Help family. I have a child, a 5 year old boy who grew up with his mum. We were much younger when we had the child.

Until recently, she brought my child to me, she traveled to Ghana and married. I don't have a problem with that tho. My problem is with my son. He is too gentlemanly for my like. I don't even know if gentlemanly is the right term.

Dude is too timid for my liking. He looks exactly like me and all that but his behaviors are just not what I was when I was his age. He is too timid, kind and lenient. Please what could I do to toughen him up apart of beating. I need a my child. Imagine one small boy was dragging the biscuit I bought for him and he still have the boy and still give him water. It was the strangest thing I have seen in a while. Where the hell did he get that leniency and kindness from? I was never like this

Send him to a boarding school... He should learn how his mates behave.

And again don't allow him watch cartoons, I recommend action movies (war).

Youngvegetable:
Help family. I have a child, a 5 year old boy who grew up with his mum. We were much younger when we had the child.


Until recently, she brought my child to me, she traveled to Ghana and married. I don't have a problem with that tho. My problem is with my son. He is too gentlemanly for my like. I don't even know if gentlemanly is the right term.

Dude is too timid for my liking. He looks exactly like me and all that but his behaviors is just not what I was when I was his age. He is too timid, kind and lenient

Dont judge him yet.

He didn’t grow up with you.
He wasn’t used to you, the people and the environment.
Give him time,
get close to him
Take him out often
Don’t be harsh on him

Lastly, ask the mother some things about the boy to know him better

Youngvegetable:
Help family. I have a child, a 5 year old boy who grew up with his mum. We were much younger when we had the child.

Until recently, she brought my child to me, she traveled to Ghana and married. I don't have a problem with that tho. My problem is with my son. He is too gentlemanly for my like. I don't even know if gentlemanly is the right term.

Dude is too timid for my liking. He looks exactly like me and all that but his behaviors are just not what I was when I was his age. He is too timid, kind and lenient. Please what could I do to toughen him up apart of beating. I need a my child. Imagine one small boy was dragging the biscuit I bought for him and he still have the boy and still give him water. It was the strangest thing I have seen in a while. Where the hell did he get that leniency and kindness from? I was never like this

Do you want him to have the dare Devil attitude of General Buhari or want him to be the next MC Oluomo who is the Chairman of touts and dirty Agbero?

Please allow him to grow and bother yourself with something useful.

Humans will never be satisfied even if God gives them the world. you happen to have a kid who's gentle, too kind and you wanna swap that character for a thug like own?? meanwhile some families are there praying day and Night for God to change their hardened Son to ur typa boy. u got urs on a plater of Gold but you are not satisfied yet, u prolly want the tough, stubborn one.

I guess you don't know the advantage of having the type of ur boy
1. He'll quickly heed to correction and training
2. He wouldn't want to do anything that would make you mad/sad
3. Reasonable people will love me
4. people will fight to defend him if he's wrongly accused
5. with a tender heart as such he'll always have you in mind
6. he'll take to heart any advice or parental guidance easily
7. He'll respect you
8. he'll be well behaved and peer pressure may likely not affect him immediately since ur training will keep ringing to his ears. To mention but a few.

and what you don't know is that, in a bid to change an extremely gentle person the end product would be an extremely rebellious kid. there's no such thing as having a touch of gentility and a touch of stubbornness mixed together. you're either gentle or haughty/stubborn. so choose one

That's a fine quality to have .... But naija as e dey now, e get as e be for over quiet people.

Don't go to hard on him...there is a balance I use to adopt back in the days....A gangsta and a gentleman all rolled up in one . That's me.



Take it easy on him though

Youngvegetable:
Help family. I have a child, a 5 year old boy who grew up with his mum. We were much younger when we had the child.

Until recently, she brought my child to me, she traveled to Ghana and married. I don't have a problem with that tho. My problem is with my son. He is too gentlemanly for my like. I don't even know if gentlemanly is the right term.

Dude is too timid for my liking. He looks exactly like me and all that but his behaviors are just not what I was when I was his age. He is too timid, kind and lenient. Please what could I do to toughen him up apart of beating. I need a my child. Imagine one small boy was dragging the biscuit I bought for him and he still have the boy and still give him water. It was the strangest thing I have seen in a while. Where the hell did he get that leniency and kindness from? I was never like this

Calm down he will man up when d time is righy

Since u don't like his kind nature...take him to motor park.
Na the thank u wey go tell GOD be dis thread.

Let him be

He is entitled to be himself

U will just ruin his life once u make him feel inadequate

He is just a kid in a new environment, different upbringing and guardian. He would change trust me and please allow him socialize with other responsible and well to kids

He lived with a woman
Yh?
His 5
Yh?
Bros keep calm please

That's exactly my nature, but I had to learn the hard way. It's a world of wolfs, lions and what not. You don't have to change his personality, teach him something called the fuhrer principle (necessary evil). Teach him to be as bold as a lion yet, as gentle as a dove.

