Good women Dey my brother just depend on where you direct your search engine to

LagosInter:


Nnaa to find good wife hard oo. Especially in lagos.

How do ppl keep relationships in this state with traffic etc

it's obvious OP was fücking this woman while she was with her husband and he found out and pursued her, they are not legally divorced but she lives with OP in love but not officially married.


Idiot enjoy your new lifestyle

[quote author=EmptyGarden post=103754237]You don marry you don marry, man up! What if she was a widow?[/You to get sense]

You don marry you don marry, man up! What if she was a widow?

[You to get sense]

Romanoff:


Why will they resent a father who provides for them?

A co-parenting agreement and custody sharing can sort all this out. But to threaten to not care for his kids and planning to cut them off from their mother is just evil.

Put yourself in the kids shoes, when your half siblings are being Catered for but you have to wait on your own biological father to do the needful.

Nobody is saying that she can’t have access to the kids, that can always be arranged, but as long as the step dad is not willing to step up, this arrangement is a disaster waiting to happen

Vireani79:


He will not pay... is it by force
Have u heard his side of the story
Or the part of this gold digger and his wife who want to milk a wealthy man

They are both incapable of taking care of the kids
Give them to the dad
For me he should not drop a penny cos from this man's story it is clear it's his wealth they are banking on as a source of income

My dear, we are in thesame boat.

I experienced something similar but in a different dimension.

Men, depending on the kind of women you got married to.... do not be overly expressive about your children. Do not always provide upfront. Let there be demand sometimes before you provide.

I used to stock the house for 6 months at a stretch. Daily needs etc . Apart from weekly upkeeps. These apart from other comforts such 24/7 light ( heavy solar installations with 2 stand by gen sets just in case

Next school fees already paid upfront before the end of the current term.

Madam showed me pepper.

Her boyfriend colluded with her to draw up a domestic violence case against me ( The legal fee came from the weekly upkeeps I was giving to her) . They got a FIDA lawyer. The lawyer helped them to write a statement against me ( I cried so uncontrollably when I read that statement at the police station). They wrote about how we struggled to build houses together, who I was in the community and I use my position to oppress and maltreat her ( all made up). I was to walk into a trap ( she would frustrate me into beating her). But thank I did not. I got wind of the plan ahead. So I made sure I didn't go home alone that day.

Thesame guy ;madam had approached me about to lend both of them money for an import and export business. I knew something was fishy. But my security was more important .


Writing my statement was easy. Cos, everything poured down naturally. A woman I saw through a private University from the scratch.

We were called in for interview. The rest was history.

I believe the lawyer that represented her was so ashamed when the truth came out. I was even the one that transfered the legal fees balance to the lawyer when madam and her collaborators could not come up with ( of my own volition though)

She took my children away for 2 moths plus with her father's consent ( the usual practice anytime she wanted to deal with me.. she knew I would be a nervous wreak if I didn't have access to my kids for an extended period).

Lots of manipulations. Like, trying to recondition my kids against me. They would intentionally not pick my calls nor allow my kids to call anytime my kids made such requests. See, I nearly committed suicide on at least two occasions. The fact that I made sure I was not home alone prevented that from happening.

The school fees for that term was wasted. I had paid ahead as usual. And, the issue happened right at the beginning of the term.

Well, I made sure that they didn't return to the house. I rented a newly built apartment and equipped it for them to a standard that I knew my kids will appreciate. I made sure that she has no knowledge of where my properties etc are located.

I gave her investment fund to start a business.

One day, I asked her why the other guy disturbing her or even her father didn't give her money for business or the legal fees to prosecute the case.

She was dumbfounded. Her father only gave 3k in all.

At the end of the day, my fears were laid to rest.

They played on her stupidity to obtain me. Most especially the guy that she thought was showing her care and affection ( supposedly).

Her pastor was also involved. I have some recordings to that effect. Her pastor telling her to record our conversations and forward same to him. Her pastor offering her strategies. I asked her why didn't the call us together for truce if at all something was wrong

The conclusion here, is that lot of the time, it is actually the men ( most especially the responsible ones) that are going through serious domestic violence and abuse)

However, because the society has been conditioned to think otherwise

perambulator:


who has taken who away?

presumably husband and wife lived in the same house with the children. Wife left with the children (an assumption that she wasnt kicked out) if thats the case she took the children away. If he kicked her out it is safe to say he didnt kick his children out.

