food too much

Food wey him no use him money buy

BoosBae:

I don't even understand you people, the Op's wife funds and cooks with her money many times too. She was probably doing that before getting married, so she should forget her family because she married a poor man?

Hello , she should continuing feeding her family with her own money ! Period! Can the wife do that if reversed was the case ?? Can she be feeding the ops family ??

And don’t call him a poor man .. cos you’re not in his shoes!! Or you forget that after the foods, the ops would still take care of other bills of his immediate family ?? It is easier to call someone poor when you are not financially responsible nah

Or u think being responsible is just by adding Maggi money abi by buying onions or by borrow your husband money u go still collect back .. ?

Funkybabee:



Sister don't mind that frustrated soul

He's part of them, I cannot be saying what my responsibility is even with my worobo jobs I'm
presently doing. Glory to God

But some sisters fall my hands atimes, how can you marry such mentality man when u know the type of your responsibility you will be facing ahead.

Is it love gan ni because I don't seem to understand

Out of hope worobo job wey u Dey do, can you alone survive on it without your husband’s intervention

It’s Monday abeg! Good day ..
and hey btw, you’re the frustrated and confused soul not me!..

Nonsense!

Slimdan360:
Stop being a selfish and stingy person,the more u give,the greater u receive,know this and know peace

So if he don't have nko he should kill himself just to give? if he have alot he wouldn't be complaining

seanwilliam:


Out of hope worobo job wey u Dey do, can you alone survive on it without your husband’s intervention

It’s Monday abeg! Good day ..
and hey btw, you’re the frustrated and confused soul not me!..

Nonsense!

Yes, I can, I'm single, not yet married

With it I know what God have bless me with it, Glory to God for that not to a human

I don't think you guys reason at all, do you think it's easy for her, or she's happy about it


Do you know what it means for a person to be drain because of too much of responsibility

Do you know how it feels to be drain self.

You think she's happy with that Abi

U better go and borrow sense to think

Op , give what u can afford.. give what you know won’t affect your plans.. but make sure you cater 100% for your immediate family .. give only what you can afford to her family .. the truth is if you go broke without kobo, they will find their ways..

pyyxxaro:



You again

Yes ooo. I dey here.

Funkybabee:



Yes, I can, I'm single, not yet married

With it I know what God have bless me to it, Glory to God for that not to a human

I don't think you guys reason at all, do you think it's easy for her, or she's happy about it


Do you know what it means for a person to be drain because of too much of responsibility

Do you know how it feels to be drain self.

You think she's happy with that Abi

U better go and borrow sense to think

No wonder
Sheybi it is easier said than done. You’re still single and not marry..

I’m 100% sure that your business only feed your mouth and maybe u give little to your family/people ( which is what you can afford and doesn’t affect your finance )..

And funnily enough , in your eyes like that , u go Dey think you’re making money .. wait until u have responsibilities.. anyway na woman you be, your husband will come in for u

Imagine like 5 people coming to your house everytime to eat 3 square meals with your little income, can you stand it ?

Abi u think being financially supportive is one time responsibility?? No no..
if this is how u plan to run your marriage , then you don have problem..

Feed your people with your own money not your husband money except he is ok with it !! Or u think ops doesn’t have family that needs his supports?

And if that thing wey Dey your head u Dey call sense , then I don’t want it.. good day !

seanwilliam:


No wonder
Sheybi it is easier said than done. You’re still single and not marry..

I’m 100% sure that your business only feed your mouth and maybe u give little to your family/people ( which is what you can afford and doesn’t affect your finance )..

And funnily enough , in your eyes like that , u go Dey think you’re making money .. wait until u have responsibilities.. anyway na woman you be, your husband will come in for u

Imagine like 5 people coming to your house everytime to eat 3 square meals with your little income, can you stand it ?

Abi u think being financially supportive is one time responsibility?? No no..
if this is how u plan to run your marriage , then you don have problem..

Feed your people with your own money not your husband money except he is ok with it !! Or u think ops doesn’t have family that needs his supports?

And if that thing wey Dey your head u Dey call sense , then I don’t want it.. good day !

I have said it before and I will still say it again that, we know your type

MrMcJay:
Very simple solution.

1 Go to Oyingbo market and buy a big bag of unpeeled Egusi.

2 When next they come to your house, put off the TV, say something like 'Aunty Chizoba and Uncle Pius, when you finish eating, help me peel small egusi".

3 Use paint rubber and pack a heavy heap of egusi in front of them let them peel.

Sit back, relax and see what God will do.

what God will do?

Ninobraw:
No need for a long story, I got married 2 yrs ago, during our friendship I mean courtship it was very sweet and lovely, we got married 2 yrs ago and I have 1 kid.

The problem I have is that, the girl's family come to greet almost every time and when they come they eat like elephant, anything eatable they eat it, they don't use eyes to see bread tea or butter in my room, they will finish it within a day, I will end up spending a lot during the time, when I noticed that it becomes offen i started telling my wife that I am broke, I don't have money. Although my wife is very nice she earns salary of 40k a month, and do funds and cook many times with her money.

