MrSamsung:


You see one thing guys like you which from the look of things are in the majority don't realize is that you harm and corrupt men(most especially the coming generational men which might include your own male progeny), families, society and the world more when you accept this hypocrisy on the part of a man or as long as the man does it, it is not that bad, or it's different thereby normalizing the abnormal.

And when women who live in these morally bankrupt or corrupted families and societies turn out to be who they are, we men then get heartbroken in our marriages and relationships, lacking peace in our matrimonial homes. And finally we will come to Nairaland and say fear women, there are no good women, women are cheaters, forgetting that we men who are rulers of the society allow these things to happen, participate in doing them and justify it while the women FOLLOW and IMITATE. Afterall you as a husband can't have right to your rod while she also a freeborn with freewill can not have right to her VJ in a free world.

YOU CAN CHEAT ON YOUR GOOD WIFE AND HAVE BABY MAMAS AND AWAY-CHILDREN, BUT YOU CAN'T CHEAT ON THE MEN, WOMEN AND CHILDREN THAT WOULD LIVE AND BE BORN IN SUCH A RUIN AND CORRUPTED FAMILIES AND SOCIETIES.

The cycle continues and we cry and turn bad

If your dad is cheating, please encourage your mum to do same. They are equal okay.

bukatyne:


If by raining, you mean adultery, not all men cheat.

And she can decide to walk out and stay single.

That statement is still shocking, not all men cheat, happens if and only if he does not have the opportunity with his spec, even a holy filled man. Thats why the bible said flee, he didnt walk or even run, but flee.

GenAbacha:


Pig

Pig poo, i foolish mind will spill foolish things.

GenAbacha:


Did I mention you anywhere in any of my comments?

Why have you decided to show your unfortunate self in my mentions?

Because you are an unfortunate being, i need to tame you before tou get out of control, fool

GenAbacha:


You better shut your shitehole before I shut if for you.

I cant expect less from a wicked and unforgiven heart.
I know you must have heard it a million times but this is just a reminder. Wasted fool lol.

GenAbacha:


Did I mention you anywhere in any of my comments?

Why have you decided to show your unfortunate self in my mentions?

You cant come to a public forum to spill trash and expect sane beings to keep mute on your stupidity.

Emmanuel909090:


I cant expect less from a wicked and unforgiven heart.
I know you must have heard it a million times but this is just a reminder. Wasted fool lol.

Pig

Emmanuel909090:


Because you are an unfortunate being, i need to tame you before tou get out of control, fool

Pig

GenAbacha:


Pig

Do you rear pigs, or your dad sells pork abi your mum is a pig, which?

GenAbacha:


Pig

I guess thats your surname lol

GenAbacha:


Pig

I gues you stink like one, looking at your pictures, i can see a piggy resemblance, bingo

GenAbacha:


Pig

Mr piG,
Please, come and give us a piggy advice, walking dirty piggy.

Let her find something doing first, divorce the man and keep going because she will never be happy in that marriage,work hard for herself and remarry a good man if she wishes.

Emmanuel909090:


Stop comparing people, i wonder why its so easy for this young generation to easily fall out of love.
What happened to fixing things?
Thats the reason why you will see a woman who has divorced 3 times and is on to the next.

Tonto thought it was greener, her new guy who has not even married her is already cheating.

Learn to build your partner into what you want, with patience, love, tolerance and prayers.

In this case, is it the man or the woman that has fallen out of love?

Fixing things means that the person acknowledges his/her wrong and turns away from it. But this man has continued in his cheating ways even after resolution.

You say "stop comparing people...", yet you compare women with Tonto. Tonto Dike does not represent the average woman. And her choice of men is a personal problem.

Women should not be pushed to stay in an unfaithful marriage. Whatever decision they make should be accepted.

If this thread was about a cheating wife, the comments would have been different. The woman would have been called unprintable names and slut shamed. But as it is a man, many men will always support their kind and rationalize the situation to suit them.

Na wa o, what i am even concerned about is the randy man giving the innocent woman incurable STD's. Please ladies be financially empowered before you settle down, i hate that word "housewife". Na see finish be that

Please your sister should get something doing, preferably a job. Getting money from the man for business, I really don't know o cause I've experienced a situation where a man locked his wife shop cause he pays the rent. But she should get a job first and be sure she can take care of rent and feeding and move. The man should be the one paying the fee and she shouldn't create enemity between the kids and the dad.

ImaIma1:


In this case, is it the man or the woman that has fallen out of love?

