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TMTR:

Hello, good day ,

https://www.nairaland.com/4538476/want-adopt-child

y'all remember the thread I created back in 2018 ,well I did succeed adopting a child, I adopted her from a orphanage and I will say my experience during the process of adopting her was really difficult than I Imagined, first I was a single young guy not even in my mid twenties yet and I had tattoos and lil tjay and lil baby kind of hair styles (those familiar with them will know the kind of hair style I am talking about ) oh mhen the stereotyping was off the roof, what did they not say, is it been called a ritualist , mhen I was suffered by the abusive words that was unleashed on me by all those women but I didn't relent and finally after everything I succeeded,

At one point , I wanted to go with my mum at least to show that I had no ulterior motive but then again I thought to myself, you can do this on your own and I am glad I overcame.

I began the process in mid 2018 and it was not until it late 2018 that my application was granted, I then proceeded with the rest formalities and I took my daughter home, she was 3 when I adopted her .

The first thing I did when we got home was to change her wardrobe, I took her shopping and bought two big boxes filled with clothes and shoes, also bought some female toys and other stuffs.

She was shy at first around me but with time ,she got used to me and became more free with me.

Mehn I must say so far adopting her was one of the best decision I have ever made in my life , I even tattooed her name on my arm, made me more responble in a way

And also in addition, chicks dig babies, like babies are like ladies' magnet. I never believe those statements to be true till I got my baby, like mehn you need to see the attention I get because of her, I mean we get because of her.

Don't get me wrong, ladies trip and drool over me before she came into my life but the amount of attention I get before her more than doubled . Before y'all start thinking this is the major reason I am happy I adopted her , let it be known that this is the least reason why I am happy..

All-in all she is God's blessings to me and I bless the day that I made the decision in adopting her.

She is such an Angel and a darling

I love her so much

Fatherhood is sweet

TMTR:

Hello, good day ,

https://www.nairaland.com/4538476/want-adopt-child

y'all remember the thread I created back in 2018 ,well I did succeed adopting a child, I adopted her from a orphanage and I will say my experience during the process of adopting her was really difficult than I Imagined, first I was a single young guy not even in my mid twenties yet and I had tattoos and lil tjay and lil baby kind of hair styles (those familiar with them will know the kind of hair style I am talking about ) oh mhen the stereotyping was off the roof, what did they not say, is it been called a ritualist , mhen I was suffered by the abusive words that was unleashed on me by all those women but I didn't relent and finally after everything I succeeded,

At one point , I wanted to go with my mum at least to show that I had no ulterior motive but then again I thought to myself, you can do this on your own and I am glad I overcame.

I began the process in mid 2018 and it was not until it late 2018 that my application was granted, I then proceeded with the rest formalities and I took my daughter home, she was 3 when I adopted her .

The first thing I did when we got home was to change her wardrobe, I took her shopping and bought two big boxes filled with clothes and shoes, also bought some female toys and other stuffs.

She was shy at first around me but with time ,she got used to me and became more free with me.

Mehn I must say so far adopting her was one of the best decision I have ever made in my life , I even tattooed her name on my arm, made me more responble in a way

And also in addition, chicks dig babies, like babies are like ladies' magnet. I never believe those statements to be true till I got my baby, like mehn you need to see the attention I get because of her, I mean we get because of her.

Don't get me wrong, ladies trip and drool over me before she came into my life but the amount of attention I get before her more than doubled . Before y'all start thinking this is the major reason I am happy I adopted her , let it be known that this is the least reason why I am happy..

All-in all she is God's blessings to me and I bless the day that I made the decision in adopting her.

She is such an Angel and a darling

I love her so much

Fatherhood is sweet

If I may ask, why are you adopting a child as a single guy in his twenties?

Please advise me on the way to go about adopting a child in Imo state. I am very much interested.

