Before you enter a contract with someone, you could have viewed the terms and conditions of the contract....you that enter a contract agreement with a baby mama...you brain suppose to tell you to say, you go carry all the responsibility of her irresponsible husband...because of yansh, you don enter another wahala...probably, thee babymama is not working...nah double wahala for you be that oh...

So, Nah your burden oh....enjoy her breast and her cunt while you keep on carrying the load of another man's property...

Andrew87:
I got married to my wife. I love her both with the kids but the biological father of the kids is a bit wealthy and left the whole responsibilities to my wife since last year.

This is not funny because I am part of her although we hustle hard but it's not easy. He insists the kids must be with him if he must take care of them but a member of his family informed my wife that he plans to take them away and she will not see them.

Please friends what's ur take on this? Times are really hard.

How did your people allowed you marry such? In this 2021...I'm curious.....

Well each Aboki with his kettle...

To the matter, They are not your kids...You are just wasting time...When it is time, the man will come for his flesh and blood.
Why not you advise your wife to let go and restart a new life with you...Her kids will still ask of her when they grow...Kids will never forget their father and mother no mata how bad they were painted by the other partners.

If you complain, you just want to suffer yourself...Life is cool when you thread with caution.

Andrew87

The ex hubby is very wise, he didnt want his ex wife to use his money for your benefit..

Shame on you

My brother, Yorubas say you can take the wife of a coward but not his kids.
You know what you got involved in from the onset, so why are you complaining. If you & your wife cannot afford to take care of your step kids, please let them go to who can afford to take care of them!
You either double your hustles & take care of those kids or shut the Bleep up!
So you want to eat your cake & have it abi?!

torqque7:


Sorry to say sir,but ur kindness has been taken for weakness,if u want things to change then u also need to be hard sometimes..u are too nice(weak)that is why the lady in question will continue to frustrate u using ur kids..u even had to pay her lawyer for fighting u,who does that?to impress who or prove what?that is not called been a good man but a mumu in the eyes of everyone,then u went ahead to open a biz for her again?hmm na wa o..God will help u

You may be right.

However, sometimes, once kids are involved, there are sacrifices to be made.

The case is no more about the couple at loggerheads. But more about the kids that are products of the union.

My philosophy has always been that, whatever social strata your ex spouse belongs to will always affect the upbringing of your children.

Even though, we don't live together, I still want the best for them.

Whatever the story that is told to them, once they are of age, I believe they will be matured enough to put things in the right perspectives.

The story is better told and understood by people with first hand experiences.

Personally, I think the court wedding is over rated.

I will sincerely advise young folks never to sign that document.

You can do traditional wedding. And, if there is true love, I see no reason for court wedding ( I.M.O).

See, I went through Hell.

I will not like to make public the details.

Anyone who needs counseling can send me an e.mail.

It's high time men were there for men.

Let there be a movement whereby men ( real/responsible men) will stand up for men and not against men ( I mean men who were/are truly abused and violated).

I suspect my 3rd child is not mine. But for peace of the mind, I have decided out of my own free will to be responsible for all of them.

I still have my life before me. We might have gone our separate ways. However, the kids were not asked to be borne. As such, as much as possible we must take up those responsibilities as real men as much as we can and as long as we have the means.

I do not condone domestic violence and abuse against women but the stories must always be set straight.

I have seen the following happen:

1. A woman took her wedding invitation to her ex boyfriend. They ended up having s3x.

2. A woman on her wedding night had s3x with her bestie colleague at work in thesame hotel she booked for the wedding.

3. A housewife paid for a hotel where she had romps with her lover.

4. A married woman while in a hotel for s3x romps with her lover picked her husband's call and spoke calmly as if nothing was amiss

5. Etc and etc, etc, etc

6. Don't get me wrong, there are good marriages out there. And, God bless those couples.

7. If it's not working, it is not working......

Munzy14:

How did your people allowed you marry such? In this 2021...I'm curious.....

Well each Aboki with his kettle...