So you women need to be careful the way you women use words. if you leave with the children of your own accord, then they are your responsibility.

Rather than presuming , read and comprehend before talking
They were never married

lapazi:


Put yourself in the kids shoes, when your half siblings are being Catered for but you have to wait on your own biological father to do the needful.

Nobody is saying that she can’t have access to the kids, that can always be arranged, but as long as the step dad is not willing to step up, this arrangement is a disaster waiting to happen

They will eventually need to both step up.

It's a sad reality but they will have to just step up.

Except your wife want to take him to court to be paying child's support or share custody of the children if she wins the case but if he wins, he will take his children & take care of them himself or share custody of the children. So if you so much love the children, continue taking care of them as yours or you allow the man take his children and take care of them.

Juicewrld27:
people just like wahala. Person wey get pikin talk say make you give am back im pikin. Nothing there to advise

E concern whoever start wetin him no fit finish

Romanoff:


That's why I am sayings they should opt for shared custody. They both need to come together and figure out a way to be in the lives of the children.

If the woman want broke, his threats won't go anywhere and she'd still keep the kids. So her brokeness is what he is leveraging on.

There is room for dialogue but I hope they can reach and arrangement cause I still sense resentment in the old couple.

A woman leaves her husband and children for a dead beat man with no money, she is broke but refuses to hand over the children to their father who can fend for them who we havent been told has refused her access to the children. We both dont know the circumstances beyond the brief summary by the OP, but doesnt the little we know paint a picture of an irresponsible woman who makes bad choices?

Romanoff:


I have lived with people in similar situations.

One of them let her husband take the kids away. Today, she's alone, miserable and can't even tell where her kids are. For the kids to not reach out to her in these days of social media, I wonder what awful things they must have been told about their mother.

Another took her baby daddy to court and got him to pay fees while she handled the rest. Now that the man is even out of job, she's the one hustling to care for them.

I run advocacy on issues like these as well as child literacy, legislative processes and SDGs, trust me, I know what I am talking about.

No man in his right mind will agree to send money to his baby mama when he is not allowed access to them. That been said I bet u she doesn't let him see his kids otherwise he would gladly support and take care of them and won't give such conditions..Most baby mamas are very wicked and vindictive because the guy refused to marry them so the use his kids to make life miserable for him..sha men don de wise,u can't eat ur cake and have it..if she like make she continue to hide the kids,a time will come when the kids will look for their father by themselves,its just natural and will definitely happen.

perambulator:


I hate this characterisation of the father as a dead beat. The man has said he will provide the kids if they are under his roof but he will not pay for another man to raise his children. Perfectly understandable.

From the story, the woman herself sounds ireesponsible. How do you carry 2 children away from the security of their wealthy father and go and marry a man without finance? if anything it's the man she married (the OP) that is a dead beat because he cannot provide for the wife and her children he willingly though stupidly entered into. Firstly for turning himself into a cuckold and secondly for entering a maaraige without the finances.

lmao @ cuckhold

perambulator:


A woman leaves her husband and children for a dead beat man with no money, she is broke but refuses to hand over the children to their father who can fend for them who we havent been told has refused her access to the children. We both dont know the circumstances beyond the brief summary by the OP, but doesnt the little we know paint a picture of an irresponsible woman who makes bad choices?

Even the brief summary you are unable to read and comprehend?

Where did it say they were ever married?

aribisala0:
Rather than presuming , read and comprehend before talking
They were never married

I didnt see that. the OP is so annoying I only read his opening post. However if what you say is true then it just shows the woman is highly irresponsible. 1st you have 2 children for a man out of wedlock then you carry them to join a broke ass man with no money. Why does the woman keep finding herself in such situations?

A responsible woman will do what is best for the kids and right now it looks like the father. She doesnt even sound like a fit mother!! Selfless mothers give up their children for adoption to strangers because they know they cant afford to raise them talk less handing them to their biologiccal father...is that such a big deal?

u knew she already had 2kids before getting married to her!u shuld be responsible for her and the kids!its legit for their dad to seek their custudy if he must take care of them!has she not got u a child?keep urs and the other man keeps his too.chikenan!

perambulator:


I didnt see that. the OP is so annoying I only read his opening post. However if what you say is true then it just shows the woman is highly irresponsible. 1st you have 2 children for a man out of wedlock then you carry them to join a broke ass man with no money. Why does the woman keep finding herself in such situations?

