An average Igbo woman is tribalistic in nature...

Jeon:


So ur parents supported you for having premarital sex..
Well don't do that to ur future kids.

It's a normal with only child gang...Their parents codedly supports them and premarital stuffs...Na kids them the find.

benji93:
That would be wicked. We accept the consequences of mistakes too, don't we? The act was bad. What if after a while the man decides not to marry the lady? Now that's the problem. Turning the poor woman into a baby mama. Families build societies, we would be avoiding that by not engaging in premarital sex.I mean that eliminates the Baby mama. Although of course some would say you could use condoms. . The sons and daughters of men will always find a way to circumvent principles and values. We have been doing it from the beginning of time. thing. But well if a woman keeps doing that, as in sleeping with all the men she claims to love, these women become unsatisfied in their marriages. I am not here to judge the act, even though it's immoral(if you are a Christian), but i know the decisions that follow it could be devastating. So avoiding them is key. We should endeavour to lead a moral life. I am partly saying this cos it's becoming incredibly hard to find virgins these days, more like finding a needle in a haystack. . May God mend our crooked ways.

Please learn to be happy for other peoples joy than wish them bad outcomes. The guy never told you he made a mistake. He was so happy and excited and that's why he came to nairaland to share his excitement. Don't dampen his spirit with your negativity.

I wonder why you are wishing that after a while the man would decide not to marry the lady. I know you wish that so you can say " toor" to the lady and feel elated berating her for "sexual immorality" because you are the judge of all mankind. But, it will never happen in God's name. I wish the guy a happy married life and many more happy and healthy children.

Believe me I have not read so much negative vibes to a good happy story before. You are just usinv Christianity to project your negative thoughts and energy. I really hope you find true love someday.

kestolove95:
See bad parents, encouraging immoral acts

Bitterness don finish ur kind, you prolly don’t know what it means to mind ya business anymore. Judge of character, let’s hear your own story out na

Your own work for you be that. Just thank God my brother. The one I jam na from another planet oh. Those people called Tiv are synonymous with prostitution and running away from their husband. I rest my case

Jeon:


So ur parents supported you for having premarital sex..
Well don't do that to ur future kids.

Dude, it’s really none of your business to tell people how to live their life. As in una kind are just hypocrites, face your own life and let them be if u don’t really have anything to say

chatinent:
I don't know if this is just about my positive nature.. but I really find this story lovable.


I love the positive energies.

Love you brov. Don't ever render a woman useless by getting into her and abandoning her or denying responsibilities.

Do invite me to the marriage. O teela m riri ugba n’oge emume alụmdi na nwunye.



However, please don't encourage your child to engage in premarital sex.

Well, fam, contact me for your assignment, thesis, and dissertation writing. Hit my profile.

In the name of all of my family and the entire inhabitants of abule_ojo village.i will gladly welcome his invitation too if it's to be done in Lagos.

Make jealousy no make u prepare otuoke for our incoming couple

kestolove95:
See bad parents, encouraging immoral acts

ford101:
my brother check well there is something about Tiv girls here in Abuja that I don't really understand.God am not that type of person who talk bad about a group of people.but Tiv and idoma girls are not so good to keep in the house.

your type are remaining just few to grow up so that our society will be civilized

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benji93:
The first bolded. I definitely made an assumption that I shouldn't have. That the guy was Christian or something. So if he's not and he confronts me I will apologize.

Why should you assume everybody is a Christian? Even if he is a Christian why should you assume he follows your own church doctrine? That makes you not different from northern Muslims that forces people not to drink alcohol or eat pig. Many Christian denominations don't criticize marriages between pregnant brides and their grooms.

my main question is, what if the guy doesn't marry the lady? Which is a possibility. Would that happy story have a happy ending?
I am talking about the institution of marriage here. If that love is any useful it must lead to it. You don't claim to love someone, impregnate them and not marry them. Not good. I hope the guy marries the lady though, wouldn't that be quite the happy ending? Now I am speaking about Christian values here. If he isn't, then it's void.

Maybe you did not read the post well before hitting the reply and submit button. Re read the post to see that the negative serenio you painted above is completely different from what the OP wrote. He is very happy that his parent accepted the love of this life despite her being a different tribe and also accepted the pregnancy. Is it that difficult to be happy for him?

