Xilsbridalhouse:
Pray

My dear, do not marry just anyone all because you are due for marriage, otherwise you’d see anyhow.
Before accepting to marry anyone, please and please involve the Author of marriage and our creator who knows the person you want to be with 100% and while doing this, work on yourself as well and pray to be a better spouse for your partner.

1. Do not fornicate with your partner before going into that marriage o! The accuser is always looking for opened doors to accuse you before God. Thank God we are serving a Merciful God but He is also a Consuming Fire.

2. God is not an author of confusion, so He won’t give you someone you are not compatible with! Watch out for compatibility as this would be necessary for peace to reign in your home.

For instance, I wouldn’t advise an introvert to marry an extrovert if you can’t handle his or her moving around, just stay off!

3. Ladies be submissive and respectful o! Dump all those feminists talks at your father’s house as no man will tolerate your rudeness, being disrespectful and nagging like wetin I no know!
Treat your husband like a King, trust me that is his MuMu Button o! Treat him like a king and he’d be willing to do just about anything for you.

4. Pray! This should be like your top most priority in that marriage. Don’t be on social media all day, go down on your knees for few hours and pray as a couple. Pray together please, as this is the unity the devil is fearful of. When two or more people....you know the rest. Pray together o!

5. Kill pride and be extremely humble. Stories like, he offended me so he has to apologize first should be left in your church bin after the ceremony biko! Don’t keep malice oooo...I repeat, do not and never keep malice! Forget pride, just walk to hubby or wife and start bombarding him or her with kisses and hugs, whether you are at fault or not. Be childish, tell Your spouse to carry you like a baby, pull a childish stunt to get your spouse attention and let peace reign. It is for your own good o! Don’t be forming I can keep malice for 200 years, na bitterness and sadness go finish you.
Also learn to forgive like a child. Don’t say things like, I need time to forgive you...which time biko? Unless of course he is a cheat and a wife beater, then you might forgive but I understand emotionally things can’t go back to normal. But once you pray for the right spouse, God will fight for you.

6. No room for Laziness in marriage darlings! You are Lazy? Dirty? Go work on yourselves now! You can’t enjoy such marriage. Also assist each other, wives are not slaves so men do what you have to do as a loving husband and how a king treats his queen.

7. Ehhhhh!!!! Third party Hian! Don’t try it!!! Erm “ I’ll report you to your Mom, Dad, Sister, Brother, Friend etc ...” eh! Don’t try it o! You only need God to resolve your issues. No single outsider should know what is going on in your marriage o! Quickly settle things before it gets out of hands.

8. Erm “My best friend is coming, My friends are coming “ ughhhh! Which nonsense friends? Better shut your home against friends if you want peace of mind. Not literally in a rude way, but there should be no form of closeness again, you are now married! Men! I understand you like to hang out with your friends but limit this as you are no longer a boy! You are now a man with responsibilities, so spend your time on productive things.

9. Be a good example. Treat each other in a way that you’d be grateful to God for bringing you two together. Communicate often, be each other’s best friend, look at situations from two angles and not just yours, correct each other with love, Study the word of God together and discuss your flaws and how to work on your flaws together. Laugh more and frown little or at all. Be an example of how a Christian home should be.

10. Don’t cheat on your spouse as all I have stated would totally be a waste of time if you do this. You won’t even escape God’s punishment and your life would remain sour unless you repent.
Don’t cheat on your spouse o!