You didn't "see" or you did not comprehend
You are funny and are just projecting your internal psychology on to the vignette
What makes you think the story is even true?
You reasoning is very immature. You just react without reflection I doubt that you are married

aribisala0:
Even the brief summary you are unable to read and comprehend?

Where did it say they were ever married?

where did it say they weren't?

perambulator:


where did it say they weren't?

Guy go and play with your mates

You are very childish and not very bright

torqque7:


No man in his right mind will agree to send money to his baby mama when he is not allowed access to them. That been said I bet u she doesn't let him see his kids otherwise he would gladly support and take care of them and won't give such conditions..Most baby mamas are very wicked and vindictive because the guy refused to marry them so the use his kids to make life miserable for him..sha men don de wise,u can't eat ur cake and have it..if she like make she continue to hide the kids,a time will come when the kids will look for their father by themselves,its just natural and will definitely happen.

No now. That's why I said Co parenting. Of course he'd have access to his kids. They belong to both of them. In the case I mentioned, the man chose to walk away and got married to someone else after having four kids with his baby mama.

Sad thing is it's the baby mama's father that even helped him get the job.

johhnnie:


My dear, we are in thesame boat.

I experienced something similar but in a different dimension.

Men, depending on the kind of women you got married to.... do not be overly expressive about your children. Do not always provide upfront. Let there be demand sometimes before you provide.

I used to stock the house for 6 months at a stretch. Daily needs etc . Apart from weekly upkeeps. These apart from other comforts such 24/7 light ( heavy solar installations with 2 stand by gen sets just in case

Next school fees already paid upfront before the end of the current term.

Madam showed me pepper.

Her boyfriend colluded with her to draw up a domestic violence case against me ( The legal fee came from the weekly upkeeps I was giving to her) . They got a FIDA lawyer. The lawyer helped them to write a statement against me ( I cried so uncontrollably when I read that statement at the police station). They wrote about how we struggled to build houses together, who I was in the community and I use my position to oppress and maltreat her ( all made up). I was to walk into a trap ( she would frustrate me into beating her). But thank I did not. I got wind of the plan ahead. So I made sure I didn't go home alone that day.

Thesame guy ;madam had approached me about to lend both of them money for an import and export business. I knew something was fishy. But my security was more important .


Writing my statement was easy. Cos, everything poured down naturally. A woman I saw through a private University from the scratch.

We were called in for interview. The rest was history.

I believe the lawyer that represented her was so ashamed when the truth came out. I was even the one that transfered the legal fees balance to the lawyer when madam and her collaborators could not come up with ( of my own volition though)

She took my children away for 2 moths plus with her father's consent ( the usual practice anytime she wanted to deal with me.. she knew I would be a nervous wreak if I didn't have access to my kids for an extended period).

Lots of manipulations. Like, trying to recondition my kids against me. They would intentionally not pick my calls nor allow my kids to call anytime my kids made such requests. See, I nearly committed suicide on at least two occasions. The fact that I made sure I was not home alone prevented that from happening.

The school fees for that term was wasted. I had paid ahead as usual. And, the issue happened right at the beginning of the term.

Well, I made sure that they didn't return to the house. I rented a newly built apartment and equipped it for them to a standard that I knew my kids will appreciate. I made sure that she has no knowledge of where my properties etc are located.

I gave her investment fund to start a business.

One day, I asked her why the other guy disturbing her or even her father didn't give her money for business or the legal fees to prosecute the case.

She was dumbfounded. Her father only gave 3k in all.

At the end of the day, my fears were laid to rest.

They played on her stupidity to obtain me. Most especially the guy that she thought was showing her care and affection ( supposedly).

Her pastor was also involved. I have some recordings to that effect. Her pastor telling her to record our conversations and forward same to him. Her pastor offering her strategies. I asked her why didn't the call us together for truce if at all something was wrong

The conclusion here, is that lot of the time, it is actually the men ( most especially the responsible ones) that are going through serious domestic violence and abuse)

However, because the society has been conditioned to think otherwise

As long as I'm alive I will never sign any documents with any woman especially marriage documents.

aribisala0:
You didn't "see" or you did not comprehend
You are funny and are just projecting your internal psychology on to the vignette
What makes you think the story is even true?
You reasoning is very immature. You just react without reflection I doubt that you are married

dont be a fool, there is nothing in the Op's post that says the wife was married or not married to the dabby daddy. Your assumption is as good as mine.

