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Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by harmony75: 8:25pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
True But true love and maturity determination the union can work without much money. . |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by IgweOfNnewi: 8:26pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
Xj2020:Same old story? that means something isn't right. you didn't manage your home well. you don't command respect with money alone, what of the spiritual guidance and wisdom aspect. |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by pansophist(m): 8:30pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
Even if you're financially stable, do not marry a woman that is not contended. Money or not, contentment makes a poor person wealthy, and a lack of contentment makes even a wealthy person poor. Its not the material in itself, its the attitude towards it. There are many families living in peace and harmony even though they earn less than 50k monthly. If your wife is such that spent half of her day on Instagram, wants the latest human hair, iPhone and keeping up with the latest trends, competing with other of her shallow friends to out do themselves to a point where she has built her personality around it, its highly advisable not to marry such woman. As a man, you should know that when it comes to marriage, you bear the most liability, just as women bear the liability of pregnancy and child rearing. It is you that will pay the bride price, spend on weddings, carry the family financial burden till you die. You insult yourself and hustle if you marry the wrong woman. Your eyes should be sharp like an Eagle and leave no stone unturned, because the sacred decision of marriage can make or break you. Choose wisely, and choosing a materialistic woman is a choice to fail. 21 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by angelfallz(m): 8:32pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
Words of wisdom, if only they would listen. pansophist: 5 Likes |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by MightyHand(m): 8:40pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
ogashman: ✓Marriage is not made for every one ✓Every one is not made for marriage •°•°•°•°Many dash in and dash out because they fail, and put their blame on others. 1 Like |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by OlawaleBammie: 8:41pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
vickydankal:Hmmmmmmmm, this ur submission strong oo |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by dingbang(m): 8:42pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
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Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Rubbiish(m): 8:44pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
vickydankal:Ha! Na wa for u o 1 Like |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Lamasta(m): 8:47pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
aanuoluwami14:gbamsolutely |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Rubbiish(m): 8:49pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
obembet:See who is talking?? Smh |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by mofedamijo(m): 8:54pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
aribisala0: You keep missing a very simple point. This is very simple, when you notice something you can't cope with, kindly work on it or withdraw. Yes, it can be hard to find a good person, but since I started dating, I have never been with a money hungry lady, thats because I choose wisely. Every lady I have been with has been wonderful, unfortunately, somethings did not work out. I have chosen wisely in every country I have been and I have never had a reason to cry. Like i said earlier, men, choose wisely. Shalom. |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by aribisala0(m): 8:59pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
mofedamijo:You are the one missing the point . I believe we are talking about marriage on this thread not dating? My point is women change after marriage and that change is not a function of your wisdom 6 Likes |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by bukatyne(f): 9:03pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
pansophist: @bold: Words on gold. 3 Likes |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Goldbw122(m): 9:05pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
Sew your cloth according to your pocket... |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by fineberry(m): 9:10pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
IgweOfNnewi:Is it because the woman is a virgin |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by pansophist(m): 9:10pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
bukatyne: |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Rubbiish(m): 9:17pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
Blueelf:Word! |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by fineberry(m): 9:17pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
[quote author=maak400 post=103471168]You're right OP, money is important in marriage. But my question to everyone is, if a man is hustling and he's still not financially stable till he's 40 years old, will you advise him not to marry but to keep hustling till he is financially stable even if he's nearing 50 years old?[/quot Then be will have to saw is coat according to his size...that's what i see. I watched an interview of one of our Nigeria actress....She said it straight up that she cannot as in never marry a man that is not a millionaire, that will be able to afford her upkeep. Some women grade down high o, one just av to look for the one that will accept your past, encourage your present situation and believe in your future. |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Nobody: 9:20pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