TMTR:
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Hello, good day ,

https://www.nairaland.com/4538476/want-adopt-child

y'all remember the thread I created back in 2018 ,well I did succeed adopting a child, I adopted her from a orphanage and I will say my experience during the process of adopting her was really difficult than I Imagined, first I was a single young guy not even in my mid twenties yet and I had tattoos and lil tjay and lil baby kind of hair styles (those familiar with them will know the kind of hair style I am talking about ) oh mhen the stereotyping was off the roof, what did they not say, is it been called a ritualist , mhen I was suffered by the abusive words that was unleashed on me by all those women but I didn't relent and finally after everything I succeeded,

Awwwnnn, so lovely
Me, will prefer to adopt a white child though, lol
Abeg how the process be abroad, shey u have people there

oga which one be your own? that small girl now has a better life. you heard him saying they did there own research before giving him the baby. why must we castigate everything. Be happy for him and the girl. !!!!

greenie77:
Hmm....a bachelor who was not up to 25 years old, just a young adult being legally granted adoption of a child especially a female toddler by a State's Ministry of Social Welfare is so ODD!

greenie77:
Hmm....a bachelor who was not up to 25 years old, just a young adult being legally granted adoption of a child especially a female toddler by a State's Ministry of Social Welfare is so ODD!

Very odd and I doubt it would be granted in civilised society in this day and age.

WoundedLamb:
Getting married is a choice and if you don't want to, it's perfectly okay. However, whatever you do, don't be a wayward father. The child's self esteem will stem from how you treat women. Let her know that there's more to life that being a good wife. Tell her that regardless of her gender, she can be anything she wants to be in life. Tell her that it's not cool to refer to women as "bitches", "vagina people" or "that gender" cause they are human as we are. Tell her to always voice her opinion even in a society where it doesn't seem to count. Tell her to look beyond the stigmatization of Nigerian girls and pursue her dreams head-on. Tell her to be careful with the boy child but know that he's not an enemy.

Teacher well done o... Na this adoption go win am o.. I no go fit carry all these Virginia people when dey find property when them no work for ,to share with person o.. All in d name of divorce.. Adoption is where I think peace of mind go dey pass.. After all na d pikin make person dey reason marriage before.. No be love,cux now adays girls don't know what is love,they are after money and property..

Who gave final approval for a single guy to adopt a female child?

StPete:
It is not only by fvcking, that's why he has the capability to take care of the child. Why not do it to his own blood. I must say that I fear for that child while growing up cos the OP knows she's not his own blood so what if he starts getting sexually attracted to her

see wetin person dey think

Mindlog:
I will want to believe children within the custody of registered orphanages in Nigeria are expected to have their details lodged in a family courts and when there is a request for adoption, officials from the state ministry responsible, their social workers and the family courts get involved.

The magistrate is the one who gives final order for the release of the child to the adoptive parent/parents, which is a long and windy process but in Nigeria, some orphanages are into runs.

Accross the world, there is a huge skepticism when it comes to a single male wanting to adopt a girl child as it is usually rejected, the psychologists involved in the process usually do not approve such an arrangement as the request is usually met with raised eyebrows.

It is not just an issue of having a dirty mind or not but the most important thing is how it will help the child to be exposed to less risks and adjust better in life, going forward.

Good morning.

You know the picture you shared is almost useless without context, right? No heading, no link, nothing, just a subsection of a text that could be from anywhere. Please, guide us. Thanks.

Meanwhile, I believe if the OP followed the required steps, I see no issue here. Don't get me wrong, the skepticism is well understood. For example, the OP is barely an adult himself. He still goes around saying things like "leave bitches, "simp", "Bleep them", etc. Things fathers - especially those with daughters - shouldn't say. But that's not a deal breaker nevertheless. Even some married fathers still behave this way. Raised eyebrows shouldn't also be a problem provided there's eventually nothing suspicious found on the man's part. In Nigeria, single or not, people are generally skeptical about the entire adoption thing anyway.