You can't undo the training he has already. But he's still within the age gap of change. Start training him with positive Motivation. Praise him for little things he does right. Tell him he can do things he fear to do. Make him great promises and watch him change. It's still very possible.

Dude, cut the child some slack, he's just 5 for crying out loud.

Too timid, kind and lenient all these for a 5year old .



Nawa oo

PlayMaker14:
Do you want him to have the dare Devil attitude of General Buhari or want him to be the next MC Oluomo who is the Chairman of touts and dirty Agbero?

Please allow him to grow and bother yourself with something useful.

OP follow the bolded advice

Young vegetable complaining of having a vegetable .

Jokes apart, he grew up with his mom, what did you expect. Now its your turn to balance things out without the typical bully attitude of nigerian parents. With time he'll adjust.

I understand you though, Don't mind the romantics above. Nigeria will chew him up if he doesn't learn how to balance gentility with a touch of agberoism. The gentle ones are always the first to get cut down. Balance is the key

See what somebody is complaining about nonsense.

The boy has good moral and upbringing, you should always thank his mom for that. Do you prefer your son to be a bully? You know he grew up with his mom so that's why he's not use to all this gragra of a thing. Stop making a big deal outta nothing

Bunmhi:
The boy has good moral and upbringing, you should always thank his mom for that. Do you prefer your son to be a bully? You know he grew up with his mom so that's why he's not use to all this gragra of a thing. Stop making a big deal outta nothing

I think you guys are not getting it, he said the boy is timid. This is the best time to address it because it becomes a part of him. I know what I have talking about, you don't want a timid son and your son when grown don't want to be timid!

omo that your son is second in command to Satan himself......

forget about the kindness attitude.... the day he will change am for you ehh!? you go kwere!!

abeg leave am. The one I have here is Satan's offspring. Both young and old avoid him.

Youngvegetable:
Help family. I have a child, a 5 year old boy who grew up with his mum. We were much younger when we had the child.

Until recently, she brought my child to me, she traveled to Ghana and married. I don't have a problem with that tho. My problem is with my son. He is too gentlemanly for my like. I don't even know if gentlemanly is the right term.

Dude is too timid for my liking. He looks exactly like me and all that but his behaviors are just not what I was when I was his age. He is too timid, kind and lenient. Please what could I do to toughen him up apart of beating. I need a my child. Imagine one small boy was dragging the biscuit I bought for him and he still have the boy and still give him water. It was the strangest thing I have seen in a while. Where the hell did he get that leniency and kindness from? I was never like this

That child needs exposure, he needs to visit his mates and play with them and learn how to act from the way they do

But give him time, then counselling is another way to go

Youngvegetable:
Help family. I have a child, a 5 year old boy who grew up with his mum. We were much younger when we had the child.

Until recently, she brought my child to me, she traveled to Ghana and married. I don't have a problem with that tho. My problem is with my son. He is too gentlemanly for my like. I don't even know if gentlemanly is the right term.

Dude is too timid for my liking. He looks exactly like me and all that but his behaviors are just not what I was when I was his age. He is too timid, kind and lenient. Please what could I do to toughen him up apart of beating. I need a my child. Imagine one small boy was dragging the biscuit I bought for him and he still have the boy and still give him water. It was the strangest thing I have seen in a while. Where the hell did he get that leniency and kindness from? I was never like this

Are u talking about a 5 year boy in this manner?? What does a 5 year boy know?

frozen70:


That child needs exposure, he needs to visit his mates and play with them and learn how to act from the way they do

But give him time, then counselling is another way to go

He is just 5 yrs please!

Fabuloski:

I think you guys are not getting it, he said the boy is timid. This is the best time to address it because it becomes a part of him. I know what I have talking about, you don't want a timid son and your son when grown don't want to be timid!

He is too young for this!

Rubbiish:

He is just 5 yrs please!

It's obvious you didn't get the part if exposure
At five years, there are toys that makes children Crack their brain

When they go to parks or gardens and see their mates they interact well and learn ftom each other

When they go on vacation to families that have children of their age groups, the parents of the families gives them all tasks and challenges that makes a quiet child to pick up

Let him mix up that's the summary while you still seat him down to counsel him steady

Youngvegetable:
Help family. I have a child, a 5 year old boy who grew up with his mum. We were much younger when we had the child.

Until recently, she brought my child to me, she traveled to Ghana and married. I don't have a problem with that tho. My problem is with my son. He is too gentlemanly for my like. I don't even know if gentlemanly is the right term.

Dude is too timid for my liking. He looks exactly like me and all that but his behaviors are just not what I was when I was his age. He is too timid, kind and lenient. Please what could I do to toughen him up apart of beating. I need a my child. Imagine one small boy was dragging the biscuit I bought for him and he still have the boy and still give him water. It was the strangest thing I have seen in a while. Where the hell did he get that leniency and kindness from? I was never like this

What a sweet child

bigjackass:
abeg leave am. The one I have here is Satan's offspring. Both young and old avoid him.

LMAO.