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Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by baby124: 1:49am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Marry who makes you happy. Lots of you had single mum’s as grand mothers and mum’s. Those ones in pOlygamous marriages or with irresponsible husbands were also as good as single mum’s. Lots had to get men who could help carry their baggage, which was you. Seems like OP is not convinced about his own decision. |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by AutoChick4U(f): 1:49am On Sep 10, 2021 |
NaijirianKing:74 percent? Hope you know many of them use babymamaism to cash out so they not really concerned about walking down any isle 1 Like |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by MrNipplesLover(m): 1:51am On Sep 10, 2021 |
All single mothers, accept my SIMPathy De empathy. However, none of you should bounce on guys if they refuse to marry you. Y'all brought this upon yourselves. While it is understandable that many of you are very good, the fact that you can make life a living hell for any man who takes you and your baby, which I know y'all agree cos it is what it is, y'all gotta live with it, life goes on. Do not blame men for refusing you, live your life on your own and be happy. 15 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by AutoChick4U(f): 1:53am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Terrier99:Messed up mentality though. |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Terrier99: 1:54am On Sep 10, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1: Marry one and come back to tell us how far. All these your theories will not fly. If you don't, you're the greatest of all hypocrites. 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Terrier99: 1:55am On Sep 10, 2021 |
AutoChick4U: Single mums don't tolerate it when their husbands beat their children. That is when they will tell you not to beat "my" child. 10 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 1:55am On Sep 10, 2021 |
AfroKnight: as this isnt a normal r/ship, you must adapt to its circumstanmces. if you treat her child right, no woman will say anything about it... just like if you treat a woman right, none would say anything about it either... but the minute you dod anything that they may see as against their values, let this woman let you know (and there is nothing wrong with that). now put yourself in this woman's position...lets say you were a single/widowed father raising a child on your own, then you meet a new woman that raises your child differently than how you would want that child to be raised, what would you therefore do?! would that be so wrong for you to let her know that you are against how she raises your child? Don’t misunderstand me. I do not frown upon them. I just don’t prefer them. I don’t treat them any less than other humans. But my decision not to date them is seen as offensive by women. Why? It should not be so. Plus I particularly dislike the fact that some of them withhold the information that they are single mothers until they feel you are committed to the relationship. They should tell me upfront so I can move on to the next person instead of wasting time. frown upon, dislike, are against etc...different words, same meaning. bro, come on, you are making it seem that when you just meet a woman, you automatically tell her about your flaws/weaknesses/fears etc, lol! we ALL do what these single women are doing, aka put our best forward and hide the rest the best we can! its called LIFE! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 1:59am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Terrier99: we are here having a mature discussion and sharing of opinion... the above would be as silly as telling me to go catch HIV because we discuss HIV+ issues... or better yet, to go be gay or lesbian because i have an opinion on gay/lesbian people. thats not very intelligent nor productive, is it?! now open your mind and instead assume that i am a single father... |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by AutoChick4U(f): 2:02am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Terrier99:Won't she birth for d husband? You simply concentrating on d negatives. |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by AutoChick4U(f): 2:04am On Sep 10, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1:Jay no mind some of these people abeg. People should be with who give them peace of mind. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by AutoChick4U(f): 2:07am On Sep 10, 2021 |
AfroKnight:Well, you never truly liked her anyways. Did she ask you to take responsibility of her kid? That's why I like oyibos, very open minded |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by moshino(m): 2:07am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Davash222: How did you calculate and arrive at "99.7536%"? 1 Like |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Suspect33(m): 2:10am On Sep 10, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1:is this how low our moral values have sunk that fornication is no longer an issue or frowned upon? This generation will destroy itself 4 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 2:11am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Suspect33: there has been premarital sex and fornication (as well as single mothers) since biblical days.... which generation exactly are you talking about?! 2 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by lawkenoz(m): 2:12am On Sep 10, 2021 |
AfroKnight: Bro you are very on point....take it from someone talking from experience....it's emotionally draining and damn complicated to date them. The majority who have tried have the same story that's evidence enough by itself. You scenario was exactly my experience, she hid the kids existence from me cuz we were in separate countries. I only got to find out months later after we got serious. When asked of the kids father you can guess the response she gave....same line you Typed in the original post.....this women never disappoint like clockwork! I said okay not bad, lemme try getting to know the kid and make it work. I live in the same country with her parents so her mom brought the kid over and I went visiting to get to know the parents and my prospective step child. Everything went well, I loved the kid even discussed a formal adoption for the child after the nuptials since the father in her words abandoned it. Few months to the engagement and set date for return to naija to conclude the traditional rites, Babe went AWOL. Stopped picking my calls, her parents as well. There was no way I could reach her, plus I couldn't just travel to her location due to I Being in a different continent and my job demand. To Cut the long story short, I had a friend who stays I. The same country to help me check up on them, turns out baby daddy showed up, somehow they made up and had a short lived rekindled love affair. I was seriously vexed but what could a brother do. Madam just ghosted me. I had to let it go ultimately. Now here comes the interesting part, the baby daddy knocked her up with twins and vanishes again. 