As for the rest of the world, laws vary but many allow it and it has become even normal in some countries. In Canada, single men adopt kids often including gay people. In the US, it has been legal for long but used to be uncommon back then. Now, it's also very common. I know it's not easy to tell someone not to make thier kids but settle for adoption. But those who can do this should be encouraged. There are millions of kids out there looking for a place to call home. Let's just hope the authorities did thier assignment well.

Kudos to you for the love of humanity, I'll do that too already have that in mind, but my mom don't want that but she's not in the position to tell me what to do when I'm on my own

Is this post REAL.

I would love to meet this Poster and give him a hug.

He has such a good heart for thinking of doing such.

Giving a little girl without parents a place to call home and family is a great gift.

God bless you Poster.

I went to primary school with children from "Little Saints Orphanage", Lagos and I built a good relationship with the kids. We were all calssmates. I see their struggle. I see their pain. It's not easy growing up without a Parent. I made them my friends. We tried to make them feel good. I loved them and showed them love. I was always happy anytime I'm Selected by my Primary School to go and sing for them on their Anniversary every July.

Then when I was 13yrs old, tragedy struck, my father died right in front of me. I was the only one at home when it happened. Very traumatic. I then knew what they were passing through. All well and good, God has been faithful. Being raised by a Single Mother and to God be the glory, here I am.

The good aspect of it all is that myself and most of those wonderful "Little Saints", now "Big Saints" reconnected on Facebook and still talk often.

May God grant this Poster the financial resources and Wisdom to raise a child.

In all, Let Love Lead.
That is God's Greatest and Singular Commandments

deekseen:
Relax Kobo. It has nothing to do with your sarcasm. I think the op understands my point from one perspective - having a female play a very prominent role in her life.

The other is psychological. It may affect the baby a little while growing up, but she may easily get over it when she's mature enough.


Were you raised in a one-parent home? Or
were you adopted? You'll never understand the psychological part if you were not.

All in all, I think op is a good man and means very well for her.

IS there any thing wrong with a child raised by a single parent, I mean psychologically

TMTR:
[color=#000099]Lol, I was expecting a comment like this and I wasn't disappointed, like I said in my earlier thread,
'I no fit for baby mama wahala'

Well I considered that option but I thought about it and was like nah, maybe later in the future but definitely not now.

And about my thing not working hahaha
Bring ya sister to come spend a night with me, she go testify give you in the morning about the marvelous work of my thing [/c noolor]

Lol I will follow your footprint and adopt a child, to marry a leach they fear me so much, my only problem is family pressure

WoundedLamb:
Getting married is a choice and if you don't want to, it's perfectly okay. However, whatever you do, don't be a wayward father. The child's self esteem will stem from how you treat women. Let her know that there's more to life that being a good wife. Tell her that regardless of her gender, she can be anything she wants to be in life. Tell her that it's not cool to refer to women as "bitches", "vagina people" or "that gender" cause they are human as we are. Tell her to always voice her opinion even in a society where it doesn't seem to count. Tell her to look beyond the stigmatization of Nigerian girls and pursue her dreams head-on. Tell her to be careful with the boy child but know that he's not an enemy.

You are writing such to someone whose signature is: "Chase a cheque, never chase a bitch"?

TMTR is on an ulterior motive. It was a big mistake for the orphanage to allow him to adopt a female child as a lad in his mid-20s.

TMTR:

Hello, good day ,

https://www.nairaland.com/4538476/want-adopt-child

y'all remember the thread I created back in 2018 ,well I did succeed adopting a child, I adopted her from a orphanage and I will say my experience during the process of adopting her was really difficult than I Imagined, first I was a single young guy not even in my mid twenties yet and I had tattoos and lil tjay and lil baby kind of hair styles (those familiar with them will know the kind of hair style I am talking about ) oh mhen the stereotyping was off the roof, what did they not say, is it been called a ritualist , mhen I was suffered by the abusive words that was unleashed on me by all those women but I didn't relent and finally after everything I succeeded,

At one point , I wanted to go with my mum at least to show that I had no ulterior motive but then again I thought to myself, you can do this on your own and I am glad I overcame.