Before now I was it okay, we are like a family, now i just realized that it is making me not think straight within a week oil and cooking things we bought will just finished the cartoon of indomitable that last the 2 of us before 1 month or month plus will just finish within 4 days of thier stay, some time 3 of her family will come once and another set will come again, my wife is the first daughter, the poor parents gave birth to 9 kids all in the name of looking for a boy, so she said although the 2 boys are number 7 and 9 position, her parents should be around man 60s and the woman 45yrs old. so now I am tired of the marriage, I don't know how to talk to my wife about it, that I don't like how thier family do come offend since we got married, my families has never come to sleep over in my place for a night talkless of spending holiday in my place my parents gave birth to only 3 of us 2 boys 1 girl.

Now i am just tired I can't be responsible for someone else burden why give birth to many kids and unable to train them, i plan to have only 2 or 3 kids only, and her family want to make me be like thier father sitting at home doing nothing depending on pension for survival, i have realized that I can't achieve what i should have achieved if i continue life this way.

Before our marriage, we agreed no family members is coming to stay with us, the issue now is they don't stay but come to eat and go, it's a big cheating to me I am tired for real, even if I say I don't have money and she use her own. The money should have be able to do other important thing . She spending is also affecting me a lot, we should have been able to buy land or car or live well, not feeding battalion. I am tired please I need advice on what to do.

Dude, you have deeper problems if you want to end your marriage over food…
Shame most Nigerians do not do therapy, because the food is merely a SYMPTOM here.
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AuroraB:
He's not seeing the bigger picture
Na him food matters most to him for now. Calling his in-laws poor

The cost of food stuffs have inflated very high.
3k can hardly buy a day food stuffs for family of 5 adults.
If you earn a minimum wage without any kind of subsistence farming ,u re only living to be eating with no other achievement, especially when you are in the urban area.
To feed 2-3 mouths no be moimoi for this country.
It's a shameful act for your wives family to be dependent on you for a common food.
They are poor and lazy.
AAnimals in the jungle carter for their feeding.
Why must adults that are not physically challenged be frustrating the young man simply because he married from their family?

airminem:
Thanks... I just went through the other topic. Please, do you think this op is normal or just trolling?

I’m not sure, I guess he’s just catching cruise

Ninobraw:
No need for a long story, I got married 2 yrs ago, during our friendship I mean courtship it was very sweet and lovely, we got married 2 yrs ago and I have 1 kid.

The problem I have is that, the girl's family come to greet almost every time and when they come they eat like elephant, anything eatable they eat it, they don't use eyes to see bread tea or butter in my room, they will finish it within a day, I will end up spending a lot during the time, when I noticed that it becomes offen i started telling my wife that I am broke, I don't have money. Although my wife is very nice she earns salary of 40k a month, and do funds and cook many times with her money.

Before now I was it okay, we are like a family, now i just realized that it is making me not think straight within a week oil and cooking things we bought will just finished the cartoon of indomitable that last the 2 of us before 1 month or month plus will just finish within 4 days of thier stay, some time 3 of her family will come once and another set will come again, my wife is the first daughter, the poor parents gave birth to 9 kids all in the name of looking for a boy, so she said although the 2 boys are number 7 and 9 position, her parents should be around man 60s and the woman 45yrs old. so now I am tired of the marriage, I don't know how to talk to my wife about it, that I don't like how thier family do come offend since we got married, my families has never come to sleep over in my place for a night talkless of spending holiday in my place my parents gave birth to only 3 of us 2 boys 1 girl.

Now i am just tired I can't be responsible for someone else burden why give birth to many kids and unable to train them, i plan to have only 2 or 3 kids only, and her family want to make me be like thier father sitting at home doing nothing depending on pension for survival, i have realized that I can't achieve what i should have achieved if i continue life this way.

Before our marriage, we agreed no family members is coming to stay with us, the issue now is they don't stay but come to eat and go, it's a big cheating to me I am tired for real, even if I say I don't have money and she use her own. The money should have be able to do other important thing . She spending is also affecting me a lot, we should have been able to buy land or car or live well, not feeding battalion. I am tired please I need advice on what to do.

i know this family in agege who have nine kids and the boys are 7th and 9! Hope it's not what I'm thinking

@poor man
You lucky say your in-laws dey live comfortably

BoosBae:

Didn't you read where the Op said his wife earns, so she funds and cooks with her money too? She was probably doing it when she was still in her parents house, before marrying this poor man...

Adewunmibaba:

I’m not sure, I guess he’s just catching cruise

Yea sure

Ikpongiton:
all these your grammar na because food where op in-laws eat ?I don't believe this type of man can throw a lavish party on his child birthday.may God don't allow our daughters to bring us this type of man as our in-law.

But really to be frank, he knew the family he got married to, what was he thinking when he discovered the his wife to be had siblingsssssssss.