To the matter, They are not your kids...You are just wasting time...When it is time, the man will come for his flesh and blood.
Why not you advise your wife to let go and restart a new life with you...Her kids will still ask of her when they grow...Kids will never forget their father and mother no mata how bad they were painted by the other partners.

If you complain, you just want to suffer yourself...Life is cool when you thread with caution.

This story is not complete.

My guess is that this man married the woman hoping to feed off the woman's wealthy husband.

I also want to believe that he contributed immensely to breaking that home.

This sounds familiar to me, the man stopped paying child support and school fees because the woman denied him access to the kids, (two boy). The woman left Lagos to her village during the covid-19 period because she could not pay her house rent. Op, send those boys back to their father as we don dash you their mother.

CHoccolaTE:
This is why marriage doesn't favor women.

Imagine sacrificing her career and ability to make real money so that you can focus on raising children that bear another man's name, then after divorce you are back to square one. The evil ex-husband refuses to take care of his children then their mother who is too old to get any meaningful job starts running helter skelter to take care of them.

Men are so evil.

But why would a woman sacrifice her career? There is no reason to. Secure your future first, then have children. A woman's biological clock does not start ticking before 40.

Sugardick:
As long as I'm alive I will never sign any documents with any woman especially marriage documents.

You are a wise dude

Andrew87:
I got married to my wife. I love her both with the kids but the biological father of the kids is a bit wealthy and left the whole responsibilities to my wife since last year.

This is not funny because I am part of her although we hustle hard but it's not easy. He insists the kids must be with him if he must take care of them but a member of his family informed my wife that he plans to take them away and she will not see them.

Please friends what's ur take on this? Times are really hard.

What would you do if they were your children? Would you wait for someone else to support you? You married your wife and by doing so you decided to become one so help her raise these boys.

Andrew87:
I got married to my wife. I love her both with the kids but the biological father of the kids is a bit wealthy and left the whole responsibilities to my wife since last year.

This is not funny because I am part of her although we hustle hard but it's not easy. He insists the kids must be with him if he must take care of them but a member of his family informed my wife that he plans to take them away and she will not see them.

Please friends what's ur take on this? Times are really hard.

In the first place, why did you marry a single mother with two children? Knowing fully well her husband is still alive .. I don't really know how to advice you because your story is not complete... What made the woman to live her husband? Was she caught cheating on her husband with you? Upon all the single lady's without children around, you decided to go for single mother.... She entice you with food, money and free pussy... ... now she had trapped you.! business is not as usual,.. you are now complaining.. what qualities did you see in her?.. na ifa won finish u so oo! ..The man is tired of sending money to your wife, maybe someone have hints the man that the children are not doing fine and the best thing is for him to collect the children.. no matter how you love the woman, you cannot love those children like yours... I support the man, it's just a matter of time, you will want them to leave... Let the man go with his children! I cannot imagine fighting for another man children when the father is not dead! Watch the woman also ooo!

If you like double your hustle till tomorrow, let that man take up his responsibility. Your wife should only make sure she is in their life no matter where she takes them to

Hammyaladin:
I just read the headline only and I'm pissed!

If you must marry a woman with kids, do so only when you know and have confirmed from genuine sources that the husband is late (dead)

If a man is alive hael and hearty, don't ever mistake taking his divorced wife and kids. Its a charity with no reward whatsoever.

Love you say?! Love is relative my man. Don't just get to a woman cause of you love her. Check and balance iq, literacy, degree of burdening you and many other important stuff.

Ass and boobs aren't the only thing to consider ( I know you didn't mention) but i'm just saying!

Your father is to be blamed and you should drag him, I can only blame the OP for going into the relationship……some people esteem has really been dealt with in this life. Imagine settling for someone remnant

Hello,

Just return them to their original dad, as a matter of African Culture and others,The man you left is still their dad,

PLEASE RETURN THEM IMMEDIATELY.

THANK YOU

FROM

MAGNUS

Romanoff:


If he doesn't want his kids being raised by another man, he should have wifed their mother. Are you saying single mums cannot marry because their baby's father cannot take another man raising their kids?