Second bolded:I am sorry, we don't all dream of the bolded. Speak for yourself. Some would rather be married to their fellow tribe member.

You too need to speak for yourself. Some people even prefer to marry from their fellow family member like Abraham and Isaac. That does not mean everyone must follow suit.

adeniyi65:

In the name of all of my family and the entire inhabitants of abule_ojo village.i will gladly welcome his invitation too if it's to be done in Lagos.

Thank you my brother. Tell OP not to forget to invite the nairaland family o.

kestolove95:
See bad parents, encouraging immoral acts

Sister.it may be immorality but come to think of it in another view.his parents are already aged without anykid after the OP.he was even lucky that his father his a man enough to let him be till that age without disturbing him to get a wife.moreso they can still rewrite their previous misdeeds now by tying the knots.

creepsyme:
Woooo.... Good to know you are my in law!

Some comments here are annoying and funny at the same time

I’m about to create another topic on the bride price list that they gave me.

I think I have to wait tomorrow before I create it

Good in law

ford101:
its true sha.i like TIV girls ooo but the way all of them mess up in Abuja .let me tell you the truth.just yesterday I called one of my TIv girl friend.a man picked the call and told me he owns the girl, owns her life,that even her phone he bought it for her and she's married to him.i was coming back today,it crossed my mind.and I said to my self I will not even sleep with a TIv girl unprotected let a lone have a child with one.

na them full for abuja Ashawo work.

Dumte:
Your own work for you be that. Just thank God my brother. The one I jam na from another planet oh. Those people called Tiv are synonymous with prostitution and running away from their husband. I rest my case

which tribe dominates brotherls around the country? Surely not tivs

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Congrats man..... I hope you have enough funds to take care of the child and mother?

Marriage no be relationship oo

tiv girls' are Sweet I Even have a son with one but guess what? they don't last in their husband's house's

Boomboost:
OP got a girl pregnant, his parents are happy for him.

Boom got a girl pregnant, his parents will be embarrassed for him.

You that is reading, will they be happy for you?

Children unlocked before wedlock is a no for me. Maybe we have too many children to bring in another considering the economy.

Bleep you and the economy...if these were the thought of your parents I bet you wouldn't be alive now

Congrats. But please don't turn her to a baby mama, marry her

op never mind what some wicked soul that does worst things coming here to speak trash..... enjoy your woman..

⏩▶️More grease to your waist ....


Tiv gehls are sweet ♥♥♥& loyal ✅☑️✔️

Unfortunately for you, i believe in the importance of marriage and family. I am bringing in what-ifs, cos i have seen cases where the parents did not marry. We don't all criticize cos we wish others bad you know. Sorry if you have repeatedly met people who constantly do that. You are the one that has the negative mentality if you think i am pointing the immorality out to wish them bad. And please never bring up the "Judge of all mankind" stuff, cos as used by us, it's detrimental to constructive criticism. Judging others would mean i think i am better than them. But no, so the "Judge not others" does not apply here. Besides, honestly, this kind of matter shouldn't be posted here, and so if you do, all opinions should be considered.

And tagging it as "sexual immorality" is not a message for him per say. He's already done it. It's for others to know it's not morally correct to do that. Pregnancy is a consequence you cannot reverse when marriage does not result without damaging yourself(on the part f the woman). Since the number of such occurrences is quite significant, it would be correct to avoid the consequences by avoiding the immoral activity itself. Well it depends on if the audience believes in Christian values anyway. If you don't then the message is not for you. You can move on to something else.

Now the question is, do you believe premarital sex is immoral? If you do then i don't see the purpose of your post. If don't then well, it's not meant for you, sorry.

wirinet:


Please learn to be happy for other peoples joy than wish them bad outcomes. The guy never told you he made a mistake. He was so happy and excited and that's why he came to nairaland to share his excitement. Don't dampen his spirit with your negativity.

I wonder why you are wishing that after a while the man would decide not to marry the lady. I know you wish that so you can say " toor" to the lady and feel elated berating her for "sexual immorality" because you are the judge of all mankind. But, it will never happen in God's name. I wish the guy a happy married life and many more happy and healthy children.