It is expected.

Funkybabee:



Sister don't mind that frustrated soul

He's part of them, I cannot be saying what my responsibility is even with my worobo jobs I'm
presently doing. Glory to God

But some sisters fall my hands atimes, how can you marry such mentality man when u know the type of your responsibility you will be facing ahead.

Is it love gan ni because I don't seem to understand

What are you saying? She should have married a richer man that can take care of 7 or more extra mouths?

The man is still actively spending his money on his in-laws when he should be building for his own and nuclear family's future...

It is better than she remained unmarried and wallow in poverty with her siblings. She is lucky to even find a man to marry her...

Even rich people draw lines otherwise they will not be rich... Givers end up being poor - no sh1t about not lacking; there is simply not enough.

Moreover, they have taken over the running of his family by coming so often, with it without food. One needs peace and ability to relax and manage one's affairs without wahala. Everyday, he will be thinking of how to satisfy in-laws, will not be able to but in bulk, his own wife and child will be lacking this and that. And for what? A lazy and thoughtless family in this day and age...

airminem:


Yea sure

I hope you enjoying the public holiday?

Please boss sit your wife down and explain to her she must also have noticed the shortage by now she has the responsibility of putting her family members in order relating to her marriage and instead of feed them always try help them get something doing if you can because it will only continue. And remember the both of you are married your major responsibility is your family your families

mastermaestro:


How did it get to this point? What methods have you tried out to change her attitude towards you? Was she always like this? Let's talk.

It's just in her. I blame myself for ignoring those signs prior to our marriage. I felt then that I'd hurt her if I pulled out, but that would have been the best decision for me.
She's domineering, non-submissive and extremely insecure; picks quarrel over insignificant issues. We are typically in non-talking terms at least one day in a week. It's draining me out!

Relocate to somewhere far from the family house. Another state or another country. Then thank me later.

Dear Nairalander,please do not cry it is Igbo culture that is the problem no male child from marriage the woman is a piece of garbage.

Secondly you are Igbo also,bear it and discuss with your wife okay... Nndoo,sorry,.....

chrisj2:


What are you saying? She should have married a richer man that can take care of 7 or more extra mouths?

The man is still actively spending his money on his in-laws when he should be building for his own and nuclear family's future...

It is better than she remained unmarried and wallow in poverty with her siblings. She is lucky to even find a man to marry her...

Even rich people draw lines otherwise they will not be rich... Givers end up being poor - no sh1t about not lacking; there is simply not enough.

Moreover, they have taken over the running of his family by coming so often, with it without food. One needs peace and ability to relax and manage one's affairs without wahala. Everyday, he will be thinking of how to satisfy in-laws, will not be able to but in bulk, his own wife and child will be lacking this and that. And for what? A lazy and thoughtless family in this day and age...

Lols, I will want you to know something today bro, that u amount to nothing I mean nothing, if you refused not to do a assign job given to you by God bro another person will rise up and do it even if her wife refused to fend for them today, I repeat it another person will rise up and fill the place

Who are you to say that she's lucky to be married him when there's more responsible men outside there that will do and carry the cross like their own. infact she really Bleep up

It's Father(God) cannot be replace but you a human can be replace with anything even with a stone to filled your gap so what rubbish are you saying.

You amount to nothing, she has been doing it before the marriage and she will continue it until the cross is lifting from her and pray that God will surely grant her grace to eat from that labour

Rubb!ssh

You will get tired if they come everyday , that is exactly what OP is saying.

okoroemeka:
poverty is too bad,it will make you behave abnormal and think weird things,what better joy will a man have if his in-laws come to his place and he will feed them very well and even given them transport money when going,when my in-laws use to come to my house I usually prepare nsala soup myself for them with catfish and oldlayers,poverty it shall not be well with you.

Is either You are just broke or u are just stingy....imagine just bread and butter or indomin...well that's are cross you carry when you are married.and you shld b able to tell your wife anything affecting you.but what I don't understand is why u are tired and want to leave a marriage because your family from your wife eats your bread and indomin

Raxxye:

It's just in her. I blame myself for ignoring those signs prior to our marriage. I felt then that I'd hurt her if I pulled out, but that would have been the best decision for me.
She's domineering, non-submissive and extremely insecure; picks quarrel over insignificant issues. We are typically in non-talking terms at least one day in a week. It's draining me out!

Well let's leave the past behind. Please answer these questions as accurately as you can. The answers will give us a clear roadmap to a solution by GOD'S grace.

How romantic are/were you? Does she enjoy sex with you, or it's just another marriage ritual? Do you give her great sex, or you merely do it to fulfill all righteousness? Despite her shortcomings, how far do you go to show her love? When last do you take her on a good outing?

Please don't give excuses why you haven't been able to do all of these. Only plain answers would be helpful. No self-defense, please.

Adewunmibaba:

I hope you enjoying the public holiday?

Com'on pub hols are mainly enjoyed by civil/public servants. I hope you are getting on too ?