CR777:
My sister is a kind hearted girl, she's been this way since way back.

She gained admission into the university and the place she stays in lacks electricity as it is a village in anambra state, I had to get a solar for her to help her cope with charging her stuffs and also having an illuminated room.

Well, she made friends who are in the same department living in her lodge, at first, they only came to her to charge their phones and reading light and gist but it has now graduated to them eating up all her food whenever they come to her room to charge.
She called today asking me to help her with cash for food stuff, this is someone that went back to school barely two weeks ago with enough cash and food stuffs.

In this life, please try and keep good heart aside and stand up to people who see you as a mugu.

Please nairalanders, how can I advice her?
She needs a brain reset to understand that in life, one has to look out for oneself before others.

Tell her to change her her mind and be cold, it's another form of protection.

Allow her stay broke for the month....she'll learn the hard way. When she wakes up every morning come see say na only water de available, na den Oluwa Shocker go shock her

CR777:
My sister is a kind hearted girl, she's been this way since way back.

She gained admission into the university and the place she stays in lacks electricity as it is a village in anambra state, I had to get a solar for her to help her cope with charging her stuffs and also having an illuminated room.

Well, she made friends who are in the same department living in her lodge, at first, they only came to her to charge their phones and reading light and gist but it has now graduated to them eating up all her food whenever they come to her room to charge.
She called today asking me to help her with cash for food stuff, this is someone that went back to school barely two weeks ago with enough cash and food stuffs.

In this life, please try and keep good heart aside and stand up to people who see you as a mugu.

Please nairalanders, how can I advice her?
She needs a brain reset to understand that in life, one has to look out for oneself before others.

Give me her phone number. I need to put sense inside of her.

It happens

samtoles:


You must be mad!

I don't have your time but only want you to be free from the siege you are into. please don't be angry. Jesus bless you.

It's simple
Ask your sister how much she will need for foodstuffs every two weeks. Then put it down.
Every two weeks send the money. It's now left for her to plan well with the money.

CR777:


Good advice but it's kind of hard leaving my sister out there in the cold.
I wish she could toughen her heart a bit though.

Just ignore her 4 two days, then take your time to visit her in school and give her the warning of her life..... Tell her that love is reciprocal, if her friends must eat it her room, let it be that he has eaten in their rooms too

CR777:


See finishing, why are u this wicked bro?

I have tried to make my sis become a bit hard heartened than she currently is but it's in her nature to always want to help others even at her own detriment.

U no dey hear word o.
if u want her to be heartened allow her to face hardship for sometime,make her head reset.
my younger sis refuse to learn until d day dey gave me 15k to giv her i purposely squander it,after one month no body tell her to manage her stuff in sch and to cook only 4 her tommy not for congregation.
thats when she realize all the people coming can not even giv her 1 indomie to cook bt she go cook 4 share 4 people

mq jd

The first day I saw someone scooped Milo for tea at uni. I almost opened my big mouth. The Milo wasn't hers o. That was when I knew ai couldn't live in the hostel.

Sit her down and have a long talk with her, let her know it's ok to be nice but not to the extent of discomfort. Some real bro to sis talk, could be when out on lunch & don't be confrontational.
That's how we were nice to Buhari in 2015 now he is taking a deadly advantage of us.

Abeg wey your sister phone number make I fvck her she go get sense by force,


Abeg her breast big?

I hope say her toto no dey smell

Abeg try check the shape of her ass for me

Which university,lieyer

You can hardly do anything about it, its her personality, i experienced same, i kept saying i want to be tough, but till date i still have a soft heart.

My pain is when she lacks, all these parasites won't be there for her.

Just keep telling her to limit how she helps, more often, that can help.

CR777:
My sister is a kind hearted girl, she's been this way since way back.

She gained admission into the university and the place she stays in lacks electricity as it is a village in anambra state, I had to get a solar for her to help her cope with charging her stuffs and also having an illuminated room.

Well, she made friends who are in the same department living in her lodge, at first, they only came to her to charge their phones and reading light and gist but it has now graduated to them eating up all her food whenever they come to her room to charge.
She called today asking me to help her with cash for food stuff, this is someone that went back to school barely two weeks ago with enough cash and food stuffs.

In this life, please try and keep good heart aside and stand up to people who see you as a mugu.

Please nairalanders, how can I advice her?
She needs a brain reset to understand that in life, one has to look out for oneself before others.

What the F**king f**k
This life sha.. I'm one of the beneficiaries of your sister nh..So, nh you be her big bro Wer she dey always talk about.. oya send your sis money jor,
We nova Chop night food
MODIFIED..
The last time you sent us food.. you added cornflakes and golden morn but you didn't put milk.. Nd also we used to me 14 before and now, we're 20. Pls, our big bro. Increase your sister weekly allowance and add milk to her/our foodstuff.
Thank you

Bro na normal life she will adjust. Don't just force or talk her down or make her feel incapable. The 3 bedroom flat i shared with my brothers had everything. Then guys dey come get high eat chill even babes take turns to use the kitchen and cook our food. People use my house for parties, I done even catch one dey tell some babes say na him house and we dey squat. I had to fall his hands there and then My house was nicknamed Big brother's house.. So u supposed know how e go be. Give her time and let her grow but it doesn't mean u cant advise her but no pressure.