Believe me I have not read so much negative vibes to a good happy story before. You are just usinv Christianity to project your negative thoughts and energy. I really hope you find true love someday.

kestolove95:
See bad parents, encouraging immoral acts

So what did you expect the parents to do to a 29year old...start scolding him or call him home to receive beatings right!! Una no dey reason before Una type ni?? Nawa oO

Drwinz:


Bleep you and the economy...if these were the thought of your parents I bet you wouldn't be alive now

I beg helep me ask am, what was the economy of his parents when they got married. Was his father driving a benz and living in a 2 or 3 bedroom flat in a high brow area?

I don't understand Nigerian again. They will insist you must have good economy before you can marry, but at the same time you must never engage in sex before you marry. Mind you most men cannot acquire good economy legitimately before their 40s. So a man should remain a virgin into his 40s. By that time konji and probably prostrate issues would have killed the guy.

you were blessed with such a kind parents and I believe that ur Union will be also be blessed BUT what is the reason of getting her pregnant 1st maybe you want to be sure abi sharp nigga

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Please how is this front page material? what lesson is learnt here? That we should impregnante women before marrying them? I don't get it.

And the guy... this is your private life. It's not for public consumption

ford101:
its true sha.i like TIV girls ooo but the way all of them mess up in Abuja .let me tell you the truth.just yesterday I called one of my TIv girl friend.a man picked the call and told me he owns the girl, owns her life,that even her phone he bought it for her and she's married to him.i was coming back today,it crossed my mind.and I said to my self I will not even sleep with a TIv girl unprotected let a lone have a child with one.

People like you are the major problem of this country... I heard all shits about Calabar ladies, I went there for service, fell in love with a Calabar lady. We are now dating and I love her with passion. Keep deceiving urself. Woman wai go break ur heart go break ur heart. If u like marry virgin, lagbaja go still fit cover ur face.

9ja girls are out to add more burden to your life instead of softening it.

In mosdii voice: They are all useless..... All of them!

benji93:
Unfortunately for you, i believe in the importance of marriage and family. I am bringing in what-ifs, cos i have seen cases where the parents did not marry. We don't all criticize cos we wish others bad you know. Sorry if you have repeatedly met people who constantly do that. You are the one that has the negative mentality if you think i am pointing the immorality out to wish them bad. And please never bring up the "Judge of all mankind" stuff, cos as used by us, it's detrimental to constructive criticism. Judging others would mean i think i am better than them. But no, so the "Judge not others" does not apply here. Besides, honestly, this kind of matter shouldn't be posted here, and so if you do, all opinions should be considered.

I not only believe in the importance of marriage, I am happily married for over a decade.

This is not the place to bring what ifs. If you opened a tread to discuss the negative what-ifs of premarital sex believe me I would not have had a problem, but this is a post of someone happy to be marrying the love of his life.
We have seen many different scenarios. We have seen both positive scenario and negative ones. I have a colleague who slept with his wife the very first day he met her and they have remain married for over 20 years. There are also cases where men married virgins and the marriage did not last 5 years. We have seen the marriages of pastors or even G.Os fail.
My quarrel with you is why duel on negative what-ifs.

And tagging it as "sexual immorality" is not a message for him per say. He's already done it. It's for others to know it's not morally correct to do that. Pregnancy is a consequence you cannot reverse when marriage does not result without damaging yourself(on the part f the woman). Since the number of such occurrences is quite significant, it would be correct to avoid the consequences by avoiding the immoral activity itself. Well it depends on if the audience believes in Christian values anyway. If you don't then the message is not for you. You can move on to something else.

Now the question is, do you believe premarital sex is immoral? If you do then i don't see the purpose of your post. If don't then well, it's not meant for you, sorry.

I do not necessarily see pre marital sex in this modern society as immoral, and I have stated my reasons above. You don't expect a man over 40 or a lady in her late 20s to remain a virgin. In in the old days girls get married soon after puberty and boys marry in their late teens or early twenties, so remaining virgins until marriage was easy.
Trying to stop premarital sex with religious doctrines in modern times is like trying to stop a tsunami with a wall. It will always fail. Sex is controlled by powerful hormones and those hormones don't listen to Jesus or Mohammed. The best solution is either to get married early or practice safe sex.