This case is a case of weak man jam irresponsible woman.

aribisala0:
Guy go and play with your mates

You are very childish and not very bright

if you really had a point to make you would point to where it says they were or werent married. You are the one being childish. I never responded to you or quoted you. You are the one who jumped into my post. If you have nothing sensible to say please stay away.

AyeMoJuba:


Na him name dey worry am...Every Andrew I have met are always very dull...otherwise, why would a a man with brain marry a mother of 2...as single girls plenty for town reach?

the name sef sound like draw soup wetin u expect

johhnnie:


My dear, we are in thesame boat.

I experienced something similar but in a different dimension.

Men, depending on the kind of women you got married to.... do not be overly expressive about your children. Do not always provide upfront. Let there be demand sometimes before you provide.

I used to stock the house for 6 months at a stretch. Daily needs etc . Apart from weekly upkeeps. These apart from other comforts such 24/7 light ( heavy solar installations with 2 stand by gen sets just in case

Next school fees already paid upfront before the end of the current term.

Madam showed me pepper.

Her boyfriend colluded with her to draw up a domestic violence case against me ( The legal fee came from the weekly upkeeps I was giving to her) . They got a FIDA lawyer. The lawyer helped them to write a statement against me ( I cried so uncontrollably when I read that statement at the police station). They wrote about how we struggled to build houses together, who I was in the community and I use my position to oppress and maltreat her ( all made up). I was to walk into a trap ( she would frustrate me into beating her). But thank I did not. I got wind of the plan ahead. So I made sure I didn't go home alone that day.

Thesame guy ;madam had approached me about to lend both of them money for an import and export business. I knew something was fishy. But my security was more important .


Writing my statement was easy. Cos, everything poured down naturally. A woman I saw through a private University from the scratch.

We were called in for interview. The rest was history.

I believe the lawyer that represented her was so ashamed when the truth came out. I was even the one that transfered the legal fees balance to the lawyer when madam and her collaborators could not come up with ( of my own volition though)

She took my children away for 2 moths plus with her father's consent ( the usual practice anytime she wanted to deal with me.. she knew I would be a nervous wreak if I didn't have access to my kids for an extended period).

Lots of manipulations. Like, trying to recondition my kids against me. They would intentionally not pick my calls nor allow my kids to call anytime my kids made such requests. See, I nearly committed suicide on at least two occasions. The fact that I made sure I was not home alone prevented that from happening.

The school fees for that term was wasted. I had paid ahead as usual. And, the issue happened right at the beginning of the term.

Well, I made sure that they didn't return to the house. I rented a newly built apartment and equipped it for them to a standard that I knew my kids will appreciate. I made sure that she has no knowledge of where my properties etc are located.

I gave her investment fund to start a business.

One day, I asked her why the other guy disturbing her or even her father didn't give her money for business or the legal fees to prosecute the case.

She was dumbfounded. Her father only gave 3k in all.

At the end of the day, my fears were laid to rest.

They played on her stupidity to obtain me. Most especially the guy that she thought was showing her care and affection ( supposedly).

Her pastor was also involved. I have some recordings to that effect. Her pastor telling her to record our conversations and forward same to him. Her pastor offering her strategies. I asked her why didn't the call us together for truce if at all something was wrong

The conclusion here, is that lot of the time, it is actually the men ( most especially the responsible ones) that are going through serious domestic violence and abuse)

However, because the society has been conditioned to think otherwise

My brother
U said it all
How come I can see through the bull shit up there
The man aiming for monthly payments cos to him and his gold digging wife the man is wealthy
But men u tried oh
I am in shock at ur story
But like we agreed
To pay anything unless it comes up

But wait fess
Why still give her money to start a business
U guys are the ones letting these witches get away with evil

I have an ex
She is always blocking and unblocking me
Guess what
Shi shi I no dey drop
She tells me how she did so so and so for me

But forgets when she used to hit me
Smash my phone on my knee cap
Broke shame me

Post our fights on Facebook as a topic for her and her friends to discuss

Omo the emotional abuse was huge
But she claims to be a saint till date and how I keep things in my stomach
I dont forgive and all that bla bla

Yesterday she said my voice makes her think

She had to block me

Imagine my voice alone ohhhhh [center][/center]

The kids are your responsibility
What is your arrangement with the lady before you married considering she already has two kids with another man?
I'm sure you are infactuated for her.
But remember the kids will definitely return back to their father in the future when time comes no matter how much you spend on them
You took the wrong step to marriage.

