chris51:
In the first place What are you doing getting married to a mother of two? The children's father is willing to take care of the children.
Why do you want to suffer yourself to take care of someone else's children? At the end of the day the children will still identify with their biological father while you suffer for nothing.
You and your wife should allow the man collect his children.

Vireani79:


How do u know he is withdrawing child support so he can take the kids away
Is it not possible that like me he is seeing that this man and his wife want to milk him
U take sides of this gold digger and his wife and have refused to see the other side of the story

Ur take from the start is he must pay the woman
So it's ok
U guys always love the victim card

Romanoff:


The man is blackmailing the woman with the kids. If he loves them, let him provide for their upkeep at least.

Na born them born for each other, why should they be a thorn in each other's flesh?

dapadawee:

And you were able to get 11 likes for this idiot word that escaped your gutter mouth

ChopAndGo:
[s][/s]Just shut!

Your ignorant of the situation.

IamAsiri:


If you are the woman, can you wholeheartedly return your children to your ex-husband (never to see them again) just because you remarried? If you have issues with the present husband, will you also give the children you both had to him too?

Romanoff:


Why not just ignore.

Romanoff:


Child support doesn't have to go to the woman na. He can pay fees to their schools, pay for health care, buy heir clothes and let the woman and her husband handle accomodation and feeding. She doesn't need to get a dime na.

Bola146:
I guess the lady is rich that is why you didn't reasoned well how to take care of the two kids before getting married to their mother

You need to be ready to take full responsibilities of the kids. She can't ignore them, since their father is not responsible, act like their father, carry your cross biko

chris51:



I am sure our op was benefitting from the so called wife when her ex husband was financing her. The source is cut, let him face reality and cater for the children or return them to their biological father

Juicewrld27:
better allow the man take his property

99thEnemy:

Originalsly:
Ha!... married your wife and her kids out of love? ... or the opportunity to enjoy the wealthy children father money?

chris51:



Don't mind the man, planned to live on the woman and money from her ex husband.

Katier00:
they are humans, that need motherly love and care not property. Op if you can afford training those children please do and God will bless you. You can see that the biological father is not responsible.

Andrew87:
I got married to my wife. I love her both with the kids but the biological father of the kids is a bit wealthy and left the whole responsibilities to my wife since last year.

This is not funny because I am part of her although we hustle hard but it's not easy. He insists the kids must be with him if he must take care of them but a member of his family informed my wife that he plans to take them away and she will not see them.

Please friends what's ur take on this? Times are really hard.

Freelane33:
Alaye end the relationship that’s all I have to say . Go for a young girl whey never born . Girls plenty . Don’t spend your money on another man’s kids , there won’t be any gain at the end.. last but not the least , Search 4 a lady , there are single nurses in the hospitals , single bankers , single business ladies and others , Lagos is wide , spread your wings bro

Bola146:
I guess the lady is rich that is why you didn't reasoned well how to take care of the two kids before getting married to their mother

You need to be ready to take full responsibilities of the kids. She can't ignore them, since their father is not responsible, act like their father, carry your cross biko

chris51:



Their father is responsible, that's why he wants his children

pocohantas:
I don’t know when women would learn that their motherly love is second to what is best for the kids in event of separation. I said it the other day and I will say it again. You are not the only one that loves your kids! Some men love their kids, way more than they love the mother.

A man can be an irresponsible husband, but remain a very responsible father.

If he is capable of taking care of his kids, let him have them! They can visit you during the holidays or some weekends.

How do you feel holding on to kids that you can’t give a good life all because you are their mother and convinced yourself that you are what they need?

Jeez!!

Romanoff:


That's why I'm saying if the man is insisting he won't foot their bills cause they don't live with him, then the couple should double their hustle and stop complaining. They knew what they signed up for.

Hustle and care for the kids yourself. And if you want child support so bad, take it to court.

Romanoff:


No. He has no right to take them away. They both own the kids.

Parizz:
In the first place, is it the man's responsibility to fend for another man's kids.

Romanoff:


If he doesn't want his kids being raised by another man, he should have wifed their mother. Are you saying single mums cannot marry because their baby's father cannot take another man raising their kids?

That decision should have been taken by using protection or marriage.

Outside that, a co parenting agreement should be made.

perambulator:


who has taken who away?

presumably husband and wife lived in the same house with the children. Wife left with the children (an assumption that she wasnt kicked out) if thats the case she took the children away. If he kicked her out it is safe to say he didnt kick his children out.

So you women need to be careful the way you women use words. if you leave with the children of your own accord, then they are your responsibility.

Legalservices:



This argument is very flawed ....are you saying because of the natural desire for either party to exercise their parental rights over their kids.. they should have married regardless if they were not compatible? What if such marriage was a nesting ground for domestic violence?

This is a very parochial and sentiments informed argument. Marriage isn’t a solution to exercise any parental rights and no one should be blackmailed to live with an intolerable co-parent because of kids.