Fixing things means that the person acknowledges his/her wrong and turns away from it. But this man has continued in his cheating ways even after resolution.

You say "stop comparing people...", yet you compare women with Tonto. Tonto Dike does not represent the average woman. And her choice of men is a personal problem.

Women should not be pushed to stay in an unfaithful marriage. Whatever decision they make should be accepted.

If this thread was about a cheating wife, the comments would have been different. The woman would have been called unprintable names and slut shamed. But as it is a man, many men will always support their kind and rationalize the situation to suit them.

In this case the woman is.
The man is misbehaving, that doesnt mean he loves her less.
But generally speaking both genders in this generation easily fall out of love, they keep looking for what doesn't exist.

Please, who is the man after Gods heart? David abi, and you know the story.
He kept dissapointing God but he was always sober and sorry for his actions, listen no man/woman is perfect we all have flaws,so the earlier you realize that the better for us.
Its not an easy task totally cutting off a woman who has a child for you, so she should understand that its a process.
He made his mistake sleeping with the babies mother but no child is a mistake.

Listen i am not comparing Tonto, i gave a visible instance, that the general public can relate to, their are so many in my locality but you cant relate.

Women should not be pushed, yes i accept that, most of us would have not been graduates today, if not that our parents understood and pushed us, i can remember my numerous refusals to return back to boarding school, but my parents kept encouraging and advicing me.
Same plays out in marriage, we dont always get all we want, so we need people to encourage us on ways to go about it and not always quitting, thats the job of counselors.

I dont slut shame women, men are even treated more badly in the society than women, a lot of men forgive unfaithful women and keep mute, to save her the shame due to the love they have for her, but women find it diffcult to cover, they always want the world to know their husbands shortcomings.

Learn to build your home and dont let pride scatter things.

Powerfly:


Lemme help her answer it..
After delivery, the wife would nurse the Child to a toddler age, then hand it over to the side man to take care of, the bills goes to the side man and he eventually gets to keep the child while the mother can visit often..
I'm sure, the husband would not mind the inconveniences... after all, there are things we do for love and marriage.

Is MrSamsung a "her"?

Well you did a lot more than she/he by answering the question instead of being patronizing...

Do I even need to break down your answer?
I'm sure you already know how terribly unrealistic it is.

bukatyne:


Unfortunately, your BIL is not pro-marriage and it takes two to build a healthy home.

The emphasis on healthy.

I actually do not think cheating is a big deal for you.

I don't know the solution to your sister's issue: I don't if she is whining just because or if she is currently so disgusted with her husband that the only thing that would give her sanity is ending the marriage. So it is actually not on your place to want the marriage to continue; it is left for her & her husband to decide.

That said, if she wants to leave the marriage, then she has to be very realistic about it. She is currently not earning and has to be able to support herself and children before she thinks of walking away. I would have thought that the moment her husband had a baby mama, she would realize that phase one of the marriage is over and all previous agreements no longer stand and re-negotiate the terms of the marriage.

It is not too late so she should look for a way to earn and be able to support herself before talking about leaving.

When she can stand on her feet financially, your opinion would no longer matter in her affairs with good reason.

Dear OP,this is the advice you should give her. When they say women should work, they think it is just a joke. If she leaves, she will be like a prodigal wife, later coming for crumbs.
She should just make sure she uses a condom if she has to sleep with him.

crackhaus:

Is MrSamsung a "her"?

Well you did a lot more than she/he by answering the question instead of being patronizing...

Do I even need to break down your answer?
I'm sure you already know how terribly unrealistic it is.

By 'her' I mean the other lady you were asking.
And yes! It is totally possible... Maybe in India and my beloved country Nigeria.
After all it is said.. " Nothing is impossible only if you Believe'!.

Klass99:


Seven blessings to you and 21 kisses

You're a very sensible somebori.

I love this part:

"is she a trash, or a woman deserving of no honor, or is she a piece of wood or animal I bet you, you will dignify your pet more"

That's exactly how some peeps here think about women.

Powerfly:


By 'her' I mean the other lady you were asking.
And yes! It is totally possible... Maybe in India and my beloved country Nigeria.
After all it is said.. " Nothing is impossible only if you Believe'!.

Only in a woman's very wild imagination can such be possible with Nigerian men...

In India, could be possible considering they run a matriarchal family system, which I'm sure Nigerian women would have loved to be a part of.
But with Nigerians? A very interesting fantasy.

"While in Rome, best act like Romans".