obembet: One of the biggest lies being told to men! 3 Likes |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by folks4luv(f): 9:20pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
This is the worst marital advice i have seen in a very long time. What has been a virgin/or not have to do with this? You have never seen a materialistic or lousy virgin before? How does this kinda advice even make sense? IgweOfNnewi: |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by mofedamijo(m): 9:23pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
aribisala0: I am not talking about a person changing. Even kids change. Humans change. My point is, when you notice something before marriage, try to correct it pull out. By the way, the topic is about getting married and not marriage. Won't you date before marrying..... And for the record, I spoke about my opinion and experience. I will choose wisely. Take care. |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Rubbiish(m): 9:24pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
bukatyne:Words on gold You can't possibly be contented when u have no money! That's guy's submission is wrong! If u have made little money, u can't possibly compare your contentment level with when u were u struggling? |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by bukatyne(f): 9:26pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
Rubbiish: @Bold, That is your opinion sir. Contentment has nothing to do with your financial status (at least in my case). |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Bullman(m): 9:28pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
Rapmoney: |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Lekan239(m): 9:29pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
maak400:pls what is ur definition of being financially stable? |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Rubbiish(m): 9:32pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
bukatyne:Na lie! U are not just being sincere! Money is a necessity, excess of it is what is regarded as vanity! But as humans, we need a considerable amount of it to live a contented & fulfilled life! |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Quim2: 9:40pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
Thiwalade: No real friends for this world my brother. even better relatives scarce. I was alone 2 Likes |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Ayo2004: 9:43pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
To avoid all these palaba,simply do not marry No amount of financial stability fit make me marry,I go make money,travel the world,meet different kind of women,eat different delicacies then at 40+,have a kid from a babymama m,saves me the stress from a wife,make men wise up o,women no dey fall in love(in most cases),they choose to be with the most capable (the one that provides),do not kill yourself in the name of "I do" Money go do all the work,love go bring him yeye head con take all the credit 2 Likes |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Oyin2212(m): 9:43pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
IgweOfNnewi:One bottle for you. You're a wise man. 1 Like |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by bukatyne(f): 9:44pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
Rubbiish: Let me humor you this once on this topic and make a lengthy post with an introduction for Wikipedia: [b]Contentment is an emotional state of satisfaction that can be seen as a mental state, maybe drawn from being at ease in one's situation, body and mind. Colloquially speaking, contentment could be a state of having accepted one's situation and is a milder and more tentative form of happiness. Contentment and the pursuit of contentment are possibly a central thread through many philosophical or religious schools across diverse cultures, times and geographies. Siddharta might have said "Health is the most precious gain and contentment the greatest wealth". John Stuart Mill, centuries later, would write "I have learned to seek my happiness by limiting my desires, rather than in attempting to satisfy them." Marcus Aurelius wrote "Live with the gods. And he who does so constantly shows them that his soul is satisfied with what is assigned to them." Hebrews 13:5 reads "Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, 'Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.'" Chinese philosopher Zhuang Zhou once wrote in the 3rd century BCE (hypothetically) "A gentleman who profoundly penetrates all things and is in harmony with their transformations will be contented with whatever time may bring. He follows the course of nature in whatever situation he may be. [/b] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Contentment Do you see a central theme that contentment is a present state, not a futuristic state in light of achieving what you want. You can be content with N5 and become discontent when you have N500. According to Kofa Study, there are five attributes of contentment: 1. Satisfaction 2. Lack of envy 3. Humility 4. Discipline/ self-control 5. Hatred for greed and corruption. I would leave you with this poem by John Bunyan (especially the 2nd stanza): He that is down needs fear no fall, He that is low no pride; He that is humble ever shall Have God to be his guide. I am content with what I have, Little be it or much; And, Lord, contentment still I crave Because Thou savest such. Fulness to such a burden is That go in pilgrimage; Here little and hereafter bliss Is best from all to age. 4 Likes |
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by rosalieene(f): 9:46pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
"living up to his responsibilities as a man" That statement is so accurate That's all I can say. Especially for those pure patriarchy men, that's one of the characteristics you must have. *runs outta thread* |
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