zedegit:
I've been thinking lately cos I am the type of person that loves his space.
I don't like sharing my things; I want my things to be as I kept them.

I am sensitive to words and very temperamental. I am like a volcano waiting to erupt anytime.

I hate being manipulated. I hate the entitlement mentality of some women.

I am an introvert and don't like crowd. I can stay indoors for a month or more as long as I got food, water, a charged phone with subscription. I go out for work and other essential duties.

They say every man got his type of woman. Do you think there's a woman that can match my temperaments?

NB: I respond well when a lady is good with sooting words and avoids arguments.
I love intimacy too although I'm not the romantic type but I can be generous if money is there.

I think the temperament is choleric.

Bros please lemme give you my candid advise. Look for ways to practice being accomodative, pray about it as prayers with patience do work. and work towards changing, maybe start copying someone you know that is your direct opposite. Now, you likely will not change 100%, and no, you cant get your type this way. Why i talk so? I got an elder half brother who is just like you. I saw his face again just yesterday on whatsap after so many years and the guy looks like a hundred years old. no wife, no kids. Afraid catch me nah. He is currently trying to hook back up with his ex wife. They only separated, i think. Maybe one other thing you can do is discuss your bettered situation with your prospect and see if having separate rooms in the eventuality that you get married will help. So that your personal effects are the way you want them in your room and she got her stuff in her room too, that way the only things you get to share and allow to scatter is the kitchen and living room, for that, you probably would have already discussed it with her before entering marriage that you like to always see the kitchen and living room in order. After that preper your mind to always see it upsidedown and even if thats what happens guy, arrange the place back by yourself without raising your voice or showing anger. And still keep in mind that it will not always be spec and span. Like yoi some people ate the opposite, they dont see anything wrong with changing the position of stuff around the house, theh are wired that way. all you need do is ask. If all this and more advice from professionals is not doable by you, then dont go close to relationships or marriage o cos it means you will always be angry and heaven go far from you oo. Peace.

femi4:
You ve not found the one. When you do, you ll break all protocols

All I can say is suck it up. Be fluid as water. Adapt to every new space.

t. Master Yoda

zedegit:
I've been thinking lately cos I am the type of person that loves his space.
I don't like sharing my things; I want my things to be as I kept them.

I am sensitive to words and very temperamental. I am like a volcano waiting to erupt anytime.

I hate being manipulated. I hate the entitlement mentality of some women.

I am an introvert and don't like crowd. I can stay indoors for a month or more as long as I got food, water, a charged phone with subscription. I go out for work and other essential duties.

They say every man got his type of woman. Do you think there's a woman that can match my temperaments?

NB: I respond well when a lady is good with sooting words and avoids arguments.
I love intimacy too although I'm not the romantic type but I can be generous if money is there.

I think the temperament is choleric.

How old are you?

SeriouslySense:
We can certainly control our temperaments, one just has to train oneself.
I always studied my traits to improve on them, certainly know myself and my weaknesses, i don't even like how i was before in been temperamental, also i have come to appreciate sharing, sharing also creates bonds.

I believe you can do so much better, it may depend on your end goals, and your persistence, don't let anyone tell you what you can be or cannot be, reach out, we will make mistakes but we also learn.

I agree that we can improve on what we are. Be better as we mature. Be more sensitive, and more tolerant of other people as we age.
However, this OP declared himself 'a volcano waiting to erupt'. He has declared himself temperamental and very unwilling to share his personal space, his time or his resources, and did not display a willingness to change or improve.
No need to encourage him to marry anyone. Being alone suits him.

Kobojunkie:
I disagree.... marriage does not change people, it simply sheds a clearer light on our true selves at the point of entry info marriage.

If a person does not change willingly, no amount of gloss can make that happen.

Very true!