FuturelsFemale:

There is really nothing anyone can do.
She got a soft mind, so people like her always learn the hard way to harden their mind, that is the only way she can change. I[b] don't know why we blacks like taking advantage of good people, reason everyone is bad in this [/b]country. When u are good, they see u as a f00l. Quite sad.

It isn't a racial thing, even abroad, if you dull yourself, you will be bullied.. Simple

I still regret passing through naija university shiit.. Make I hear my kids school for naija..

CR777:
Please I need more ideas brothers and sisters.

GIve her something that is never enough for a specify period and ask her to manage like 5k 4 2wks

BinamRex:


First of all, I must commend your parents for raising such a good-natured and kind human being. However, you must advise her not to allow herself to be constantly taken advantage of. I had friends like that in school who took advantage of me. The moment I made it clear that it wasn't going to be business as usual, they all turned enemies. Your sister could make serious enemies of she doesn't handle this matter with wisdom.

If she has enough money, she should be eating outside. She should go to a restaurant and eat, come back home and sleep. If her foodstuffs finishes, she shouldn't restock. Tell her to always complain that she is broke when her friends are around. She should also visit her so-called friends and eat their food.

I have realized that you can never be good to people of this world.

I recently moved to a new state and my neighbour and a so-called friend wouldn't let me rest. They'd always come to eat my food. I just stopped opening the door when they came knocking. They'd knock for about 20 minutes, but I won't open up. They'd call me, it will ring but I won't pick up. They've stopped coming and my foodstuffs last for a long time.

I am a very generous person. God sees my heart. I don't have a problem feeding an entire community if I have more than enough, but I am struggling. I have been working for over six months but I haven't been able to save a dime. That's to show you how hard things are for me. I don't eat three square meals because I can not afford to. I certainly can't afford to feed others in my condition. I had to chase them away stylishly.

Your sister needs to apply wisdom.

Alot of wisdom in your comment.

CR777:


Good advice but it's kind of hard leaving my sister out there in the cold.
I wish she could toughen her heart a bit though.

if your are ready to toughen her, let hunger do the job for a week, let her realise you work for money too, tell her u will look for where to borrow and people have been turning u down. Then after SAPA has dealt with her, give her money and make her realise if mismanaged, its the end oo

That's minor thing just send her phone number to me i will help you reset her brain right from here and next time she will understand that no friend in jungle country like Nigeria

4dStreet:


What the F**king f**k
This life sha.. I'm one of the beneficiaries of your sister nh..So, nh you be her big bro Wer she dey always talk about.. oya send your sis money jor,
We nova Chop night food

Same problem I had. They took all my things. No remorse, no apology.

Tell her use what you have spread that kuchi

yomi007k:
My advice is that you leave her and let hungry beat her. Hunger dey reset brain connection you know.

CR777:
ore ideas.

Its not a harsh comment. When I get paid, I order more Uber Eats while at work, but when I am low on cash, I find out I can control myself more with buying food while at work.
Is the hunger different between both situations.

But he can also have a word with her on the jungle life is since she just left home

Please talk to her before she tastes D , because it would be worse.

Lol. Reminds me of my early days as a green eyed jambite then in Uniben.

In my case some guys from nearby room would constantly come to mine, asking for food and money, and I would always want to help out even to my detriment.

However I thank God for the wonderful roommates I had, who sensing my naiveness would come to my rescue. Honestly looking back, I for suffer if not for them.

Bro Matthew, Dr Osas wherever you guys are, may God continue to bless you!!

CR777:
My sister is a kind hearted girl, she's been this way since way back.

She gained admission into the university and the place she stays in lacks electricity as it is a village in anambra state, I had to get a solar for her to help her cope with charging her stuffs and also having an illuminated room.

Well, she made friends who are in the same department living in her lodge, at first, they only came to her to charge their phones and reading light and gist but it has now graduated to them eating up all her food whenever they come to her room to charge.
She called today asking me to help her with cash for food stuff, this is someone that went back to school barely two weeks ago with enough cash and food stuffs.

In this life, please try and keep good heart aside and stand up to people who see you as a mugu.

Please nairalanders, how can I advice her?
She needs a brain reset to understand that in life, one has to look out for oneself before others.

In my opinion..... She will learn some day
Try talk it out with her ....

Don’t deny here funds o gee
Na girl she be before she go enter streets dey distribute puna
Talk to her and advice her
Let her know things ain’t on the cheap

Ur sister na better idiot, sending premature children to school will result to this type of nonsense

Cuz they dont know what their parents or sponsors pass through to send the money.

I bet u she is not academically sound too, u want to displease urself to please others......they have left u behind oponu

She's not just kind hearted, she's probably young and immature and so can not really make a stand to day no to certain demands from friends. Over time, she will learn.

Paxxcarl:
Don’t deny here funds o gee
Na girl she be before she go enter streets dey distribute puna
Talk to her and advice her
Let her know things ain’t on the cheap

To her detriment, na d brother go marry am??