I began the process in mid 2018 and it was not until it late 2018 that my application was granted, I then proceeded with the rest formalities and I took my daughter home, she was 3 when I adopted her .

The first thing I did when we got home was to change her wardrobe, I took her shopping and bought two big boxes filled with clothes and shoes, also bought some female toys and other stuffs.

She was shy at first around me but with time ,she got used to me and became more free with me.

Mehn I must say so far adopting her was one of the best decision I have ever made in my life , I even tattooed her name on my arm, made me more responble in a way

And also in addition, chicks dig babies, like babies are like ladies' magnet. I never believe those statements to be true till I got my baby, like mehn you need to see the attention I get because of her, I mean we get because of her.

Don't get me wrong, ladies trip and drool over me before she came into my life but the amount of attention I get before her more than doubled . Before y'all start thinking this is the major reason I am happy I adopted her , let it be known that this is the least reason why I am happy..

All-in all she is God's blessings to me and I bless the day that I made the decision in adopting her.

She is such an Angel and a darling

I love her so much

Fatherhood is sweet

Nice one.
If everyone out there who is comfortable financially go out today to adopt a child from the orphanage or even pay for their upkeep if you don't want to take them home, it will go a long way to make our society a better place.

Thanks bro.

Gerrard59:
You are writing such to someone whose signature is: "Chase a cheque, never chase a bitch"?

TMTR is on an ulterior motive. It was a big mistake for the orphanage to allow him to adopt a female child as a lad in his mid-20s.

I saw the sig. That was actually what prompted me to drop him that message. Lol.

Let's just hope his intentions aren't malicious. There's no need to think the worst.

Kobicove:
Who gave final approval for a single guy to adopt a female child?

Three years ago when questioned about his reason for adopting a female child, he mentioned the love of humanity as one of his reasons. The Nlder suggested volunteering at an orphanage which he replied "he rarely has time for himself....". How then should we expect such a person to have time to properly raise a three-year-old girl?! Remember, he is in his mid-20s.

Why don't you volunteer at an orphage home first, if bonding with a child and rendering a service to humanity are what you're after?

TMTR:
I rarely have time for myself not to talk of having the time to volunteer at an orphanage home that's why I want to adopt.

Let's not forget that OP did not outline the process involved (his state of residence can be left out) in the thread and even when asked, he did not respond to their questions.

Reading comments alone makes me curse Nigeria politicians. They've stolen the destiny of some youth such that they think only negative first before appreciating OP for the kind thing he's done for his lovely daughter he adopted.
OP you did a great job. God bless you.
Haters please change the way you think. There are so many good people out there. I'm sure when you begin to see things that way, good things will begin to come your way too.

So its okay for women to adopt kids but a guy can't because he will molest them abi. bloody hypocrites. because women don't sexually abuse children.
women don't maltreat children. who are the people involved in child trafficking? women

You don't know what you've done now until she become and adult...God bless every responsible father

EgunMogaji2:
Very odd and I doubt it would be granted in civilised society in this day and age.

But gays can adopt n raise kids in 'civilised society' in this day and age.

Later we come dey hear news say one guy don adopt small girl, come turn her to his Mistress

TMTR:
You are almost correct but I don't really see myself as a religious person like I haven't been to church for years now, I just believe that there is a God somewhere and say my prayers every morning.

I rarely go to church but when I do it's definitely Jehovah's witness because my spirit aligns with their teachings like this is how Christianity is to be and practiced but let's not go into all that now.

I am not going to force any religion on my daughter, my parents didn't force one on me. They allowed me to choose my path same way I am going to allow my daughter choose her path.

In a nutshell, I don't really fancy religion

What is the disadvantage of teaching her to be a Christian?