Richy4:

There are some one out there for you buddy..all u have to do is communicate with her during courtship your likes and dislikes without pretense..

as for home management, all u have to do is get enough rooms say 2 bedrooms that have a connecting doors to each room.. one for you and one for your spouse.. anytime u want to meet, u go to her room or she come to yours so that she won't disturb your carefully planned life

As for having kids, I don't know how you will do or manage that considering your temperament.. Those bundle of joy sure knows how to bring out the best in every parent

Since you're an introvert, u also have to get a room known as your 'safe haven' oyibo call it study room ..(but it was all lies, they are not studying anything there it's a place to run into to avoid certain things.). they will tell their kids from onset that whenever daddy is there, no disturbance, no entry.. .. Carefully planned life requires money bro..

You dey live your name bros, the mama wey come travel to come spend the weekend for my crib done realise by herself sai she no suppose disturb when I dey my desk for house.

zedegit:
I've been thinking lately cos I am the type of person that loves his space.
I don't like sharing my things; I want my things to be as I kept them.

I am sensitive to words and very temperamental. I am like a volcano waiting to erupt anytime.

I hate being manipulated. I hate the entitlement mentality of some women.

I am an introvert and don't like crowd. I can stay indoors for a month or more as long as I got food, water, a charged phone with subscription. I go out for work and other essential duties.

They say every man got his type of woman. Do you think there's a woman that can match my temperaments?

NB: I respond well when a lady is good with sooting words and avoids arguments.
I love intimacy too although I'm not the romantic type but I can be generous if money is there.

I think the temperament is choleric.

It's always good to be tolerant and accept other people the way they are. Nobody is perfect man. Loneliness will force to marry. Loneliness kills faster than anything.

zedegit:


I'll pass. I actually need help.

Very good reply

Olufemiolaolu:
It's always good to be tolerant and accept other people the way they are. Nobody is perfect man. Loneliness will force to marry. Loneliness kills faster than anything.

Yeah, being alone kills faster than bad marriage.

faithfull18:
Hmmn, there are females like this oh.

Are you like the op?

zedegit:
I've been thinking lately cos I am the type of person that loves his space.
I don't like sharing my things; I want my things to be as I kept them.

I am sensitive to words and very temperamental. I am like a volcano waiting to erupt anytime.

I hate being manipulated. I hate the entitlement mentality of some women.

I am an introvert and don't like crowd. I can stay indoors for a month or more as long as I got food, water, a charged phone with subscription. I go out for work and other essential duties.

They say every man got his type of woman. Do you think there's a woman that can match my temperaments?

NB: I respond well when a lady is good with sooting words and avoids arguments.
I love intimacy too although I'm not the romantic type but I can be generous if money is there.

I think the temperament is choleric.

Do contract marriage, our personalities are similar but I don’t get angry easily. I could give you 99 chances but when I erupt it’s OVER

MrBrownJay1:


are you saying that everyone should get married, regardless of who they are (and/or that only immature people dont get married)?

By the very principles of God's purpose for humans, every man and woman is expected to marry and reproduce. Secondly marriage is not meant for immature in heart, that's why it is important for one to be matured (grow up and have full understanding of tolerance and self-worth of another person as yourself) before you can venture into marriage

zedegit:
I've been thinking lately cos I am the type of person that loves his space.
I don't like sharing my things; I want my things to be as I kept them.

I am sensitive to words and very temperamental. I am like a volcano waiting to erupt anytime.

I hate being manipulated. I hate the entitlement mentality of some women.

I am an introvert and don't like crowd. I can stay indoors for a month or more as long as I got food, water, a charged phone with subscription. I go out for work and other essential duties.

They say every man got his type of woman. Do you think there's a woman that can match my temperaments?

NB: I respond well when a lady is good with sooting words and avoids arguments.
I love intimacy too although I'm not the romantic type but I can be generous if money is there.

I think the temperament is choleric.

You are not really a choleric, might be a 50-50 melancholic-choleric. Nonetheless you need a phlegmatic-major as a wife. You might get irritated with a sanguine-major wife. Marrying melancholic wife will be time bomb for your marriage ... lots of grudges and victimizations.. A choleric wife will be a daily war.

zedegit:
I've been thinking lately cos I am the type of person that loves his space.
I don't like sharing my things; I want my things to be as I kept them.

I am sensitive to words and very temperamental. I am like a volcano waiting to erupt anytime.

I hate being manipulated. I hate the entitlement mentality of some women.