10b. Ahhhh Finance! How could I have skipped this Ladies and Gentlemen, this is one of the major Koko in marriage o! Wives be like “ I can’t spend my money o” mostly after getting sick advice and Lori iro advice from fake friends! Hubby be like, “pay me back that money you borrowed from me” shior! Mtchew!!!!
If you can’t handle having a joint account, not with a cheat o! Those cheats will spend your money on side chicks and side boos, that’s why it’s essential you pray like Elijah before accepting to marry anyone biko! Nothing is more sweet like having a joint account with your spouse with super understanding and same spending lifestyles! You will so enjoy this marriage ehn! Especially if you both are not materialistic and would rather invest than buy overrated Aso ebis!
Ladies, this is majorly for you! Who told you that man is your ATM? You work, he works but your money is for yourself in particular ? What happened to being joined as ONE? Why would you watch your hubby suffer while you have more than enough to support him with even if you don’t want a joint account. I’m begging you please, do not leave financial responsibilities to men only! They are not robots na! Work hard, improve on yourselves, pray to God for creation of wealth opportunities, Be each other’s support pillar, don’t frustrate and fight over money issues. You must understand that you are no longer different individuals but now ONE.
Men if your spouse agreed to submit her salary or profits to you, and you spend such money on useless things like giving one side chick girl that is playing mind tricks on you or you trying to get in her pants....I hope you know God will forget you and no one will help you.
Don’t fight over finance please, and if you need to do things 50-50, do it peacefully and if you as a husband you are capable of shouldering all the responsibilities please do it without feeling like a god.


I have so much to say but I pray the Holy Spirit leads you right and help you to speak when you should, act right and stay mute when you should, also do not forget your in-laws are important! Treat them like your blood even if this is a bit stressful, God will definitely find a way to reward you and there is nothing we ask our Dear Father in Heaven that He won’t do. For instance you could say, “Daddy, I’m stressed could you please make my brother in-law to stop acting irresponsible “ and He will answer you.

God bless you as you invite Jesus into your home.

May God bless you abundantly �

Pray without ceasing.

Hope for the best, expect the worst.

Solve issues amicably.

Love yourself, love your children, love for spouse will come easy.

Fear God. Work hard. Invest for your children.

Start building a legacy you would love to be remembered for.

Always tell God how you feel.

Pray without ceasing

prettyheart:
Married people please gist us

Know why you decided to get married in the first place:


1. Do not marry a man/woman that Is lower your league. Forget I will brush him/her up. I will open a business for him, I will send her to school. Only a small percentage of those relationships are successful

2. Do not marry a man /woman that you are not attracted to. Do not say love will grow. 95% of the time it doesn't. People just resign themselves to fate. If during the date of courtship you do not always feel like (I said feel like, not actually jumping them) jumping your fiance/fiancee backout.

3. Do not marry a foreigner except you have decided that you end your days in a foreign land. If you want to retire in Nigeria do not try this. The spouse and your kids will not come back with you. You will die here alone

4. Do not marry a man/woman that Is disrespectful to househelps, artisans, and less-privileged

5.Do not marry a person whose mother or elder sisters do not like you. That person is a sibling first before a spouse. Na you go tire.

6. Discuss how many children you will have before marriage. Some people will be impregnated until they die and the other spouse is free to remarry their actual choice who will only have 1 or 2 kids.

7. Do not do a total joint account. You are a team and not Siamese twins

8.Set your boundaries. Boundaries determine the level of respect you get in marriage. Do not pretend. If you do not like cooking, say that you do not like cooking but you are willing to do it from time to time. If you do not like to wash say it. If you smoke weed, say it. If you have a child somewhere, say it. If you plan to not let your spouse work, say it. Do not disclose body count

9. Do not try to change your partner. Work with what you see or leave.

10.If you have a misunderstanding, do not decide not to talk about it. Even if you bury it , it will surface 10 years later. Talk about it every night until its sorted out

11. Men, Pregnancy and childbirth stress a woman. Be kind.

12.Find out your spouse's love language. There are five love languages. If you are not loving your spouse in the love language he or she understands. You have done nothing. The love languages are words of affirmation, physical touch, gifts, acts of service and quality time.
Because my spouse associated gifts with love, I had to learn to give expensive gifts to him. My spouse bought me a very good SUV before we married, but it didn't mean as much as the two of us in the kitchen: I am washing plates and he is rinsing or we are cleaning the plugs of our generators together. That, to me is more than a car. So find out your spouse's love language
Check your love language here https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/

12.Pray, Pray, Pray. There are forces specifically out to destroy marriages

13.God hates divorce, but he prefers you alive and divorced than dead because of domestic violence. You can leave

14. Forget that talk about not bringing in a third party. I and my spouse could not see eye to eye about an issue for 9 years until we brought in a third party

Eriokanmi:
Patience, contentment and tolerance are my pieces of advice. No marriage is made in heaven...no one is perfect. If you like, divorce one million times and keep remarrying , women exhibit same character. They're uniformly wired. Na wetin dem wan make you know, na im you go know, even if you built mansions for her, it doesn't change anything. Just keep praying for peace in your marriage and all will be well.