BigYash:
Teacher well done o... Na this adoption go win am o.. I no go fit carry all these Virginia people when dey find property when them no work for ,to share with person o.. All in d name of divorce.. Adoption is where I think peace of mind go dey pass.. After all na d pikin make person dey reason marriage before.. No be love,cux now adays girls don't know what is love,they are after money and property..

But why a female as a single guy?

What's her name? I don't even know why I'm asking but I felt you should have included it at least. I also plan to do the same soon as I have enough money

TMTR:

Hello, good day ,

https://www.nairaland.com/4538476/want-adopt-child

y'all remember the thread I created back in 2018 ,well I did succeed adopting a child, I adopted her from a orphanage and I will say my experience during the process of adopting her was really difficult than I Imagined, first I was a single young guy not even in my mid twenties yet and I had tattoos and lil tjay and lil baby kind of hair styles (those familiar with them will know the kind of hair style I am talking about ) oh mhen the stereotyping was off the roof, what did they not say, is it been called a ritualist , mhen I was suffered by the abusive words that was unleashed on me by all those women but I didn't relent and finally after everything I succeeded,

At one point , I wanted to go with my mum at least to show that I had no ulterior motive but then again I thought to myself, you can do this on your own and I am glad I overcame.

I began the process in mid 2018 and it was not until it late 2018 that my application was granted, I then proceeded with the rest formalities and I took my daughter home, she was 3 when I adopted her .

The first thing I did when we got home was to change her wardrobe, I took her shopping and bought two big boxes filled with clothes and shoes, also bought some female toys and other stuffs.

She was shy at first around me but with time ,she got used to me and became more free with me.

Mehn I must say so far adopting her was one of the best decision I have ever made in my life , I even tattooed her name on my arm, made me more responble in a way

And also in addition, chicks dig babies, like babies are like ladies' magnet. I never believe those statements to be true till I got my baby, like mehn you need to see the attention I get because of her, I mean we get because of her.

Don't get me wrong, ladies trip and drool over me before she came into my life but the amount of attention I get before her more than doubled . Before y'all start thinking this is the major reason I am happy I adopted her , let it be known that this is the least reason why I am happy..

All-in all she is God's blessings to me and I bless the day that I made the decision in adopting her.

She is such an Angel and a darling

I love her so much

Fatherhood is sweet

TMTR:
Well I don't really blame you, I blame the fúked up world that we live in that views every action someone takes no matter how selfless suspiciously and then again age is just a numerical figure, doesn't really mean shít, cause I have seen people in their fifties and above that behave like kids , very immature and I have seen 20 years old that behave very very mature, that if they don't tell you their age, you would think that they are very advanced in age .

So I like said earlier age is just a number and don't mean shít and there is nothing more to it other than someone that just loves children and loves being around children

Stop overthinking it

Op I want to know. How did your parents swallow this? and your relatives as well?

F*ck family pressure...I've already told my parents they shouldn't expect any wife or biological child from me at least they have 2 other boys that will give them more than enough grand children...hope you're not an only child sha

Hassanmaye:
Lol I will follow your footprint and adopt a child, to marry a leach they fear me so much, my only problem is family pressure

You pulled off something that's almost considered impossible in the Nigeria of today..
God bless u..
Growing up I have always told myself I would adopt a child aside having my own kids....
Na finances never push me go do am oo.
But I'll surely do it when the time is right..
If I were to be in Nigeria, I would have just asked the procedure u went thru and follow suit..
Anyways once again, God bless you for that act of kindness..
You will eventually find a good woman who will give u peace of mind..
Shalom!

TMTR:
Lol, I am not sure if I am ever going to get married , but I know where you are coming from, my younger sister is so fond of her, she spends school holidays with her abroad so she is covered so don't worry.

I related psychologically with your write up and replies to critics and I adore your ability to imbibe fundamental principles of simplicity of life. God bless you man.