That decision should have been taken by using protection or marriage.

Outside that, a co parenting agreement should be made.

Are you under a spell?

Am very sure you be single guy
Wey go marry after 2
Very soon now
Your wife go go back to the man Dey Bleep aside
Then your topic will be back on nairaland
Saying
Mother of 2 went back to his first husband after finding the present husband not suitable
You be real grade 1 MUGU

Andrew87:
I got married to my wife. I love her both with the kids but the biological father of the kids is a bit wealthy and left the whole responsibilities to my wife since last year.

This is not funny because I am part of her although we hustle hard but it's not easy. He insists the kids must be with him if he must take care of them but a member of his family informed my wife that he plans to take them away and she will not see them.

Please friends what's ur take on this? Times are really hard.

Chief of SIMPs! You want to raise another man's sperm products? Ain't you ashame of yourself? Respect yourself by sending those children back to the man who sired them.

Sho you marry another person wife and you wan still collect his two kids too

Dafuq is wrong with you?

@op
Wait ooo
Hope no be one
Girl wey I Dey Bleep recently you go marry so

If your location na
Ikorodu then you don enter one Chance ooooo

You saw the stormy river before you dived into it ,so enjoy your swim ! Love kor,lust ni !

BePrepared:
Some men dey o

Marry a woman with 2 children, and their father still dey...

is this true or fiction

Human beings dey o
Na so love dey?

I don see this situation twice.

Young single men wey go marry divorced women with two kids. They say it is love .. what do you call it?

Suffering and smiling, In your heart you know what to do if you're not financially capable enough to take care of them return them to their father, even if your wife cries you a river every night. Your unborn children need their father alive.

I no understand you ,na you get the kids?,allow him to take his kids

You cannot tell me nobody warned you against this marriage.

You are letting your wife pressure you into carrying a load that is too heavy for you.

When you have sense, you will know what to do.

Hathor5:


But why would a woman sacrifice her career? There is no reason to. Secure your future first, then have children. A woman's biological clock does not start ticking before 40.

In Nigeria after a certain age unmarried women are mocked and insulted for being old spinsters. Unfortunately.

And the high rate of unemployment does not even help the chances of people getting jobs when they are still young. Some people are still job hunting 6/7 years after University

@ OP
You're on your own

Andrew87:
I got married to my wife. I love her both with the kids but the biological father of the kids is a bit wealthy and left the whole responsibilities to my wife since last year.

This is not funny because I am part of her although we hustle hard but it's not easy. He insists the kids must be with him if he must take care of them but a member of his family informed my wife that he plans to take them away and she will not see them.

Please friends what's ur take on this? Times are really hard.

to slap you dye hungry me. Are you blind that she has two kids before? Return the children or carried your cross.

The best the lady would do is to file custody and maintenance of 150k per month, from the runaway husband, if he only got her pregnant without taking her to the registry, but if she is formally married she should file for dissolution of marriages on the the ground that they have lived apart and the marriage has broken down inretrieviably and also ask for custody and maintenance, before u officially marry her otherwise u r committing adultery with someones wife. Reach me on barrister_esonwune@yahoo.com if u want to do the needful

Carchoice:


The post said he wants to take the children. Doesn’t sound like he abandoned them completely.

how can the former husband take d children completely, is he d sole owner of d children?? Their mother which is a part owner must be put into consideration did she suffer 9 months each for nothing??

CHoccolaTE:


In Nigeria after a certain age unmarried women are mocked and insulted for being old spinsters. Unfortunately.

And the high rate of unemployment does not even help the chances of people getting jobs when they are still young. Some people are still job hunting 6/7 years after University

I know but I would much rather be mocked than ruin my life. The people mocking these ladies won't feed their babies.

Romanoff:


They will still use it to insult her on the future and even turn her kids against her. Make she just see herself like widow so she can double her hustle and care for the kids.

Same thing happens to de man in de future. She will come visiting every month. She could visit them in school.
If de should go to Court de woman might bcus she's remarried.