What’s the point! I am single and having the best time of my life.

I have been married for few years now.
My ADVICE goes to the Hardworking Guys out dia,
PLEASE AVOID WOMEN at all cost.
IF you detect any trait of STUPIDITY please DUMP straight away, don't negotiate, don't pardon.

As a MAN, you can settle for BABYMAMA, It favours you more by ensuring you retain your RESPECT and Freedom. MARRIAGE engulfs your freedom and exposes you to tantrums.
Some may misinterpret it.
D MOMENT u land a bad woman which is likely in dis era, u start seeing ur siblings as enemies.

A single BAD WIFE can destroy every ancient heritage ur great grand fathers built in ur family.

Imagine if FLAVOUR & TIMAYA had married, by now we would have been Hell.
D BEST remains get dem pregnant & take up d responsibility of ur child. With dat no woman born of a man will limit ur aspirations.
THIERRY HENRY did it & got it right.
EBUOE of Arsenal failed & he lost it all.

1 marry someone who really fears God.
2 marry someone whom to some extent understands the scriptures.
3 Marry someone whom u see as a friend. whom u can just be with and not think of having sex. dat kind friend wen be say una two fit talk story from morning till night. that person wen u dey urge to see so that una go just dey gist.
romantic love fades with time, that ass and boobs go soon become used to u. after consecutive banging everyday u go loose interest. At this point u go start to dey notice other girls outside.(YAWA GO SOON BURST 4 YOUR LIFE). At this point regret will start setting in. u go kon dey notice some bad characters wen u been nor notice, at this point u will start spending more time with friends. b4 u know children don come and u start living for them.(YOUR TIME DON DEY PASS). b4 u know u don dey old.
if u and your spouse are not besties, u wont enjoy your marriage to the fullest. once romance and good looks fade all u will have is friendship(this one hardly fades)

Flier:


If you a lady, try to get married between the age of 21-26 if you meet a very serious man. DO NOT PROCASTINATE,you might never find the right man again (this is your pick DO NOT WASTE IT)

If you are man,... try get a stable high paying job and try to make as much money as possible before you get married

Please this is FALSE

1 marry someone who really fears God.
2 marry someone whom to some extent understands the scriptures.
3 Marry someone whom u see as a friend. whom u can just be with and not think of having sex. dat kind friend wen be say una two fit talk story from morning till night. that person wen u dey urge to see so that una go just dey gist.
Romantic love fades with time, that ass and boobs go soon become used to u. after consecutive banging everyday u go loose interest. At this point u go start to dey notice other girls outside.(YAWA GO SOON BURST 4 YOUR LIFE). At this point regret will start setting in. u go kon dey notice some bad characters wen u been nor notice, at this point u will start spending more time with friends. b4 u know children don come and u start living for them.(YOUR TIME DON DEY PASS). b4 u know u don dey old.if u and your spouse are not besties, u wont enjoy your marriage to the fullest.
Once romance and good looks fade all u will have is friendship(this one hardly fades)

Lamanii22:
Marry who you love and find attractive..... It's not always rosy... Learn to tolerate your spouse... And to the ladies sex is always different after a baby... The dryness no be here oo.... And to the guys there are other ways to be intimate with your wife after a baby other than sex... Above all put God in your marriage...

That's where a second wife should come in

It's 2 different things. Dating her as a single dude and marrying her. As a single guy you can take unilateral decisions, manage 1k for 2days and stay at your lane to avoid trouble. Whereas in marriage, your spouse may decide to originate problem either by using abusive words on you, comparing you to her ex who's doing better and even calling you a lazy ass, thereby facilitating your death unconsciously. If you don't have a good shock absorber, you may have High Bp and die young. As a man, always hustle hard so as to call the shots, don't depend on her money to avoid tantrums. Also examine her libido level, if it's higher than yours, just run away cuz you'll die trying to satisfy her in bed. This is one of the reasons we have more widows than widowers. Be guided!