3 months to her EDD and 4 to my wedding she calls me up out of the blue and starts pontificating. Sounds like a movie but I was living it in real time. Single moms? Hell no to any young single man. If you don't love drama stay far away. 35 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by moshino(m): 2:12am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Romanoff: I take it you haven't heard about condoms and birth control pills. 5 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by AutoChick4U(f): 2:13am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Terrier99:Why u go wan Beat her kid? Is it that you dragging to come first before her kids? Can't you share in d affection? Must it be a competition? |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by joe4christ(m): 2:16am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Romanoff: So. What are u actually saying. Cos it seems I'm finding it rather difficult to grasp your caprison. U dey cap rather vertically. So, make we no do the do abi? We should go celibate abi. Do u actually think everyone is of low libido like you. We are all wired differently. Sex might not be a big deal for you. But put into consideration billions of people out there whose libido is rather on the higher side. What would u have them do. Castrate themselves The world is way bigger and vast, so much that what u deem as morally wrong here might actually be a norm somewhere. This is why the "holy book" said "Don't judge"... 3 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by biggie73(m): 2:17am On Sep 10, 2021 |
For me, I won't take care of another man's kiddo. Let everyone be responsible enough for his or her kiddo. I was trying to date one sometimes ago. Barely after 3 calls, she was asking me for her son's tuition to the University as if I was the father. Anyway to call the crazy story short, I told her to go resolve her issues with her baby-daddy. 14 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by AutoChick4U(f): 2:18am On Sep 10, 2021 |
lawkenoz:Now this is where communication is very important. A single mom who still sees, talks to d baby daddy is a suspect. Besides the lady in this your story is a very dumb fvck. Many single moms are not in contact with their baby fathers and managing alone just like me. Theres minus zero possibility of such happening in my case anyways |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Suspect33(m): 2:19am On Sep 10, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1:we've made it a norm which was never the case with the previous generations, sexual immorality is no longer frowned upon, people now engage in sexual acts without any iota of shame, this generation will destroy itself |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by VULCAN(m): 2:20am On Sep 10, 2021 |
It's rather irritating when a person who "can't see where the problem is" believes that means there is no problem or those who see the problem are in the wrong. Such illogicality. What manner of arrogance is that sef? MrBrownJay1: |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 2:26am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Suspect33: abeg, go back in history to understand that such act has always been a norm... read your holybook to see countless highly respected men of that said book indulging in what you call "immorality" with countless babymamas and mistresses. who are we kidding here? people are only adapting to the world we live in today... 1 Like |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by daddytime(m): 2:29am On Sep 10, 2021 |
BRATISLAVA: A smart and well-deserved knell on this confabulated tori 1 Like |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 2:30am On Sep 10, 2021 |
VULCAN: stop assuming what you dont understand... just because i dont see where the problem is doesnt mean i dont understand why the OP feels the way he does... nor am i saying that the OP is wrong in thinking the way he does. i am just giving him MY OPINION, like any adults would while having an intelligent discussion. |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by AutoChick4U(f): 2:38am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Mary the Mother of Jesus was even Pregnant and Joseph sha Married her. Whether na man or holy spirit impregnate am is irrelevant. How many men today would give their love to a pregnant lady |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by babyfaceafrica: 2:55am On Sep 10, 2021 |
lawkenoz:she is shameless |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by babyfaceafrica: 2:57am On Sep 10, 2021 |
AutoChick4U:You can't blame them, why should i ignore a new car for used car 7 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by babyfaceafrica: 3:00am On Sep 10, 2021 |
AutoChick4U:This pretty hard, because anytime the father wants to see his child, you won't deny him. So it's really complicated 7 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by TheGidRedpiller(m): 3:43am On Sep 10, 2021 |
techWriter1:We shall triumph! 1 Like |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by ozuone(m): 3:58am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Apart from death of spouse.. most single mothers will quote the father of her child as Irresponsible just to be spiteful because she herself must be very Irresponsible. The way she took the baby from the previous baby daddy is the same way she will take your own baby and run and will call you Irresponsible.. Infact single mothers prefer a widower or maybe someone with reproduction wahala because they don't want any competition. He child will come first in your property before your biological children. Not all single.mothers are bad . But apart from issues like domestic violence or death of spouse. Its a no go area AfroKnight: 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by kingreign(m): 4:05am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Kamovi:Talk price joor |
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