The kids are your responsibility
What is your arrangement with the lady before you married considering she already has two kids with another man?
I'm sure you are infactuated for her.
But remember the kids will definitely return back to their father in the future when time comes no matter how much you spend on them
You took the wrong step to marriage.

you are probably one of the reasons her relationship with her former husband broke up. you were her side guy and did not allow her focus on her marriage.

for basic maintenance, yes, a man is ready to sponsor all expenses for his kids, but excess, so she can afford to give you an exotic f**k life.

My friend, park well.

I don't usually comment, but if you want they other man to be sending money to your wife, Then you must not rule out they possiblity that they could be sleeping with each other, that you are in another relationship doesn't mean you don't have feeling for your ex husband

johhnnie:


My dear, we are in thesame boat.

I experienced something similar but in a different dimension.

Men, depending on the kind of women you got married to.... do not be overly expressive about your children. Do not always provide upfront. Let there be demand sometimes before you provide.

I used to stock the house for 6 months at a stretch. Daily needs etc . Apart from weekly upkeeps. These apart from other comforts such 24/7 light ( heavy solar installations with 2 stand by gen sets just in case

Next school fees already paid upfront before the end of the current term.

Madam showed me pepper.

Her boyfriend colluded with her to draw up a domestic violence case against me ( The legal fee came from the weekly upkeeps I was giving to her) . They got a FIDA lawyer. The lawyer helped them to write a statement against me ( I cried so uncontrollably when I read that statement at the police station). They wrote about how we struggled to build houses together, who I was in the community and I use my position to oppress and maltreat her ( all made up). I was to walk into a trap ( she would frustrate me into beating her). But thank I did not. I got wind of the plan ahead. So I made sure I didn't go home alone that day.

Thesame guy ;madam had approached me about to lend both of them money for an import and export business. I knew something was fishy. But my security was more important .


Writing my statement was easy. Cos, everything poured down naturally. A woman I saw through a private University from the scratch.

We were called in for interview. The rest was history.

I believe the lawyer that represented her was so ashamed when the truth came out. I was even the one that transfered the legal fees balance to the lawyer when madam and her collaborators could not come up with ( of my own volition though)

She took my children away for 2 moths plus with her father's consent ( the usual practice anytime she wanted to deal with me.. she knew I would be a nervous wreak if I didn't have access to my kids for an extended period).

Lots of manipulations. Like, trying to recondition my kids against me. They would intentionally not pick my calls nor allow my kids to call anytime my kids made such requests. See, I nearly committed suicide on at least two occasions. The fact that I made sure I was not home alone prevented that from happening.

The school fees for that term was wasted. I had paid ahead as usual. And, the issue happened right at the beginning of the term.

Well, I made sure that they didn't return to the house. I rented a newly built apartment and equipped it for them to a standard that I knew my kids will appreciate. I made sure that she has no knowledge of where my properties etc are located.

I gave her investment fund to start a business.

One day, I asked her why the other guy disturbing her or even her father didn't give her money for business or the legal fees to prosecute the case.

She was dumbfounded. Her father only gave 3k in all.

At the end of the day, my fears were laid to rest.

They played on her stupidity to obtain me. Most especially the guy that she thought was showing her care and affection ( supposedly).

Her pastor was also involved. I have some recordings to that effect. Her pastor telling her to record our conversations and forward same to him. Her pastor offering her strategies. I asked her why didn't the call us together for truce if at all something was wrong

The conclusion here, is that lot of the time, it is actually the men ( most especially the responsible ones) that are going through serious domestic violence and abuse)

However, because the society has been conditioned to think otherwise

Sorry to say sir,but ur kindness has been taken for weakness,if u want things to change then u also need to be hard sometimes..u are too nice(weak)that is why the lady in question will continue to frustrate u using ur kids..u even had to pay her lawyer for fighting u,who does that?to impress who or prove what?that is not called been a good man but a mumu in the eyes of everyone,then u went ahead to open a biz for her again?hmm na wa o..God will help u

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