My advice is to the ladies,


Marriage to the modern crop of Nigerian men is crap.
80 percent of them are selfish and self centered and don't want to provide for their wives but they expect her to be obedient, submissive, to answer their surname, to ruin her beauty and physical appearance with childbirth and the children will also answer their papa surname too.
You will literally spend the rest of your life cooking and cleaning and keeping his damn house in order but they don't want to give back anything in return to their wives. If they do it's with reluctance and they want to be praised and worshiped for it.


You girls reading this, better open your eyes and don't be deluded, majority of males are selfish and all your romance fantasies you watched on your Zee world and Korean drama can never work in real life marriage. Don't expect too much from men, many of them literally think women were created for men and not the other way round.

There is a real and very high risk of your husband cheating on you so don't go into marriage with overly high expectations, males know they can get away with cheating on ther wives so they do it with impunity.

Also get a source of income to make yourself independent of your husband so you will not have to take maltreatment from him because he's the one providing everything for you. Regardless of what societal or religious laws teach, males DO NOT like to provide for their wives for the rest of their lives after marriage, they resent the idea of providing for a woman all the days of her life so if you depend fully on them, they will take that resentment out on you if they can.

And do your best to marry a kind and compassionate man. Many men are evil and wicked but women love deceiving themselves that men are saints so when you face reality after marriage you go begin dey cry as if the truth was not staring you in the face all along.

Xilsbridalhouse:
Pray

My dear, do not marry just anyone all because you are due for marriage, otherwise you’d see anyhow.
Before accepting to marry anyone, please and please involve the Author of marriage and our creator who knows the person you want to be with 100% and while doing this, work on yourself as well and pray to be a better spouse for your partner.

1. Do not fornicate with your partner before going into that marriage o! The accuser is always looking for opened doors to accuse you before God. Thank God we are serving a Merciful God but He is also a Consuming Fire.

2. God is not an author of confusion, so He won’t give you someone you are not compatible with! Watch out for compatibility as this would be necessary for peace to reign in your home.

For instance, I wouldn’t advise an introvert to marry an extrovert if you can’t handle his or her moving around, just stay off!

3. Ladies be submissive and respectful o! Dump all those feminists talks at your father’s house as no man will tolerate your rudeness, being disrespectful and nagging like wetin I no know!
Treat your husband like a King, trust me that is his MuMu Button o! Treat him like a king and he’d be willing to do just about anything for you.

4. Pray! This should be like your top most priority in that marriage. Don’t be on social media all day, go down on your knees for few hours and pray as a couple. Pray together please, as this is the unity the devil is fearful of. When two or more people....you know the rest. Pray together o!

5. Kill pride and be extremely humble. Stories like, he offended me so he has to apologize first should be left in your church bin after the ceremony biko! Don’t keep malice oooo...I repeat, do not and never keep malice! Forget pride, just walk to hubby or wife and start bombarding him or her with kisses and hugs, whether you are at fault or not. Be childish, tell Your spouse to carry you like a baby, pull a childish stunt to get your spouse attention and let peace reign. It is for your own good o! Don’t be forming I can keep malice for 200 years, na bitterness and sadness go finish you.
Also learn to forgive like a child. Don’t say things like, I need time to forgive you...which time biko? Unless of course he is a cheat and a wife beater, then you might forgive but I understand emotionally things can’t go back to normal. But once you pray for the right spouse, God will fight for you.

6. No room for Laziness in marriage darlings! You are Lazy? Dirty? Go work on yourselves now! You can’t enjoy such marriage. Also assist each other, wives are not slaves so men do what you have to do as a loving husband and how a king treats his queen.

7. Ehhhhh!!!! Third party Hian! Don’t try it!!! Erm “ I’ll report you to your Mom, Dad, Sister, Brother, Friend etc ...” eh! Don’t try it o! You only need God to resolve your issues. No single outsider should know what is going on in your marriage o! Quickly settle things before it gets out of hands.

8. Erm “My best friend is coming, My friends are coming “ ughhhh! Which nonsense friends? Better shut your home against friends if you want peace of mind. Not literally in a rude way, but there should be no form of closeness again, you are now married! Men! I understand you like to hang out with your friends but limit this as you are no longer a boy! You are now a man with responsibilities, so spend your time on productive things.