As long as the system favours a particular gender, expect the members to take full advantage of it.
It's what it is...

crackhaus:

Only in a woman's very wild imagination can such be possible with Nigerian men...

In India, could be quite possible considering they run a matriarchal family system, which I'm sure Nigerian women would have loved to be a part of.
But with Nigerians? A very interesting fantasy.

"When in Rome, best to act like Romans".

When the system favours a particular gender, expect the members to take full advantage of it.
It's what it is...

If I ever find myself married to a Nigerian man, I'll be sure to keep things in place, then I'll shock him with a reality of that fantasy.

Powerfly:

If I ever find myself married to a Nigerian man, I'll be sure to keep things in place, then I'll shock him with a reality of that fantasy.

Except you want to resort to spiritual control na.

And even with these charms, I believe you can only use them to eat your husband's money or cause him to hate his mother and siblings.

The day you cheat on him, get pregnant for your side-bobo and then tell him you want to bring the child into the marriage for him to raise (even if it's only for infancy), that charm will clear from his eyes sharply.

Klass99:


Lol, it's refreshing to see men who think differently from the pack.

Like Buka said their mentality is transcending from poverty to wizadry .

They see nothing wrong with actions that causes others real pain and heartache.

Meanwhile they cannot handle half of what they dish out. Just yesterday one of my superiors was telling me about 2 Naija men who committed suicide because their girlfriends said they no do again.

It's not like the women cheated on them, they only ended the relationship and the guys couldn't take it.

I said to my superior but we are often told men are stronger than women, why would they do that? He said Klass forget that thing women are emotionally stronger than we are, we are physically stronger.

Yet they will shout moral decline when it comes to monitoring vaginas even though they can't follow the golden rule of doing unto others as they want to be done unto themselves.

Emmanuel909090:


In this case the woman is.
The man is misbehaving, that doesnt mean he loves her less.
But generally speaking both genders in this generation easily fall out of love, they keep looking for what doesn't exist.

Please, who is the man after Gods heart? David abi, and you know the story.
He kept dissapointing God but he was always sober and sorry for his actions, listen no man/woman is perfect we all have flaws,so the earlier you realize that the better for us.
Its not an easy task totally cutting off a woman who has a child for you, so she should understand that its a process.
He made his mistake sleeping with the babies mother but no child is a mistake.

Listen i am not comparing Tonto, i gave a visible instance, that the general public can relate to, their are so many in my locality but you cant relate.

Women should not be pushed, yes i accept that, most of us would have not been graduates today, if not that our parents understood and pushed us, i can remember my numerous refusals to return back to boarding school, but my parents kept encouraging and advicing me.
Same plays out in marriage, we dont always get all we want, so we need people to encourage us on ways to go about it and not always quitting, thats the job of counselors.

I dont slut shame women, men are even treated more badly in the society than women, a lot of men forgive unfaithful women and keep mute, to save her the shame due to the love they have for her, but women find it diffcult to cover, they always want the world to know their husbands shortcomings.

Learn to build your home and dont let pride scatter things.

I totally disagree with the second to the last paragraph. Men find it very difficult to forgive cheating women. In fact, it's a big blow to their ego. But a woman will keep staying to patch things up.

The man can not cut off totally from the woman does not mean he has to keep sleeping with her if truly he loves his wife. He told her that he would stop but a cheat cannot help himself.

I knew a doctor that worked in an HIV centre and he told me that most of the married women who had the disease contracted it from their husbands. That shook me and made me fear men who throw caution to the wind and cheat recklessly.

If a man keeps cheating that way, his love for his wife is questionable. How can someone love you and put you in danger? What is love? Definitely not what this man is showing.

Advise your sister to apply wisdom and not anger.

If she leaves, then her suffering will begin as she can't shoulder the financial burden alone. As a matter of fact, she doesn't have a source of income so she should strategize and sit down until she can boast of financial stability.

Don't encourage to leave except you want to add her responsibility to yours.

obiekunie01:


But why is your sister always checking her husbands phone??

you see the thing is, CHECKING YOUR PARTNERS PHONE IS LIKE PUTTING YOUR FINGER IN THE ANUS - IF YOU DON'T FIND SHIT, YOU WILL FIND MESS OR BOTH - AND YOU WILL NOT LIKE EITHER OF IT!

so for your peace of mind, AVOID CHECKING YOUR PARTNERS PHONES!

Your sister opened the door to breaking her home by checking her hubby's phone!

Why do you men like supporting evil? So how about the husband that started the home destruction first by cheating and getting another woman pregnant Would anything had happened if she checked the phone and saw nothing?