harmless:
Read this book and thank me later ....."the power of a positive mental attitude" by Napoleon Hill.

Don't join cult or you would end up a collateral damage

Facts111:

People told me that alot. But i just don't know which way to starting improving it.

vickydevoka:

Please brother help me explain. How is masturbation deadly and fornication not deadly. My first masturbation was in de hospital

sweetshisha:




You are an introvert , no big deal.

In other to help yourself you must set a goal daily to speak with a lady or two daily, try simple lines like " excuse me, do you stay around here, I like your looks, can I have your number, can we be friends" highest she'll say No, or walk off.. but slowly you'll start getting over the sense of embarassment and start replacing it with jokes like " She no even fine sef" , "girl wey I won manage"


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Facts111:
Good day everyone..

I'll be 24 next month. The problem now is that am too shy. I don't have confidence. I don't have any girlfriend (am too shy to speak to a lady). You can wrongly accuse me and i will went away crying.

I am the first born of a family of six. A man once accused me of sleeping with his wife (the woman in question senior my mama) and i was like "me ? Me ? Me ? " and I went inside crying.

The only friend i have is my phone. The thing is affecting me seriously. I can't eat in public. I can't insult. I can't even look at your face to talk anything.... I talk alot inside... Am an online keyboard wariorr..

One boy was telling me yesterday to join 'cult' to improve. Though am thinking of it. People take me for a fool. Nairaland is my best website.

Please doctors in the house, is there any drug or medication that i can take to make me overcome shyness ?...

Facts111:
Good day everyone..

I'll be 24 next month. The problem now is that am too shy. I don't have confidence. I don't have any girlfriend (am too shy to speak to a lady). You can wrongly accuse me and i will went away crying.

I am the first born of a family of six. A man once accused me of sleeping with his wife (the woman in question senior my mama) and i was like "me ? Me ? Me ? " and I went inside crying.

The only friend i have is my phone. The thing is affecting me seriously. I can't eat in public. I can't insult. I can't even look at your face to talk anything.... I talk alot inside... Am an online keyboard wariorr..

One boy was telling me yesterday to join 'cult' to improve. Though am thinking of it. People take me for a fool. Nairaland is my best website.

Please doctors in the house, is there any drug or medication that i can take to make me overcome shyness ?...

sweetshisha:




You are an introvert , no big deal.

In other to help yourself you must set a goal daily to speak with a lady or two daily, try simple lines like " excuse me, do you stay around here, I like your looks, can I have your number, can we be friends" highest she'll say No, or walk off.. but slowly you'll start getting over the sense of embarassment and start replacing it with jokes like " She no even fine sef" , "girl wey I won manage"


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sweetshisha:




You are an introvert , no big deal.

In other to help yourself you must set a goal daily to speak with a lady or two daily, try simple lines like " excuse me, do you stay around here, I like your looks, can I have your number, can we be friends" highest she'll say No, or walk off.. but slowly you'll start getting over the sense of embarassment and start replacing it with jokes like " She no even fine sef" , "girl wey I won manage"


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sweetshisha:




You are an introvert , no big deal.

In other to help yourself you must set a goal daily to speak with a lady or two daily, try simple lines like " excuse me, do you stay around here, I like your looks, can I have your number, can we be friends" highest she'll say No, or walk off.. but slowly you'll start getting over the sense of embarassment and start replacing it with jokes like " She no even fine sef" , "girl wey I won manage"


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OnlyDeCapPlease:


First of all. Don't join cult. It won't change anything.

Shy people alway take themselves too seriously and think that everybody is watching them or has time for them. Wrong!

Shy people tend to think that other people are easily doing things but it's difficult for them. Wrong!

Learn not to take yourself too seriously. It's not that important. It's ok to be wrong or foolish or mumu or be rejected. Shy people have a problem dealing with rejection. So you get rejected? Fvck em all! You get told off? Fvck em all! Someone laughs at You? Fvck em all! Someone gives you "that look"? Fvck em all! Someone insults you? Fvck em all! All these things don't kill, e nor go commot anything for your body. People often do those things to embarrass you or get a reaction from you. They get annoyed when they can't get any visible reaction from you. That's not your problem.