9. Be a good example. Treat each other in a way that you’d be grateful to God for bringing you two together. Communicate often, be each other’s best friend, look at situations from two angles and not just yours, correct each other with love, Study the word of God together and discuss your flaws and how to work on your flaws together. Laugh more and frown little or at all. Be an example of how a Christian home should be.

10. Don’t cheat on your spouse as all I have stated would totally be a waste of time if you do this. You won’t even escape God’s punishment and your life would remain sour unless you repent.
Don’t cheat on your spouse o!

10b. Ahhhh Finance! How could I have skipped this Ladies and Gentlemen, this is one of the major Koko in marriage o! Wives be like “ I can’t spend my money o” mostly after getting sick advice and Lori iro advice from fake friends! Hubby be like, “pay me back that money you borrowed from me” shior! Mtchew!!!!
If you can’t handle having a joint account, not with a cheat o! Those cheats will spend your money on side chicks and side boos, that’s why it’s essential you pray like Elijah before accepting to marry anyone biko! Nothing is more sweet like having a joint account with your spouse with super understanding and same spending lifestyles! You will so enjoy this marriage ehn! Especially if you both are not materialistic and would rather invest than buy overrated Aso ebis!
Ladies, this is majorly for you! Who told you that man is your ATM? You work, he works but your money is for yourself in particular ? What happened to being joined as ONE? Why would you watch your hubby suffer while you have more than enough to support him with even if you don’t want a joint account. I’m begging you please, do not leave financial responsibilities to men only! They are not robots na! Work hard, improve on yourselves, pray to God for creation of wealth opportunities, Be each other’s support pillar, don’t frustrate and fight over money issues. You must understand that you are no longer different individuals but now ONE.
Men if your spouse agreed to submit her salary or profits to you, and you spend such money on useless things like giving one side chick girl that is playing mind tricks on you or you trying to get in her pants....I hope you know God will forget you and no one will help you.
Don’t fight over finance please, and if you need to do things 50-50, do it peacefully and if you as a husband you are capable of shouldering all the responsibilities please do it without feeling like a god.


I have so much to say but I pray the Holy Spirit leads you right and help you to speak when you should, act right and stay mute when you should, also do not forget your in-laws are important! Treat them like your blood even if this is a bit stressful, God will definitely find a way to reward you and there is nothing we ask our Dear Father in Heaven that He won’t do. For instance you could say, “Daddy, I’m stressed could you please make my brother in-law to stop acting irresponsible “ and He will answer you.

God bless you as you invite Jesus into your home.

Actually lovely

Ladies, stay single until you find someone that respects you, respects women in general and understand his role as a husband in the Bible (if you're Christian). Don't ever marry a stingy man, there's no love without giving, especially with men.

prettyheart:
Married people please gist us

. Marriage sometimes is sweet and sometimes the other way round. Huuuu, married for almost 10years and everything was going smoothly and just few months ago my husband started some behaviors, fast forward to recently I picked up his phone and what was their was so disgusting, and this is a man that behave like a saint and sometimes castigate his friends that do cheat..... You can never predict what will happen next in marriage. How I wish I can write it up on nairaland.

todaynewsreview:
Tolerance, patience, understanding

. Huuuu, no matter what, some men will still cheat, imagine a man saying he only does it on phone but don't have physical contact..... Anyway some married men still value their marriage and will always protect it. All men are not same, just that it's hard to see one that is 100% faithful and honest. May God makes it easier for all singles.

Kaybae:
. Marriage sometimes is sweet and sometimes the other way round. Huuuu, married for almost 10years and everything was going smoothly and just few months ago my husband started some behaviors, fast forward to recently I picked up his phone and what was their was so disgusting, and this is a man that behave like a saint and sometimes castigate his friends that do cheat..... You can never predict what will happen next in marriage. How I wish I can write it up on nairaland.

So sorry about that, many of them are like that.
Don't let him ruin your happiness, try to find joy in other things. Many married men don't know what fidelity means apart from say na name of bank.