I am an introvert and don't like crowd. I can stay indoors for a month or more as long as I got food, water, a charged phone with subscription. I go out for work and other essential duties.

They say every man got his type of woman. Do you think there's a woman that can match my temperaments?

NB: I respond well when a lady is good with sooting words and avoids arguments.
I love intimacy too although I'm not the romantic type but I can be generous if money is there.

I think the temperament is choleric.

Its ok not to get married .Jesus ,Oprah ,Leonardo DiCaprio ,Tyra Banks ,Matthew Perry etc are famous people who never got married.

No!

zedegit:
I've been thinking lately cos I am the type of person that loves his space.
I don't like sharing my things; I want my things to be as I kept them.

I am sensitive to words and very temperamental. I am like a volcano waiting to erupt anytime.

I hate being manipulated. I hate the entitlement mentality of some women.

I am an introvert and don't like crowd. I can stay indoors for a month or more as long as I got food, water, a charged phone with subscription. I go out for work and other essential duties.

They say every man got his type of woman. Do you think there's a woman that can match my temperaments?

NB: I respond well when a lady is good with sooting words and avoids arguments.
I love intimacy too although I'm not the romantic type but I can be generous if money is there.

I think the temperament is choleric.

A candidate for the hermits.

zedegit:
I've been thinking lately cos I am the type of person that loves his space.
I don't like sharing my things; I want my things to be as I kept them.

I am sensitive to words and very temperamental. I am like a volcano waiting to erupt anytime.

I hate being manipulated. I hate the entitlement mentality of some women.

I am an introvert and don't like crowd. I can stay indoors for a month or more as long as I got food, water, a charged phone with subscription. I go out for work and other essential duties.

They say every man got his type of woman. Do you think there's a woman that can match my temperaments?

NB: I respond well when a lady is good with sooting words and avoids arguments.
I love intimacy too although I'm not the romantic type but I can be generous if money is there.

I think the temperament is choleric.

/
Things may change as you mature.
But if you feel that marriage is not for you, then stay away from it before it ends in premium tears like it did to those who tried to conform to societal norms.
/

Kobojunkie:
1. In marriage, two become one and so what is yours becomes her's as well. If you are not ready for that, you are not mature for marriage.

2. If you cannot die to your ego and accept that the woman's voice and opinion is of equal importance as yours in the marriage, you are not mature for marriage...not ready.

3. Being an introvert is not a problem but are you ready to be in doors 24/7 with someone probably always there with you?

4. Women are not blow up dolls. They are human beings just like you and so you think of every... consider how finicky you are, a woman can also be that way too. So if you choose to remain selfish and self-centered, then you are not mature for marriage ...not ready.

What's this nonsense maturity you're talking about.
Just say you don't have ba reasonable answer for him instead of blabbing about maturity?

I hope maturity here doesn't relate much with age?

Not too good though. But that's the real you. But seriously you need to adjust. out cant be in this world alone. We all need somebody.

Your matter na small case, you have not seen whom to love, bet me you will be the one begging her to share whatever you think you have. Just an intelligent lady with beauty, then you see power of love and affection, and see yourself begging her to stay with you forever.
Every man has a match in woman, you will soon meet yours

zedegit:
I've been thinking lately cos I am the type of person that loves his space.
I don't like sharing my things; I want my things to be as I kept them.

I am sensitive to words and very temperamental. I am like a volcano waiting to erupt anytime.

I hate being manipulated. I hate the entitlement mentality of some women.

I am an introvert and don't like crowd. I can stay indoors for a month or more as long as I got food, water, a charged phone with subscription. I go out for work and other essential duties.

They say every man got his type of woman. Do you think there's a woman that can match my temperaments?

NB: I respond well when a lady is good with sooting words and avoids arguments.
I love intimacy too although I'm not the romantic type but I can be generous if money is there.

I think the temperament is choleric.

.
How old are you?

[quote author=zedegit post=106016428] I've been thinking lately cos I am the type of person that loves his space.
I don't like sharing my things; I want my things to be as I kept them.

I am sensitive to words and very temperamental. I am like a volcano waiting to erupt anytime.

