Xj2020:
I married a virgin without experience like you advised and it's still same old same story. Money is everything in marriage if you must command the respect of any woman especially women that play the role of full time house wives

pansophist:
Even if you're financially stable, do not marry a woman that is nor contended. Money or not, contentment makes a poor person wealthy, and dissatisfaction makes even a rich person poor. Its not the material in itself, its her reaction to it.

There are lots of family living in peace and harmony even though they earn less than 50k monthly. If your wife is such that spents half of her day on Instagram, wants the latest human hair, iPhone and keeping up with the latest trends to a point where she has built her personality around it, its highly advisable not to marry such woman.

As a man, you should know that when it comes to marriage, you bear the most liability, just as women bear the liability of pregnancy and child rearing. Your eyes should be sharp like an Eagle and leave no stop unturned, because the sacred decision of marriage can make or break you. Choose wisely, and choosing a materialistic woman is a choice to fail.

ogashman:
Op


What if you are approaching your fifties and still have not made that money, so u die a single man?

vickydankal:
Truth be told we love our me to be up and doing. We can cover up here and there for few years but when the man decide to leave the providence for us, we tend to become tensed. We are coming to help not to carry the burden. We can hide the fact that we are the ones doing most of the financial needs but of course certain level of money can not be hidden.

For struggling men, my advice don't get married yet and if you must forget childbearing for a year or 2. The insult, humiliation, embarrassment may not come from the wife, it may be from in-laws, neighbors and family members.

4 keys to solve half of the marital issues
1. Money
2. More money
3. Increase the more money
4. Make more money with the increased money


Pampers, rent, dstv, repairs, upkeep, clothing, health, food, as the essential before talking of pleasures like outing, a local government worker with steady salary can't handle those not to talk of vacation and luxury.

It's not easy on our men oooo seriously, I didn't know what my daddy past through until 1 year of marriage. No body will blame the ladies but the men for lack in the house no matter whose fault it is. Men are expected to do everything but it's not fair nah. You go kill your man if you leave the whole burden to him oooo.

Live at a cheaper place
Marry a manager
Both hands (husband and wife) should have milt steams of income
Start small with the must basic things in the home (na so me and oga start ooo, almost with nothing but story don change small) though give the opportunity I won't try it again, who suffer help abeg.


May God favor and have mercy on our hard working men.

Michelle55:

Absolutely! I do concur.

vickydankal:


4 keys to solve half of the marital issues
1. Money
2. More money
3. Increase the more money
4. Make more money with the increased money

aanuoluwami14:
Gbam!!

obembet:
Nonsense

Op! And all those of you that aggreed with him, u beta think twice. That Linda said and later have baby.

Is it when you are 50s u will settle down and train your children at old age?

Marriage open doors. Just marry the right woman

aribisala0:

What I am saying is no matter how wise you think you are women change after marriage. This is true for men too to be fair
There is really no wisdom to predict what people will become after marriage. So whether it turns out how you want may be more down to serendipity than to insight or wisdom.
Therefore the advice to choose wisely is mission impossible. No human being is that wise, some people are just lucky.

mofedamijo:


You keep missing a very simple point. This is very simple, when you notice something you can't cope with, kindly work on it or withdraw.

Yes, it can be hard to find a good person, but since I started dating, I have never been with a money hungry lady, thats because I choose wisely. Every lady I have been with has been wonderful, unfortunately, somethings did not work out.

I have chosen wisely in every country I have been and I have never had a reason to cry.

Like i said earlier, men, choose wisely.
Shalom.

pansophist:
Even if you're financially stable, do not marry a woman that is not contended. Money or not, contentment makes a poor person wealthy, and dissatisfaction makes even a wealthy person poor. Its not the material in itself, its the attitude towards it.

There are many families living in peace and harmony even though they earn less than 50k monthly. If your wife is such that spent half of her day on Instagram, wants the latest human hair, iPhone and keeping up with the latest trends, competing with other of her shallow friends to out do themselves to a point where she has built her personality around it, its highly advisable not to marry such woman.