Pick one day. Call that day you "fvck ya'll" day. On that day do or say anything that comes to your mind. Damn the consequences and just do it for that day. If anyone gets angry, just say I'm sorry, but in you mind say "fvck you", and then carry on doing things. Just don't break the law or physically fight anyone.

Try it and let me know how it went.

mbahdi:
U mean u are shy like buhari?

KennethIbe59:
Same thing with me.. But I discover the problem, Mastubation.....

I am 31 by age, I have been mastubating for over 14years and its killing me slowly..

I have tried on different occasions to stop it but all effort prove abortive.

Most times I mastubate 2 to 3 a day.....

But last week been the 29 of June, I went to church for program and pray that God help me to stop this mastubations..

Believe me it has not be easy but today makes it 8 days I have stay without mastubating.....

I pray God help me not to go back to it...

I try as much not to watch porn movies because I am addicted to it.......

I pray God help you too...

So my friend, don't think you have a problem there is nothing wrong with you.. If u can stop mastubating, u will be fine

drizzle0007:
You didn't state this but I feel it's one of the problem.
Stop masturbating it enforces your current situation.
Rather than the cult option.
Take alcohol. It would give you that temporary confidence boost than could be a push.
For now forget about talking to women like you've been adviced. Creat strong bonds with your male folks and advance to the other gender. You have a social problem not a woman problem so start easy.
Try to go out more or get a job. You'll find it easier communicating with colleagues.
Exercise, it will make you feel good about your self and promote self confidence. You give your self a goal of 100 push ups a day 25 each set spread across the day.
Try to work on communication via calls. WhatsApp calls are cheaper and would make you talk longer. This would help you practice communication without feeling pressure from the person's physical presence. Work on this seriously and you'll find it easier to talk in person.

Pray, I works for some.
Goodluck.

Facts111:
Good day everyone..

I'll be 24 next month. The problem now is that am too shy. I don't have confidence. I don't have any girlfriend (am too shy to speak to a lady). You can wrongly accuse me and i will went away crying.

I am the first born of a family of six. A man once accused me of sleeping with his wife (the woman in question senior my mama) and i was like "me ? Me ? Me ? " and I went inside crying.

The only friend i have is my phone. The thing is affecting me seriously. I can't eat in public. I can't insult. I can't even look at your face to talk anything.... I talk alot inside... Am an online keyboard wariorr..

One boy was telling me yesterday to join 'cult' to improve. Though am thinking of it. People take me for a fool. Nairaland is my best website.

Please doctors in the house, is there any drug or medication that i can take to make me overcome shyness ?...

ewami:
Let me help you.
When I was in secondary school, I hardly talk and been bullied by my mates to the extent that I was lied against that I was part of a secret cult in school and expelled from
secondary school, I never spoke to defend myself .
I can't toast any girl. My padis toasted a girl and finished the work for me only for me to show up to tell the girl that I was sorry and never meant it.
My life changed the day I found purpose. Start with getting close to God and doing things meaningful. Move away from social media for now.
It won't bite if look at people in the eyes. Ask questions and try boldness. At your age YOU DON'T NEED A GIRLFRIEND. MAKE YOUR LIFE COUNT FIRST

All the best.

sweetshisha:




You are an introvert , no big deal.

In other to help yourself you must set a goal daily to speak with a lady or two daily, try simple lines like " excuse me, do you stay around here, I like your looks, can I have your number, can we be friends" highest she'll say No, or walk off.. but slowly you'll start getting over the sense of embarassment and start replacing it with jokes like " She no even fine sef" , "girl wey I won manage"


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Fiscus105:



What's ur own suggestion ?

Learn how to welcome various options even if they are not tardem with urs