If u don't have money, neva delve into marriage

Marry ur best friend, I mean ur very best friend, and a woman that love the things of God because of ur children.

Eriokanmi:
Patience, contentment and tolerance are my pieces of advice. No marriage is made in heaven...no one is perfect. If you like, divorce one million times and keep remarrying , women exhibit same character. They're uniformly wired. Na wetin dem wan make you know, na im you go know, even if you built mansions for her, it doesn't change anything. Just keep praying for peace in your marriage and all will be well.

. Are you telling me men are saint, yes we have small percentage that are, but why is it that it's only women people do point accusing fingers at..... I have been married for almost 10years, my husband is not staying where I stay, being faithful, loyal, sincere, respectful, just name it, going through each pregnancy all alone, but despite all this he is still cheating, always on his phone chatting with different girls, he will leave me alone, pretending to be tired and go to his room to sleep but check on him later, u will meet him on the phone. When he wakes up, he will first send good morning massages to all his girlfriends, and always behaving like an innocent. This is the only man I use as pray point whenever I pray, sometimes, I don't even pray for my children and myself........ This is the man that will always tell me, he doesn't understand his health so we should stop having sex, which I agree cos I don't want to hurt him but caught him with condom of recent and lied he just took it out without any intention..... So many...... Don't always blame women alone in marriages, I have never reported him for any one in the last 10years of marriage but I was forced to do so to his parents recently cos I feel betrayed.

You are GUARANTEED to likely lose your peace of mind immediately after marriage.
GUYS be wise.
So Love carefully.

The 1ST thing a bad wife attacks is ur FREEDOM.
The 2ND she offers is disrespect.
The LAST you experience is mental torture...
Then peace of mind would have eluded you.

SimplyFacts:
Just be prepared for the unknown. If you ask me, I would say only about 30% (if not lesser set) of marriages get joy.

May ours be identified with the 30%.

. God bless you, some just laugh outside but it's hell inside, am a typical example.....

IF YOU CAN GET THE MILK FOR FREE, WHY BUY THE WHOLE COW?

STAY SINGLE!

prettyheart:
Married people please gist us

CHoccolaTE:

So sorry about that, many of them are like that.
Don't let him ruin your happiness, try to find joy in other things. Many married men don't know what fidelity means apart from say na name of bank.

. Thanks so much, it's been hard honestly cause, because of marrying him I stop having friends because he never wanted it, despite the fact that he works in another state, I will be all alone with my kids after work and even weekend, all because I want to satisfy my husband.... It is well, he already told me he never sign agreement of only me ..... Can't believe all these after years.

Abujason:
IF YOU CAN GET THE MILK FOR FREE, WHY BUY THE WHOLE COW?

STAY SINGLE!

I'm a married man but I don't attend weddings again. I prefer 2 grace Birthdays & oda occasions.
Each time I see MEN being lured to the altar, I start weeping. The chances of landing a Good woman is slim. Meanwhile, as a single man with 2kids from any willing lady, you will prosper beyond measure.
It takes only ONE BAD WOMAN to destroy all the bridges built across families ties & lines.
Just ONE is enough.

It's only a woman that can soil the formidable relationship between Male identical twins.

Kaybae:
. Thanks so much, it's been hard honestly cause, because of marrying him I stop having friends because he never wanted it, despite the fact that he works in another state, I will be all alone with my kids after work and even weekend, all because I want to satisfy my husband.... It is well, he already told me he never sign agreement of only me ..... Can't believe all these after years.

Oh he told you he didn't sign agreement of only you? Did he sign agreement of going behind your back to cheat before you married him? Nigerian men na their way be that, they cannot own up to faults and apologize when they get caught cheating they will either try to deny it or blame you the woman.

Find happiness elsewhere like your kids or your hustle or hobbies don't let him get the idea that his actions are making you sad, live a happy fulfilled life and ignore him, na that one go pain am pass when he sees that you don't give a shit about him.

Anyway just use your intuition and do what you think it's best, I was giving advice based on how I would act in similar situation. I can never let a selfish man spoil my happiness.

Belial06:


I am just saying. You don't need advise you need to grow up and learn how to be a man.

Stop talking too much

Alaye go and sleep . U talks too much