As a man, you should know that when it comes to marriage, you bear the most liability, just as women bear the liability of pregnancy and child rearing. It is you that will pay the bride price, spend on weddings, carry the family financial burden till you die. You insult yourself and hustle if you marry the wrong woman. Your eyes should be sharp like an Eagle and leave no stone unturned, because the sacred decision of marriage can make or break you. Choose wisely, and choosing a materialistic woman is a choice to fail.

IgweOfNnewi:
Lies from the pit from hell, marry a virgin, I repeat marry a virgin without experience, if you have money or not you wouldn't have issues, if you marry a harlot that even give her all heavens she will go to hell to have sex, I know a woman who had a jobless husband, she was more educated and more financially stable than the man that had nothing but they are living well, even the woman took loan several times in her office to buy two cars for him for transportation and some others to buy the house they are living, they have been together for about 9years now.

bukatyne:


@bold:

Words on gold.

Blueelf:
Let's be specific

IF you're not making at least N500k per month (and you stay in a Major City like Lagos, Abuja and Port-Hacourt), please don't marry

I used 30mins of my precious time to calculate it. Please marriage is not compulsory and women love your ability to provide, not you

obembet:


Marriage open doors. Just marry the right woman

IgweOfNnewi:
Lies from the pit from hell, marry a virgin, I repeat marry a virgin without experience, if you have money or not you wouldn't have issues, if you marry a harlot that even give her all heavens she will go to hell to have sex, I know a woman who had a jobless husband, she was more educated and more financially stable than the man that had nothing but they are living well, even the woman took loan several times in her office to buy two cars for him for transportation and some others to buy the house they are living, they have been together for about 9years now.

aribisala0:

You are the one missing the point .
I believe we are talking about marriage on this thread not dating?

My point is women change after marriage and that change is not a function of your wisdom

bukatyne:


@bold:

Words on gold.

Rubbiish:

Words on gold
You can't possibly be contented when u have no money! That's guy's submission is wrong!
If u have made little money, u can't possibly compare your contentment level with when u were u struggling?

Rapmoney:
As a young man, DO NOT let anyone, whether married or not to deceive you that money does not matter in marriage. The truth is that money solves more than half of the problems in marriage, especially in a Nigerian society.

This does not mean that you must be a millionaire or be rolling in money, but have the financial capacity to provide the basic things humans need for living, and luxuries inclusive.

Being a man is no longer a gender it's now a financial status know this and know peace

Any home you enter where the man commands maximum respect, observe closely, he is living up to his responsibilities as a man. There is no respect from any woman for that man who cannot provide the basic necessities. Don't let anyone deceive you. That girl that tells you today that she will run any length for you will turn to a tigress tomorrow in marriage if the major finance comes from her.

If you would be respected, make sure you have a source of income that brings a substantial amount that can provide basic necessities and at least, modest luxuries.

maak400:
You're right OP, money is important in marriage.

But my question to everyone is, if a man is hustling and he's still not financially stable till he's 40 years old, will you advise him not to marry but to keep hustling till he is financially stable even if he's nearing 50 years old?

bukatyne:


@Bold,

That is your opinion sir.

Contentment has nothing to do with your financial status (at least in my case).

Thiwalade:


Teenage daughters who may not truly love you. While hustling you could've been on the lookout for a genuine person. Real friends are those who are there during your down time.

IgweOfNnewi:
Lies from the pit from hell, marry a virgin, I repeat marry a virgin without experience, if you have money or not you wouldn't have issues, if you marry a harlot that even give her all heavens she will go to hell to have sex, I know a woman who had a jobless husband, she was more educated and more financially stable than the man that had nothing but they are living well, even the woman took loan several times in her office to buy two cars for him for transportation and some others to buy the house they are living, they have been together for about 9years now.

Rubbiish:

Na lie!
U are not just being sincere!
Money is a necessity, excess of it is what is regarded as vanity! But as humans, we need a considerable amount of it to live a contented & fulfilled life!