I hate being manipulated. I hate the entitlement mentality of some women.


I[b] am an introvert and don't like crowd. I can stay indoors for a month or more as long as I got food, water, a charged phone with subscription. I go out for work and other essential duties. [/b]

They say every man got his type of woman. Do you think there's a woman that can match my temperaments?

NB: I respond well when a lady is good with sooting words and avoids arguments.
I love intimacy too although I'm not the romantic type but I can be generous if money is there.

I think the temperament is choleric.[/quote]



You cant be an introvert and be a choleric. Your temperament should be melancholy. It is better you marry a melancholy and an introvert like you. Extrovert like San and Chlo will frustrate your peace with this attitude of yours.

Bifwoli:
Its ok not to get married .Jesus ,Oprah ,Leonardo DiCaprio ,Tyra Banks ,Matthew Perry etc are famous people who never got married.

It's hard to survive as an elder in Nigeria without a family. Don't think your cousins or siblings and their children will be there for you; they have theri own life issues to face.

zedegit:
I've been thinking lately cos I am the type of person that loves his space.
I don't like sharing my things; I want my things to be as I kept them.

I am sensitive to words and very temperamental. I am like a volcano waiting to erupt anytime.

I hate being manipulated. I hate the entitlement mentality of some women.

I am an introvert and don't like crowd. I can stay indoors for a month or more as long as I got food, water, a charged phone with subscription. I go out for work and other essential duties.

They say every man got his type of woman. Do you think there's a woman that can match my temperaments?

NB: I respond well when a lady is good with sooting words and avoids arguments.
I love intimacy too although I'm not the romantic type but I can be generous if money is there.

I think the temperament is choleric.

When you finally get a woman,let her be the friend you never have and make sure you love her to a fault

If you have to ask? On my second one and still a mistake - some of us are born free and should be free; no chains!

zedegit:
I've been thinking lately cos I am the type of person that loves his space.
I don't like sharing my things; I want my things to be as I kept them.

I am sensitive to words and very temperamental. I am like a volcano waiting to erupt anytime.

I hate being manipulated. I hate the entitlement mentality of some women.

I am an introvert and don't like crowd. I can stay indoors for a month or more as long as I got food, water, a charged phone with subscription. I go out for work and other essential duties.

They say every man got his type of woman. Do you think there's a woman that can match my temperaments?

NB: I respond well when a lady is good with sooting words and avoids arguments.
I love intimacy too although I'm not the romantic type but I can be generous if money is there.

I think the temperament is choleric.

If I was able to marry and have stayed married, you will. Just work on the temperament. I am exactly this, except the temperament.

MrBrownJay1:


with the character of the OP, marriage aint for him, and there is nothing wrong with that. why would you want him to transition from who he is to who he isnt (in order to fit into your marriage box)?. thats who he is, let anyone who come into his life understand and accept that.

there is nothing wrong with a man who doesnt want/need to get married.

The person you are chatting with kobojunkie is a ladies.

Her response is always skewed in that direction.

Lots of people feel like this, until they actually met someone that proved them wrong. Someone that showed them a beautiful side of life, that it would be suffering to stick to the older ways. I personally felt like that, that no woman will ever understand me, and the more I understand human nature, I just get disgusted about the prospect of marriage or long term commitment relationship.

Not until my ex came into the picture, and without even trying, all my defenses melted like a butter in a pan, I was helplessly in love, I could feel vulnerable and just be myself. It's one of those relationship you would describe as made in heaven. It was pure bliss. We later broke up though, due to irreconcilable differences, but that experiences destroyed the notion I've convinced myself with that I'm a esoteric maths that no one can penetrate, talk more of solving.

Put yourself out there. The more ladies you interact with, the more of yourself you'll discover and the high chances you'll find that person that will prove you wrong. I'm not saying this from a place of naivety or wishful thinking, but as a hardcore human being, that have had lots of wholesome experiences and deep thoughts about human nature, your type is out there. She may be in the Adamawa, in China, or even your neighbour, but its wrong to think your match is not out there.

You described me so well here man, but yet, we need to marry o guy...we no fit live our lives alone with the way we take de